I'll keep it brief. This total smokeshow (HB8) works the front counter at my campus library and I was tired of passing by her without ever saying anything. Girls hate being approached at work, so I was really hesitant to ask her out, but I finally did today because I don't give a fuck anymore.
NOTE: When approaching cold like this you must be sure to come off as care-free as possible; you don't give a fuck. Make lots of eye contact and don't stutter. Use her name in sentence a lot, chicks love that shit. Practice what you are going to say before you approach.
I opened by saying "Hey you're "Girl" right? My name is ILoveReddit32. I know girls hate being asked out at work, you are just here to make money, but every time I pass you I keep telling myself I should ask you out because you are so good looking (compliment her). What do you think about going on a date with me Friday?"
She hesitates and smiles at me after I said she is cute. She tells me that she is seeing someone, and that she isn't available. I say "alright that's fair, and it doesn't surprise me. (she smiles again) Have a great day," and I walk away. But this isn't the point.
I finally got the balls to approach this girl and I didn't fuck it up. It went really smooth and felt effortless. I didn't get the result I wanted, but I'm happy with how I conducted myself. I kept eye contact, I didn't stutter, and I came off super chill. Just go in with confidence and be ok with being rejected.
ImpressiveDig 5y ago
Kudos for asking and getting a response. I've recently taken the red pill and found myself in a similar situation. I just went for it and asked her out at her work. She said she was taken though. Just be straight up, it works usually.
Sumsar01 6y ago
Girls dont hate getting aproached at work. She is most likely bored as fuck and would love some banter.
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tomjazzy 6y ago
So I just came to this Sub in order to investigate some things I heard about it. This is the first link I clicked on, and I have to say, it's nice to see you have such a good attitude about this. You don't seem to have any of the sense of entitlement that seems to be stereotypical of this sub. Wish I could say the same about the comments.
iLoveReddit32 6y ago
You cannot judge an entire subreddit based on one post. If you had clicked on any other post you would most certainly have a different opinion of the subreddit. You should stick around a while and maybe you'll learn something here. This subreddit has been very helpful for me.
YngWn 6y ago
It might sound cocky to you, but after telling me she's seeing someone i'd go "Imaginary friends don't count", because sometimes its just a bs excuse and you have to go through.
iLoveReddit32 6y ago
ooh I like that. Thanks man. I just got her number the other day, so I might text her that.
makethemflaunt 6y ago
You said you walk by her all the time and were tired of passing by her without ever saying anything, you got up the balls to approach, delivered a clean shtick and felt good about it. Great. Sounds like you're satisfied with that approach.
Next time you're in a similar situation you could try another strategy: approach, engage in small chat and flirt a bit. Show her right then and there what its like to be on a date with you. Show her you are socially competent and can engage in social exchanges in a way that feels good and exciting for her.
If you have the luxury of passing by her on a regular basis, you could do a two step approach. Game her hard the first time, then walk away without an ask. Then game her hard the second time and suggest that the two of you get along so well, you should go and get a chocolate smoothie somewhere, or you'd like to take her to some place that is your favorite place on campus to hang out. Be specific in what you're suggesting. Even if she is dating other guys or even if she has a boyfriend, she may still be interested enough in you to check you out more. The best part of this is that if she really likes you, but is committed to someone else, she might just start setting you up on dates with her friends.
iLoveReddit32 6y ago
Great idea man. Thanks for the tip.
Hjalmbere 6y ago
I would say cold approaching waitresses, sales clerks etc is extremely difficult. They have to tend to other customers and maintain professionalism. It’s easier to get results by striking up conversations with other customers. Anyone of a different opinion?
iLoveReddit32 6y ago
yeah thats fair, but I agree with a lot of these other comments. Just do it. Good looking girl and a good looking guy, what more is there to say?
Thotwrecker 6y ago
Good. Next time do it the first time. PUA's greatest contribution to mankind might be the 3 second rule - if you bitch out in the first 3 seconds of thinking "damn that girls hot I should go chat her up" then you already start to make it so that your chances are slimmer when you make your move.
