Newbie here.
Just to check my understanding of this shit test thing.
Yesterday at thanksgiving dinner with my girlfriend’s family. Her younger niece asked her how old her boyfriend (me) is.
“Oh you mean this one?” (with a smirk at me implicating I might not be her only one) ”He’s uhh...” (pretending to forget my age) ”27”.
This pointless needling at me is testing to see if I feel confident enough right? I think, an appropriate answer would have been “Please, I’m the only one patient enough to put up with your bullshit.”, or to ignore it or change the subject. Anything to not show her she has power over me. Instead I got upset, and just looked unsure.
She does this sort of thing constantly. You’re wrong or you do this poorly. It’s all a test. Fuck me, I’d even go as far as a borderline psychopath.
I’ve been so blind.
boblee77 5y ago
Ugh. I read that as a flirt, a tease.
justalikle 6y ago
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disgruntledearthling 6y ago
The sidebar will help and so will the archives at therationalmale.com
And yeah, dump that bitch
quicklogaccount 6y ago
You're without a frame bro.
You can solve it by redpilling stuff, lowering your investment levels and using dread as it must be used. See it on the sidebar and a post called 12 levels of dread.
BUT your girlfriend already pissed the shit out of you. This doesn't go away, mainly as you raise your smv and suddenly see a world full of available chicks.
These stories all go the same way here.
(It takes a while as the guy raises his smv)
Oh. Don't bet on borderline, nearly every chick in the planet will act like that if you're in her frame.
kabuto_mushi 6y ago
Gotcha. What do you mean by “don’t bet on borderline”?
quicklogaccount 6y ago
She's probably not borderline. What you described on the post is typical behavior for every chick in the planet, so if everything that leads you to think she's a psycho is there, chances are she isn't.
[deleted] 6y ago
He’s saying you can’t dismiss her behaviour as her having “borderline personality disorder”.
In other words, some chicks will still act psychotic even when you have a strong dominant frame. This might mean they have bpd. For you, your chick is not batshit insane, she is just treating you like this because your frame is weak.
Also, dump the bitch
kabuto_mushi 6y ago
How do I build a strong frame?
[deleted] 6y ago
You said you devoured the sidebar right?
It’s all in there. Lift, have cool hobbies, work hard on self-improvement, have other options (i.e. plates), internalize that you are the prize, place extreme value on your own time, don’t tolerate disrespect etc
TheBrokenRuler 6y ago
All of this- Also important is to ensure that you know what you want and how to get it at all times. If you are indecisive, your frame can falter.
nebder 6y ago
That’s a deceptively hard question. Great question to ask.
Frame is the hardest concept to grasp. It’s used as shorthand to cover a lot of ideas. It gets tossed around a lot yet it’s a nebulous idea. It’s similar to the Supreme Court ruling: I can’t define pornography, but I know it when I see it.
From the TRP sidebar glossary.
My frame is the subjective version of reality that I project and accept that drives others perceptions of me. Isn’t there only one reality? No, reality is both objective and subjective. That’s metaphysical and deep and you’ll have to wrap your head around it. Two people can look at the same objective physical apple and have differing perceptions of it. That’s subjective reality.
Do I allow people to shit on me? Generally no, that’s a manifestation of my frame.
Do I project confidence, ease with myself and a “fun” persona? Generally yes, that’s a manifestation of my frame.
I’m confident with myself, proud of myself and I value my thoughts, ideas and reasoning. My physical strength and my mental strength combine to form my frame.
When two or more personalities interact, one of the frames will dominate the others. The submissive frames defer to the dominant frame. If you’re told “you’re in her frame”, then you have placed greater value on her version of reality than your own. Basically, she’s running the show solely because you allowed it.
Getting to your question: you build a strong frame by defining your personal code of conduct, your value and belief system, your self assurance and confidence and you’re firm in holding these things as absolute in your world especially in the face of adversity. You can help build frame with physical strength and combat sport experience as that builds your mental confidence in yourself (much easier to not defer to someone when you know you can kick their ass). Your frame is your will that you are exerting into the world.
Improve your mental strength. Improve your physical strength. That’s how you build a strong frame. It won’t happen overnight. A start is digging in your heels and saying “no that doesn’t work for me” in a few interactions that you cannot agree with.
