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EatTheRichNZ 6y ago
25 male living with LTR , with 3 other girls in the same household. Constantly have my frame tested. I had a very BP approach into maintaining friendships with my flat mates in terms of listening to their problems, giving them solutions, wasting unnecessary energy on people who didn't care for me. Do not want to a slave in this energy sucking carousel any longer.
What would be some essential boundaries that I should never cross with them? they are 23-24 HB 8-9's.
TlMPPA 6y ago
What are the best ways to approach on the dancefloor? How do I know if someone on the dancefloor is open for advances, other than strong eye contact?
billybobjoecarl 6y ago
Dance near them, say you want to dance
Sarky1992 6y ago
How do you respond when someone crosses the line with breaking balls? I understand that is something we just do and it is fun, but every now and then there's someone that overdoes it. Did you tell them to shut the fuck up? Ignore? Heavier comeback?
wokedaoist 6y ago
I think you just laugh it off, unless you have a really good (and humorous comeback). Reacting negatively (telling them to shut up/ignoring) shows that they've disrupted your frame.
Obviously, they crossed a line, so you should mentally note that this person might not respect you that much, but to respond negatively would be to fail the shit test.
Just mentally note that this person doesn't respect you, and remember that in your future dealings with the person. This doesn't mean you hold a grudge against them or anything - what you should do is simply come to the conclusion that maybe this particular person doesn't respect you very much, and perhaps take action to remedy that in the future.
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aaasssaaa11 6y ago
i was beginning to see a girl i work with, her ltr dumped her approx 2mths prior to us hanging out, i kissed her outside of work on a date, anyway 2 weeks later at the pub with some mates (this girl wasn't there) a girl we're both friends with told me that this chick has been telling her ex she's fucked 3 guys since they broke up.
i couldnt help but lose respect for her and attraction has begun to wane.
i want to fuck her but i also feel like that's a red flag, even if she didn't fuck them, to tell her ex that.
would you pump RP?
billybobjoecarl 6y ago
Dude of course you still fuck her. It’s beta to care about her past that much. Yeah she’s a dirty whore but your concerns are only valid if you plan on dating her, but as a one time fuck or plate I’d say you’re good to go
SnowMonkeyCracker 6y ago
Wrap it before you tap it. Keep it casual.
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Twobithatter 6y ago
On a date with a girl and a guy ask, “is that your gf?”. What’s the appropriate response to not come off as needy/clingy but not come off as beta either, Also if she’s not your gf,
SimpleJacked 6y ago
"Nah but we fuck a lot" "Yea we are about to hit the chapel" "She's just my baby mama" Something to tease the girl with but also dismiss the guy. Keep it light. Don't mate guard. Depends on the girl.
binarynightmare 6y ago
Basically you need to find a way to de-escalate your male competitor (after all, he's asking because he wants to make a move) without looking like a jealous beta. Try saying that you are engaged, or just married - which communicates the message to your competitor while also forming a lighthearted joke with the girl, showing that you are not in the least bit insecure.
X--Man 6y ago
"No, but shes hot, isn't she?"
robatusf 6y ago
What do you do when you're "emotionally sore"? I swallowed the pill about 1.5 months ago after finally realizing nothing would ever change for me if I didn't change my approach to life (and flailing around a while before finding this subreddit.) Have been working hard since then on lifting, dressing better, internalizing TRP concepts, etc. Have been putting myself out there and doing things I'd never done before like going out to clubs alone, working my way up to "daygame" cold approaching by chatting up women (without trying to get their numbers), going on several tinder/match dates, etc. Have been getting rejected a lot, which I expected and doesn't bother me TOO much because I can tell I'm much improved from where I was 2-3 months ago...
But gosh I've taken an emotional beating! Am not depressed, am not --quite-- miserable, but I've probably experienced more intense emotions over the past couple months than I had in any 2-month period for a VERY long time, and I'm feeling VERY ragged. I say emotionally "sore" because that's the best analogy I can come up with. My emotions feel just like your muscles do when you've been overdoing workouts regularly; painful and with diminishing capability. I guess I need to give them a rest -- just as one needs rest after physical workouts -- but it's a lot less clear how to rest one's emotions than it is how to rest one's muscles!
Can't recall ever feeling this way before, so have no idea what to do. Any suggestions?
Ill_Will7 6y ago
Meditate my friend. Bring your mind back home. Go somewhere with lots of trees and no people and close your eyes and try to think about nothing. Let your thoughts come and go as the ocean waves come crashing in then come back
DrownRanger47 6y ago
How can I balance my time effectively between self-improvement, work, learning (for an exam), hobbies and relationships?
I feel that I don't have time to do all of them.
Self-honest 6y ago
Stop thinking you don't have time and make time
ChivaLegend 6y ago
Prioritize, we don’t have time but must make time for the truly important.
binarynightmare 6y ago
I think you should first decide whether or not you are in crisis mode in terms of certain areas of your life t - are you incredibly overweight / have no friends / dress terribly, etc...? If there is a big red flag (for me it was fitness and dress), than you might need to dedicate 6 months of your time to a heavily skewed prioritization of fixing these urgent problems.
