Hello,
I was a loser BB, lost my virginity at 25 and just couldn't fuck. I was gentle, it was boring and overall just fucking sucked. At first i couldn't even get hard. The girl i was dating, put up with this for ~6 months before cheating on me on vacation with an old FWB in another state. Dude was nothing like her type, mixed Spanish/black, skinnier then normal, much shorter has kids etc etc. But one thing she made clear, he could lay pipe.
I didn't find out about this for almost a year after it happened. Before I found out I knew my sex was bad. At around the 4 month mark of shitty sex (before she cheated) I found TRP and read a lot, stickies, sex god method, a lot on Reddit and the girl that cheated on me over time finally opened the fuck up. Told me to just fuck her etc. I just couldnt get it all moving in time.
Anyway, in that 18 months or so I now know i can lay some serious pipe, she had never been able to finish before me and does so regularly now, shes glowing and motionless after we fuck, shes sore, she always wants more, lets me fuck her mouth, puts my dick in her mouth fresh from her pussy. The last two were HARD no's the first 6 months.
Anyway, I have made progress, and a lot of it. However, I still compare myself to the dude she cheated on me like its some sore of life goal to upstage this dude. How do I stop this? Stop comparing me to him? The shitty part is, In my mind I always come out on the low end.
Any type of reading, terms to search for or just general direction would be greatly appreciated.
Edit: Thanks for being the unbiased assholes I love, its so easy to get wrapped up in my own rationalization. I'm going to go radio silent on her. Thanks.
tepper2 10y ago
This is amusing. She admits to sleeping with another guy because you fuck like a chump and you stick with the whore. What a pussy.
She has no respect for you. Who cares if you can take her to poundtown, you're still a beta who she lets fuck her. And she's thinking of another guy while you're doing it. In fact, I'd bet a few bills on her cheating on you at least once since that all happened.
Start by dropping the cheating slut you're hung up on. Then start pursuing other women and cultivating your sex machine reputation.
And have some goddamn respect for yourself.
Urbanindoorgrowing 10y ago
I wouldn't say I stuck with her, I didn't speak to her for a few months and now I only see her to fuck.
The cheating terminated any type of relationship we had, i'm sure shes fucking other dudes.
The sex is convenient but probably not worth it, really the only option here i guess.
NotQuiteRedPill 10y ago
I think, once she cheated on you, you're the plate... at best.
tepper2 10y ago
You made it sound like you were still together. In that case, she seems like she's working out well as a plate, which is about all she's good for (IMO).
I still maintain that she lacks any respect for you and is, in her mind, letting you fuck her.
Urbanindoorgrowing 10y ago
I never thought of it like that and honestly its a huge turn off. Glad I made this post, wrapped this shit up for me.
rprando 10y ago
I would stop seeing her, even if it's just sex. You said you're still a bit beat up about it. The best way to truly move forward is to start fucking other girls. I don't understand how fucking your ex is so motivating, that's more of a last resort.
OverdoseOfRedPill 10y ago
Your hamster is working, but not hard enough. You're a cuck. Drop the slut, find another.
orilyrily 10y ago
OverdoseOfRedPill, Did you ever end up dropping your oneitis from your submission 2 weeks ago? I was interested in an update on your situation.
OverdoseOfRedPill 10y ago
Yea I still think of her but definitely don't want her back. Exercise and meditation helped.
orilyrily 10y ago
Rock on man.
Sepean 10y ago
I used to be very skinny. 20 years ago I started lifting and have been big since. Sometimes when I look in the mirror I see a fit guy, sometimes I see someone with skinny arms.
My point is, maybe your insecurities will follow you forever. Fuck it. Use it to motivate you. Deal with it. Just live your life, be the best you can be, and don't get hung up on that your mind plays tricks on you from time to time and tells you that you're a pussy.
RedBigMan 10y ago
Obviously he was her type if she was letting him lay pipe. Women don't fuck dudes they're not attracted to unless part of a provisioning plan (IE. They're trying to lock down the beta bucks).
You've come a long way man... Keep up the good work and realize that sluts are sluts. The dude the slut cheated on with is not the same dude you are today. You have improved yourself and as a result the chance of bitches cheating on you decreases (but never completely disappears because there's always some better Chad around. If you're a broke loser theres Millionaire Chad... If you're rolling in the $$$ there is always Billionaire Chad willing to lay pipe in your woman to have her join the mile high club).
