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anonymous6578 5y ago
I find girls go from being literally obsessed with me to completely disinterested within about 24 hours is there any way to sort of stabilise their feelings as when they are really into me in the back of my mind I’m just thinking when are they going to go off me again and it’s playing on my mind
dulkemaru51 5y ago
Push more and pull less. You're probably revealing too much about yourself and becoming too impressed with them too quickly. Make them work for it.
anonymous6578 5y ago
Thanks mate so maybe I should just hold back on compliments etc as I feel this gives them validation so then maybe they feel as if there’s nothing else to work for as females seem to thrive off validation I’ve found
dulkemaru51 5y ago
Exactly. Unless they're the ones chasing, they don't see you as being above them. Hypergamy is UP, never down. Them wanting your validation is a good indicator of how valuable they see you as, but not all girls are equally desperate for validation. They must see you being above them and hence chase you. That's basically it.
Skycoaster4 5y ago
Remember to never reveal your power level
anonymous6578 5y ago
What do you mean by this mate exactly ?
majaka1234 5y ago
I live overseas (move around a lot for work). Why here? Well, why not?
I speak Spanish fluently (I'm not Spanish but my Spanish speaking accent is Colombian). Taught myself. No classes. Used to date a lot of Spanish speaking girls.
I've lived in the US (I have an Australian accent) and used to be in San Francisco with my investor funded start up that I built back when i was still in university.
I have a photography portfolio (but I'm not a photographer anymore). Here - take a look.
I can tell you all about digital marketing yet also do a lot of coding and business development if that's your thing. I'm on to my fifth business and just recently sold my last one.
I hike a lot, have a soft spot for animals (see my album of successful rehabilitations) and dance salsa like it's American Idol.
Now what in the fuck am I doing in your city, talking to you, single, not married, and here with you right now? And what do I do? And what did I study? And how? And when? And how long?!
This is not revealing your power level. It's giving away enough juicy tidbits to get people hooked on getting to know you without making it so boring that they put you in the same dry and uninteresting box as John the Accountant.
[deleted] 5y ago
I'm 19-21.
Whenever I get a girls contact info they all inevitably demand my social media accounts...
I don't have social media because it's a waste of time and while 1-2 seem to understand that; the sizable majority of HB8s-10s hottie sluts are off put by this thought process and slowly begin phasing me out anyway because I "could be anybody and lie completely " or they are vetting you to see you have a social life in the first place via follow count regardless of how well you talk/text...
I'm happy I'm even getting their numbers and that feels like progress buuuuut...
Clearly my SMV is not high enough to pull off the mysterious rich guy without being brushed off. But as I am building I feel like I should have one platform just to get them off my case and present some kinda life and keep them in the stable so to speak....
Which platform would you give me that allows me to still keep some semblance of privacy, normalcy, and less obligation to post all the goddamn time while still being popular enough to that all the girls will likely have an account?
AND has a DM functionality to allow easy access to me should they like what they see?
Really clueless in the social media game-any tips are appreciated
Edit: thanks for the great replies, my only question now remains- what is a healthy follow count ? I can pull like 50 people max - I’m a very private person mostly. Should I get 1000?
SuspiciousBed 5y ago
Instagram ticks your boxes. You can keep it private. You can be the mysterious guy that posts really super duper cool shit only once every two weeks.. or you can be the guy that posts his baller lifestyle daily with your Instagram story. You can also DM girls.. if your Instagram is good enough you can literally find hot girls in your area and just hit them up. Your Instagram did the preselection for you.
[deleted] 5y ago
I hate being public because instagram is tied to facebook and I can sure as hell bet that people from my past can find me. I would have to block like 100 people to have any peace of mind haha.
I hate that- Im trying to defeat my past and that means everyone else who was a part of it. Even thinking of instagram makes my blood boil because it means running into people I dont like & they can find me on the app. (Long story)
Anything short of changing my name to make sure facebook cant even connect my social groups and I dont add certain key friends in my life-thats the only way I feel I can be private on it. It better let me block people.
I know I know - nobody cares. But the peace of mind I have that nobody can even find anything related to me is really what sets me at ease. You raised all valid points and anyone else asking this question should definitely follow this platform.
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That was the only one I didn't mind because it seems waaay more personal and picky choosy with privacy/settings..
Dont use it because finding people on that is a pain in the ass (besides the contacts of course)
how many followers is considered a healthy & viable on instagram ?
I literally know like 150-200 people max and thats pulling from the past which I dont wanna do. Maybe 50 active people I know day to day.
Thanks tho, gonna look into reactivating snap. The problem is that bitches cant really do preselection via my profile unless I post shit which is a pain in the ass.
[deleted] 5y ago
Get a snapchat at least if you really care that much. It's private by default and you can just add who you like.
These girls are getting cold feet because your SMV isn't high enough and they think that you not having social media is weird instead of mysterious.
Or you could just not give a fuck. I personally have snapchat because it's pretty easy to game through it. I know it's annoying to have to "play the game" but watch how quickly a woman will try to jump on your dick when you ignore a snap of her tits and then post a story 30 minutes later of you with a hot girl.
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imtheoneimmortal 5y ago
i got instagram and i got no post (because new album coming soon) and people still watch my stories ask my instagram so maybe no post=mysterious
Self-honest 5y ago
Don't let anyone demand anything of you.
[deleted] 5y ago
I thought all the Gen Zyklon kids had finsta accounts?
[deleted] 5y ago
I dont even know what that means...finsta....dafuq....
srsly bro Im outta the loop on all this shit haha
[deleted] 5y ago
Finsta = Fake Instagram. Instagram is an instant messanger (IM) app. Whatsup is another popular IM app.
A Finsta is account used to post topics/items that you don't want associated with your primary point of contact account.
killabeesindafront 5y ago
"Here's my instagram its www.instagram.com/suckmydick"
"I'll give you my snapchat but I heard its only for nudes"
"I could give you my social media but I don't feel like it"
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Doable replies for a high SMV guy maybe but I can’t pull those off just yet. I would need it literally for the purpose of showcasing my life.
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Cthula-Hoops 5y ago
I'm struggling to find a monogamous partner so imagine my shock when a woman I hardly know from a class project offered me a blowjob as an apology for essentially not doing any work.
Basically my question is: Do I have a good reason to be upset about this? Is it morally objectionable for me to think that perhaps society is going to a place where there is little self control or second thoughts?
Am I just an asshole because I ascribe emotional standards to sex? I've heard that I am but in my defense we judge eachothers character based on everything from personal hygiene to work ethic so I don't see why our sexual decisions should be the only thing we aren't allowed to criticize
Jw because from personal experience its easier to just pursue sex than it is finding a partner and I'm curious if I'm just living in a strange area or if people my age are genuinely just not concerned with finding a partner.
This might just be me complaining but I think the sexual liberation movement was about being open with your sexuality and halting the shame associated with fornicating and whatnot. I do not believe the intention was to separate sex and emotional connection. I sure wish things were different but by no means am I condemning anyone for enjoying the benefits of our societal standards because it would make me a hypocrite. Its just not fun any more for me and I think it'd be super neato to date someone for more than a year.