DrownRanger47 6y ago
Does this count as "red flags": have no friends, broke and unemployed, still living with parents? Because they seem to do.
binarynightmare 6y ago
I would say yes. Surrounding yourself with people who care about you and having the means to take care of yourself should be top priority. Of course, if you're in college and taking it seriously, you are already doing this.
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Rollo_Mayhem3 6y ago
just a quick idea...
what I have been toying with using music to access my inner strength. So for example, listen to a song that gets you "pumped and motivated" first thing in the morning...the song should make you feel an emotional response. That response can later translate into energy because you are activating a part of your brain that you would not have otherwise or has remained dormant. And see how your days goes. it is important to talk to yourself when you have those emotional response for example, telling yourself that you are the best, you a warrior, or whatever you want to tell yourself...those self-talk coupled with the strong emotional response to synergistically produce powerful energy and focus if done overtime...today I just felt a massive piece of energy inside of me today...
darchetype 6y ago
Great idea with listening to music or a podcast or even your favorite comedian on your drive in to work in the morning. Even better if you practice singing or talking along with it in a deep, commanding voice to warm up your vocal cords and get you in the mindset of "speaking and breathing with your balls", a concept Elliott Hulse talks about in some of his youtube videos.
Rollo_Mayhem3 6y ago
Yes and one variant is to find that song that activates your inner drive as a male...you connect with the music and lyrics that you become emotional with an inner drive to walk through a wall type shit...
MusicSports 6y ago
Last night I went out with some friends. I have been interested in one girl for a while. Whenever we are walking somewhere as a group she slides up to me and we have really good conversation with me being cocky funny and stuff like that. She laughs at every joke I make and often does that "you're an asshole :)" slap on my chest to me. When we're in the dancing venue she never gives me an opening to dance with her though. I text her to do something with me outside of these times and she never comes. I guess I'm her BFF for these events out with friends and I should just stop acknowledging her? Girls flake on me 100% of the time when I try to get them to do something alone with me, and I can't tell if it's because I didn't make a stronger move the day I met them or why else, because girls seem to give other guys much more room for mistake.
On another note, I have had sex with 2 girls in my life and both were mentally crazy vegetarians with no friends. I have extreme trouble finding a friend group that I truly desire to be a part of and I often find myself alone and ditching the people I hang out with to find my own fun. Every time I leave them I end up having the time of my life and make a memory that lasts, but I usually don't make friends doing it. I guess this reflects the type of girl that would see me as higher SMV. Vegetarians that don't have friends. It's funny because I know most of the fun places to go and see wherever I am, but have no friends to take with me.
LavaPipe 6y ago
kino back when she touches you. Instead of looking for this magical opening to dance you just say “dance with me!”. Instead of repetitively asking her to hangout, you ask once and leave it up to her to reach out to you again. From your own perspective it might seem that don’t get as much leeway as other guys but the reality is you probably aren’t cognizant of how many fuck ups you make or you haven’t raised your smv enough. A lot of little things can fuck dudes up such as awkward or nervous body language, tone of voice, or just being aggressive enough. You don’t want to think about all of those things at once when talking to a woman but self awareness is important and practice does help. Also don’t catch oneitis for this chick, expand your net and fuck with other girls. Having options subconsciously makes you more attractive.
TLDR: keep improving yourself physically and psychosocially. Be brave
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MusicSports 6y ago
I need to stop asking girls to hang more than once... I've been flaked on everything I've told girls to come withi me to and it's been really disheartening. I know my SMV isn't good yet because I get one ioi a month from girls I don't know and the girls that I do know make out with other guys in front of me. And I'm really hesitant to make moves when dancing now because i thought this one girl was into me but she was just using me to make this other dude at the club jealous. I have to keep improving it seems and be more bold.
LavaPipe 6y ago
Don’t beat yourself up. I think you’re doing pretty good but you are right, you do have to keep improving. Setting those goals and meeting them incrementally will make your journey very doable. Best of luck !
MusicSports 6y ago
I just read a thread about how getting hit on by gay guys means you're getting somewhere and that's been happening occasionally especially in clubs. So I'm headed kind of in the right way. I'm gonna read a bit more and then head to bed. Thank You again for all the advice I'm gonna implement as soon as I can
aroundthetree 6y ago
Is there such a thing as a beta widow? My wife does all of the alpha widow 'things' like recall the guy, look him up on social media, etc. but it's all stuff like 'I took his virginity' and 'I had him trained perfectly' and she focuses on what made him a loser and how she changed him. This was her boyfriend literally 20 years ago; she's 40. Or is it not a 'widow' thing at all and she's just stroking her ego?
NYCSPARKLE 6y ago
Probably stroking her ego. She is actively following / calling an ex, though? To brag to you? That’s some red flag behavior.
aroundthetree 6y ago
No, no contact. In fact she contacted him via email 15 years ago to "catch up" (only via email, he is in Oregon, we were and are married and living in New York) and he wrote back a single terse line, "why are you emailing me?" She has no idea I know any of that.