Think about it this way - a hot girl at a Starbucks notices a customer who checks her out subtly and respectfully, but checks her out all the same. Every couple weeks, he doesn't say anything, but one time, he comes in, apologizes for hitting on her, and then mentions he often sees her but didn't say anything, he only just thought she looked hot every time he would see her.
Now from the information she has about this guy, what does she think?
Put yourself in her shoes - how cool or badass or sexy or alpha does this guy really seem?
This is not to kill your confidence. You did a good thing. I know people who literally cannot walk across a crowded dense dancefloor without getting anxiety about not wanting to move people and push through. These people, it's a worthy act of courage for them to talk to a girl and just say "Hi, I'm Jack".
But at the same time while you are proud of pushing out of your comfort zone, you can also acknowledge how, from an objective view, it's still not quite the way you want to behave.
3 second rule is honestly lifechanging.
iLoveReddit32 6y ago
That is great advice. Thanks man.
InscrutablePUA 6y ago
Good work dude... rejection sucks but you'll be happier that you made the approach.
In the future, I would recommend not using the word date, rather just invite her to an event, and ask if she would like to grab coffee with you on a specific date. That's more low pressure and doesn't make her feel like she has to commit to you right away.
iLoveReddit32 6y ago
great call. Thanks for the tip.
capuchin_1 6y ago
Great going, only thing is when a girl says she’s not available it means your SMV isn’t high enough but keep up the good work. It’s a numbers game and you’ll only progress from here .
NihilistMonkey 6y ago
Not necessarily, plenty of girls simply aren't available, that's why it's a numbers game.
Let's say I'm an 8, and you ask my girlfriend out, and you're a 9. She very well would reject you, (although possibly politely or blush or even flirt a little) because she doesn't know anything about you. I will have passed shit test after shit test for months, years, whatever, and she knows I don't just look like an 8, im a SOLID 8 all around. Sure you were confident, attractive, whatever else you were to come across as a 9 in her eyes, but women don't just branch swing that quickly. Well, smart women don't anyway. Because though you're a 9, you're a soft 9, because she hasn't tested you yet. You could be an alcoholic, or a paper alpha, unintelligent, or whatever. Women need a rock, and she doesn't know what you're really made of yet. If she were single, or I were a 6, she would probably consider it because the reward would outweigh the risk.
DownvotesOnlyDamnIt 6y ago
You could also just ignore it, right? There are multiple times where i had asked a girl out and she would say, "sorry, i am kinda with someone" and i would just say, "awesome! He can join the afterparty but anyway.." and she later admits she lied because she didnt know what to say at the time. I pretty ignore it and continue with what im saying unless she obviously does not want to hang out
Agree and amplifying can work also i think
iknowthewhey 6y ago
Excellent point. Most intelligent girls with higher quality LTR's will turn down approaches even if they perceive you to be a high SMV male.
MisterNotKnowItAll 6y ago
I've always wanted someone else to put it this way. Well said.
SuperCrazy07 6y ago
This is well put and some of you younger guys should think about it before just saying AWALT AWALT AWALT.
A number of factors have to line up before a decent LTR jumps ship when a guy has his shit together. Its not just "oh a hot guy in the room."
zaparans 6y ago
Congrats on doing things most non red pill people learn in 5th grade. Step outside this cuckoon and learn what it’s like to be a normal person rather than a betabitch
-uftw- 6y ago
Good on you for trying, but you gotta play to win and therefore think about your strategy.
You've used a direct approach here, which can work of course, but in this case an indirect approach might have worked better.
Apparently that's a chick that you see regularly so why not talk a little here and there, joke around, make light fun of her, generally make your presence appreciated & pleasant in light touches so she can get a feel of who you are and good emotions associated with you. Just keep it light, non-invested, and not too regular. You don't want to come off as a creep.
Then one day you can go one step further and start actually talking to her, and maybe ask her opinions on something, then maybe invite her to talk further about it around a coffee at Starbucks.