The_Chiselnator 5y ago
Get your dick sucked first and then come ask questions later
Cthula-Hoops 5y ago
I don't find her attractive plus I'm really annoyed with her fucking off the majority of our final project. She's a dumb lazy stoner. Not that all stoners are dumb and lazy.
The_Chiselnator 5y ago
Yes, I get what your brain is saying but you have not consulted the most important...ahem....member.
What does your dick think?
Cthula-Hoops 5y ago
It thinks shes kinda dumpy and would probably just lie down like a gingerbread man and not move during sex. Lol dude you have no idea how lazy this girl is.
it_takes_the_redpill 5y ago
Yeah but this is a blowjob we're talking about. No effort on your part. You're not fucking her. Maybe she gives amazing head.
I'm an optimist about head.
Cthula-Hoops 5y ago
Eh. Might be tmi but head doesn't get me off. I still really like it but to just get head is kinda setting myself up for sexual frustration. Lol
Peter_B_Long 5y ago
If I were you, I'd take the head and make her do it somewhere kinda public (rooftop, behind the bleachers, teachers classroom, etc) that way you not only get off but you also get a fun experience / fun story to share at parties.
it_takes_the_redpill 5y ago
Not tmi at all. People come here to ask about ED, going soft in condoms, all sorts of shit. Would only be weird if it came out of left field, but it's highly relevant, so you're good. Tmi at this point would be deciding to tell me you're really into pegging.
Totally sucks that you don't get off from head. Works like a charm for me, but I've always had pretty good control of my orgasms. (Can last long PIV, but if I'm just getting a blowjob can allow myself to get aroused and cum faster so she doesn't get lockjaw. I like to make it enjoyable for them as much as I can so they are willing to do it more often.) I hear a lot of people say they start having trouble coming when they watch too much porn/jerk off too tight or too much, but obviously everyone is a little different, some circumcised some not, so it's not a catch-all.
Cthula-Hoops 5y ago
I do beat off a lot so that makes sense. Idk what it is, sometimes I just prefer it even when I am in a relationship. Only had one long term relationship and she was okay with it but I did have to have the awkward conversation about why I beat off when shes willing to have sex with me "no, its not you I promise" Was never really into porn, dicks are gross but I do like to look at boobies and butts like any sane individual.
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rocknrollchuck 5y ago
"Oh nooooooo, not my gumdrop buttons!"
Cthula-Hoops 5y ago
She makes me want to headbutt her in the titty.
bider_swit 5y ago
Haha!! That’s what I’m talking about!
Jailhouseredpilled93 5y ago
You sound like a woman trying to be a troll. Seriously, are you a woman troll. Lol.
Cthula-Hoops 5y ago
No. lol I'm just typing in a way that usually keeps people nice on the internet.
Cthula-Hoops 5y ago
by the way were you in prison in 93 or something or just born in 93? Just wondering.
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MentORPHEUS Endorsed Contributor 5y ago
Where's the part where SHE qualifies herself for your monogamy/commitment?
It used to bother me more than it does now. I discovered that the world does not WANT saving, so all my time spent trying to "fix" young women like this was for naught.
You could have parlayed this into a low-tier plate situation. However, it sounds like the juice isn't worth the squeeze to you. Maybe for good reason; I knew someone who GF'd up a dumpy nerd girl; turns out she was a major tramp, selfish and boring in bed, and branch swung to some lowlife after a few months but not before giving him the gift of herpes.
Cthula-Hoops 5y ago
I definitely have no intention of dating her I was just pointing out how its strangely easier to get a blowjob than a partner.
I was attracted to her initially so I asked if she wanted to be my partner for the project and maybe I could woo her. I thought she was shy and she definitely has social anxiety so the last thing I expected her to do is offer a random bj.
Something something the thrill of the chase. Plus just getting to know her better made her less and less attractive. I'll admit I like 'em dumb but she was just helpless.
She seriously pulled a Zoolander: I was drawing on an 8x11 piece of paper diagramming how our presentation would be set up on the posterboard and she said "How is all this gonna fit?"
Is this a project for ants!? I might just make a post out of that story actually if I can somehow make it appropriate for the sub.
archetypicalman 5y ago
Is it just me or is there an agenda driven campaign by the MSM to normalize and even encourage single motherhood, especially to girls? It's rare to find couples/mothers of boys or boys and girls in MSM and commercials. Why?
The_Chiselnator 5y ago
Yes.
Kids brought up by single women become adults easier to manipulate.
Single parenthood means that men and women live apart which means more households which means more shit to buy which makes the sellers of shit richer.
This is not new, kid. The agenda was set in the early 1970s
-Radical_Edward 5y ago
The same reason they destroyed nationalism. Men usually fight for their tribe, family. If you have no family and no tribe then you have nothing to revolt for. That's my guess.
dulkemaru51 5y ago
Yes. Divide and conquer. The core bastion of identity and something worth fighting for, before one's nation, religion or sports team, is the [nuclear] family.
It's not a spontaneous change in culture, it's a systematic degeneration of it that has snowballed just like it was meant to snowball.
Entropy-7 5y ago
Single mothers rely on the state. More single mothers means more power to the state. At the risk of sounding all conspiracy like, those in charge hate the thought of individual families deciding what is best for themselves. And in particular, the idea of a patriarchal household.
MentORPHEUS Endorsed Contributor 5y ago
Lots of people here embrace the idea that everything bad is the result of a top-down conspiracy by "the (label used as pejorative.)"
My own observations lead me to believe it's the outcome of iterated bottom-up capitalism using WHAT SELLS to push their products. Watching commercials ply weaknesses and leveraging conflicts toward this end disgusted me into killing my TV back in the 90s. Even back then, you'd see contrived themes like Mom & Daughter Vs. MIL to sell dryer sheets, Wife and Customer Vs Husband to sell laundry detergent, spontaneously buy a car at Christmas to hold together an otherwise failing family unit, etc ad nauseum.
The advertising industry is a well-oiled machine, informed by decades of testing everything and running with what works to make the most people buy the product. It's a lot less gratifying to find a purveyor of cleaning products at the bottom of the rabbit hole, than the vast conspiracy some people make up to explain the phenomenon.
Self-honest 5y ago
Target the weak. Single mothers have no time to think for themselves. They are probably much more likely to be swayed by media input. I never buy anything from a commercial and I'm generally skeptical about anything from MSM. Females lose their shit over a social media post. Their emotions are easily manipulated. Single mothers might be the most easily triggered or controlled demographic of all consumers.
MentORPHEUS Endorsed Contributor 5y ago
They also tend to be at the lower bounds of discretionary income. Religious empty nest women are a rich target, it amazes me how many ways exist to put a price tag on something with a cross or angel.
Self-honest 5y ago
Not to mention what looks like 50 billion in tithing for churches in the US annually.
SnowMonkeyCracker 5y ago
Women directly or indirectly control 80% of dollars spent.
Single mothers and divorced mothers are a significant demographic in their own right.
Targeting women by showing just women in advertisements hits both demographics.
It is not a conspiracy. It is just a fact of life.