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bro that's a red flag on her behalf
kemchik 6y ago
that's fucking 15 years ago dude
tempintheeastbay 6y ago
so she hasn't contacted him for 15 years but still talks about him all the time? super odd. does it seem like she's wistful that you're...not more of a beta, under her thumb? or is she simply trying to provoke a jealous reaction but she's god no material that's more recent?
aroundthetree 6y ago
Well, not all the time, but in classic alpha widow style. Like maybe when we go out to eat and go to a really good middle eastern place, she might say 'I got Charles into middle eastern. He was so boring and never traveled but I got him to try so many new things..."
Charles later dumped her without a second thought. She talks about how much she loved him, he was the only true love before me, etc. It's like she's a hurt little girl sometimes, trying to convince herself what a loser he was, and she made him cool. Only thing I can think of is a 'beta widow' to stroke her ego, all these years later...
superiormutation 6y ago
Any books/videos or other material on improving your conversation skills.Half way through "day-bang" I realized the importance of been able to speak about any topic for a good amount of time
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THE book on conversation is Win Friends and Influence People.
InevitableRuin 6y ago
What's TRP's view on the soul of an individual? i mean there's the 'thousand cock stare' used quite frequently, and the eyes are the windows to the soul of a person. Sort of the same as spirit in Mind, Body and Spirit. Should a person meditate, reflect and grow or does it have no place in TRP?
SnowMonkeyCracker 6y ago
A lot of guys here swear by meditation and it seems to work for them. Personally, I have never been able to get into it.
Boddicker06 6y ago
I saw an excellent post about Stoicism and changing your mindset with regards to changing your expectations on things. Now I cannot find it anywhere. Does someone possibly have a link or can guide me toward it? It was in the last couple days and I scoured the thread looking for it.
Salted_Pretzel 6y ago
Do you guys have a self improvement routine besides the gym? I'm curious to know some of your guys routines.
NYCSPARKLE 6y ago
Work on hygiene. Teeth, skincare, get your hands and feet cleaned up, body hair, haircut.
This is something that is much easier to fix then getting in great shape.
Check out Male Fashion Advice subreddit. Well fitting, tailored, dark clothes and good shoes.
How’s your apartment? Good playlist, wine/drinks stocked? Have a comfortable bed with good linens?
SnowMonkeyCracker 6y ago
Clean your room! -> Jordan B Peterson
Radinax 6y ago
Create the life of your dreams, every action you take should be directed towards that goal.
BSD5000 6y ago
Here is an idea I have been kicking around:
The blue pill virus (and the myth of the blue pill conspiracy)
Most bad ideas don’t spread because there is some grand “puppet master” at the top, pulling the strings as part of some of carefully orchestrated, preconceived plot.
Most bad ideas actually spread a lot like a virus.
With a virus, people don’t even realize they are infected, at the same time that they are actively passing it on to others. Nobody sets out or carries out a plan to make it happen - the path that it takes has a life of its own.
Blue pill concepts didn’t become as dominant as they are today in the world because of some sort of feminist grand plan. There was nobody at the top, orchestrating and pulling the strings.
It was men, not women, who spread these ideas. And it spread like a virus.
Only men had the power to make this happen. Many thousands of years of human history tell us this. This doesn’t simply change over the course of a relatively tiny slice of time - a few decades maybe. Men are the leaders of human history, and they always have been. Only men have ever truly had be power to change the course of human history.
We need to view modern feminism and our blue pill world as less of the result of an organized conspiracy, and more like the result of the outbreak of a virus.
It is part of human nature to attribute something “bad” as the result of some conspiracy. It gives people an “out.” It is an excuse. It becomes: “well, this proves that I had no chance after all, because this conspiracy was in play, and the deck was stacked against me.” Show me a conspiracy theorist and I’ll show you someone looking for an “out.”
What I am saying is: it was men who stacked the deck against men. Men - not women - are responsible for spreading this blue pill virus.
Beta orbiters. White knights. The guys who hit “like” again and again and again and again, expecting some benefit in return. These are some of the modern day carriers of the blue pill virus. And they are men. In carrying out what they believe is a viable sexual strategy, they spread the blue pill virus - the vast majority of them, without ever realizing it, even for a second.
Sure, women gain benefits from the blue pill virus spreading, but they are not truly the carriers. They never had the power to be the carriers. Just because women are the beneficiaries of a blue pill world doesn’t mean that they had much, if any, of a role in pulling the strings, at the top.
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Insendi 6y ago
How long should you wait to text someone you cold approach to set up something?
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What I’ve gathered from TRP is: don’t go to college unless you have a specific career goal in mind which would require getting educated in a certain fields Financially, college is a bad deal.
I’m a junior in high school, and I have no clue what I want to do in terms of a tradition job. I also have no ideas for alternative career path. At the moment, the only benefit I see to college is moving far away from my family and ghosting them. Only issue is I’ll be dependent on them funding the tuition.
Really what I’m asking for is more concise answers on the benefits and drawbacks of a college education from older/more experienced guys.