In the end, she'll end up telling her friends that "one thing led to another".
The boyfriend isn't a factor. It's not your problem, it's hers to deal with. And be certain that if she sees you as more valuable than him, she'll drop him. On the other hand, if she tells you she's off limits because of him, then you'll know you haven't portrayed yourself well enough to get her to drop him.
Simple as that.
Edit to clarify a bit about direct vs indirect approach: best situation for direct is a high energy place like the club where chicks are there for it and competition is fierce. Best situation for indirect is a low energy place like a library or Starbucks where you know people are stationary and you have time to develop game. Especially if you know you'll see her there again, which is a given for a hired gun (she works there).
MentORPHEUS Endorsed Contributor 6y ago
This has an expiration date, otherwise it's the beginner's slope to Oneitis. Depending on how each encounter unfolds, by 3 visits you should have determined if she's giving bona-fide IOIs or just being retail-nice to you. Then decisively make a move or move on. Keep other prospects in play in the mean time.
Don't find yourself buying half a Staples store one thing at a time.
iLoveReddit32 6y ago
Sounds good. I'll keep that in mind, thanks.
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An old man told me “ never get your meat where you get your bread”.
So true, for a variety of reasons.
ThrowFader 6y ago
Yo OP dont give approach advice if you suck at approaching.
If you want to talk to girls at work, get their contact and leave ASAP.
Make it seem like ur busy. Which you should be anyways.
Also don't give these excuses, girls don't like blah blah.
I'll tell you that most of the shit you think girls like, they actually don't.
Go for what you want, and truly give no fucks.
Don't lie to yourself either.
iLoveReddit32 6y ago
Sounds good. Thanks for the tip.
RPstudent 6y ago
what is the point here?
yeah man after months of ogling some chick I paid her two compliments and got shot down What are we supposed to learn here? Go in with confidence and be ok with being rejected?
The reason why you were okay being rejected has nothing to do with you being confident or over rejection. It was because you knew you were getting rejected and set up a buffer in your own mind to ease the frustration. That's not confidence. That's cognitive dissonance.
I know because you nuked your frame from orbit from the jump. The minute you said "I know girls
harehate being asked out at work..." you lost her. who cares what girls like. Value what you like. You like banging chicks, amirite? Asking her out should be about getting to that objective, not about easing the tension or complimenting her.Your buffer and weak frame won't help you when you encounter a girl in an environment that is more conducive to pick up. Instead, you'll go in, compliment her, she'll smile (dat dopamine doe) reject you and you'll compliment her again and go on your merry way.
Your confidence is derived not from making an excuse for your actions. That excuse illustrates your weakness. And she reaches back for the reliable I have a boyfriend excuse to reject you. Because she saw you as weak. You further cemented your weakness by complimenting her after she rejected you.
If you feel you must say something, do it in a way that establishes your value. Find a way to turn the environment into your advantage. Don't feed her ego. Knock her down a peg. Tease her, playfully. Use negs. At her job you can easily neg her about one of her responsibilities. Do it right and she'll respond with a challenge of her own then it's agree and amplify.
Now you've passed a shit test and established value and you can either go for your ask, coffee, movie, fuckie suckie love you long time, whatever, or if you really want to draw her in, tell her you'll catch her later and don't pass by for a couple of days. That establishes even more value. You don't need to get the date. You're not like other guys. You're clever and self-possessed and not around, which means you have other options.
Don't get comfortable being rejected. Accept that rejection is life and that the way of the superior man is to make it really fucking hard for a chick to reject you.
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ThrowFader 6y ago
Thank u for a real rp comment.
I was losing hope
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fartt123 6y ago
Fairly new at rp. Would you like to expand on "if you really want to draw her in, tell her you'll catch her later and don't pass by for a couple of days."?
nhlfod21 6y ago
If you come by on her very next shift, you come across as needy and as someone who was specifically waiting for the next opportunity to say hi. It's far better for her to wonder when you might come by again.
iLoveReddit32 6y ago
I like that theory man. Thanks for the tip.