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Lkeacentipede 5y ago
Other than the sidebar ones, what blogs do you enjoy reading?
ananyo007 5y ago
Illimitable man. Read the archive posts.
Lkeacentipede 5y ago
Had totally missed this one and it's awesome, thanks
LostInVayne 5y ago
Hey, so I started reading about TRP about 2 months ago and I find it exceptionally educative. I apply whatever I read on girls that I am in contact with, and I am currently doing well with one of the hottest plates that I have spinning(she was playing the "friends" cards before). However, ever since I started reading about TRP, it took me into a broader perspective which is dealing with everyone in my life and not just women. For example I start noticing small details when talking to guys. Such as someone talking over me, body language, ignoring a question that I ask, and it seriously keeps me thinking a lot about how am supposed to handle such situations. Lately I just call out someone if I get disrespected even slightly, but I don't know if that's the way to go about it. I find interacting with men challenging more than interacting with women. What do you guys think about this?
ManguZa 5y ago
Being too sensitive is like showing lack of confidence. You should ignore most of those who don't respect you and work on yourself.
LostInVayne 5y ago
You're right. What do you mean by working on myself though? Getting more confidence?
dryenz 5y ago
He means become a person of value
it_takes_the_redpill 5y ago
Yeah, more secure about yourself.
It's good to notice the disrespect, but you don't need to act on it all the time, especially if the person doesn't matter.
I'm growing my hair out, and a guy at work made a comment about how it looks feminine right now. Massively disrespectful the way he delivered it. But you know what? I smiled it off. This, coming from the pussy who can't stomach looking at a picture of a ladybug at lunch because it's too gross and makes him queasy? From the guy who instagrams all his food, and doesn't go out in nature because not enough cell reception?
Yeah I think I'm good.
LostInVayne 5y ago
That put me into perspective. All the people who I am personally friends with never disrespect me, however the disrespect comes from people who "don't matter" aka people who I have no relationship with. I appreciate your response
majaka1234 5y ago
The thing is that eventually you realise that there are only a handful of people whose opinion actually matters. Very few.
Consider the theory of "circles of importance".
The closest circle to you are your family (assuming a healthy relationship) followed by the next circle with your closest friends. These are the people whose opinions you should value most.
After that comes the next circle of good friends and people who have an influence over your life and career like your boss or professional mentors. Their opinions are important because of their standing within your social sphere.
Then you have people that you deal with in a regular basis but otherwise have no direct effect on your life - co-workers on the same level. The guard at your condo. The garbage man. You treat them with a basic courtesy but you don't really care what they think of you one way or another.
And then you have everyone else... The people who literally do not matter at all. They can think what they want and do what they want (short of physically assaulting you or robbing you) and it has absolutely zero effect on your life. So fuck these people if they have a negative influence. They literally do not matter. Their opinion is worth less and has less of an effect on your life than the garbage man who does his best to make sure your life is free of filth once each week.
Once you start to categorise your people into circles of influence it becomes easy to stop giving a shit about those who don't matter.
Likewise it also reminds you to pay attention to those who truly matter and care for you.
LostInVayne 5y ago
Interesting. I find this theory intruiging. I do agree on what you said, I can't afford to pay give a shit about everyone. I'll definitely read more about "circles of importance". Have a good day
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ManguZa 5y ago
Become better so people naturally don't disrespect you rather than force them to.
RoKKo_DJ 5y ago
What is the difference between inaction and being patient? How can I distinguish between both behaviours and how do i not slip up from being patient to being inactive?
Fulp_Piction 5y ago
Patience isn't passive. It's working hard and understanding the results will come. If you're honest with yourself and work hard then eventually you will succeed. Inaction is waiting for shit to fall into your lap.
MattyAnon Admin 5y ago
If "being patient" means "waiting for someone else", then you should be getting on with your own life in other areas because other people will always let you down.
sorryforthelifestory 5y ago
Just turned 18, no job, not in school at the moment, kicked out of house, chilling in motel with $800 left. Any suggestions.
TheSadListener 5y ago
The advice I wish someone had given me: Have you considered getting your shit together?
sorryforthelifestory 5y ago
I’ve been considering it for a while, and while I’m making substantial progress, I could do much better.
Babyoil707 5y ago
Its the beginning of summer. Everyone is hiring.
firstlight777 5y ago
A tent site in a campground is way cheaper than a hotel, like $15 a night. Yes you have to go to Wal-Mart n buy a $25 tent and $10 air bed but worth it. Stay for a few weeks while you get a job.
Dabunghole 5y ago
Drive down to Midland, Texas and get working on a rig. Oil is booming and you could make 70k starting. It’ll suck, but you have to be strong and push through.
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MarcosDomingues 5y ago
Wtf, whose parents kick their kids out of their house when they turn 18?
sorryforthelifestory 5y ago
Mine but I deserve it I think. My dad is borderline autistic and a pretty pathetic person overall in my opinion but I consistently disrespected him, and while I feel somewhat justified in my actions it is his property and I’m a legal adult at this point.
BluPillMaster-bater 5y ago
Help!
I've read Athol Kay, "marred man sex life primer" and the Ironwood collection of alpha moves. I'm in blue pill recovery..
In all of these married man game books they extol the virtue of always initiating sex, always pushing and prodding. I get that.
But my wife is fucking gross. She can polish up real well, she just doesn't. If I make my demands known, it makes things worse, and she sinks into depression. Then the house falls apart (stay at home mom).
I never really want to have sex with her. This, obviously, means big problems, yet, when she does look nice, about once every 3-4 months, I go straight to bonetown. This is a 47 year old woman, who was smoking hot and but can still look great.
All of these books and blogs never address how an alpha manages/handles a wife that no longer gives a flying fuck about looking attractive.
Your input is monumentally appreciated, even when it's critical as hell about me.
Wife and I been together since 1991, I left her last year and went back for the kids. It's going OK, but I don't wanna have sex with her much which is slowing recovery for us.
Thank you!
SnowMonkeyCracker 5y ago
She clearly has no interest in impressing you. You aren't her Alpha. Are you in shape? Do you have a life separate from her that would impress her if you were dating?
BluPillMaster-bater 5y ago
Yes a response! Thanks man.
I'm in shape, been lifting for years, doing krav maga this year. I have a life- I THINK - outside of her. For example, I sail, and she sometimes comes with (my kids do!). I travel for work, have work friends. But my social life is seriously lagging.. cause I work and have kids!
I have a separate life with my kids, at work, and some hobbies that I do often, and again, with my kids. Is that enough? Or keep pushing here? Would love to hang with other guys, but man, this is the bay area.. I'm surrounded by cucks.
Self-honest 5y ago
Fuck other women. Are you familiar with dread game?
BluPillMaster-bater 5y ago
lol.
Thanks for your response.
I left for a year and went to bonetown (which I did all wrong as a blue pill fag, but, hey, I got laid - FINALLY).
Before I left, she just wasn't interested in sex. She has mental problems. When I left, she dolled up all of the time and boned me better than any other woman did.. and looked hot. I move back, and BAM, now she made it so I wouldn't want to have sex. But she relishes me chasing her. Go figure.