Edit: I read my comment and I’ll revise the conclusion
A start is digging in your heels and showing “no that doesn’t work for me” in a few interactions that you cannot agree with. With women, your best bet is withdrawing your attention. In OP’s case, OP may be past the point that his attention has much value to her. Attention is the currency a man controls and a woman wants. If your big guns are empty, then you’ve got nothing to work with.
LinShuLe 6y ago
I tdepends. For me withdrawing attention makes the man less appealling and desireable to me.
mickey__ 6y ago
how do you prevent other shit with you?
_the_shape_ 6y ago
All sorts of dudes show up seeking counsel at TRP, but the ones who (in my view) are faced with the most difficult dilemmas are the ones who find themselves caught up in relationships where the disrespect is palpable and perfectly clear, much like the one you presently find yourself in. We teach here that it is far better (and far easier) to begin with a new woman than to try pushing a boulder uphill by attempting to rehabilitate a failing (or failed) relationship. Forget mini-conferences aka "talks" , forget "couple's therapy", forget all of that. Sever that which is rotten.
It's the old cliche all over again: fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me. If you continue to put up with the disrespect, all subsequent pain and agony falls squarely on your shoulders, not on her's. You are the one allowing this to continue on, meaning too that you are the one who gets to decide when this ends (and that right there, is the hard part - closing up the book for good and saying: "Enough of this shit; I'm done")
Shyrk 6y ago
Sounds to me like you’ve got zero spine and your chick is just giving you shit. MAKING FUN OF YOU IS A TEST. If you can’t handle it gracefully, you’re a chump, and yes, you don’t deserve her.
The example you gave MIGHT be appropriate if you said it DIRECTLY TO HER — but in front of HER family, anything but rolling your eyes, with a calm chuckle and maybe a subtle NON BUTTHURT remark, is suicide.
She is testing your frame, no doubt, for a LOT of things. To see how strong you are, how much bullshit you’ll take, how smooth you are under pressure. But flipping out angrily in front of her family would be an ULTIMATE breach of frame. A lot of people here conflate pride with frame.
If she’s not fucking you - then you’re losing already. you need to up the alpha WITHOUT EVER GETTING BUTTHURT. This is the biggest thing that people on these subs miss all the time. If you get angry enough to chew someone out, your frame is dogshit.
“Sex is always the man’s fault.” It is your RESPONSIBILITY to always keep things in a playful, sexual frame, and always be leading to intimacy. If you are not, you have failed as a man.
That being said, if it’s too much work to reverse this, leave the bitch and start over elsewhere. And don’t be such a chump this time. /r/deadbedrooms is for people who have been married DECADES and have trouble. If you’re resorting to that after a few months with a girl then you need fucking bootcamp.
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bsutansalt 6y ago
Three things you'll benefit from are aloofness, passing shit tests, and instilling dread.
The problem with newbies is they're uncalibrated and typically overdo it and that causes even more problems. It's not uncommon for things to get worse before they get better when guys start learning this stuff, so consider yourself warned.
My advice for you is to start small and wind down your response time to when she contacts you. This slowly creates a chase frame where she's trying to get your attention...if she's invested in you and the relationship. If you two weren't dating, a good rule of thumb ratio is 3 to 1, but that ship has sailed. For you I'd just slow down how long it takes for you to respond to her texts and such.
She'll eventually sense you're pulling away at which point a few different things can happen depending on how she feels about you and how invested she is in the relationship.
Viking_RnP 6y ago
You have a lot to learn and I believe this woman will only hamper your progress. This shit won't be easy but it will be worth it.
LordThunderbolt 6y ago
How are u on DeadBedrooms and you're bot even married? Ehect now. Leave this girl, go work on yourself, then get back on the saddle.
Venenarium 6y ago
What do you mean her only one? She's not fucking you so you're not even one of her ones :)
But if you want to call it like that: yep, you're not "her only one" and it's painfully obvious.
jb_trp 6y ago
First of all... You need to accept that this relationship is over. It could be over in a day, a week, etc. But looking at your post history, it's obvious you're in a very bad situation. Your GF doesn't sleep with you, you've "opened" the relationship thinking that will fix things (giving her a free pass to fuck other dudes and not you), and she's blatantly disrespectful.
It's time for you to grow some balls, man.
Get into the gym. Change your diet. Stop caring about what she thinks, because it's obvious she doesn't care about your feelings.
Read "No More Mr. Niceguy." Go back and read the top posts on TRP, especially ones from over a year ago.