TRPDigesting 6y ago
All of that comment rings really true, but if you want to start with one easy part of it to employ in your next approach, I would focus on not qualifying the approach.
When you say “I know you hate this sort of thing” or “If you’re not busy” or “You’re probably gonna say no,” you’re creating a scenario where you’re telling them exactly how to feel about it.
This kind of shit takes place even in ordinary interactions - when I’m around my family, my mom will say things to my sister and I like “You guys are probably going to get mad at me for doing this, but”
It’s like - WELL maybe I would have or wouldn’t have, but now I am definitely going to be more likely to be mad. You’ve told me exactly how to feel about it!
Not only would it help you to not tell them how to feel about it or justify your actions (qualifying your approach), but it would be ideal for you to actually believe that you’re about to make a good impression and do something that’ll resonate with a girl when you approach.
This is fundamentally different than just pretending. If deep down, you think women hate being approached, it’s going to manifest itself in your actions and behavior.
But, if you can work on your core belief and change it to one that reflects something to the tune of “Women like when I approach them because I’m a high status guy who will add intrigue to their day,” then you’ll find that the result will usually be much more positive.
After all, if you have a choice between envisioning total success or total failure, wouldn’t it be more fun and even prosperous to choose success?
Good luck.
johnottaway 6y ago
I'm still confused Are you advocating that we make the girl feel comfortable and make it uncomfortable for her to reject us?
TRPDigesting 6y ago
I'm advocating neither directly — I'm suggesting that you don't tell them how to react to you.
"You probably won't like this" "I know you're busy but" "You probably hear this all the time but"
Just generally bad statements to lead with because they tell the other party that you're coming from a place of negativity and lack of confidence.
No, it is not "Just being respectful" of them. People take cues from how you feel about the situation and they can easily match them on their own.
There's nothing about "making them feel comfortable/uncomfortable." It's just going into the situation with the most optimistic attitude possible (rather than the opposite) and letting the chips fall where they may.
iLoveReddit32 6y ago
Wow. That is a great point man. Thanks for the tip.
Scorchyy 6y ago
Nice job! Yesterday at an event I approached 2 girls that I never talked with but saw a few time at school. They left after talking for like 15 seconds but idc, I’m just thrilled that I found the courage to do it, I never approached a girl I didn’t knew before
PM_ME_UR_BOOBSSSS 6y ago
This shouldn't have any upvotes..
AlexDr0ps 6y ago
Good on you for the approach. But don't ever apologize or justify why you are asking her out:
She's a girl, you're a guy. That's why you asked her out and you should never act like it's out of place (even if it is)
iLoveReddit32 6y ago
I like that idea. Thanks for the feedback.
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PaulAJK 6y ago
She works at a counter of a uni library FFS. Full of 18-21 year old horny guy. How many times do you think she's been hit on? She probably got her own "don't shit where you eat" rule going on. You'd have to be pretty spectacular to get past her bitch shield.
JohnnyCocktails93 6y ago
Nice man. Once you condition yourself to take action when faced with anxiety/fear, you’ll find that the fear dissipates over time. Even the times that I’ve been rejected, I find that coming to a sense of closure with a girl is far more liberating and exhilarating than the sense of comfort I feel by keeping my ego safe and not trying.
iLoveReddit32 6y ago
That is a great way to phrase it. I like that a lot. Thanks.
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JohnnyCocktails93 6y ago
The only thing I would add is to refrain from doing this with women you work with for obvious reasons. Anytime you game a woman at work it should never be proactive on your part. Ever. Plausible deniability is your best friend.
cenie 6y ago
I work with a girl who gets hit on a lot and has been asked out while she was working. Hate to break it to you, but they do hate it when it's some random shmuck and she's probably laughing at you with coworkers.
iLoveReddit32 6y ago
yeah I figured. It happens. I'm ok with them laughing as it is a better alternative to not asking at all.
cenie 6y ago
I've done it before as well. What matters is keeping your head up and brushing it off.