I, check this shit out, I fucking calendar dead game. I'm starting "level 6" - learning game. The sad thing is that I'm supposed to practice on my wife, but yuck man.
However, as of last night, I discovered that I am a possible 'sugar daddy' with women HALF of my age who look amazing. This discovery comes after reading a review somewhere around the 'manosphere' on Seeking Arrangement.
26 years with the same woman, and here I am.. looking for 'sugar babies.'
Sanctusary 5y ago
If you're doing disgusted by her, don't fuck her. Either establish to her that you're going to fuck other women and she can either accept it and keep mothering your children, or you can get a divorce. You shouldn't be sexually exclusive with someone who can't satisfy your sexual needs.
Do do research on your locality and see if you can avoid divorce rape, and to what extent, and be careful to avoid giving her any evidence of what you say/do.
BluPillMaster-bater 5y ago
Thank you. I appreciate it.
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kealh 5y ago
Recently, joined the Navy and was shipped out to Guam. I am completely new here and ran into a girl who was kinda cute HB7 that work in my command but from a different department. I know, don't shit where you eat.
I asked for her number and set up to meet. Since being oversea,I didn't have a car so she picked me up. I wasn't sure if it's a date or not because I went in the pretense that I'd like to have someone to show me around. She was very enthused when accepting my request.
Anyway, she took me to get some food and I got to know her. She seems like one of those girl that like fancy clothes and shopping. She values her looks but is unsure of herself. She kept saying how she thinks "she's boring me" because she was talking too much. I vaguely laughed and agree and amplified. She kept validating herself to me by telling me how many parties she are going to and how popular she is with the people at the command. I agree and amplify, " i see, you're one of those party girls huh?"
It was very boring indeed. I felt bored, I thought my dick would be hard because this girl is a HB7 but after talking to her and learning from her up bringing. I asked her "tell me about your childhood."
"I didnt know my dad till 15 cause he left when I was three." and boom a flood gate of information from how she was physically abused from previous relationship and how she doesn't trust men LOL. I laughed and said " lol, me too, I don't trust me either."
I felt like this girl has red flags all over. As I pulled in to the parking lot, we both got out of the car and walked toward the front of the car and proceed to hugging. I tried to kissed her and she moved away. I smirked and said "cool" and walked back inside.
Part of me was glad because now I don't have to think of what if, but now I figure what should or how should I act when I see her at work or other places? She can bring values to me because she can introduce me to others but at the same time I can do that myself.
Let me know, what your thoughts are thanks.
1212121014 5y ago
Unless you are prepared to help someone through their layers of hurt, don’t get involved.
kealh 5y ago
Help me answer my question!
1212121014 5y ago
Oh just be polite. Don’t get into intimate conversations. Keep things at arms length. Change the subject if things get too personal. It is when we are intimate and vulnerable with another person that a deeper relationship can develop. If you do not want to be involved then you should keep it light hearted. Treat her like a polite acquaintance.
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Question:
I have this really close friend I've known for 11-12 years and right now I'm going through a real rough patch in life in general but I refuse to quit fighting; anyway, he is higher SMV/status then me and I can pick up that he is slowly starting to ghost me because of the fact I am seemingly lower status and to be fair to him I'm not an overly exciting person to be around and my life is indeed quite dull ...
Not only that but- I sense that he might be slandering me behind my back and all polite to my face but I have no direct proof (only secondary evidence) so I won't go there.
I have no doubt that once I get back on my feet he will be there saying he never left-it's been over a month since I have seen him last... and that is usually the pattern these days.
Is this one of those things where people only like you when you are successful? Should I consider this a part of life and accept him back into my life when I recover? Or should we just politely go our separate ways & just check in on each other like every six months?
This literally pains me because the fact I'm losing one of my oldest chaps over something like status/QualityofLife is disheartening but after TRP I totally get where he is coming from- I really wanna say " no harm done mate I get it" but at the same time- when I do recover it will be with an all new and a different social life since I will likely have to move/try different things so why even keep any remnant of my past?
He is still relatively high SMV & valuable ally of sorts and will likely do so over time so his value is undeniable to keep around even if it's every other month or six months to call in a favor from time to time(we go way back and it's a deep history so we are almost indebted to each other without ever implying it directly)...
Would you keep a friend like that? and if you would - how would you play a reverse power game to keep him off your tail for new information to potentially slander you against without seeming like you are actively withholding information?
Tricky question & multi-part- thanks for your time
The_Chiselnator 5y ago
Losing friends is part of growing up. In fact many of the people you probably call friends are not actually friends. They are just people you were forced to grow up with by circumstances. As people get older they discover other interests, move, get busier, make better friendships and so on.
It ain't about you. This is life. Attrition is a natural process. That means that everything degrades and dies over time. In fact the friends you will make 5 years from now will probably drop off 10 years after that.
You grow, they grow and then you grow apart. What you can do is just move on with your shit. Do the things you enjoy doing. Be very good at them. You are your own best friend. And if you can't enjoy your own company then I can guarantee to you that nobody ever will.
Develop you. He can fuck off. Get busy doing shit.
Every man loses friends as he grows. By 30 I had lost 95% of all of the friends I grew up with.
[deleted] 5y ago
Wow, thanks for the perspective.
I'm early 20something so I'm just starting to learn what that's all about...
[deleted] 5y ago
Lmao rookie numbers more like 99%. Majority of people don't understand this.
[deleted] 5y ago
But if this person comes back, would you take them back?
Or say: Sorry mate I'm busy and just move on?
GoblinSupply 5y ago
It’s one of those things where it depends. Are you emotionally mature enough to accept having a friend like this? If you understand the “rules” to this friendship then fine.
Imagine if a woman you consider your girlfriend, fiancé, or wife did this to you. It’s of course your fault if your value diminishes, so you understand that - but would you take them back and put them back into that same status again? Apply the answer to your friend!
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Hmmm truth be told in that case I probably wouldn’t - the whole point of locking down a partner so they are there through thick & thin. If they can’t do that then you might as well get a new one.
But a friend with certain rules around a relationship , I can live with that I think. It’s not like he’s being overtly mean or aggressive- just biding his time / putting me in the Rolodex for future reference.
GoblinSupply 5y ago
There you go, you just have to be honest with yourself about your personal level of investment. Only only only match or be less invested with someone else, and certainly don’t exceed it. It comes off unattractive, and this applied to all relationships in my opinion.
tabledude5 5y ago
I’m 18 and grew up with 4 sisters, female cousin, mother and aunt. No father or other male figure whatsover. I have countless questions and can’t stop reading this site.
For starters, can someone tell me how to handle the following shit tests:
My family made it clear that a man must never talk about a woman’s weight. However, my aunt and older sister are fat. How do I confront them about it and make them lose weight?
My younger sister is almost 16 and her breasts grew a lot in the past year. Now, she dresses very revealing in order to attract Chad and because she knows it annoys me. How do I handle this?
"I’m not your sex toy" or similar "You only want me for sex. Are you that shallow?" shit tests. Best response?