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Benefits: almost endless: girls, friends, parties, networking, career paths etc. Drawbacks: if you drop out consider it a waste of a year+
SnowMonkeyCracker 6y ago
The problem with college is that is heavily focuses on theory and soft skills (eg writing essays etc). While those are worthwhile skills, especially if you are going into STEM, there a lot of coffee barristers that can write one hell of an essay but aren't useful for much else.
Don't overlook trade schools. In a globalised world, look for trades that require skills and can't be sent to China (eg plumber, electrician, etc)
I_dream_of_Amarillo 6y ago
I’m in my last year of college, and it depends where you wanna be in life. There certainly are respectable jobs and opportunities out there that could help you earn the difference people who chose to get the higher education earn. With the degree will typically advance easier, but you’ll have spent years in college.
It heavily depends on your motivation and dedication. Figure out what you want to do (take a look at those around you, ask yourself do I want the life they have, what do I need to do to reach that?)
IMO, if I had to do college over again, I would do it but I wouldn’t have played a sport without scholarship (d3). I would have done ROTC or this other Navy program a buddy of mine did. You get practically everything paid for by maintaining a respectable gpa and taking some additional classes and doing some other activities.
College is a huge investment, but it’s one made in yourself. How much are you willing to put in yourself? How hard are you going to work??
NYCSPARKLE 6y ago
Go to a state school and apply for as many scholarships, grants as you can. Anyone can go to college and not be in crazy debt.
Major in a STEM major or business.
Get internships and study abroad.
If you want to be an entrepreneur, great. Do that in between classes and on weekends and summers.
Straight up eschewing a degree might make short term financial sense, but a degree is all but necessary for 90% of well paying jobs. If you don’t end up using it, who cares, you had 4 years to improve yourself.
Bighouse556 6y ago
Been seeing/fucking this girl for 3 weeks. She was totally obsessed with me, we got high, things got weird. Next morning she starts crying over her ex boyfriend. Cooled off talking to her, she says she's confused she wants to see me as 'friends' she said will still probably fuck me tho. She's also a bit mental because she does loads of drugs. This is probably obvious but shall I just next her and drop all communication or carry on fucking her?? (Feel like she's probably been alpha widowed tbh)
ChivaLegend 6y ago
Drugs=gtfo. Abundance mentality says to next the fuck out of her.
Fulp_Piction 6y ago
Why bother with all the drama? What's so special about this girl? Could another girl give you the same without the weirdness and the drugs?
That being said, nothing wrong with fucking her, she'll probably be a freak. Fucking drug chicks is playing with fire though.
willso86 6y ago
Dont stick your dick in crazy
blue-jean 6y ago
Bit of a sudden change. Suspect he texted her something that set her off.
FuckRightOfff 6y ago
Cut her loose. Been with chicks who did/were addicts. I'll tell you right now: it doesn't work out. Think of it as dating a single mom, the drugs will always be priority. Now, If shes just smoking weed and boozing once and awhile whatever. If shes doing anything else, or doing it often, GTFO.
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salutjesuisbaguette 6y ago
Total noob here, tomorrow I have a date, we go to the museum and then to a pub. I have already seen the girl in a party and she signified that she wanted to kiss. But i was more in the mood to have fun and I was totally drunk/stoned so I didn't.
I would like some advice to initiate the first kiss. Since i never really dated someone before. To do it in a smooth way. Any last moment advice ? Or even post out there.
TheAmphibiaRapist 6y ago
Do it even if you don't want to, or you'll be asking this question next time in a year.
SnowMonkeyCracker 6y ago
Begin by simple hand holding. Just walking along, with you leading.
Pause.
Move to an open body hug. Face to face.
Pause.
Bring your face an inch from hers.
Pause.
Kiss.
Pause.
Kiss again.
The purpose of the pauses (say, 5 seconds) is to both build tension and to avoid the impression of an attack. There is no need to rush a kiss. The brain systems involved in arousal operate slower than the higher brain functions.
However, once the first kiss 'session' is done, you don't need so many pauses because the relationship has advanced into a new stage where kissing is expected.
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darchetype 6y ago
End of the date, say your goodbye very abruptly without letting her say anything ("Ok, see ya!") and start walking away. She'll seem confused and taken aback, especially if the date went really well. After a few steps, turn back around and say you forgot something; come at her hard and pull her into you (hand around the neck or waist), and then go to town. No asking for permission, just get in there and don't be a bitch about it.
AlfredKinsey 6y ago
women love the hand around the waist
I've always thought of this as the literal "pull" in an f-close
Romanthehuman 6y ago
It's commonly said around here that I should only text for logistics, but after experimenting it seems this does not work for me. For example, I met this girl on tinder and things went pretty well in person, but when I texted her 4 days later to try and set something else up she did not respond. I know that could have been for a number of reasons but I suspect my text game is one.
It does not seem like a good idea to just send one text trying to set up a date. Some back and forth is necessary before you do to get them comfortable even if you've already seen them before.
Are there any guidelines for texting I should know about? Links to guides? I just want to hear some thoughts from some more experienced guys.