ChadTheWaiter100 6y ago
This is some pua shit; wrong sub
Stron2g 6y ago
Congrats. You did good except for the part where you said "I know girls hate being asked out at work, you are just here to make money"
You need to have an even bigger IDGAF attitude
iLoveReddit32 6y ago
A good idea. Thanks for the feedback.
TheRealJesusChristus 6y ago
Next time say something like: „hey, are you girl? Cool my name is yourname. What about a drink after work? When do you finish working?“ thats it. If she says no, then move on. If she says yes then good for you.
Girls dont like being approached while working? Never heard of that. Its the perfect time, bc they constantly see somebody hot and think „if he only asked me out“. I mean if a guy works he too sees hotties all the time and gets slightly horny. So even if you are not really hot, you actually ask her out. Thats already better than 99.99% of the other guys (tgere always this creepy homeless looking guy that awkwardly flirts with the cute cashier, and I hope you are better than him, as he usually says things like „you are so cute, I couldnt even imagine us two together, I would kiss you, but you propably dont want that, my face is so ugly (<-that actually said a guy to my mom while I was standing next to her. Im 21 and shes 42, the guy is a homeless loser not sure how old he is, but he had drunk much alkohol before that, you could smell that)“. )
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You fucked up in 2 areas, 1 you apologized with "I know girls hate this but..." And 2, you complimented her right off the bat and emotionally invested in her. Who knows if the I have a boyfriend line was true or not. That being said, you had the balls to actually talk to her so that sets you apart from the crowd, good work.
iLoveReddit32 6y ago
Yeah you are right. I just feel weird making fun of or negging a girl I'm talking to for the first time (or being mean to a girl in the first place). I probably shouldn't have complimented her.... any suggestions? I'd love to hear them.
Sir_Distic 6y ago
Compliment her directly. Instead of "you are so good looking" say "You have pretty eyes/cute smile/I like your hair/that eye shadow looks good on you." etc. Make it personal to her.
Negging is for PUA and it's a lame, insecure attempt to make those guys feel better about themselves. One compliment is all she gets until she earns more. IMO
CorglyMcDougerSquats 6y ago
This. It's in Carnegie's book to compliment specifically on people.
My go to is eyes (even brown ones) and add that they have a nice sparkle in them. Usually looking for pupil dilation which is an even bigger IOI.
Usually you'll get a compliment in response or at minimum a thank you. And seconded on the one compliment until earned.
Keep working on the attitude game.
AManifestedLoser 6y ago
This post kind of reminds me of myself when approaching women at the gym (without the hesitation due to multiple approaches over time). When I see my prey, I literally play out the same routine every time unless she ends up leaving before me. Women go to the gym to strictly train while subconsciously (yet purposefully) seeking attention from every guy that walks past them (plump ass/tight leggings, cmon now). This is why it is IMPORTANT to LIFT CONSISTENTLY because the only thing that devalues that nice round ass in those cute tight leggings is a pair of even nicer/ rounder biceps (and of course every other muscle group needs to look the part).
But to the point, I make sure she gets a good glimpse of me without giving her ANY attention what so ever and if we do manage to lock eyes, my shit is locked until she looks down or away. I finish up my workout, grab all my shit and wait for her to finish her current set. I approach and I say “ Excuse me, I’m (name)” Reach out for handshake and her name In some instances the girl is so shooken up by my body language, frame, tone of voice and pump that she can’t even tell me her name without stuttering. I continue with “Nice to meet you (her name), I’m actually about to dip but I saw you walk in earlier and I thought you were cute.” I pause for her reaction which is the same for every woman. She blushes, she smiles, she says thank you. I continue with “Id like to get know you, can I have your number?” *9/10 I’m getting the number because of how alive/in frame I am in the moment and how sick my pump is looking.
