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QawL 5y ago
Everyone fails much more then they write about their one big success. At least that's what it is for me.
Try 10 times succeed 1 time. Never try never fail your choice.
DeBrawnMD 5y ago
Double true. I think part of trp is coming to grips with failure.
It's a natural part of becoming better. Embrace it. Learn from it. Do better.
I've failed hundreds of times and succeeded about 5%. Still, those 5% have been amazing and totally worth the effort.
norcalguy510 5y ago
Hell yeah. I thought all these guys were chad's. Nope. Just regular guys failing and succeeding
twofones 5y ago
Normal accuracies are in the realm of batting averages
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most of the guys here are LARPING.
BurningOrangeHeaven 5y ago
Increase the anmount of interactions you have.
NabroleonBonaparte 5y ago
To be blunt, you might have undiagnosed ADD or autism.
I found out I had undiagnosed ADD and it was the missing piece to TRP. I realized this place is a honeypot for these types of people due to feeling like outcasts and having bad social skills.
I would look into those and see if any of the readings line up with your experiences and go get a diagnosis.
There was this huge backlash against widespread efforts to educate how common these conditions were in the 90s but single moms couldn’t accept that their snowflake wasn’t “perfect” so they kept their children in the dark.
Acerhand 5y ago
Underrated post.
When I started reading about Red pill concepts, I realsied that I already "knew" most of them or did a lot of them, just didn't realise I was doing it.
Red pill is just theory behind it. It clicks so much sometimes when i read it. Generally Just take the principles and use the idea behind it all. for example: negging or push pull? It's just a way to create some emotional spikes on your own grounds.
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I think most men who are good with women are a bit more "feminine" in their social interactions. They understand how to socialise well like women do, and basically leverage it to their own advantage.
meowsero 5y ago
So is there a special/specific tip for those who have add or autism?
NabroleonBonaparte 5y ago
Seek a professional. There’s so much research behind those 2 diagnosis. It’s also possible to have both making things even harder.
I can’t speak about autism but as far as I know with more practice with social skills nobody can tell that you have it unless you have a severe case.
With ADD, you’re not that far from normal but our thinking tends to go too fast which leads us to confusing thoughts and conversations with normal people. We’re also impulsive as fuck because we get bored with normal people, so we look for unstable people because they’re exciting and careful with unprotected sex because of the impulsivity.
ADD treatment is getting stimulants and practicing your social skills (like you are with TRP). You don’t have to take the pills forever if you manage to control your symptoms. Nothing to worry about the pills, their essentially a more powerful and healthier version of coffee.
Funny thing is there’s a lot of undiagnosed women too it’s just that society view men as protectors and women as helpless so we overlook them.
Good luck!
pandaholic23 5y ago
Can you explain more about ADD or Autism?
I've always thought there was something missing with my game. Girls have always liked me. I'm good looking, fit, socially savvy, applying what I've learned on TRP, but there was always something that would turn her off.
For example, I would be talking to a girl that is showing lots of IOI then i would start to lose focus or easily get bored with the subject if it's not super interesting to me which then would interrupt the flow of the conversation and cause her to become weirded out.
NabroleonBonaparte 5y ago
Sure, not having personal experience with autism I can’t give advice. One thing ADD and autism share is that caffeine doesn’t work. While normal people get jittery, we become normal. That’s how I found out I had it because I would fall asleep after drinking coffee.
Your bottom paragraph sounds exactly like my experience with ADD.
I would get so bored while picking up girls that unless the girl was ready to sleep with me immediately, I would just ditch her.
Another issue is that a lot of girls I failed with because they always got a feeling that I never cared. I did, but to an outsider it always seems like your trying to leave or you don’t care about the girl. It’s weird because sometimes it helps your game because you don’t come off as a needy, but when it comes to plates or LTRs it hurts your game because there’s a level of attention/caring you need to give the girl in order for her to stay. It’s so bad that the girl NEEDS her beta guy friend to make up for the lack of attention you give her.
It’s kind of funny because people with ADD CANT stay in a relationship. Either the girl breaks it off because she doesn’t feel loved or you end up cheating or getting a new girl so you can ignore the boredom that happens in a relationship.
Outside of girls, life with ADD feels like a constant hangover. You’re not going to work and the gym, you’re FORCING yourself to do those things. Life is a constant uphill battle where you may get stuff done but starting is the hardest part. For the longest time I hated myself because I thought I was lazy and not committed to self improvement.