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Each girl is different and you have to decide what's appropriate, just went on a date with an 18 y/o, I texted her a week before saying we should go for coffee. She said sure, I gave time and place and said tell me if anything comes up. Waited a week, the day of she asks if we were still on. Date went well. Other girl I had a slow conversation with and it took a couple days just to get to a high flirty point in the convo. Sure enough I ask and she's keen. Its about feeling each girl out. Why did you text her 4 days later? Always thank them for the date and then a day later aim to set up something.
Romanthehuman 6y ago
I see what you are getting at. I didn't have 4 days in mind initally, but my thought process was to be non-needy. I guess it makes sense to strike while the iron is hot though.
bob5ss5 6y ago
Tips for STEM career fair and job interviews?
0FO6 6y ago
There is probably too much for one comment here regarding career search and how best to approach it. I think that the first very key thing and this helped me really reorganize my resume and how I even searched:
The company is looking for an employee to fill a need that the company has.
So even at a job fair a company is looking for people to fill a need that they have. Now the question is, how can you best show that you can fill that need? Most resumes and incidentally most candidates are more concerned with well I have these skills and I can do these kinds of jobs sort of approach and really neglect that aspect. You will want to research the companies that are going to be there, you want to learn as many things as you can about them before even stepping foot through the door. Unlike search for jobs and putting in resumes, they will do screening interviews sometimes right on the spot. If you come in asking questions that show that you have looked up the company then you are already a step way ahead of the competition.
Before all of that though, lets talk about your resume. It should highlight your most relevant skills that you have, you will also want to try and generally maximize white space, choose an easy on the eyes font. So most layouts will depend on your level of experience, how many jobs you have had and what skills you want to highlight. I for example have a brief summary, it is 2 sentences that gives a very brief summary of my skills. Then I go into a table of skills that are bulleted out, I try to keep on there relevant skills for the job. Then I go over experience, highlighting the key jobs that I want to list and relevant bullet points for accomplishments at the job, and things specifically worked on.
When talking to the companies (even at a job fair) you will have want to spend a little time researching the companies, at least look at their hiring page and see things like core values that they are looking for. Do you agree with those, does the company sound like a place that you would like to work? Also look at sites like Glassdoor and even their twitter pages and facebook pages. You can get a sense of the projects that they are involved with and the kinds of company values that they are promoting. Filter out the companies that don’t interest you, and don’t waste time talking to them. Or prioritize some of the companies and do a little extra research on them before showing up to their booth. I however in a career fair probably would not spend a huge amount of time researching each and every company but would get a general sense of the companies that will be there and try and focus on the ones that I would be genuinely interested in.
You will also want to make sure you have a clean haircut, and wear some decent clothes, they don’t necessarily have to be a suite and tie, just little nicer than what the companies generally wear. Which you can easily tell by looking at their hiring pages on their websites. Also, try to minimize any smell, you don’t want to smell strongly, like don’t smoke before, don’t wear heavy cologne. Also be relaxed, it isn’t life or death and everyone else will be frazzled, if you look calm and collected and can easily chat with everyone you will be far ahead. Also don’t forget to chat to others that are just there, not just the people at the company’s booths. You can building your network here, all of these other people are in the same field or similar fields as you, they can all potentially lead to referrals.
bob5ss5 6y ago
Will definitely take all this into consideration
Aweave15 6y ago
Do not listen to anyone saying career fairs are a waste of time... It completely depends on the situation. They are usually a great place to learn about specific job programs, application processes, and even apply with your resume (although most places require online applications now too). Make sure to have enough copies of a professional resume, look nice, and be able to talk about relevant skills/experience.
binarynightmare 6y ago
Depends on your 'STEM'. I have found that many career fairs are geared more towards entry level, less specialized business positions... and that the ratio of applicants to jobs is pretty high. I have had much more success in computer science and IT by working with recruiters and having a portfolio.
dr_pavel_im_cia_ 6y ago
I don't know what these guys are saying. Career fairs can easily land you interviews.
Be charming and enthusiastic when you talk to company reps. Get them to remember you. Exchange contact info. If that company ever has a position available, reach out to that rep asking about the position and nine times out of then, they can put in a good word and usually secure you an interview.
Of course, this is assuming you didn't fuck it up at the career fair and you have a decent resume
no92 6y ago
Maybe the posters are referring to open career fairs. In my experience at college student only fairs they are looking to directly interview people on the spot and they are excellent for finding job offers.
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Redpilledaccordingly 6y ago
Career fairs are not the optimal way to find jobs. I would start applying manically for positions until you get a plethora of interviews, and get by with gregariousness. You'd be surprised how easy it is to get hired, by just being positive and personal.
AlfredKinsey 6y ago
If you stand out and are the real deal, career fairs are great I landed offers from Apple, Air BnB, and several other firms through career fairs. My girlfriend got no less than three job offers paying $25/hr+ just for her internship at our school's fall career fair.
Redpilledaccordingly is correct, though. This method is just the obvious statistical choice. If you ever watch the movie Adam, he applies to over 100 jobs after losing his job as an electrical engineer. He ends up with his dream job teaching and researching in an observatory.