You need to break up with this girl and cut her out of your life. If you two are living together, make a plan to do just that.
APSTNDPhy 6y ago
Hahaha it gets worse every post. He has an open relationship too!?
krefnasterploc 6y ago
This is fucking crazy. I’ve had shitty gfs in the past but none were this contemptuous as this. Holy shit she’s awful if this really happened
But don’t blame her. Women are programmed to do this
If you don’t hold frame like a man and NEVER let them get you emotional you won’t have this problem. Once a female sees you become emotional or get rolled over like this it’s over. They don’t see you as sexual anymore and you’re a fucking rent payer or a pedestal for her self esteem.
The hardest advice you’ll learn here is that you need to be emotionally unavailable with women and be in charge of your ship and let her know frequently she’s lucky you let her aboard.
Ascended_One 6y ago
Nope, that wasn't a shit test. Shit tests are meant to see if a man is alpha or if he's just pretending to be one. In your case she already knows the answer so it wasn't a test, it was just plain disrespect.
There was no right reaction to that, you should not have gotten into a position where she can afford remarks like this in the first place.
You're going to get some advice that's super hard to follow in this subredit, I'm sorry for what you're about to go through :/ We've all been where you are now, I still remember how it felt like. You can try to find comfort in the fact that it'll get much much better once you internalize everything.
[deleted] 6y ago
This.
The tests came back conclusive a long time ago.
This is outright contempt.
daveofmars 6y ago
If you're not happy then leave. Obviously your instincts are telling you somethings wrong. Your girl likely has no respect for you because you tolerate abuse and you stay. You have two choices: don't tolerate the abuse or don't stay. I'd go with the latter because, if your perspective is correct, she isn't worth staying with.
When returning a shit test with a joke, don't use expletives. Pretend you're playing with a child, or your niece. You need plausible deniability that you're not butthurt.
brinkleybuzz 6y ago
Dead bedroom, in your 20s with a supposed girlfriend?! Your issue is much bigger than a fucked up Thanksgiving dinner.
If she's not fucking you she's just a roommate, not your girlfriend.
If she's not fucking you she's likely fucking someone else.
She keeps shit testing you and won't fuck you because she has no respect for you.
In other words ... your so-called relationship is a shitshow. Forget about her and start getting your own shit together.
Luis_McLovin 6y ago
She is, obviously, getting pipe laid elsewhere. Anyone who doubts is clueless to how easy life is for a pretty woman in her 20s.
BreakingRed_ 6y ago
Do girls give shit tests even to those they don't want to fuck?
Losingsteamfast 6y ago
Whatever you want to call it, they definitely play games with people they don't want to fuck. How many friendzone guys get similar nonsense thrown their way?
VasiliyZaitzev 6y ago
Which means:
That you spelled "ex-gf" wrong.
Dump.That.Bitch.
kabuto_mushi 6y ago
Pretty much dude. I’m gonna learn some shit first though. Mistakes are okay I think, but not repeated ones.
Hnikud 6y ago
DM Me.
JaYogi 6y ago
You'll learn more if you dump her now and work on yourself. Start hitting the gym.
_Tactleneck_ 6y ago
I was in a relationship headed in your direction when I found this sub. Shit testing, lack of respect. I read no more Mr nice guy twice along with everything I could in this sub. I kept feeling I wasn't ready to leave yet, even though I knew it was over. Like I needed just a little more red pill knowledge. But I waited too long and caught her cheating on me. Its good to get your bearings and make plans for about 2 weeks, but know you have to leave soon. Don't try to stick around or negotiate. Sounds like there's a lot of unrecoverable damage here. When girls see you as a pushover, you're fucked. Just bow out and enjoy your amazing new life on the other side.
Luis_McLovin 6y ago
Weeaaaaaaak. You're going to let her use you as her bitch? Is that what you are, a little bitch? Man the fuck up.
StinkyDiaper 6y ago
You don't have to automatically dump her. Give yourself a month or so of applying redpill techniques. If nothing changes, get back into the dating game.
