Exclusive relationships require roughly equal amounts of alpha and beta.

If you want to go through life fucking one girl at a time who is about as attractive as you are, you can probably do that with not too much difficulty or game.

But men are not made to be satisfied. We are made to be ambitious and pursue MORE and obsess with building ourselves to higher accomplishments. Including but not limited to more and sexier women.

The only thing stopping a beta male from having a healthy relationship is a society that poisons women.

Beta & alpha both have their place. Being red pill actually means admitting this and working with it, not against it. It also means understanding how poisoned women are by the society / family that influenced them. If at all but today that's not "if"

"life goals and knows how to lead (not as well as a CEO or something, but I manage a small diner restaurant for now) can't secure a 2nd date."

Probably because those girls who like guys like you don't want to date at all - they want to fuck in an undefined relationship and fuck other guys when they're bored of you.

"Most of these guys are relatively good looking (not on the level of a male model) they dress stylishly and have hobbies/interests but they're not leaders, experts, or cassanova types either. "

That's because women like hot guys who dress well and that in and of itself is the genetic game & choices you make (clothing)

“Alpha” and “beta” are contextual. Think back to high school. The cute nerdy girls in honors classes aren’t going to date the captain of the football team who spends all of his spare time lifting weights and hanging out with jocks and cheerleaders. They’re going to date the goofy, funny guy on the debate team who’s too skinny and kind of awkward, but is well-liked and kind of popular in his own social circle. He’s “alpha” in that social scene. Hell, he may be more alpha than some try-hard jock, because he’s true to himself. He’s not the least bit ashamed about playing on-line RPGs with his nerd friends, staying up late playing video games, reading crappy sci-fi books. He owns it, does what he wants, is open about his life, and since he knows he’s a nerdy dork, he interacts with women like he doesn’t really expect anything – just being normal – and is pleasantly surprised when girls in his own social circle kind of like him. In the eyes of that particular circle of women, the football players are dumbasses. But that lanky nerd from the debate team doesn’t have a shot with the cheerleading captain.

This translates into real life. In the right circles, that guy with the shaved head and 50 tattoos on his scalp with piercings everywhere is the king, while the guy in the Armani suit with the Porsche and perfect hair and teeth is laughed at. But the tattooed freak couldn’t drive his car within five miles of the Armani man’s neighborhood without getting pulled over.

Your alpha/beta behavior is just a component of your SMV. These "beta" guys might be rich, have high status (don't underestimate social status), naturally good looking, dress well, etc.

Different personalities. My best friend lets his wife call the shots. He's content with letting her be the boss. She wants to be the boss. It works for them.

Attractiveness. Even in my beta days I could pull women here and there for LTR's. They just pack up and leave in a few months.

SMV is comprised of many things for a man. Your buddy has elevated SMV from his status, but brought down because of his behaviour. That's enough to get him laid occasionally and have short-term relationships.

Sounds like you are in a bad area. Some areas are just concentrated with flakes and low IQ chicks. You intimidate them and are perceived as "trying too hard". You need a change of scenery.

One of my good friend's brothers is in a band and according to him is the biggest beta on earth, but girls still worship him.

If you're just that attractive physically you're just that attractive man.

Plus you sound like you care to much. Read that Hate is the new love Post from archwinger. I think you haven't killed your ego. You expect too much from women. Realize something. If women aren't responding to you. It's your fault. Somehow, someway. You are not appealing to the demographic of women that you are interested in. So change yourself and let go of your ego.

I wanted to write an in depth post on this, but someone on the main sub beat me to it. The idea I was tinkering with is that any man in a successful relationship isn't truly beta. Every woman has traits that she considers alpha, and while the ones TRP believes in are hallmarks of strength some women have other attributes that they pay more attention to.
Some women from different backgrounds haven't had anyone care for them and seeing someone go the extra mile might be something special to them. Alpha is purely contextual.

Because they've done the CC and settle for BB

The funny thing about TRP and this is that it's really just a set of guidelines, not a strict law that govern women. Yes AWALT, yes lift, yes Abundance Mentality, yes Amused Mastery etc etc etc, but in the end it still all ends up to the kind of girls you approach/talk to.

even though socially, they act like they're castrated

Maybe to YOU they act castrated, but behind the scenes it is a completely different story.

Because she hasn't found someone better yet.

You use the word "healthy" but I don't think it means what you think it means.

Basically, the "healthy" relationships today, as you describe them, are likely young women using men as accessories to their social image. Of course they want a pleasant and presentable man to show off to their friends. Will it last? It will last for as long as she puts up with his subservience.

Some women aren't broken by feminism and still support their man.

'Unicorns' are less uncommon in religious circles. Both parties buy in, there are predetermined roles, and it works. Those brought up in this environment will still have some of that influence even if they aren't the epitome of piety.

It sounds like you're partially in monk mode and wondering why you aren't getting tail. Don't half ass two things. Whole ass one. Either focus on SMV development, or get out there and start being social(although you never stop increasing your SMV). You've got to fail about 1000 times (or so it'll seem) before you get consistent results.

Approach one woman a day this month. Go to or host a party. Go to your favorite pickup spot 3 times a week(club, mall, coffee shop, bar, whatever).

A lot of women get sick of being pumped and dumped by guys and eventually just want to have a boyfriend or husband.

They come to the point, usually near 30 when their friends are getting married, where they would rather be with a beta male than be alone.

Certain types of girls prefer to be in relationships with men who defer to them. This naturally leads them to pair up with betas.

As you said, these guys aren't total losers. They're good looking and have stuff going on.

Its sort of similar to guys who prefer to date "feisty" women. This fits within the natural range of variation and doesn't invalidate AWALT.