Girls suck at taking hints.
This has happened a couple times for me. I thought you could gauge your "alphaness" by the girls you're hooking up with. We hear on here that girls are the lagging indicator of success so there's some merit to it, right? Turns out you can't do that either because a girl getting rejected will hamster her way into thinking you're not a man after all.
I like sluts. I've met a few girls with high ASD which would be fine if I had the patience to blast through them but I'm impatient so I soft next (on good terms). I thought girls were supposed to be good with hints. These girls didn't grab the hint of me not replying and end up texting/email/calling or even showing up at my place for one last "is he into me?" confrontation.
She showed up unexpected while I had a bro over. We were busy fixing something and she had some questions so I said go for it. She's trying to get me to ask her out again or something but I've moved onto other girls. She's pandering for attention/my interest. I forget what I said but it was a cue for her to go. She stood there for two long seconds with a frozen smile on her face before giggling and saying "dummy" and left.
She honestly thinks I didn't get why she was there. She honestly never took any of the hints I gave her.
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Another girl I was seeing has not STOPPED texting/calling so much so I finally gave in and started sending sappy feel-good songs to her hoping she would creep out and bounce. I gave her every rejection I could. Even stood her up. She uses this as her opener to text me. "Hey haven't heard from you since you stood me up. How are you?"
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I thought it would be cool to have girl stalkers but they don't take hints. And when you finally get them to leave you alone their solipsism rules themselves out of the equation ("I'm amazing it can't be me!") and they think you're a dumbass beta.
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Take away is this: If you're making progress girls can still be stupid and miss cues, blaming you. Don't ever put your value into women's judgement. One day you're the bees knees, the next you're yesterdays news. One minute she's your fan girl, the next you're a dummy. Their judgement is skewed by their feelings. Don't be demoralized by their misjudgement.
tsarompy 5y ago
ill take "things that have never happened but i wanted to look 'cool' on reddit" for 300, alex
awalt_cupcake 5y ago
lol this guy isn't getting laid
Ray_pinasses1210 5y ago
Women are bad at hints, rejection, not getting their way. Everything society says men should be good at when it comes to emotions, women aren’t
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VasiliyZaitzev 5y ago
Girls are retarded. And they don't understand us any better than we understand them (prior to the founding of the TRP Academy of Hamsterology). They will ind the most weird, complex, bizarre rationales instead of what makes the most sense, in terms of what motivates men.
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Rather than dropping "hints" why don't you just be direct and tell them you're not interested.
You're taking a very feminine and passive approach to rejecting people
awalt_cupcake 5y ago
I'm not interested now but I could be later. Don't burn all bridges. Are you this dense?
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Well tell them you're interested again, Einstein
awalt_cupcake 5y ago
how autistic is that "hey I know we hooked up and then didn't talk. I'm interested again."
Why don't you put a target on your back and walk out into a warzone? You're doing the same thing. "please take advantage of me"
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I don't understand what's so complicated about telling a woman whether or not you're interested in them?
If even an autist can understand it then you must be retarded
awalt_cupcake 5y ago
This post is ancient. Get a life.
BobbyPeru 5y ago
This. Men are overt, women are covert
RunawayGrain 5y ago
Did you, y'know, just tell her to fuck off?
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xprimez 5y ago
A fuck off would have definitely sufficed especially if she’s showing up at your fucking crib .
awalt_cupcake 5y ago
she's not malicious. I described her as sweet. what autist would do that to a sweet girl?
xprimez 5y ago
Lol when someone doesn’t take a hint it’s time to tell them to fuck off especially if they’re showing up at your house unannounced. Doesn’t mater if her intent isn’t malicious or if she’s sweet. She’s a stalker and that’s not cool. What autist would be cool with a girl showing up at their house unannounced and be too much of a pussy to man up and tell her to fuck off.
awalt_cupcake 5y ago
what are you talking about
xprimez 5y ago
Dumbass. You don’t even know what your own post is about.
awalt_cupcake 5y ago
You just want to get angry. You didn't read the post. Fuck off.
GodOfDinosaurs 5y ago
I have a strong suspicion OP is the one hamstering about why he doesn't do exactly this.
OfficerWade 5y ago
We call them Nice Guys, his breaking free lesson is to tell her to fuck off.
awalt_cupcake 5y ago
Check my posting history idiot
NightwingTRP 5y ago
There is a point at which you switch from womanese to straight talk if she doesn't take the hint. You have clearly not learned this lesson yet, which is fine, but your real sin is this whiny sounding post. The shit you are suffering is your fault. You didn't go looking for a solution and you instead came here to whine at us.
You have even failed to grasp the nuance of the "gauge how you're doing" advice. The SMV of women you are attracting. Shit breaking down, plates smashing is all irrelevant. It is about the start, the opening, what level of woman is interested to know more?
Next topic for you to look up, learning to lead. You may have raised your SMV, but you are still behaving like a beta male. Ignore these dumb bitches, and if they show up at your house, be straight and unimpressed with them. They have failed to grasp the social indicators which demonstrates their low value. Don't be afraid to put dumb bitches like that down. They wouldn't have the slightest hesitation in doing the same to you if you'd committed similar offence.
awalt_cupcake 5y ago
whiny? this is a surprised rant. Your interpretation says more about you than me.