The example above is fiction, but I have used this method to great success. Most of my friends are envious that I never find it hard to get well-paying work that interests me.
All of my friends making >100k/yr under the age of thirty are either business owners, or they used the manic online application approach. Both those guys and the entrepreneurs are impeccable with people (when they want to be). For the record, they both do this crazy application cycle WHILE working other jobs, because you never know if you can land something better.
A lot of STEM kids aren't the best with people. Develop your social skills and understand yourself and your audience well.
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I’m fucking tired of this bullshit. I’m lonely as fuck and from reading red pill literature I am positive this is from a blue pill mindset. I read No More Mr Nice Guy and the whole time was like “what the fuck, is this about me?”
I’ve been reading the sidebar and I’ve started adopting strategies to achieve goals I have set. I’ve worked out for a long time so I have some strength but I’m prob 20% bf. I can bench 345 at 235 bw.
I’ve noticed that girls will check me out. I have a full sleeve, I’m muscular, I take care of my clothes and I’m clean. I’ve been approaching at least 1 girl a day. I’ll do more “hey I like your shoes” as I walk around campus to null the fear.
But the problem occurs when I open my mouth. It’s like when I start talking I sound like a ferry. I can see the exact moment when “oh shit never mind” happens in their body language and conversation.
This has to come from neediness and no confidence. I think that aura about myself just vents out of my body language, my vocals, my excitement in talking to a girl.
So from what I’ve read before posting some strategies I’m implementing are: strength training 4/week. CrossFit 5/week after the strength. (Strength is just working sets in Wendler so not much cs tax.) Eating paleo to reduce body fat. Talking to at least one girl a day. Practice guitar 15/min day minimum. (I can play and sing decent). Read the sidebar and other books. (I currently possess RM 1&2, Bang and Day, Nice Guy, Superior Man, Friends and Influence, 7 Habits, The way of men, and a few others I can’t remember.)
Wtf do I do to get rid of this bitch wimp attitude? Looking for mentor advice from this sub.
iknowthewhey 6y ago
Get down to 10%. When you have a six pack things magically start going your way. This should be rule #1 on the sub. Once you can lift some weights get a fucking six pack. It has to be the easiest way to get laid once you have some muscle on you.
darchetype 6y ago
I guarantee you're better off than 90% of the people you encounter on a day-to-day basis, and that's what you should get ingrained into your mind. The majority of people out in the world are gross losers who have nothing going on in their lives. Walk with that swagger, knowing straight up that you are more awesome than nearly everyone you see, and that should help you gain confidence. Also, slow down when talking with women and speak with purpose and meaning; it will help you take control of the conversation and you'll know you're doing it right if they start fidgeting and giggling awkwardly around you.
Sajutsu 6y ago
I remember seeing a post about selling ignorant people (like Westboro Baptist protestors and SJWs) instead of trying to arguing with them what does that mean?
darchetype 6y ago
It means you either ignore their argument or simply agree (even if you don't) and immediately try to deflate the conversation/divert it elsewhere. You want to give off the impression that what they stand for doesn't matter and no one gives a shit. They want you to engage and if you do that, you indirectly give them power and attention. Then more people hear about it and talk about it and it grows their cause.
Yeralt 6y ago
Tips for overcoming the red pill rage? I was dating a girl when i started reading the rational male, and as i continued reading i couldn't stop thinking about how blind i was! How i let she use me... Every shitest failed, etc... I've embraced the idea of self-improvement that comes with swallowing the red pill but i've been left with the image that no girl will love me. (I say love kinda in the sense of what a blue pill would consider love) Any idea?
DatingCoach111 6y ago
Red pill rage, or suffering, is the product of your resistance to the way objective reality is. In other words, you want things to be a certain way, when in fact they are not. This creates suffering.
It’s easier to forgive women for their nature by understanding ourselves as men. We have natural instincts to only be attracted to women of physical beauty; this is something we cannot change no matter how persistent we may be.
Women are not different in their own regard. Women truly cannot help being repulsed by men who are weak, needy, or desperate. They are attracted to men of strong will and power. It is in their DNA, and they are like this so they can offer the best chance of survival for their children. If women were designed like this for children, then we must really ask ourselves if women are truly selfish at all.
Forgive women, for they know not what they do. But move forward with the knowledge you have now, and sculpt yourself into a man worthy of the women you desire.
My last tip: someday you may fall in love with a great woman. Do not fight these feelings. However, now that you’re unplugged, use your newfound knowledge to reinforce your power of will (your dominance, expressiveness, authority). This delicate balance of Love and Will is the answer to a long and successful relationship as a Red Pill individual.
Luckylancer96 6y ago
I like this advice alot because this is what i want to believe. I hope this is real.
Merwebb 6y ago
Wanting to believe something is what takes us to suffering when it does not match reality
Yeralt 6y ago
Thanks buddy! These words help a lot!
TheSadListener 6y ago
This is an incredible piece of wisdom, sir.
person8445 6y ago
I am more than capable of approaching a girl on her own. The idea of approaching groups feels like a completely different ball game. Any advice or recommended reading?