I don’t want to come off as a big pharma shill but meds help. If you’re hesitant about meds drink 4 cups of coffee in one go to get the experience without a prescription. That “feeling like your true self” feeling will be enough to convince you.
Someone wrote a great post called “How to ADHD with TRP” go read that if you want more info before seeing a psychologist.
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redvelvet_oreo 5y ago
I wish i seen this before I typed out a whole response. Dude You think your being tough shit right now being angry or you think its Politicaly incorrect that the previous guy said. Your still plugged into the bullshit society is feeding you. Your frame (your reality) is everything. Some one talked shit about your mom on the fucking internet and your here fat fingering your keyboard with tough guy responses instead of just laughing it off or Agree and amplifying or just simply ignoring it. For sucks sake did you read anything???? Get a grip man you got work to do.
PS: Your mom is a retarded fucking cunt that cant even choke on a cock the right way.
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NabroleonBonaparte 5y ago
Yikes
I never claimed anyone to be anything I just stated 2 examples that made sense to my experience.
Seems like my post made you “lose frame”(I thought you mastered TRP??)
The fact that my suggestion hit a nerve not only means I’m probably right but that you may have already knew this.
If I am right seek help, it’ll improve your life 10x
Good luck
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beginner_ 5y ago
Well u pretty much showed right here why you have 0 success.
CaptainBW 5y ago
Why are you so angry?
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CaptainBW 5y ago
No, the words of other people don’t affect my emotional state. Work on your frame, first and foremost.
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No to sjw pussys it’s insulting. Normal people don’t care. Get back in the side bar and work on frame lol.
Words are just words man, and to top it off... they are just on a screen lol
mounted2czarina 5y ago
Success with women is determined wholly by one’s appearance.
RunawayGrain 5y ago
A lion is only successful hunting about 17% of the time and that's rounding up. So there are two ways to look at the solution to that. You are either always hunting, or finding ways to increase the odds that you succeed. The best answer, though, is to do both.
So how frequently are you talking to girls, or going to venues to meet girls in person? Hows the lifting going, and what are your E1RMs? Gimme some info to work with here.
VolatileEnemy 5y ago
This is the right answer.
So of course there are occasional guys you'll see here with ZERO game getting some success due to some exquisite facial features and muscular body/genetics. However, for MOST MEN you will see <30% chances, sometimes even <10% chances. Even having game is no guarantee, you need exposure (venues to meet girls).
There are some on here who also have social connections, for example, they literally have a GIRL set them up with A GIRL, which is the easiest in the world. The blind date thing is very real.
People bluff and lie about their success a lot. It must make them feel superior so they make shit up, they make themselves seem more successful.
When I'm having success, well you really have success, the pussygates open, and nothing else matters.
When I'm having failures, it will be successive failures, one after another after another, and it's like well what changed you didn't get worse, you don't look worse, nothing changed, it's just the reality of men-hunting-women.
But if I'm telling a story on ASKTRP or TRP... I am telling from the times of success. See how that works? That's why it seems like everyone is having success, because they are usually talking about the time they DID have success.
Women don't need any of this. They don't need strategy. They don't need to find guys, guys come to them. They have girlfriend networks that provide endless dates. They will take up a boyfriend and stick with him until something better comes along thereby they never look alone or single even. So this is what you have to realize, is that you were born to the non-selecting-gender.
Societies did not invent traditional arranged-marriages for nothing (which is horrible for women and so no longer a reality in the modern world). Parents force their daughters to marry for centuries. Because if they could do things on their own they wouldn't need much help. Some women out there are fine with a bunch of orbiters / guy-friends girlfriends who provide them the emotional support they desire (which is what they want out of relationships). Some women are out there hot, single, and sitting at home watching netflix. You have to understand that the world of dating is not easy specifically only for men. Not just that, even more shocking, is that there are guys who have incredible game and may even be SELLING THEIR LESSONS who are sometimes facing rejection and periods of singleness. This is what's incredible. Of course if you ask women or men in relationships, they will say "no way, that can't be true, I know plenty of idiots in relations" of course you do, but smartness/attractiveness/idiocy is not really that highly relevant, it's all circumstance. A complete beta idiot can happen to meet the right hot girl at the right time and "get lucky", yeah. A complete alpha can happen to meet the right hot girl at the wrong time and get a rejection.
It's all about timing, and that's why what is the most common recommendation you'll see on here?