TheBrokenRuler 6y ago
May as well use this one as practice for catching shit tests, agree and amplify etc. Then when you're comfortable as alpha drop the bitch and let her deal with being alpha widowed lol
360_no_scope_upvote 6y ago
You're not a redpill. Break away and start a clean slate, there is nothing to learn with this woman, it doesn't work the way you think it does. You're in her frame, she sees you as her little bitch. You trying to break her frame will only instigate fights to put you back into your place because you're bottom rung.
willowhawk 6y ago
Girlfriend.....deadbedroom. Why the fuck are you with her
Forgot_Pword 6y ago
Be constructive.
zboo1h 6y ago
Honestly his comment is all that should be said. The rest of this thread including this inane comment by me is unnecessary.
Forgot_Pword 6y ago
Lol.
willowhawk 6y ago
It was. I can spell it out for the slow ones tho.
Asking why the fuck are you with her after mentioning deadbedroom and girlfriend implies that there is no point being with her.
The constructive implication? Leave her for a girl who actually appreciates your cock in her.
Forgot_Pword 6y ago
It's OK. Thanks though.
willowhawk 6y ago
No problem
LordThunderbolt 6y ago
Dude, you're being weak. Leave the girl now. It's too late. DeadBedroom is for married people. You're not even married. Leave and go work on yourself, then go look for other women
Kenny_Twenty 6y ago
Is it not a good idea to practice on this one?
kellykebab 6y ago
Do you "practice" getting a better paycheck at a shitty job that is fucking you over? No. You get a new job.
Kenny_Twenty 6y ago
Ah. I see critical thinking isn't your strength.
So the answer to your question is yes, absolutely. That is sometimes an excellent strategy. Maybe you've been given additional responsibility that affords you valuable experience but they aren't paying you more. It makes sense to remain in that job for a while and once you've gotten enough experience, you can use that to your benefit at a higher paying job, facilitated by that experience.
So even though his relationship may be ruined, he can learn to apply TRP principles and once he's become comfortable with them, can enter a new relationship where he's consistent with it from the beginning.
You're underestimating the value of experience.
But let's be real, you're just saying what you think will make you look like a TRP vet. You're not actually thinking for yourself.
Fuckin zealot. Lol
kellykebab 6y ago
What an obnoxious, smug comment.
Kenny_Twenty 6y ago
The point is what you said is foolish and wrong as fuck. But you weren't really thinking about it, you were just saying what you thought you were supposed to say here, right?
And yes, I am smug to you. You merit that kind of treatment.
kellykebab 6y ago
Are you taking an assertiveness class or something lol? This is such a routine, low stakes difference of opinion and you're coming out guns blazing.
I think you're mistaken, but you don't seem that open to normal discussion, so I'll just agree to disagree.
Kenny_Twenty 6y ago
It's unreasonable simplistic to equate dating to a particular dynamic of the corporate world. So that was a foolish thing to say. On top of that, you were wrong in your analogy, anyway. But when I pointed that out you ignored the actual points being debated and instead focused on your feelings instead. And I don't think I need to tell you which gender that is customary of.
So I can only deduce that you've not much experience in the corporate world and aren't able to conceptualize particular dynamics of sexual strategy. Rather, you just try to make a nonsensical, oversimplified analogy that's actually incorrect anyway, just because you think it's what is expected of you here.
I, in contrast, like to think for myself and question shitty advice when I see it. Especially on this sub, where the quality of the community has deteriorated significantly over the past 3 years to millenials who are angry at women and derive a feeling of acceptance by repeating TRP clichés and acronyms so they feel like part of a group rather than behaving like confident men who know how to think for themselves and are confident doing so.
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Kenny_Twenty 6y ago
Why don't you read a little more carefully dumb-dumb. Do you know who the fuck you're communicating with?
LordThunderbolt 6y ago
What did my comment say? If it was a good idea, I wouldn't have told him to gtfo
Kenny_Twenty 6y ago
Whatever you say, kid.
LordThunderbolt 6y ago
weak
Kenny_Twenty 6y ago
lol
That's why you lost frame on the internet.
lol
LordThunderbolt 6y ago
lol hehe lmao rofl hahah
Kenny_Twenty 6y ago
That's what I thought. lol
Bascome 6y ago
Practice what?
Kenny_Twenty 6y ago
Practice manipulating his girlfriend into someone more ideal.
htbf 6y ago
Don't waste time trying to change people. Invest that time in bettering yourself.
Kenny_Twenty 6y ago
A huge aspect of TRP is manipulating the behavior of women.
You must be new here.
htbf 6y ago
Not quite. You must be new here.
Kenny_Twenty 6y ago
Five years, son.
ReddJive 6y ago
To her you are window dressing.