NightwingTRP 5y ago
Being passive aggressive is a feminine trait. Cut it out.
awalt_cupcake 5y ago
Passive aggressive is like writing a sticky note and putting it on her car. I'm just cutting attention which is a power play.
NightwingTRP 5y ago
Implied insults are passive aggression. I am not in the mood for idiotic hamstering.
awalt_cupcake 5y ago
I'm not implying insults. I'm calling you out for acting tough on the internet. I post something that had ZERO whiny in it and you walk in and take a piss at it. I correct you and you do this shit.
Rian_Stone 5y ago
damn, was just talking about this today. Guy doesn't want to marry, has an LTR pestering him about it.
Do you pressure flip? "what do you want thats more than my commitment?" vs direct "this is me, you get what you get, or you can go"
it's a nice way to frame it
whatsthisgarg 5y ago
Or ANY kind of change. I just say "you know what you signed up for" with a tiny bit of derisive laughter. That has never failed to end the conversation.
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awalt_cupcake 5y ago
this is what I've experienced. I'm a big guy too so I HAVE to dial things back.
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CainPrice 5y ago
Girls get it but don't believe it. They're not used to being told no by a guy. Guys want to have sex with them, so most guys are always nice to them, always pay them attention, and always give them what they want.
If you failed to do so, that can't possibly mean that you're different than 99% of guys or that you're not into her. It must be because you're stupid or gay. That's what she tells herself, anyway, because that's easier than rejection.
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awalt_cupcake 5y ago
LMAO AS IF GIRLS NEVER DO THIS
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awalt_cupcake 5y ago
by what you're telling me you have ZERO real world experience with girls
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awalt_cupcake 5y ago
fucking christ no wonder. reported. get out of this sub.
jonpe87 5y ago
02 – All bitches are crazy.
"Stop trying to make sense out of nonsense, they’re out of their fucking mind. You’re trying to use logic to figure out what they’re thinking, but this is guerilla warfare – stop with the logic."
From IM site
edit: if you want a girl out of your life act insecure, being mean and tell her to disapear will make her love you more, this is basic game
awalt_cupcake 5y ago
this is sound advice. I tried sending her sappy romance/love songs. Isn't that beta? Why didn't that work?
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821sleepingbag 5y ago
They aren’t ignoring their hints, the shit you are doing is just working and making them obsessed with you.
awalt_cupcake 5y ago
I wonder if this mindset of "I'm giving you an out" is better at seduction than it is at pushing them away. Very counter-intuitive.
MentORPHEUS Endorsed Contributor 5y ago
As others have mentioned, this is a feminine technique of communication.
To take it a step further, it causes incongruence with whatever Alpha image you're hoping to project. This becomes a false Alpha tell.
Even benign girl-sperg stalkers are a liability. One BPD-driven stalker in your life will forever change your tolerance for it. This kind of stalking is more common when you're pushing the lower bounds of "Date 1-2 points down in SMV for optimal LTR power balance" game.
awalt_cupcake 5y ago
I think we're all too sucked into this Alpha caricature. Enough to say there's a "false tell"? Really? So if I'm not wearing the right outfit or I slurr my words a little I'm not alpha- that's stupid.
You know what else is feminine? Machiavellian. But it's all worded in a way to sound ideal and everyone here wants to be Machiavellian. Duplicity, deceit, etc. is all immoral pragmatism.
MattyAnon Admin 5y ago
Girls fucking suck with taking hints... all this "women are subtle" is really "women are ambiguous to avoid personal responsibility".
It really isn't. If they aren't fucking you, you want them to just disappear.
Right - you can't win by rejecting girls, you win by getting what you want rather than chasing shallow validation.
awalt_cupcake 5y ago
I can totally see this.
Or come back later when they want to fuck right! But you can't out right say that lol.
I'm starting to see this
Devils_Duke 5y ago
Wow, who would've thought that girls would get more interested when you ignore them?! Someone should really start a sub about weird phenomena like this.
awalt_cupcake 5y ago
Thing is I get to this point when I'm annoyed with them and then this starts to happen. When I'm not annoyed the attraction is not as strong. So I have to be annoyed to be at my best game? I don't buy it.
Devils_Duke 5y ago
It's not that you're annoyed with them; it's that you DGAF. You have unintentionally push/pulled them and now their hamsters start freaking out. You don't have to be annoyed but be more DGAF with the girls you are interested in. Tell them you didn't like something they did. Or just go cold for a while.
awalt_cupcake 5y ago
See when I tell them I don't like something I've been called "controlling" so fuck it. I go cold but then this happens.
Noblefiz 5y ago
This reads more like a rant than a theory. Flair appropriately please.
zyqkvx 5y ago
Women are nothing they claim to be.
There's nothing romantic about wanting a ring and a lavish wedding.
They are not the moral compass of mankind. They use moral speech to manipulate, and are freely immoral.
They are not compassionate or empathetic.
They don't take your hints. The only tool you have is learning body language and reading their weak ass hints.
All of that sounded so bitter, but it wasn't, it' freedom. Amused mastery. They are children that don't know what they are doing and don't know you see it all and right through it. Don't take their kayfabe seriously.
awalt_cupcake 5y ago
No you don't sound bitter. This sub is getting weaker IMO about these things. You sound like just stating the facts.