Do you see advice on very complicated game-talk? Nope. Do you see talk about "well this one girl, we need to come up with a new strategy to finally convince her..." nope nope, it's just "next, find another girl."
TRP works because the strategies simply improve your chances when you do talk to girls. What's the real red pill is that your chances always start low. Worse, if you're short (<5'5"), you could be a billionaire and it's not gonna help. (although there are two short guys I know who are married, but again, their success is pretty incredible stories of getting lucky and having a deep cultural connection with the hot girl).
DiscordantMonk 5y ago
The lioness hunt. The king sits back and they bring him meat.
Thunderfin 5y ago
lol
RunawayGrain 5y ago
Except that's an urban legend. You can easily find videos of hunting lions online, similar to this one.
Give him credit, because the king of the jungle has more good sense than that.
jakethesnake5000 5y ago
I’m good looking, fit, make 100$k a year, and very charismatic. The game stuff here is icing on the cake
ChadTheWaiter100 5y ago
Did tings work out with yo wifey?
jakethesnake5000 5y ago
No, but you already know that. You also know why you have no game
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jakethesnake5000 5y ago
Do you approach every girl you see that is good looking or do you pass sometimes on them?
empatheticapathetic 5y ago
Simply by reading this forum you know the answer to this question to know it’s not the norm for the majority of dudes asking a question like OP.
jakethesnake5000 5y ago
Cool, I was trying to help op which clearly doesn’t and bitches about why he doesn’t have success. If you want to white knight, do it somewhere else.
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jakethesnake5000 5y ago
Well you started by comparing yourself to others on here so I figured you needed some help, but never mind. Anyways, do you believe everything you see on the internet and tv? I’m sure guys on here are inflating their stories and leaving out details.
The best thing you can do is only be concerned with yourself, and learn from the folks on here.
Saberinbed 5y ago
Most people bang ugly girls here anyways. I’ve seen so many guys claim they’re banging HB8s when i see them they’re a 6 at best.
Banging these average or below average chicks means nothing.
Mescalean 5y ago
People bullshitting and posturing on the internet? Naaaaaaaahhhh
Acerhand 5y ago
Pretty much every time i read any post I automatically assume the woman is some tinder slut or average to below average. Why? because most likely it is true.
dr_warlock 5y ago
This. Most men have low standards for 'really attractive'.
Mescalean 5y ago
Learned this after I saw my coworkers spouses all claiming hot as shit. Lol’ed. A lot of it is perspective. A 5 in beverly hills will be a 9 in Oklahoma
Saberinbed 5y ago
https://m.imgur.com/a/WZaA6jv
This is the honest rating when it comes to women.
If i had to be real, my average laies in the 7-7.5 range.
I can admit that i’ve only been with 2 girls in my life who have been an 8+
The rest of the girls i get fall within the 7 category, with the occasional 6 if she has a really nice body.
dr_warlock 5y ago
You can't rate women without their figure showing. Makes all the difference. Body > face. And the person who put that together are biased towards photoshoot-esque women (and white) you'd see in a mainstream magazine which are not the most attractive. The hottest women usually aren't famous.
dobbekz 5y ago
I noticed this a lot to. Some guys will be calling average or even ugly girls 10s, doesn't make any sense to me I guess that's just what extreme thirst does to them.
redvelvet_oreo 5y ago
I personally feel YMMV based on how well you can put all this shit together and internalize it and kill your old self and bring to life the new and improved self. That sounds dramatic but I realize I put together shit quicker than other people and is the same reason why I have excelled at my career quickly and seen many people left behind. Its also the reason why I have had alot of success in my social life, with women, and with my career after finding TRP.
Its constant practice of the core concepts here. Cultivating an IDGAF attitude, Building your Frame, Establishing a social circle, Learning game and than fine tuning it. Being Outcome Independent, being less emotionally invested than the opposite sex. Eventually learning amused mastery. Learning how to be a leader and say NO and do what you think is best. Establishing goals and achieving them.
You already mentioned lifting. Something everyone here just cant STFU about. Honestly I feel like working out is common sense. Training vs exercising is different and takes a more focused and dedicated person. Everyone should lift I agree but even you dont lift you should still be exercising or doing anything to stay healthy and not be a fat beta ham beast.