My oldest sister is 25... I’m pretty sure she’s a slut and it bothers me. I don’t know how to talk to her about it. The last time I tried, she attacked and shit tested me saying I’m no different than a Muslim and perhaps I should buy her a burqa. Then the next day, I offered to drive her home, but she refused saying I’m a medival man and that I should travel like one. I laugh even as I type this down, but still don’t know how to handle her talk.
"I bet you say that to all the girls" What is the best response?
I’m breaking up with my girlfriend and don’t know how to do it. She’s more toxic than radiation, and TRP opened my eyes. Best advice I read is to simply break up, refuse to provide any answer, turn around and walk away even if she screams... but this doesn’t make sense to me. I was raised to always provide explanations. For example, how can another person improve if you don’t at least explain what’s wrong? Later on, they can get better and not repeat the same mistakes again.
MattyAnon Admin 5y ago
You need a plan to leave home and be fully independent asap.
They are allowed to be fat. You are in a low status position so you can't mention this. But you can mention it when you're higher status within a group. Although women hate it.
They don't have to lose weight. Not your problem. Don't mention it.
Again, ignore.
These aren't tests, these are the end result of being a beta. Women say this to men they have locked down, NOT to men they are fucking. I've heard this from girlfriends, never from FWB's.
It means "you're not attractive".
Fundamentally reduced sex means reduced attention and commitment.
NOT YOUR PROBLEM.
Let the rest of your family live their own lives. Forget controlling or changing them. Don't hold them to your values, or even the ones they pretend to have.
Ignore.
"Only the cute ones"
"Girl, it's over. Thanks for all the good times." The hard part is to STICK TO IT as she tests you on having really broken up with her. Say you'll be friends. Don't be friends.
You were raised to be beta. "I'm not feeling it any more" is enough.
NOT YOUR PROBLEM.
She won't listen even if you explain in great detail what she's done wrong. Whatever you say she'll blame you and then repeat the same mistakes. Explanations are pointless.
dulkemaru51 5y ago
Can't they be shit tests too, depending on the situation? If a woman you're fucking but not committing to says that. And you answer something like yeah, well bc you suck at video games.
MattyAnon Admin 5y ago
Women you're fucking but not committing to generally don't say it.
dulkemaru51 5y ago
That exact thing happened to me a few years ago and I answered with that line, she let me keep hitting it afterwards with more enthusiasm. Was it a shit test? I didn't know what a shit test was back then but my response apparently worked.
tabledude5 5y ago
I'm trying. However, my grades were always bad and the job market is a mess to people my age. I've been reading this site for two weeks and Im still searching what I'll do with my life. Im reading some of the recommened TRP books and I love them.
I tried looking for a few small jobs, but I was rejected. Some even ridiculed me because I'm 18 and "supposed to be an adult who should know what to do". When I was 17, they treated me like I was a child, but a week after I turned 18, they act surprised I don't know what to do with my life or how to handle anything.
...Yeah... this is actually true. Physically, I'm attractive because I'm tall and have good facial features... but reading TRP made me realize how beta my mindset is. My social gaming is terrible.
If I ever heard this from someone I met, I would immediately lose all respect to that person. She's my sister, she's my family and I'll always care about her. If you don't care about your own family, then I doubt you even care about any other relationship, especially if they're friends and spouse. In short, I wouldn't dare talk to you unless I have no other choice.
I don't want to control my sister, but I do want to be her brother. Same for the rest of them.
Her: "How original. So I'm just another number in a long line of women you tried. I dont like being the last choice, so move on to someone else."
Not what I heard from anyone, but this came up in my head. What then?
Tell me about it. I was raised as a kid, not as a future adult. Wish I realized sooner that it was never a woman's job to raise a man. Thanks dad.
This... godammit, all the women in my family explained in one short sentence. FUCK! I really dont understand, can you explain why women are like this?
MattyAnon Admin 5y ago
No, it's not. It's fine. Stop blaming others.
"A few"??? When you're job hunting you should apply to twenty to a hundred jobs. Ignore all rejections, keep trying till you get somewhere.
Because the alternative is to control them or try and change them? Complete waste of time.
I'm not saying don't care (even though they don't care about you), I am saying don't try and change their behaviour. It won't work, it's a waste of time. You'll learn this in time. Noone listens to logic or reason. Noone listens at all.
You can imagine a negative reaction to everything you say, and indeed this is what you're doing. Sure, she might say that. But she probably won't, because the point is you are smiling, enjoying the back and forth, and you've not fallen for the "be a beta" bait she put out.
Right, and your job now is to fix this. Quit blaming others.
Because they're children and men no longer have the power to keep them in line. They don't need us for our resources, so they're free to act as they please.
Now that you know this... stop wasting your time on futility.
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The_Chiselnator 5y ago
I will try to help.
a) Your younger sister's breasts are not your problem. The fuck is your problem?
b) Your elder sister's sluttiness is not your problem. The fuck is your problem?
c) Their weight is not your problem. The fuck is your problem?
d) Your aunt can fuck off and die. The fuck is your problem?
Let me tell you a simple truth: most of us here have female relatives who are fucked in the head. They are not our responsibility and neither are your female relatives your responsibility.
You are trying to lead these women but the person you really should be leading is yourself. You can't lead shit if you can't lead yourself. Nobody will ever follow a man who can't lead himself.
Today's homework: Lead yourself out of your sisters' and aunt's lives. You are not the "man of the house". That is horse-shit these women have thrown at you so that you can do them favours. You are only the "man of the house" when you are breaking your fucking hump for them. It is mockery. They can all fuck off.
Now let's see these shit tests. All you need to do is search "shit tests" on the search bar.
Lead your fucking self. Also, join a fraternal order in your area. I recommend Knights of Columbus if you are Catholic, Knights of Pythias, Kiwanis, Lions Club, Sons of American Legion etc etc. You will find one in your area.
Also stop jerking off ans start lifting
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betrue2thyself 5y ago
Speaking from an older man’s perspective: 1: Grow a backbone. 2: Develop your physical self; lift heavy and often. 3: Create a plan to escape your current situation. 4: Your opinions don’t matter to anyone else except you; shut the fuck up and take care of yourself. 5: Find an alpha man that you respect that is willing to mentor you. If you can’t find one then just observe alpha in action and imitate. Take action to kill the Beta traits and develop alpha traits. 6: Regarding a job: just find any job that will pay you for now. Refer to #3. Mow lawns, clean pools, walk dogs, make pizzas, etc. (Seriously suck it up and just work) 7: DO NOT COMPLAIN!! Your situation sucks, but it’s just temporary. No one wants to hear your shit. So own it and take care of your business to improve it. 8: View obstacles as opportunities. Be willing to improvise and overcome them. The real treasure in life is found when you’ve overcome the obstacles; real character and strength is developed through and by them.
As you take these steps you will build confidence and your attitude will change along with it. Be grateful that your only 18 and have discovered TRP!!
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redbeaux 5y ago
There is so much here, and so much one could say to all of this, but really you just need to shut up and read the side bar. Stay away from women for a while. Focus on your self development and stop worrying about what everyone else is or isn't doing.
tabledude5 5y ago
Such as?
I did.
I cant. I live with them.
ManguZa 5y ago
Let them (aunt/sisters) alone. Focus on yourself.
