Relationships are a game.

Like any game (like chess), it's more fun to play when you know the rules of the game. The problem is most men and women are ignorant of the rules of the game so the result is doing stupid shit like sacrificing your queen to take a pawn because they dont know how valuable the queen is in the game :)

I know the feeling. Finally understanding that falling in love with a girl in that Disney fashion just isn't possible for dudes...it was hard at first. Understanding that whatever the girl feels is a result of inner and outer game; not some magical coincidence.

But at the same time, this realization made me happy to know that I actually have control over my life and relationships. "Fate" isn't the one deciding these things, I am.

Nevertheless, I think you're just going through a phase many of us go through. Once you experience more of this lifestyle and meeting girls, you lose this silly concept of strategic game and it all becomes something natural. I've stopped over analyzing shit and trying to apply Game to every interaction I have with girls. There's something much deeper than that. I'm just having trouble putting it in words since inner Game and social dynamics are very abstract. I just want you to know that there is a whole other level after this textbook phase of Game. Just give it some time and you'll know what I mean.

See, I feel the opposite way.

I feel an incredible sense of freedom to be released from false pretenses that the way I was trained to act doesn't work.

I have no imperative to do things I don't want to do. If I don't want to be in a relationship? Good, I can leave.

If I want to sleep with a certain type of woman, I can learn more game.

The fact that you no longer have this veil in front of you about this mysterious, romantic world of woman, you start to have to decide what you want to do with your life.

It's hard to look within and have to figure out what you want. But once you start to break your mind free from others' expectations, there is a whole possibility of choices available to you which you may never have considered in the past.

Find your mission. Explore your creativity. Build. Produce.

Enjoy women on your terms. Yes, that means you'll have to figure out their behavior and how to seduce them, but really, it's not so bad at all.

By knowing the mechanics, you avoid personal catastrophe.

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At the risk of committing the NAWALT sin against humanity....

... you should check out redpillwomen. It might give you some hope.

Congratulations you have stumbled on the first part of nihilism. the ideal that it is all pointless. If you look a little deeper the next step is two faceted, all humans need purpose in their lives to feel fulfillment and happiness and the only purpose that will be in your life are the ones you make for yourself. Perspective is important don't see the infinite complexity of life as emptiness but as an endless place to explore and experience. Life is short and the wonders of this world are endless. As for romance never forget that as a man the power is and always has been in your hands. Don't let a pretty face and the siren call of sex weaken your resolve. game is about having her jump through your hoops and refusing to jump through hers. If romance is to much work you have surrendered your power.

Everyone plays games in love, but that doesn't mean that nobody actually loves. It's silly to think that love and affection are solely the result of each person trying to one up and take advantage of the other. There will always be variables in any social interaction regardless of how good your game is. It's these unknowns that are the really exciting parts.

You say it's like realizing there's no God, but for some people there absolutely is a God. It's silly to say that there's no point to social interaction just because there's no end goal. If you're really that apathetic towards relationships then you need more help than we can give you.

I know what you mean OP. Give it some time...what you want will change. There is nothing wrong with wanting to opt out, it's all about doing what you want/will benefit you the most.