I think to better asses your problem you need to figure out what your doing wrong. Just because your doing "XYZ" in the right order dosent mean you get bitches. You need to practice being social and having game. You don't need to be flashing magic tricks but being able to open a girl, tease her , pass shit tests, and escalate is essentially what you need to get good at and the content here for it has been lacking here lately because for some reason game is frowned upon all the sudden.
AwkwardEmpath 5y ago
It's the internet my friend. Take everything you read with a grain of salt. I enjoy TRP but there are a lot of keyboard warriors on here.
Just keep at it man.
ChadTheWaiter100 5y ago
If you just started lifting and you’re lifting naturally don’t expect to look decent until the 18 month mark
Acerhand 5y ago
try 4 years
glenthedog 5y ago
Lol nah dude
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The__Tren__Train 5y ago
try 12 years, 8 of those on steroids
HIJKelemenoP 5y ago
Dumb.
ChadTheWaiter100 5y ago
1.5 years to reach intermediate level. This is a general number; not set in stone.This is assuming you’re starting from ground zero.
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ChadTheWaiter100 5y ago
Yes.
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ChadTheWaiter100 5y ago
I’d recommend Marty berkhans templates on reddit. It’s taken me from beta loser to alpha pussy conquistador.
oloug 5y ago
Start with Strong Lifts 5x5 or Starting Strength (Mark Rippetoe).
HIJKelemenoP 5y ago
Stronglifts 5×5.
joner888 5y ago
Depends on what you mean by "worth looking at"i would say most guys whos been lifting for 4+ years seriously and has 1RMs of 190+/130+/220Kg+(Squat/Bench Deadlift) definitely look like they lift
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Lbs or kg? Because those are pitiful numbers for lbs.
joner888 5y ago
Kg ofc
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joner888 5y ago
Yes ofc . Lbs is barbaric
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joner888 5y ago
No. Or it depends on your bodyweight . Check out a Strenght Standard chart when you reach the advanced weights for your BW you will definitely look jacked and tight
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thotimusprime70 5y ago
your giving too many fuxs
Insendi 5y ago
Most of us don’t openly talk about our failure, it’s why you only see success not the millions of failures we have. I’ll share 2 with you I got this week to prove it.
Successful hookup on tinder, the girl said she didn’t wanna meet up anymore cause her ex saw the hickies I left on her neck. I shouldn’t of responded like everyone else had suggested on my post but I responded with the comment I left on the post and that hook up won’t ever happen again
We all fall bro and some fall harder then others. By no means are we models I’m sure the majority of us are a little better then the average looking guy mainly cause we lift.
And to put more on that I’m brown 5 foot 6 and got braces. I’m not a model by any standards I’ve been told to my face I’ve got the looks for radio but fuck all that noise. Keep pushing and you’ll get successful
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Insendi 5y ago
Only one way to find out
woke_wizard 5y ago
Self improvement is something that takes years. There is no quick fix.
HIJKelemenoP 5y ago
Dude, the guys getting laid are the ones posting. Kinda like how all pornstars have big dicks and all NBA players are tall. Those are what surface, not reality.
Musicgoon 5y ago
It's a process like lifting. You don't go from tubby to ripped overnight.
My process took several years. When I started, I was shitty at it. Now it's almost no effort. It becomes who you are.
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To learn a skill, you have to practice that skill. To pick up hot women, you have to practice picking up hot women. You have to put yourself out there. Start cold approach. Keep lifting and keep working on your future.
IFuckingHateAllergy 5y ago
TRP is like social media. You only see success, not the failures behind those success.
Ricklogical 5y ago
Have you been approaching women daily?
Lots of rejection at the start. Life is not perfect math and your project should never be based on short term success of failure with women.
It takes more practice for some and less because of chance with others.
I'm in an LTR. That helps.
Before that it was mostly my mobility and my inclination to take women fun places.
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On point. Hot women don't just start popping up once you lift xyz kilos. You'll still have to put yourself out there.
inspiredshane 5y ago
This right here. I see more guys get stuck watching YouTube tutorials and reading sidebar content and circle-jerking about theory than I do actually going out and talking to women. And that often is because they’re trapped in this cycle of avoidant behavior because they’ll literally convince themselves the sky is green so they can avoid the discomfort of facing potential rejection.
And the truly tragic thing is that after enough time, not only is approaching women and flirting shamelessly NOT uncomfortable, it’s actually really, REALLY fun.