Answer to shit test : "of course you are/i am"
If you tell her she's wrong, she'll have a defense reaction and she'll be less likely to change. Moreover she'll resent you and cause issue Leave her and shut up.
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womans_algorithm 5y ago
Ask yourself, if he was really just some random gay dude you got nothing to worry about, why is she hiding his name? What could be the real reason?
To me, her behavior sounds like a textbook example of branch swinging. I could be wrong though.
MarcosDomingues 5y ago
"She wants some privacy and she will be making decisions on her own and I needed to deal with it".
That's her own way of telling you to fuck off.
She's fucking that guy
5t3fan0 5y ago
she lies to you and dont respect you and your opinion doesnt matter to her. also, i think she's planning to fuck him, or she already is doing it.
whatever you decide, try to keep your cool and detach, remain calm and focused... ego and anger will bring you bad decisions.
ApexmanRP 5y ago
It sounds a bit shadey, but that's women for you.
"We had a fight" = You broke frame and now;
"she will be making decisions on her own" = She is seeing or going to see other men.
"We agreed some time ago we tell each other when we meet up with people of opossite sex" = You agreed, she agreed at that moment in time.
I would soft next, find other women and see what happens, maybe plate her.
gonnabeflawless 5y ago
I have 100% finished my relationship with a girl that I love. Now I know that texting or calling will definitely not work, and I know that I need to be stronger. What should I do from now on? Give me some advices please, I need to be stronger than that.
daymi 5y ago
Focus on yourself. You have been neglecting your dreams and aspirations for god knows how long. Pick them up again.
gonnabeflawless 5y ago
i just want to have a relationship with someone i love but it’s just a bullshit i guess.
GoblinSupply 5y ago
Good man, and you should want that.
See that’s what this entire sub is about, how to make you the center of your own universe, and love yourself unabashedly!
See you get everything you want when you love yourself truly. Love doesn’t lie, it’s honest and committed - and you should be those things with yourself. Be unashamed to be selfish and meet your needs first, because then everything falls into place. Make sure you win, and continue winning! When you continue to win it’s like rolling a bolder downhill, it’s gets easier and easier - but beware of stopping progress, don’t allow it slow down!
Rant over
daymi 5y ago
All things end. Usually there's nothing you can do about it - and even should you be able to do something about it (by luck), it's not going to be the same. I did that in the past and it's so NOT worth it to try to rekindle an old flame. There's a reason things ended and that reason is not going to vanish.
Stop trying with this girl. Focus on you. You are number one. You. Make your life awesome for yourself.
gonnabeflawless 5y ago
you are right, thanks for the advice. I will focus on myself.
TheSadListener 5y ago
Start a fitness routine and focus on it. Then crack some books.
gonnabeflawless 5y ago
i’ve been hitting the gym for 7 or 8 months. now I dont even feel the vibe of transforming myself, because there is almost nothing to do.
GaiusStone 5y ago
Can lesbians apply the teachings of TRP? How does the community feel about them?
ChadsLeftNut 5y ago
I think you could, especially if you are the more masculine lesbian out of the two. Many things like lifting, confidence, frame, leading, teasing, abundance would apply I would imagine. We dont really think about lesbians, as they are irrelevant to our goals (we are mostly heterosexual men), but I have no problems with them. Go to r slash altTRP for alternative sexual strategy
Aaron_Aero 5y ago
What’s the Best resource for game besides the few nuggets in the sidebar? I just started reading Book of Pook today and finished Models last month but I’m looking for things that address push pull, negging, LMR, “tingle talk”, etc. more in-depth.
royal23 5y ago
Hey, I need help. I dont really tend to struggle with getting girls interested in me but recently i've been having the much worse problem of not being able to get it up. I just left the hottest girl i've ever known's place, she wanted to have sex with me and i couldn't. This has been going on for maybe a year or so and nothing i've tried has worked. i've never been so angry with myself. if you guys know anything that might help (short of viagra, thats kinda obvious but its not a physical thing its just girls) please let me know.
SnowMonkeyCracker 5y ago
Have you tried a 90 day No-fap challenge? 90 days of no porn or masturbation then see how hard you get in the presence of even a swamp donkey.
temerity18 5y ago
what you had is performance anxiety. There are substances to remedy that. I know the feeling. The more you try to get hard the softer it gets. But when you forget about it and chill it will stiffen enthousiastically. Also: read up on it. I would tell you which substance but I would get censored.
Cmdrj-nice 5y ago
I need help releasing my inner caveman
disabledtrp 5y ago
What would be my SMV and my chances to apply TRP effectively in my current context? what would the highest girl i could get? 8HB?
29M, 190cm tall, white, business owner, i can perfectly domain what you would call "frame" (i have been doing it for years, for business reasons). i have a lot of knowledge and experiences in a lot of things for my industry (R&D on B2B and B2C products), i attend to conferences as speaker, i mentor new people in the industry, i dress well of course, clean. i'm not perfectly fit, i'm 10kg overweight (fat percentage in about 20%). with a lot of effort i could lower it to 15% at best (i know lifting is a golden rule) but here comes my main problem: i'm disabled, i'm dependent of a oxygen tank 24/7. this only limits myself into that i need to be careful at low temps, i get agitated if i need to walk too much and i can't drink alcohol, but apart from that, my life is totally normal. To be more graphic, i have something like this in my face and i carry something like this
Not gonna lie, i'm the worst beta you can find in terms of personal relationships, mostly why i always through that keeping frame with people you want to build a relationship or fuck, was wrong. but i'm embracing IDGAF so be it.
Apart from my original question (SMV and effectiveness) any other suggestion is appreciated !
ChadsLeftNut 5y ago
You can still lose weight if even if you are disabled, just eat less. Are there any workouts you can do? Also work on your betaness. You are pretty tall too so if you drop down in weight and work on your game you could probably do alright. Be wary of the golddiggers though
disabledtrp 5y ago
Yeah, actually i was 25kg overweight originally and i lost 15kg already, only the 10kg are left. going slow but i'm pretty sure i need to lift to get the body fat and the rest of the overweight. i already started lifting what i could at the gym, with a personal trainer, so let's see how it goes. Thanks for the answer :)
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1212121014 5y ago
Is there a difference in approach between pursuing women of normal weight and those who are larger? I’m curious.
_Ba_Dum_Tss_ 5y ago
Let’s we talk about RP music.
Certain genres and songs definitely contain different ideas that affect your subconscious a great deal.
For example, hip hop and rap usually contain a lot of red pill ideas (comparatively, there’s not a lot of love rap songs) whereas pop and country contain a lot more “romance” and neediness.
What experiences with different types of music have you had? Which music will be most heathy to your mindset?
TheSadListener 5y ago
Agree 100% on pop and country - so much sappy romance, and so much self-pity about failed romance. Not helpful.
Hip hop does contain a lot of self-reliance - but also a lot of greed, obsession with the physical, and other worthless pursuits. Listening to Jay-Z go on about his expensive paintings is a great way to lose IQ points.
Personally, I do a lot of instrumental music. John Coltrane, Booker T and the MGs, Cactus Channel, Spotify's lo-fi hip hop playlists are all great places to start. I find it helps my focus.