She got to bring a guy and not feel alone. To show off for her family.
At some point you’ll realize. She’s just a gf.
I’ve been in this position. Stayed too long. I’d leave. Not look back. Let her wonder why.
Taipanshimshon 6y ago
" You're still going to pay me for pretending to be your boyfriend so that your parents don't get upset, right? - And I told you, I do not provide sex"
APSTNDPhy 6y ago
He's dead bedroom, otherwise that would be a great reply. Probably drop the last bit.
Taipanshimshon 6y ago
the thing is, you create your own reality - sometimes with words
[deleted] 6y ago
In my opinion this moves beyond shit test into outright disrespect territory. This is where you would demote her to plate.
JackGetsIt 6y ago
https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/4mt89q/the_6_stages_of_breaking_up_a_guide_to_not_having/
4angrydragons 6y ago
I swear every post on r/deadbedrooms could be an invitation for redpill
yallapapi 6y ago
You have a few options. The best is to always joke them down.
Possible responses to the "this one?"
"Yeah, we actually broke up before coming here but didn't want to cause a scene."
"Yeah she has at least 10 boyfriends, and that's just the ones I know about."
"I'm 27. Why, so you think I should get a younger hotter girlfriend?"
This shows you have balls. Plus humor is literally the best thing ever. If you get a laugh out of people at the table you automatically score points. Your value goes up, hers goes down and you win the social game. Do that and you're golden.
That said, if you're here from DB my best advice is to dump this chick and take a break from women. Finish the sidebar, hit the gym and start working out yourself.
RedPilledRoaster 6y ago
Dump her and spin plates
[deleted] 6y ago
"I am staying with her to learn"
Don't bullshit us bro, you are doing this because you have no options.
The sooner you leave her sorry ass the more you learn.
Also I'm not sorry to break it to you but she has 0 respect for you and also a side-dick 100%.
You didn't internalize shit from the sidebar.
zboo1h 6y ago
A female coworker of mine does this to her little beta boy all the time. She humiliates him in subtle (and not so subtle) ways all the time when he's around, in front of anyone. I get the strong feeling that they're into cuckolding or that she fucks him in the ass with a fake dick.
Don't fucking be that guy.
mrpthrowa 6y ago
Ok, as a starter, never underestimate the full power of STFU and silence.
Learn to be completely comfortable in silence.
Because the right response to that would have been complete silence.
Your frame doesn't even aknowledge the existence of such disrespect.
Just sit down, and keep looking at people in the table in the eyes for a few seconds.
This creates some sort of super awkward tense moment.
It's ok, keep it going.
Keep the tenseness, keep the awkwardness that SHE created by being disrespectful.
Let everyone including her realise deeply what she's done. By the way, this sort of awkward silence is deadly to all girls. They hate being the centre of awkward like nothing else. She may even break it by saying something stupid like "just kidding", or "I didn't mean that" or whatever.
after about 1 minute, talk to someone else in the table about something completely different, like her mom or dad or whoever:
"How was your such as such last week?".
Chaddeus_Rex 6y ago
But if you keep you're silence isn't it showing you as afraid/too dumb to respond?
FuckboyAWALT 6y ago
This. You don't even AA because that was just disrespectful and not a funny thing.
clint_bronson 6y ago
this right here OP, but also, quite frankly, if your gf disrespects you that way in front of her family, i'd say she's not girlfriend material. Act accordingly.
kabuto_mushi 6y ago
I understand. The way things are going realtionship will be over before long, but I want to learn first.
NexusReflexX 6y ago
Youll learn more by being alone then with her.
Auvergnat 6y ago
What you're going to need to do first is: hit the gym, read a lot of redpill material, develop an alpha mindset with abundance mentality. All of this takes time, and you'll have more time when you're single than when you're with someone.
The only thing that you can learn while with your current girl that you wouldn't while single is how to deal with utter disrespect. But that is very low on the list of priorities, far far below the shortlist I discussed above.
What you will learn with the red pill is that your most important resources as a man are your time and attention. And right now you're spending shitloads of them on someone for nothing good in return. Just drama and disrespect.
Your situation is not worth saving. Deadbedroom at 27 + utter disrespect in front of family, is about as bad as it gets in terms of lack of respect and attraction. You'll never turn this around. She will always doubt "the new you". You should bail before she traps you with fake renewed sexual interest to hide her pregnancy by a cad she just met and pops up a kid to trap you into 18 years of forced providing.