Go put yourself out there in a scary way, friends.
markinsinz7 5y ago
Are u talk in about cold approaching? cause all my approaches are going well but not building into anything real. Ofcourse it's hard to get girls to come hang out with some random alright looking guy they met at the coffee shop or whatever.
Getting opinions from various peeps around here
inspiredshane 5y ago
I am talking about approaching, directly and simply, by stating your sexual interest. Cold or warm or hot doesn’t matter. What matters is how direct you are. Because let me be clear: they will NOT be direct. (Rarely, they might be, I suppose, but it would be foolish to wait around for it, like planning for retirement by buying lottery tickets)
If your approaches aren’t building into “anything real”, then there is a cause of that. I don’t know your situation, but there is a cause. And the only way you’ll know what that cause is... is to keep trying. Eventually, you’ll see the pattern simply by looking closely, and at that point you’ll know what to do about it.
You guys CAN do this. I PROMISE you it’s not as hard as you think. These beautiful women are profoundly lonely, even with limitless free dick at their fingertips.
Toxik6 5y ago
I’m stuck there right now. Really no idea how I’m supposed to approach. I’m trying to talk to people in general more often but I still have issues
inspiredshane 5y ago
Yep. You do. I do. We all do. But go talk to them anyway. You can’t be carefree when it comes to rejection if you never desensitize yourself to it.
Toxik6 5y ago
I’m guessing you work your way up right? Just saying hi. Then small talk. Then flirt?
bluesnsouls 5y ago
Actually, just say whatever comes to mind, treat them with the confidence you have with your friends
inspiredshane 5y ago
If you’re not sure, then try using DBT at first. Specifically, use the “Interpersonal Effectiveness” skills. A lot of us could benefit from it because we swallow the pill after a brutal breakup and we therefore have latent abandonment issues and borderline tendencies (as in BPD, borderline personality disorder).
Start with the skill “GIVE FAST” which is an acronym for:
G entle I nterested V alidating E asy Manner
F air A pology free S tick to your values T ell the truth
If you follow this, it’s a start towards doing better with people while keeping your self-respect intact during rejection.
If you’re interested, check out more at ilovedbt.com
These skills aren’t purely for pickup, mind you. They’re far more foundational than that. But learning them feels like applying burn cream to a severe burn “of the soul”. That might be just what you need in order to actually get out there and approach.
Toxik6 5y ago
Hey thanks. I like the site.
inspiredshane 5y ago
Hey, thanks for saying thanks. :)
meowsero 5y ago
What do you mean the fact your in an ltr helps?
xezhaw 5y ago
Abundance.
meowsero 5y ago
True. Do you still plate other girls while in ltr. Does you ltr know about this?
Ricklogical 5y ago
No just lots of sex with the one.
xezhaw 5y ago
To plate other girls is your choice, but is better to fuck other girls rather than fucking the same pussy everyday. LTR doesn't need to know about it, you simply don't tell her. If she found out you are fucking other girls you can talk about it, if she agrees to keep fucking other girls, good, if not, next.
Ricklogical 5y ago
Better not to LTR till you've had your fill of strange.
Lies are complex and require more mental leaping.
Honesty is a part of right action.
I think the closest we get is implying to a plate that maybe we will LTR when in truth we are waiting for our fill, and hopefully acquiring higher quality plates to learn more about them and make them friends and hopefully some of then potential prospects are good enough to LTR.
Popeman79 5y ago
But have you agreed to be exclusive, or are you just on the basis of don't ask don't tell?
Ricklogical 5y ago
Well shes into women but we are busy raising children and working full time. It's kind of just lots of great sex with her.
Had lots of great sex for uh... 19 years with a few dozen women so, for me I'm good for now. Maybe some hookers for the wife and myself in the future but I mean, shes great at it and we love each other and for now that's cool.
To be 100% honest I loved being single and the few things I was missing she provides. It's a sort of a trade off but for now we are happy.
I told her early on whatever happens if we get around to falling out of love we will still be cool.
Last 2 LTRs have been like that. They were about 5 years and good but love is usually temporary, maybe this goes on 30 40 years but whatever you know? Just how it goes now is rad and as long as we both agree that's fine.
I'd be good single but shes awesome
Aarxnw 5y ago
I hate It when people in TRP have this mentality, this is not what TRP is about at all, cheating on your girlfriend isn’t cool or alpha, it’s the bitch move of someone who’s SMV isn’t high enough for them to turn women into plates.
Terminal-Psychosis 5y ago
Those are your personal morals.
