Okay so I work in an OR where its like a reality tv show, everyone gossips and I try to stay out of it as much as possible. I never did anything thing with anyone I work with there.
Anyway I was out one night at a bar for a work event. I saw this girl who doesnt work there anymore and was flirting with her the whole night. When she left I went to pull her into the stairwell to make out with her (I was looking for a one night thing only)... We couldnt even do anything because a security guard came after us and yelled..she then left but I wanted to keep good terms with her incase the opportunity arose but a one night thing was all I was looking for.
then next day she messaged me on facebook, asking me all these questions about myself, I wasnt very interested in where she was going with this so I talked for a little then kind of ignored her. She would message back and said "I'm hearing rumors that a kid we work with (my buddy) told u to stay away from me (didnt even happen I just have no interest in taking this further other than trying to fuck her if I see her out one night)....u know why? U can txt me if u want instead of this stupid messenger (with her number)"
I didnt respond and she said "Did I scare you away already?"
Didnt respond then she said about a week later says "It's such a shame u have a bad reputation already...for such a nice, good looking guy."
this pissed me off because I know what shes trying to do but I just said "lol" (a lot of people I work with know that I fuck a lot of women outside of work because my buddy works there and talks a lot about our weekends. So obviously she was gossiping about me)
she responded: "i guess that doesnt seem to bother you?"
Me:what your friends think of me? nope. I see what your doing here but ill take the compliment
her:What am i doing? whats that mean?
Me:if you dont like what you hear you dont have to say anything to me
her: just thought u would care about what ppl r saying and talking about....but I guess u don't mind being considered a male whore.
me:I know who I am and people who are my real friends know who I really am too. if idc, why would you? Dont believe everything everyone says, form your own opinion about people, dont be so simple minded
Me: I thought you were a cool chick didnt think you were one to gossip
her: qualifying herself I'm def not simple minded and I know how rumors go there....which I have always referred to as "General Hospital" for a reason. I don't gossip. It was information that was told to me when I mentioned to someone that I had met u at the bar. And that was as far as the info went.
How do you think I handled this? Good? any lessons I can take from this?
EDIT: I know that kind of is my reputation there (not really worried about it) Its my own fault and Im not looking to date anyone there, they think that just because a guy is young and single and likes to have casual sex that hes a bad person. any way to dig myself out of this reputation, I feel like explaining myself is pointless?
1NV0K3R 8y ago
you fukken rekt her m8
she was probably gushing after you told her you simply didnt give a fuck
her: he's a male whore with everyone but meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
Deanb1307 8y ago
hahah good point
Whisper Moderator 8y ago
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RedPillWatchTower 8y ago
gotcha Whisp. point applied.
yoyoz69 8y ago
You fell into her frame by responding at all, she baited you with her "rumors". The whole point was to elicit a response out of you.
"Ok"
You explained too much, from reading this post I could tell that you do care somewhat, I would have too.
If this was me I wouldn't be interested in even pumping and dumping this chick, proceed with caution.
I've been slut shamed before, it was actually my first post here - look at my post history to see the responses.
becoming_pertinax 8y ago
You could have done this:
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You've got to "short circuit" the conversation when it gets into this stuff. Nothing good can come from this. Just make it into something funny, she'll laugh (because she likes you), and then you change the subject or just drop the conversation.
Deanb1307 8y ago
good points, thanks
favours_of_the_moon 8y ago
or "Time for you to suck it, bitch."
Deanb1307 8y ago
no
dr_warlock 8y ago
Do not ever argue with women. They drag you in to start chaos, not to come to conclusion. Do not explain female nature to women ("I see what you're doing") Do not try to change woman's expression of female nature (gossip).
throw_em_all 8y ago
A little too much explanation from your side, but dude:
☐ Not REKT
☐ REKT
☑ Tyrannosaurus REKT
wiz1six1 8y ago
Good job. Now go get that ONS
fnordsnord 8y ago
You spent too much time texting her back and forth on this. You explained too much and came off as qualifying yourself and did it in the process of explaining why you didn't have to qualify yourself.
Deanb1307 8y ago
I see your point the only reason i did that was to keep ties incase I see her out again. I feel as though I would have ignored her again she would have not only would say fuck this guy..but spread more rumors around. Now I feel as though I put her in her place and now she will say "ahh he dont give a shit what people say about him that stuff probably isnt true" and I still have that contact for next time I see her..no?
NidStyles 8y ago
I would have corrected her usage of the word whore, just to tilt her some more into the, "he will stand up to me, a strong independent womIn".
Looked good otherwise. You play that casual aloofness rather well.
Deanb1307 8y ago
can you give an example?
NidStyles 8y ago
Hint that she should compensate you for your time spent with her if she thinks you are a male whore. Otherwise, you've been giving her entirely too much time without compensation which negated her use of the word.
It really depends on the context of the conversation on how you should word it obviously. It keeps the conversation about you two having sex rather than just some BS morality crap. It's really just a lame ass shit test that can be used against them when they throw it. Aloofness works fine, but turning it back on them works more towards your goal of plating her or whatever goals you have with her sexually.
I had to go back and re-read the OP.
her: just thought u would care about what ppl r saying and talking about....but I guess u don't mind being considered a male whore.
you: I'm comfortable with myself, and I don't get compensated enough for I what do for women enough to be a real whore.
Always push yourself in a positive light. Even if that positive light is "morally questionable". Morality has no positive light, it's pure guilt and hamstering. Morality is what happens when you let gynocentrism define what is right and wrong. You want her to ignore her own inner "morality". You want her to hamster right past the question of morality as this makes her mind more pliable to your goals. By framing yourself as a good person that does things for women it changes her personal hamster's course on you.
She has the negative tingles, because morality, so you're fighting her group hamsters. The way to beat group hamsters is to get her to ignore the guilt that morality brings into the question, and to make her as comfortable as possible. Erase any question of judgement on her for getting involved with you. Once you get her isolated, she will be yours anyways. You have to break that morality crap to get her isolated though.
favours_of_the_moon 8y ago
hahahaha
Deanb1307 8y ago
lol why does everyone find that funny I get called this a lot though
favours_of_the_moon 8y ago
It's funny she's trying to use that against you.
A dude couldn't buy that kind of social proof. LOL
Zeparic 8y ago
male whore lmao
RPNietzsche 8y ago
Calling someone a "male whore" is actually a very commonly used term here in Sweden.
Zeparic 8y ago
Effectively? If men are getting bent for having a reputation of fucking women then your country is in a critically feminized state.
RPNietzsche 8y ago
Yes. Last year Sweden sent the first person from a feminist party to the European Union, extreme leftists also took control over this Country at roughly the same time, and it's been downhill ever since.