Long ass comment but what to take from this is confidence. Approach everywhere and always hold frame. Be reasonable in your approaches as well. I started off against approaching at the gym but I hit a point where I was tired of seeing all that prime ass striding around while my test was pumping hard. So to make it reasonable and not get in anyone’s way, I finish up my workout then approach when she finishes up her set.
iLoveReddit32 6y ago
Yeah I always wish I could be more comfortable approaching in the gym (they look so fucking hot in their right leggings), but I get really anxious. I'll use your tips and take your advice. Thanks man.
Kryptic_Knight 6y ago
While the game is all about catching and dealing with L's, you really just proved the theory, yet again, that you never approach, when the target is at work.
Your best bet, was to ask if she goes to any clubs/bars around the area, and run into her while she's hammered and in cock carousel mode. All you did was sound like the average fuckboy on Instagram.
iLoveReddit32 6y ago
I agree with the last part, but your first bit about not approaching at work runs contrary to all the other comments on my post. They all think it was an ok or even good thing to have approached her at work.
Kryptic_Knight 6y ago
Its good/bad. While you increased your aptitude for going up to rando's and introducing yourself, you added yourself into the pool of guys who hit girls up at work, its far too typical, and plenty of PUA's go into why you don't.
Chaddeus_Rex 6y ago
Or you could have played the 'long con'. Started saying 'hi' everyday or finding an excuse to chat (just a few words here and there) and slowly building it up over time (since you see her everyday) until you feel like she is comfortable enough with you (and where you have established value by passing shit tests and giving NO VALIDATION) that you can say something like, "why do we always talk like strangers in the library. lets grab a coffee/drinks and chat some more later" and then grab her number. It's quite likely her response would've been different.
direct approaches should be used in night game, with Brazilian girls or if you are not likely to see the girl again and are in a hurry.
Sir_Distic 6y ago
No. Long con? That's way to invested. You see a girl you're attracted to and have the opportunity? Take it. If she rejects you, move on. Alpha males do not long con. They go after what they want. Want a promotion, go after it. Want a sale? Go after it. Want that female? Go after it.
Saying "Hi" every day for weeks seems like you're shy and a bit creepy. Just show confidence and talk to her.
Chaddeus_Rex 6y ago
no it's not. It doesn't require much investment to small talk for a few days, but it certainly makes her feel comfortable and increases your chances of getting her out - especially if you don't hide your interest.
Clearly you don't approach much during the day. Go read 'Daybang' by Roosh.
Sir_Distic 6y ago
Stop Explaining yourself. You owe her nothing. You came off as apologetic. "I'm sorry I'm attracted to you."
Cheesy one dimentional compliment she hears daily.
"please? Pretty please?" Don't ask. Simply say "Hey. Put your number in my phone." or "Give me your number. I'll text you." If she says "I have a boyfriend/man/seeing someone." Say something back. It's a shit test. She may legitimately be seeing someone. But so what? "Well he can't come when I pick you up for our date." or any of the hundreds of other IDGAF comebacks.
You were trying too hard to not offend this girl and it showed.
iLoveReddit32 6y ago
woah nice! I like those a lot. Thanks for the tips.
Self-honest 6y ago
This is basic sidebar stuff. Where you at on your reading? You seem to be hearing most of this for the first time.
Mr-Ed209 6y ago
Well done for the approach, but don't shame yourself.
'Girls hate being approached at work' - says who?? - They hate being approached by weak men who don't know what they're doing.
If you're masculine and have your shit together, then being approached by you is a privilege for any woman. That's the mindset you have to get to in order to garner more success. That doesn't mean you go up to her with the 'you know i'm kind of a big deal' spiel. But owning how you say shit and not subconsciously thinking that you are bothering her goes a long way.
iLoveReddit32 6y ago
That is a great way to think about it! Thanks! EDIT: It is girls that always say that girls hate being approached at work.
Sumsar01 6y ago
Dont listen to what girls say they like. They dont know what they like or they are talking about how they feel when low smw men does it.
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no92 6y ago
Girls say this all the time. About any situation. Bar, club, work, school.