Also agree with other dudes here... Once a cheating slut, always a cheating slut. She should have been downgraded to a plate long ago. Only way to get rid of her is a clean break.
SkorchZang 10y ago
You may think she's got your balls, but it's really your ego that's stuck in the vice dude. She isn't even the owner or operator of the vice. Losing her would not be such a big deal if it wasn't for the little detail that bitch picked some other guy over you. This just flies straight in the face of everything one may want to believe about themselves, that we're special, that we're unique, that we're worth loving.
Women normally have no idea what kind of fire they're playing with when they do this stuff. But it's alright, my advice would be to let it hurt you and enjoy the pain, learn from it everything you can about how special, unique, and loveable you are to the world, really.
Might want to think about this too: how is it that before you got better at fucking she did not find you all that loveable or worthy, but after you improved suddenly you're alright in her book. You're still the same you, just with some more skill in pleasuring her. Let that contradiction grate your teeth at night, if you see where I'm going with it. It's exactly like a woman who shows you the door as a poor man madly in love with her, but then once you made a fortune or two, she comes running "I love you baby, I always did!". Look at how easy men make it for women to pull ego strings and play puppeteer. It does not have to be like that, that's just the default BP factory setting.
AWALT.
WishfulTraveler 10y ago
Redpill is all about your ego though.
Stayinghereforreal 10y ago
Why are you still seeing her?
That is likely why you have the following issue:
Urbanindoorgrowing 10y ago
Its just good sex, and its highly motivating. I have changed so much in the last year due to her one simple act. Dropped weight, new job, new car and i'm moving next month. I KNOW this shouldn't bother me. It's all ego, it needs to be stopped and I feel like to stop fucking her is the easy way out.
If she didn't cheat, if she settled I would be 50 steps back.
I genuinely like her company, I legit have forgiven her for what she did because well, any other girl could have been so much more harsh on me. We don't see each other that much, she's in a rotation and knows it. And the blow jobs are a++ now.
She has a really fat ass.
1NV0K3R 10y ago
What? You mean they could have done you the favor of cheating on you and then leaving you? What the fuck man.
Get the fuck out of here with your cuck fetish.
Edit: You need to clarify that she is a plate. I didn't get this at first but after re-reading is she still your LTR or just some chick you hang out with and bang?
Urbanindoorgrowing 10y ago
No, not having a cock that works is a pretty rough thing. It tears you up. By the time I found out what she did I was in working order again. But it took 6-8 months to get myself working again.
I see here maybe once a week for a few hours, she is NOT a LTR. We went months with no contact before bumping into each other again and we fucked and thats how its been going ever since.
fnordsnord 10y ago
No shit. I had a few ugly moments a couple of years back. Failed to close the deal on one I had been long-gaming for three YEARS because of hydraulic failure. (Don't ever let anyone tell you Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction isn't a thing.)
favours_of_the_moon 10y ago
Maybe tag team this bitch with that other dude.
Make it a contest!
CastingLimerence 10y ago
Hehee all in for a good ol' fashion gangbang. One in her mouth, one in her cooter, one in the dookshoot and one in each hand like shes skiing down a fking mountain.
[deleted] 10y ago
Keepcomparing yourself to him and use the anger to improve. It's only when you will be better than him that you will stop comparing.
GentLemonArtist 10y ago
alpha dick and beta bucks are qualities of relationships. You can be a hot new guy for one plate when another one is familiar with you and is starting to place you as provider
Tiway22 10y ago
Wow grow some fuckin balls jesus. Do you have no self respect? Dump this cheating bitch and stop being a pussy.
It's time to be a man.
FrameWalker 10y ago
That feeling won't go away until you forget this girl. It sounds like what you have is working for you, but know that in the long run she should be replaced. That drive to improve has to be for you, not for her and she's a temporary crutch.
Urbanindoorgrowing 10y ago
That makes a lot of sense, it's working but not 100% ideal. She is temporary, I never thought of it like that. I should probably just terminate it sooner.
WishfulTraveler 10y ago
On the upside, a lot of guys never can deal with that one girl that cheated on them and pushed them to the redpill. You're still fucking yours. She fucking loves what you do to her. So when you drop her, you'll never have to deal with that.
fnordsnord 10y ago
Not until you are ready. Start gaming around and have at least 3 prospects in mind before you break up. Do not cheat on her, but find at least three women you are interested in before pulling that ejection lever.