It's normal not to feel strong enough to get out of here right now, but we can promise you that the single life is awesome with red pill awareness. If you can't jump now, you should focus 100% of your mental energy into getting prepared to jump asap (look for options to move out, chat girls when she's not around, secure your finances) rather than learning how to get back at a disrespectful woman.
zboo1h 6y ago
You won't learn shit with your balls in this harpy's purse.
redpillbanana 6y ago
You've learned enough to know that she is a shitty girlfriend. Why wait?
If you need inspiration, here's a thread for you: https://www.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/51y5c2/update_girlfriend_disrespects_me_in_public/
tenxs 6y ago
While I think this is an excellent reaction, I disagree it's the right thing to do when you have established piss-poor frame.
Chances are high you will just look like a victim that's enduring disrespect because you can't help it. For starters, I would rahter suggest a&a / pressure flip.
He can't afford not to react yet.
APSTNDPhy 6y ago
He's too low of the pecking order to pull this off.
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djthiago1 6y ago
No sex and disrespect... Nice relationship bro.
we_have_the_best_red 6y ago
Welcome, man!
I first pulled an all nighter devouring the sidebar as I discovered TRP while searching for “controversial subreddits” haha. I was 3.5 years into a dead bedroom marriage. Now I have 4 plates, freedom, and a much more accurate understanding of the female brain.
APSTNDPhy 6y ago
Omfg just skimmed some posts. This dude needs help. You need to be single, lift, work on yourself. In a few months you will realise how fucking insane you've been. Trust me.
WISE_TURD 6y ago
It's probably best to start with a new girl who is conditioned to walking all over you. Spin some plates etc.
Lift and raise your smv. This lifelong and non-negotiable. Start lifting asap, it usually takes a minimum of a year of religious lifting to get reasonably jacked. Usually at least 3 years to be close to maxing out your genetic potential. These timelines are rough estimates - depends how hard you work, how clean you eat, what your body looks like when you start, and, of course, genetics.
kellykebab 6y ago
What is this paragraph even supposed to mean? This is just word salad.
Either your girlfriend is just teasing you and you're overly sensitive or she dislikes you because you're a pussy.
If she's truly disrespectful on a continual basis, you can either put in the effort to really turn things around or, better yet, just leave her. You can send a message to her and give yourself a wake-up call.
It sucks to start over, but if this issue is really that bad, sometimes it's easier to find something better by starting from scratch.
[deleted] 6y ago
That isn't a shit test, that's her being a mean cunt. If she is doing that and not even sleeping with you, then please consider leaving her.
FlyingSexistPig 6y ago
Frame and lifting my friend. Frame and lifting
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SorcererKing 6y ago
Don't ignore context. If this was a loving girlfriend who was fucking him on the reg, then maybe. This dude came from DEADBEDROOMS FFS. How the hell you gonna have a dead bedroom when you're not even married?
[deleted] 6y ago
Interesting.
And highly unlikely given the other evidence.
yadad 6y ago
I was thinking the same thing as this would be common in Australian culture.
APSTNDPhy 6y ago
That's male to female banter. That's a double standard but idgaf. Remember women are actually attracted to men other women fuck, while men are not attracted to the town bicycle.
Additionally, they have a dead bedroom. If she said that while gurgling his cum an hour later I could let it slide.
GunnarX 6y ago
Welcome.
Being in your twenties in a dead bedroom, I think most of us will be giving you the same (harsh) advice. It’s important that you don’t think your situation is special and an exception.
That wouldn’t have been a good response. If your girl has the guts to say that about you around family, she does not respect you. It is extremely difficult to earn that respect back, and usually never worth it. The best way to get that respect back is to never have lost it in the first place.
You need to dump her and get busy lifting, reading (No More Mr Nice Guy, The Rational Male)
redblueninja 6y ago
Didn't you read in the sidebar that sleep is important to maintain high t-levels?
[deleted] 6y ago
She doesn’t respect you and you need to leave
minoc_uo 6y ago
Good luck man. It's a tough transition, but you will be happy you made it.
EnzoGold 6y ago
I would just brush it off like she never said it. Clearly seems like shes teasing you
mrpthrowa 6y ago
Teasing is 1 to 1, in front of other people it's called disrespect.
EnzoGold 6y ago
If you find it disrespectful do something about it. Don't take that shit bro.