However if it's a guy they like, conveniently they liked being asked out by him.
menial_optimist 6y ago
So true. Women are always buzzing about their friends about it in a sort of humblebrag.
iLoveReddit32 6y ago
Convenient, isn't it? hmmmmm
jab1023 6y ago
That, and gentlesirs. “As a gentlesir, I would nary approach a fair maiden at her place of employment, for I know m’lady is far more interested in 7.25 an hour than a roguish cad like myself.”
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iLoveReddit32 6y ago
yeah that kind of response is really conducive to the conversation. Fuck off.
CPAlifter 6y ago
Wow, got mad. Was a funny comment.
jab1023 6y ago
I read both my comment and his about a dozen times last night, and even sober today, I have no idea why he thought I was insulting him personally.
Self-honest 6y ago
Because he is clearly that guy
nhlfod21 6y ago
It's not really about you, is what I think. It was funny.
Alpha_Jedi 6y ago
Approaching is half the battle. Rejection is better than regret. Cheers.
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Andgelyo 6y ago
Good job. Not giving a shit is every man’s ultimate weapon (self confidence). Proud of you, brother.
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I always throws me off when I hear you guys use "smoke show" because that term means like a habitual bullshitter where I'm from.
Anyways, GOOD FOR YOU bro. Most guys don't have the balls to do that and my grandpa always said "you never know unless you ask, and the worst that can happen is she says no".
I am consistently amazed when I approach stunners and they say shit like "guys never come up to me like this" and "I've been single for a long time". Approach anxiety runs deep and it keeps a lot of these beauties alone and desperate. Keep it up and you will luck out with one.
iLoveReddit32 6y ago
thanks man I appreciate it.
maplehobo 6y ago
Are you perhaps from Argentina?
Alchemist_XP 6y ago
Next time you should try playing it off like it doesn’t matter that she’s seeing someone, because you are too, you’d like to just “get too know her”.... maybe meet up with her after work for coffee. If you make it that far, then suggested to try and get physical. No don’t grab her ass. But slight arm touching while talking, wherever you can fit it in smoothly. That’s when you will really tell the girls intent. But just a suggestion. You did great to approach! Bravo
iLoveReddit32 6y ago
I like that idea. Might approach her again. Thanks.
CorglyMcDougerSquats 6y ago
If you do remember to keep it something specific about her. She works at a library? Hopefully she's smart. I'm guessing you're at college somewhere or school of some sort. Maybe use that and ask her out to talk about school subjects she likes and find one you're in and go from there. Also, if you're at a university there's probably other babes anyway.
iLoveReddit32 6y ago
Approached again and just got her number. Will wait a while before texting her so I don't seem desperate. u/Alchemist_XP
winepath 6y ago
Well done! Best of luck to ya
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Alchemist_XP 6y ago
Fuck ya brother!!! Well done!!! ????
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Black_m0ngoose 6y ago
Back in the day, my roommate called me up- he was at Panda Express with no money for his order.
"Really, can't you just come on home?"
"My food is already ready, I'll pay you back!"
"Alrighty, I'll be there in a couple minutes." We lived around the corner.
I pull up, barge in, and loudly proclaim, "alright, who's the bum here who has no money?"
My friend throws up his hands, half embarrassed and half amused. The girl behind the counter was pretty, a bit too skinny for my taste. She just turned 18 and I was 28 at the time.
I pay and watch her giggle. I walk back in as we're about to walk out with the food, "hey, I almost forget to get your number."
She quickly spins around, hiding what I can only describe as a gleeful smile. She gives me her number and we met the next day- where I proceeded to take off her clothes in the front seat of her car as she sat on my lap, within 30 minutes of our initial contact.
Seriously, girls only hate when low SMV dudes approach them at work. They'll literally suck you off in front of the walk-in freezer while on the clock, if given the chance. The only thing that matters is your SMV. If your SMV is high enough, resistance will fall off.
Never DEER.
You're either the guy they fuck or the guy they date. There doesn't seem to be any middle ground in today's society.
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