Don't start getting preachy.
Ricklogical 5y ago
Yah I mean, lies are just a shit way to live if you can avoid it. Like violence and assault and theft and other shit.
Sure you can but I mean, everything that you wouldn't enjoy having done to you is kinda karmically shit to do.
But yah, 'morals' is kind of a loose terminology right?
Aarxnw 5y ago
Um I think it’s a pretty universally agreed upon thing that cheating on somebody you’re committed to is a shitty thing to do, it’s not like I’m saying spinning plates is wrong, but lying to somebody about them being the only person you’re seeing is wrong and unnecessary.
r_u_a_badfish2 5y ago
Don’t worry. Half the posters here are probably full of shit. This is Reddit after all.
TRP theory is sound. But your problem is that you’re comparing yourself with random dudes on the internet.
There are many possible reasons why you’re not seeing progress. Incorporating TRP principles into your life and relationship takes TIME. Doesn’t always work with every woman, especially if she is accustomed to a older version of you.
Take a break from the forums for a while. Focus more on reading theory. Recommended books, side bar, etc.
Keep focusing on improving yourself.
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ghosts_of_me 5y ago
They arent bullshit, you just read lots of success stories while behind them sitting in silence are thousands of guys who have nothing to post.
rpMadler 5y ago
This.
There's some heavy selection bias occurring. Very rarely does someone come here to post about how he approached 10 girls today and got rejected by all of them.
beginner_ 5y ago
Yeah. 300000 subscribers, 10 stories a week.
ghosts_of_me 5y ago
Exactly.
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zeekt12 5y ago
I feel you. I’ve made major improvements, but not nearly as much as the stories ive heard here lmao. Either people are over exaggerating their stories, bullshitting, or ive not implemented trp correctly.
But at the end of the day, as long as you’re improving and progressing toward your goal everyday that’s all that matters. Everyone goes at a different pace, dont compare yourself to others.
dtyler86 5y ago
I’ve built the shit out of my career, earn good money and I’m an all around likable guy, but no nonsense, when my weight fluctuates so does game. All that other self betterment shit falls to the wayside. I lose 15 pounds? BOOM. That’s the game changer unfortunately.
Thizzlebot 5y ago
You have to remember a lot of people lie or exaggerate. They may be saying hb8 when she looks like a 5 irl. I can get laid every single weekend if I want but I'm done lowering my standards so I get laid way less but when you look at it objectively and see how much someone smashes it seems different even if there is a massive change in quality.
LoLDamo 5y ago
You are probably missing something.
For me it was closing - everyone here talking about lifting, raising your SMV bla bla bla these are long term life goals that you will always be doing which help with woman being attracted to you as well as many other things.
But if you just want to get laid; approach - have fun - escalate - close. If you are not doing one of these things you won’t have a ton of success.
The words “let’s go back to mine” changed my life went from a girl a month to 3 on any given week.
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LoLDamo 5y ago
None taken
dtyler86 5y ago
How old are you? I was in a 5 year LTR from 21-26. I had no game going in, after being cheated on, find TRP, I emerged a goddamn cocksman. I’m in my 30s now, not at all a model, probably a 7 (though I like to believe I’m an 8). It’s a time thing too, but most importantly for me is putting yourself out there, meeting new friends, using apps like tinder, being confidant and not taking shit.
If you have 2+ plates, the third, fourth, etc. come very quickly and effortlessly. I was at a point when I was single around 28/29 that I legitimately had a note in my phone of girls ranked by availability and attraction; I couldnt keep track.
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dtyler86 5y ago
Hope my comment didn’t sound douchey, trust me I’m a pretty out of shape dude and I definitely look older than I am, if I can do it anyone can do it it’s just a persistence kind of thing.
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dtyler86 5y ago
Good don’t read my comments, keep doing what you’re doing, learn nothing and while you are at it maybe unsubscribe from this sub..
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dtyler86 5y ago
????????♂️ You sound like a sensitive person. Not saying that in a defensive insulting way, but the nature of your post sounds like you reject the notion that you are doing something incorrect and other people are succeeding on this sub. What part of what I said doesn’t sound informative But rather bragging? Are you new here? Do you know what plates are and how an abundance of them work?
its_meKnightSwolaire 5y ago
Bro you do not know what is going on inside these bitches heads. I got incredibly lucky at age 18 when I asked out a co worker. She happened to be a nympho and literally couldn’t resist
econquest 5y ago
I got two pieces of advice for you:
FIRST:
-> you have to pick up some shitty hobby nobody cares about. yoga in the park? Amazing idea. Pottery class? What better use of the time of a person who is part of civilization in 2018.