ECoast_Man 6y ago
If it's a club, you isolate. Roosh actually did a decent video on this, and he's right. I'm not a big ROK fan, but he's bang on here.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7DjGxAcHCxk
Radinax 6y ago
Its all about energy in that case and be casual with what you say, anything you say should MATCH the groups energy, for instance if they're quitely talking and laughing mimic that, if they're bursting of laughter mimic that energy and focus on fun most of the time. I don't really approach anymore, but I open groups just for fun everywhere I go, I'm introverted but sociable and its easy to get along, I have the most success with 30+ y/o women group, I don't know why, they're the most receptive towards me as a stranger.
Nonstopas 6y ago
I haven't been following stoicism much, or nihilism for that matter, as in reading everyday etc. I am fairly aware of what it is and how a man following this lifestyle should act.
As time passes, i found myself to be less emotional towards my actual friends, what they do and so on, however when it comes to strangers and potential girls i like, it's a bit different. My mom and a few friends call me cold hearted, as in situation like this: my mom send me a link to a student who died of some disease. She had no relation to any of us in any way, besides that she went to the same school that i graduated 2 years ago. I said that people die everyday and i dont need this useless information. I don't think that i went wrong anywhere for that matter, however is being un-emotional, uninterested and bored most of the time by whats going a bad thing? I find myself in places that are boring, even some social circle meetings. I want to be entertained constantly, and have the time of my life, constantly.
lucasven 6y ago
You don't have to tell your mom that you don't care about the dude, just say: that's sad. I learned to do that because I don't care, but people expect you to care, try your best to don't be rude to people. About being entertained, if you follow TRP philosophy YOU ate the one that should be entertaining everyone.
Nonstopas 6y ago
yes i read about entertaining yourself, but not being a clown, like there should be a line between being entertaining and being a clown.
AncientScrolls 6y ago
Tips to succeed in an extremely hostile blue pill environment with crab mentality . In which as soon as people see you improving or having any success in life they try to sabotage you.
Fulp_Piction 6y ago
Drop the us against them thing and befriend them (think as you like but behave like others). Use your haters for motivation.
Merwebb 6y ago
This is the hardest part for me.
blue-jean 6y ago
Regularly but not constantly take steps to prove you didn't become a smug bastard. Like their FB comments, laugh at their jokes, be impressed by stuff they do. Play down any leadership or alpha stuff you do with them. Don't involve them in your game.
Rollo_Mayhem3 6y ago
sometimes you have to blend to be accepted and reap the benefits...I had to learn that the hard way...I could have gotten so much more pussy in college if I just toned it down with the tough guy stuff...so, I'd say make an attempt to be cool and friendly without shining too bright because you need to get a good grade and learn the material and you'll probably need a partner to work a project and study with
apskidb 6y ago
leave. why make life difficult for yourself. unless you really must. but must you really?
AncientScrolls 6y ago
I cant until I graduate this hostile environment I'm talking about is my college. I'm majoring in CS a course that is crowded with betas that worship star wars and big bang theory characters.
apskidb 6y ago
that’s par for the course for CS. ignore all that. immerse yourself and learn the hard shit. if it’s not obvious CS is a killer degree. understanding how and why computers do what they do can give you a lot of power in life. sure the world of warcraft dweebs will go on and become code monkeys for some corporation. you’ll have that option too, and for good money. not a bad backup. but learn business, and people and product and apply your skills and you might just be able to start a business or make good money off a side hustle.
you’re young so don’t miss out on that chance. if you know geeky tech but can also come across as a socially savvy street smart individual, that’s a killer combo right there.
AlfredKinsey 6y ago
Focus on yourself, not your surroundings. Don't be dragged down by disdain.
Sumsar01 6y ago
I study physics my self. You are going to get a lot of male shit tests. Ignore the or Windows them. Just be cocky and funny. They will go away when you solidify your new position in the hierarchy. If not who cares. Give them som value.
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In33dmon3yz 6y ago
I have Been on a bad dryspell since my bpd ex wrecked me. People here suggested to fuck some low hanging fruit to get back in the Groove i just Cant bring myself to it. My ex was just Too damn hot. How do you guys cope with Those? I do have more important shit going on than women but she haunts my Mind still like ghosts do ;-) no Contact for 3 months btw . I am also depressed bc of Medical shit i have going on
ditchthisaccount3749 6y ago
I went through something similar. You need to stop focusing on the physical attraction of your ex. Remove and store in a hard to access location all photos of your ex so that getting to them is a effort (No need to get rid of them completely you may want them some day in the distant future). Likewise, block or remove her on any social media so that there is no chance to come across the image of her. Fucking some low scoring HB definitely helps. After the action you wont give a shit about what she looked like you'll just be happy you fucked and have moved on. You put too much focus on your ex because you probably still hold onto a lot of emotional baggage, the best and only effective thing to do is remove her from your life. Like many other users suggest fill your time and thoughts with positive actions. And definitely don't jack off to the images or thought of your ex, it becomes a fetish and a vicious self feeding loop.