_Ba_Dum_Tss_ 5y ago
Haha relevant username. I’ll have to check those out, haven’t heard of any of them
shredgnarrr 5y ago
Pusha T, Lilo Key, Vic Mensa, G-Eazy, Redman, Guvna B, and Nate Good have been on my runnings for hip hop. Feeling the jam band vibe too, but irrelevant to this
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Rap ftw, dem dope beatz anyway cuz
specterapps 5y ago
I'm currently working on hard on my overall fitness. But sadly I'm wasn't blessed with wide shoulders but I'm improving it slowly and steady with my workout.
So the problem is I have a female work colleague who is a bit chubby but also has a wider/broader upper body. So I got the comment "I'm still wider than you" a few times in response to stuff we were talking about.
What would be a good counter without losing my frame and being too cheeky?
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Why do you care? Just ignore her, honestly you're just breaking frame if you respond
womans_algorithm 5y ago
You're losing frame by taking it too seriously.
MarcosDomingues 5y ago
"Lose 20 kilos first then we can talk" or make some joke about her being a big-boned person, idk.
womans_algorithm 5y ago
This makes me think the guy who says this is butthurt.
Entropy-7 5y ago
"Good thing I don't like thick women"
MarcosDomingues 5y ago
What to do when someone steps on your boundaries? Like imagine someone makes a joke about you in a group of friends, what are you supposed to do?
I don't want to accidentally become the butt of the jokes.
PR0JECT_XIII 5y ago
Own it.
Turn it into something that puts the attention on you, but in a way that benefits you.
My friends try bring up a story in front of other woman about me when I brought this chick home from the bar, on the way home she was trying to say how she was going to be the one in charge, my response was " no I'm the boss". Anyway my flatmates heard me fucking her while she is yelling "youre the boss, you're the boss..."
Now there intention could be to give me shit, but I just own it. "Who doesn't like a vocal woman"
It's up to you figure out how you are going to make it work in your favor.
womans_algorithm 5y ago
Depends on the joke, was it light hearted?
MarcosDomingues 5y ago
Uhm I'd say no, most guys I know became really insecure once I started getting results from lifting, so now that makes me a target. I'm noticing that when someone makes a comment about me, it's really to bring me down.
womans_algorithm 5y ago
I don't know about you, but I don't consider people who try to bring me down my friends. It really depends on the joke though. Care to give example?
MarcosDomingues 5y ago
Calling me fat, because I'm on a bulk and im not shredded with six pack abs like they see in the magazines, even though there is one guy in class who weighs 125 kilos; Because I'm a "bodybuilder" I must have small dick size. When I make a mistake in class, it's because bodybuilders have small brains. Telling me steroids aren't working. Saying girls don't like muscles, personality is what matters (it's usually the girls saying this)
I can endure most of these shit tests, but it gets really annoying having to deal with all the time
womans_algorithm 5y ago
If they are repeating the "jokes" they are not saying them to be funny, but to, like you said, bring you down. I don't think they will stop doing that, even if you respond in some uber-alpha way, so it's up to you if you want to dump them or not. People have friends to make them better, not to bring them down.
I could also turn the page and say it's all in your head, the negativity, the comments, etc. You know which truth is the right one.
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WhiteGhosts 5y ago
Is there a leader? If there is one, have a 1v1 with him and explain him that you don't like what he is saying. If he keeps going, frighten him or use some force. If you take the leader out, the rest will follow.
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Newprofile1412 5y ago
Any words of encouragement for a newbie struggling with adrenal weakness, as well as apathy and depression? I'm in a committed relationship, have children, insert more excuses. How can I start making good progress when my brain's exhausted most of the time, and have to take week-long breaks from lifting if I don't sleep well two nights in a row? The amount of work I want to put in to get where I want to be seems insurmountable to say the least. I guess this is where stoicism might help but I'm starting to ramble.
storyreader123 5y ago
I understand how you feel in a way. I wake up every morning at 4 to leave for work and I'll be back at 15.30 when I'm usually powerless and mostly unmotivated. What works for me most days is taking a 30 minutes power nap and directly hitting the gym after. But sometimes you'll just have to force yourself to get there because our brains are made to look for safety and comfort and waiting for the motivation will only make you skip a lot of gym days. You'll see that once you get there you'll get in the mood and after a week of building momentum you don't want to miss a day and you start building a habit. With daily serotonin and dopamine release from your work-outs you'll get over most depression feelings. A stoic mentality will definitely help. You can do it man!
trentreznor95 5y ago
How do I give women the right amount of attention so that they know I'm interested. Too often I find myself ignoring attractive women. Especially at the gym.
SnowMonkeyCracker 5y ago
Attractive women know that every man (and some other women) are interested. What you need to be worried about is spotting women who are attracted to you.
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firstlight777 5y ago
Common scenario for married dudes: Wife: paraphrasing 'So after we do all this shit all day, work etc, and get the kids in bed, let's have sex.' Dude: 'Sounds good.' This can be reversed as well, I bring it up, she agrees,... Then the time comes and its a no go, either she falls asleep or just tv or whatever. This specific time I was actually fine as we were hanging out (instead of ignoring each other due to some bs argument) talking, tv show, and that's cool, but I've been married for 15 years and sometimes it pisses me off. I need to know how to make it more intriguing for her, more playful, because the women know were down for pussy all the time, so I need more than 'sounds good babe'. I have been vocalizing that we need more sex in our life for the past few months. (I know after so many fucking years right what a BP puss I've been.)
ApexmanRP 5y ago
" I have been vocalizing that we need more sex in our life for the past few months."
Stop this for starters. It never works. She knows she owns you.
"Wife: paraphrasing 'So after we do all this shit all day, work etc, and get the kids in bed, let's have sex." (She is using the carrot of sex to get her work done)
If she says the above try "Well, we will see, I might have a headache.." or "well maybe, if you are a good girl" and smile and slap her ass. And then go do something else, like head to the gym..
Edit: The reaction you get will tell you how she sees you. If she laughs, you are on the right lines. If she sneers or gets angry or says something like "who the fuck do you think you are?" Then you have work to do.
Good luck!
melfenbein 5y ago
Both me and my gf are 17. We are in a relationship for almost 5 months. We are both virgins. I tried to get her over my place but her parents don't let her, and she does not want to lie to them. She never invited me to her place. We never discussed about having sex because we never were alone in a room or something. Idk what to do
SnowMonkeyCracker 5y ago
You need to start talking about sex. Calmly and confidently. You need to set the tone and see if she is also thinking the same thing. Once the basic communication is established then you can start worrying about places and times.
womans_algorithm 5y ago
Where are you guys from? Is such behavior normal?
melfenbein 5y ago
Romania, it is pretty normal for girls to have sex at this age
womans_algorithm 5y ago
I'm familiar with Romunia. Are you her first boyfriend?
melfenbein 5y ago
No, however this is her longest relationship
womans_algorithm 5y ago
What happened in her previous LTR?
melfenbein 5y ago
The guy broke up with her after 4 months. She later found out he cheated on her
womans_algorithm 5y ago
I see. Here is what I would do: I would ease her into it, casually talk about sex (stuff like "how do you feel about sex", "I think you'd love it" etc.), then be honest that you want to have sex with her. Not necessarily at this moment, but soon. Because you find her attractive, maybe talk bullshit a bit. She will probably say she's not ready yet, and you answer "that's cool, no pressure". But in the next days, try a bit of dread game, maybe soft nexting. Make her miss you. If she asks what's wrong, nothing is wrong, you're just busy.