Not shitty hobby: how to set up recurrent billing on a web site and grow an organic community of customers. hard pass on that one chief, you have better things to do in your evenings than participate in the digital economy. (Such as the aforementioned pottery class.)
Okay, so you've started doing shitty hobbies that benefit nobody. Whether Mediterranean cooking, watercolors, the Bachata dance form, -- Ding, ding, ding, we got some winners here.
Okay, that was the first point of advice.
Next, and this is the crucial one: you have to talk to like 35 girls there. Don't worry, you won't make it to 35 but you seriously have to go through them like you're sorting laundry, for the one who's interested and available. That's how it works.
Then they'll just grab your arm and cling to you and you'll be like "Holy shit this was super easy. This took like 5 minutes" until you realize "...though that doesn't include the past six months of picking up shitty hobbies."
The shittier the better. Go for it man. Pick up a new hobby every month.
EDIT to clarify: I'm not being sarcastic and picked up 4 hobbies in the past 6 months but I'm bitter that it's not anything objectively interesting. If someone told me about a pottery class, yes, I'd go.
SuperCrazy07 5y ago
Getting new hobbies is a great idea for guys who don't know how to meet women...but, why don't you pick hobbies that are interesting to you? There are tons of fun things to do everywhere.
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econquest 5y ago
I added clarification. I'm a bit bitter about it because these "hobbies" are jokes and kind of suck. something actually useful, like a beginner electronics class, doesn't count: you have to pick something useless.
a great example is some foreign language like Swedish. Now if you speak English, what does learning some Swedish get you? After years there you'd speak less well than literally everyone you'd want to interact with can speak in English. But those years could be invested into something useful, like accounting or excel training.
but for now, Swedish for absolute beginners class it is.
so not sarcastic. BUt I don't have to like it.
the second piece of advice is really, really, really important. You hear how everyone here always is like "next her" and so on?
It's not because the person you're nexting doesn't kind of like you - it's just that you have to click next next next to get to the girl who's totally into you and grabs you and won't let go.
That only happens if you've clicked next enough times. If you spend just 5 extra minutes on messenger with the girls you're not banging, you're preventing yourself from getting a chance to meet the right girl for you.
This aspect of abundance mentality is so important. It's not just about the effect that it has on you (that they can see you're not overinvested). It's a protection of your time.
you have to next people left, right, and center, all day long, to get to the girl who's into you.
and of course you have to be in one place with her, which is something stupid like pottery or absolute beginners' swedish class.
you'll hear people here say "if it's not hell yes it's a no, next", and you'll realize it's true. you have to start nexting hard. but pick up a bunch of stupid hobbies, first.
TopofToronto 5y ago
One of these answers and it is probably a mix of them
People Lie On the Internet self explanatory
Facebook Self-reporting People only post photos / report the goodtimes , not just finished a 4 hour fight with the wife, Bank called and we missed another car payment so have to call my mom for a loan So guys here are only reporting the successes not the 42 times of failing.
Poor reporting of "quality". Two parts ; even before TRP I noticed my friends saying they are dating the gorgeous knock out of a woman, and we go and visit her work so he can point her out and my reaction 70% of the time was " Is she behind the Rino" ?
Second part is we I put great effort in to my work out and my dieting and at the same time was fight friends that were unknowingly trying to kibosh my efforts ( other people hate to see change in a relationship) I got a huge ego towards women so they were approaching me.
They were fat , they were chubby, they had fat asses, they made very little effort in their appearances. If I was younger I probably be fucking them all, but that huge ego made me think " I did not make all this effort for you ewww" Many were middling and could be spending half my week keeping plates spinning but I am... different.
You are probably missing the sex signals TRP got worse as it got popular, a lot more study and review and trading good information back then an less of a social club . Somethings need to be pointed out or learned from experience .
IE. The waitress taking your order, the subtle difference between her bending over showing her tits with a smile thinking you are a schlub and she can get a big tip from you and that exact same move though subtly different she thinks you are attractive and hopes you talk her up and take her home.
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Irtotallynotrobot 5y ago
Hmmm. Results were almost immediate for me. I literally wrote down my goal to get laid after I got broken up with and accomplished it within days. I know that there has been a dramatic change in my overall mindset. Maybe try focusing on that too would help.