In33dmon3yz 6y ago
She is removed havent looked at Fotos or Social Media once she is blocked everywhere From the Start. Yeah i am holding in to something that apparently wasnt even there . Fml
blue-jean 6y ago
You may have low T (Testosterone). Maybe get it checked. Also it helps just to chat with new girls of any SMV.
AncientScrolls 6y ago
Cut meds like anti depressives, get a gym membership and start lifting everyday this is gonna make you feel much better than any med.
When you feel you gained your frame back go to a party or some other type of event with lots of chicks and try to game the chicks you find hot there.
In33dmon3yz 6y ago
I dont Take antidepressants i am Ripped and at the Gym Everyday. I know girls Think i am hot because they call me that asking their Friends about me. Thing is i just Feel like i lost my mojo
Store_Front_Door 6y ago
If you're hitting the gym hard make SURE you take your vitamins. Get that zinc and vitamin D. Hop on some Tribulus for a libido boost. Also check your T levels to know if it's a biological or a psychological problem.
In33dmon3yz 6y ago
My t levels are about in the middle of what is average for my age group i Hope i will have a kidney transplant Coming up in the next month if Not i will Talk to my doc to give me t.
Store_Front_Door 6y ago
Average is good. It means biologically your sex drive is there. Take care of your body by providing it with vitamins and minerals. If youre experiencing a lot of stress look in to that.
AncientScrolls 6y ago
I know its easier said than done, but try to forget your ex. Thinking about her is only going to make you lose focus in the present. If you see a chick that is really good looking just go ahead and try to game her. You will eventually find a girl who is hotter than her.
In33dmon3yz 6y ago
Yeah i Feel that i wont forget her if i wont get with someone as hot as her . She fucked me up pretty Good gaslighting lying , Inventing shit that Never happened that whole bpd shabbang. I just miss that drive that was in me once. As i said she took Away my mojo
AncientScrolls 6y ago
Your mojo will only return if you put some effort into getting it back. So go back to the bachelors life.
[deleted] 6y ago
CBD oil has helped me with the depressive thoughts quite a bit
In33dmon3yz 6y ago
Cant get that shit in Germany tho
ex_addict_bro 6y ago
Yes mate. Masturbate a lot, watch porn and take drugs. Exactly what you need now.
In33dmon3yz 6y ago
You dont get high of cbd tho
[deleted] 6y ago
Damn, that sucks. Ive been trying it out for about a week now. And I gotta say, even going through all my custody battle bullshit I am surprisingly calm and clear headed. Normally I am a fucking wreck after talks with my lawyer. Now I can compartmentalize my shit, and stay on top of my tasks without my thinking getting in the way. Mayhaps you just need a trip to amsterdam! Seriously, this shit has been doing wonders fir me so far. Ill know for sure after a month.
ex_addict_bro 6y ago
You think you’re calm and collected but to the court you’re high as fuck.
Exactly what you need in current situation. Drugs.
Pussy
[deleted] 6y ago
Haha! Dude, do some research before projecting your own problems (ex-addict) onto other men.
As for pussy, ive been going the good old drig free way for 3 goddamn years now. Trust me, if I have found something to allow me to live a more decent life im all over it.
It is the addicts who are the biggest pussies. Aint nobody getting "high as fuck" on cbd dumbshit.
In33dmon3yz 6y ago
Mhm Amsterdam is only a 3 hr drive away. How is Uhr dosage? I fear tho to get in Trouble bc i am waiting for a kidney transplant
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Yeah I can't answer that. Gotta do some research mane. The shit they legalized for all of america is THC free though. So for us, it is not tested for in any UA/tox screen. Our government classifiesit as a "neural protectant" and "dietary supplemant". Why not ask your doc and see what they think?
In33dmon3yz 6y ago
Which percentage do you use . Just Checked and apparently 10% is possible to order in eBay so is legal . How much do you use ?
[deleted] 6y ago
Not sure on percentage. I go by MG's. 250 mg drops seems to be good for me. Start low and up it if nothing happens
Chandlersc1 6y ago
I am a junior in high school, know a good amount of girls but none seem all that interested... I’m 6’5” and lift 4-5x a week, have my life together, somewhat introverted, I’ve known about TRP for a while now. Whenever I talk to girls they just don’t seem very entertained. Any advice? I know it’s a weird age and environment but I’d still like to get with a few and have a good time.
darchetype 6y ago
First get it out of your mind that you need to entertain them. You're a tall guy and if you are mildly attractive and in shape, it should be them doing most of the talking and trying to qualify themselves to you. Be sarcastic and playful; joke around and don't shy away if the conversation turns sexual. In fact amplify it. (Again, disclaimer, you must be attractive for this to work)
Get out of your own head and don't think about it too much, you're not gonna see 90% of these people in a couple years anyway. Try to stay away from boring academic talk. Ask about fun stuff they did over the weekend or bring up something weird the teacher did.
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[deleted] 6y ago
Recommended videos or books for outer game? (PUA)
Radinax 6y ago
For real you can't go wrong with the Mistery Method.
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