She will start hamstering, don't let her get into your head. After a few days (3-7), if you see no progress on her side, I don't think she's that much into you in the first place. Girls who like men will want to please them.
I'd be very happy if you will update me on how the stuff goes.
Here is the tip (no puns please): if you're not thinking it's a big deal, she won't either (or at least a lot less).
EDIT: I found this piece saved in my TRP notes. Maybe it will help you:
"It's important to test a woman's attraction to you by withdrawing interest in her. Show some initial interest, then withdraw to see if she chases you romantically. Because if you keep showering her with attention and gifts without testing to see if she reciprocates with affection, then it's not certain if she's with you out of love or convenience."
melfenbein 5y ago
I really appreciate the time you put into writing this. Thanks
womans_algorithm 5y ago
Happy to help, I hope it works out for you.
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somethingtosay2333 5y ago
Lost assertiveness due to health, and it's going to be a while before I can regain health and previous statue. Advice to mitigate damage and not let me become less dominate?
1212121014 5y ago
You can still have confidence in your intellectual curiosities. Hope that you feel better.
shredgnarrr 5y ago
Build up and focus on you. It’s okay to be weak and building yourself up. It’s like reps at the gym, push till failure, repeat
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anonymous6578 5y ago
I’ll admit I’ve got a pretty bad oneitis and I’m at school with her and she goes on and off me all the time, we haven’t fucked but have kissed etc and some days she seems really into me and then she’s not. Like on Monday she was sending me nudes, saying she wants to meet etc and today she’s just been ignoring me. I’m so tempted to block her but then I don’t feel like I have many other options and although it sounds pathetic I will miss her. I lift everyday and my SMV isn’t too bad but at my school every girl is friends with this current girl, in a relationship or like a 3/10. Do I just need to start meeting new girls or persevere with this one and see if I can get somewhere? Any tips to help keep her interested appreciates cheers
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Chadster113 5y ago
What are some key words and phrases I can remember to remember bigger concepts of TRP?
Ive got AWALT and you can't negotiate desire.
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Got a date with my 'spiritual' therapist next week who is 7 years older than me. As a 26 year old guy, I can't deny I'm proud she's attracted to me since she's smoking hot. The women in my family know this date is happening and my sister said I could score points if I didn't sleep with her on the first date. Just to be clear, this is bullshit advice right? I generally don't take advice from women concerning women since taking the pill, just wondering what you guys think about delaying sex for bigger payoff later.
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shredgnarrr 5y ago
This probably isn’t the best sub to ask that
dcabrerasa100 5y ago
I like to use Snapchat but I usually don't post serious pictures there. Would it damage the way others see me or it's not that important?
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dynasty_400 5y ago
Hey to all you guys whos been divorced ans i guess to the ones happily married; i got a question.
Im being 100% genuine here btw... im really curious,
Why did you guys marry? I get you want a partner.. but whats the emotional difference between living together and starting a fam e.t.c without being married.. vs getting married?
gonnabeflawless 5y ago
I have just broke up with my girlfriend after 6 months, explaining that I’m done with her trying to dominate me all the time. Last time it happened was a total breakdown for her and she couldn’t leave me but she just kept the same attitude so I didn’t give another chance. This time she managed to say “ok lets break up” but I still think that she can try to fix this (I’m giving it 40%-50% probability) So my question is what should I do to make things go well for me? Should I just let her go, or is there any strategy that I should use?
ManguZa 5y ago
Let her go, it's not time for strategy anymore.
Mr-Ed209 5y ago
'I’m done with her trying to dominate me all the time'
This is what they do, you ain't going to find a woman who does not try that shit on a near consistent basis. It's written into the nature of male/female interaction. You may as well say 'I left my job because they were trying to make me do shit all the time'
It's a necessary evil, it's up to you to asses wether the challenge is worthwhile. In the same way you make an assessment of value from an employer, so do you with your partner. Also in general, if you're consistently leading, being stable and masculine and have a visible upward trajectory in life women tend to cut down a lot of the shit - because why test a man who's doing the right things.
SnowMonkeyCracker 5y ago
She is clearly still dominating you.
Just walk away. Complete radio silence. Hard next!
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Sanctusary 5y ago
Why do you care about her still? Fuck another girl or two before you decide to contact her again.
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1212121014 5y ago
Someone who wants to break up either doesn’t understand what they are proposing or doesn’t care about your feelings.
gonnabeflawless 5y ago
I proposed it because she had the same attitude, but this time she didn’t reject.
1212121014 5y ago
Sorry to hear that.
There is no such thing as The One. There are many Ones. If your relationship implodes, it's not the end of the good times. You can start again if you choose. You will find happiness again if you want to, and you will get a fresh start with someone new, and hopefully you will have learned from your past in order for the path ahead to be smoother and more pleasant.
An old woman used to tell me to never put all of my eggs in one basket. I understand her now. It means that your life is better when you find happiness in many different things: career, family, friends, relationship, hobbies, ideas. When one area goes south, you have the others to support you and to keep you from plummeting. You don't need that woman in your life to make you happy, and if she's not making you happy, then you should really consider moving on.
Don't worry, you will do great.
gonnabeflawless 5y ago
it’s just amazing to get mental support from someone that is thousand kilometers away. real thanks my friend. hopefully I will learn from it and move on to the next experiences.
1212121014 5y ago
Any time. I came here bc more and more I am having trouble with relating to certain people. I am a 30s married woman and the world is different from back when I was younger and single. But maybe I can just listen and provide my thoughts and opinions without getting too attacked in the process. This sub seems to be better at listening to multiple views than some others. At least I don't feel completely shut out for my true opinions.
Anyway, I hope that everything gets better. It may take time but many of us who have been through it will tell you, when you're out of it it's like no time has passed at all. Sucks to get there though. Stay strong.
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I want to be courageous enough to approach girls that are out in public with their family, meaning their mom or dad or when they’re in a group for a family outing. Why waste the opportunity to approach an attractive girl. But I want to know if anyone else has experience doing this? Do you advise against it or is it the same as any approach? Also a barrier in my approaches is girls that are walking. Feels too aggressive to stop them. Anyone have experience with this?
ChadsLeftNut 5y ago
You go talk and win over the family first, and pay little attention to the girl. Then you direct your attention to.the girl
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Dev_30 5y ago
Any important core advice from the red pill veterans for an early 20s guy who just got red pilled?
1212121014 5y ago
I’m just here because I don’t know where else to go. Seriously the world is so backwards. No questions here, just wanted to join. I’m not even male, I am a married female, but I think that I can learn a lot in this sub. Thanks all.
newName543456 5y ago
This sub is male-oriented, so you might be better off going to Red Pill Women sub.
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