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Irtotallynotrobot 5y ago
I didnt but I was already in good shape. Obviously these guys helped me learn more since then though. I needed help in the mindset department more than anything.
BrutalMan420 5y ago
thats why op. simple as that. it takes years to turn from a bitch to a man. personally it has not been a year yet for myself but I am seeing results. but i was already kinda redpilled in mindset but i didnt act on it (i didnt actually know TRP, only vaguely but when i decided “hey maybe i should stop being a dumb lazy sack of shit, check out TRP properly and put this shit into action” and it was very easy)
Chaddeus_Rex 5y ago
depends on where u live. live in big city? easy to approach everyday and get laid often.
live in suburbs with a lot of old people, harder
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Chaddeus_Rex 5y ago
Thats retarded. You are literally isolated from everyone, need a car to get around, have to pay large sums of money for living.
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Chaddeus_Rex 5y ago
Theres alot of people in the suburbs but they are difficult to meet because everyone drives around in cars rather than walking around, imo
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beginner_ 5y ago
Months is nothing depending where you are coming from. Mentally and body wise.
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beginner_ 5y ago
Are you really this dumb?
If you are (skinny) fat and can't even bench the empty bar, you won't be buff in months but rather years (1.5+) depending on the effort you put in and genetics.
You have been brain washed with Blue Pill shit from media and most people for >20 years (well given your comments you might well be below 20...), you won't magically rewire your brain in couple months. in fact depending where you come from and your age that will take a lot longer than the getting fit part. this easily explain the 100k job, fit / good looking, no success. You you are mental still a beta you won't get laid.
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beginner_ 5y ago
Qualifying yourself to a random dude on the internet and you're wondering why you lack success with women?
un_knownguy 5y ago
I am fat, I have a giant nose and I have fucked 10s heres how:
HINT: always target specific audience.
Going around hitting on every girl that is cute is a waste of energy(in fact hitting on any girl is a waste of time) but if you want to fuck you'll have to deal with it, I am an average looking guy and I have fucked 10 by answering myself these questions
Where and how is that I have had more success with women?
Also,
In my case this has had a 90% success rate ALWAYS make her feel insecure, a girl is obsessed with beauty because in her mind that's the biggest asset that's why cute girls are easier to get in bed because the minute you reject them or call them fat they jump on you like a Lion.
I once had a 10 reject me just because she literally said "I don't look like a that type of guy", so I started to ignore her, she started throwing tantrum and I said "if you would have let me put my penis inside you, you wouldn't be complaining so much" she got "offended" and left. Next day she comes to my house, take off her clothes and let me fuck her.
wont_tell_i_refuse_ 5y ago
Many guys probably lie. Which isn’t an indictment of TRP, just of those guys.
GucciGangBucks 5y ago
Don’t think a lot of people realize for some spinning plates takes years. Maybe you’ll get 1-2 plates this year. Then next year 1-2. Which will be 4 plates by year 3. And so on. After awhile that’s 20 plates in 10 years. Not bad at all.
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Nergaal 5y ago
You should carefully gauge your SMV. You need to be in the top 5% or 10% of your market to notice obvious changes.
mrmarkme 5y ago
Have you been approaching women? If not then that's why
wobbleelbbow 5y ago
It's like a newbie in lifting who looks at bodybuilders and says:
"Damn I have been lifting for 3 months and still don't look like arnold swarthcheneger, how do you do it guys???"
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wobbleelbbow 5y ago
problem is that you are asking for others to give it to you.
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wobbleelbbow 5y ago
You are.
SuperCrazy07 5y ago
While some of the field reports are retardedly fake, I tend to believe most to an extent. Here are the caveats:
HB8 is 90% of the time HB5.
The guy writing the report didn't tell you about the previous 23 times he fucked up an interaction with the girl, he's reporting the time he actually passed all the shit tests and got laid.
ironmanfan68 5y ago
(they arent getting laid theyre just lying to make themselves feel better)
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yeah, a lot of larpers who "make 6 figures, are 8/10 in looks, and have a social life".
hate to break it to you but guys with a life like that dont use reddit, and they definitely dont need to learn "pua" or redpill lol.
waynebradysworld 5y ago
Disagree normie
dtyler86 5y ago
Incorrect. My best friend that I saw last night that has fairly low game, combined with me, we earn nearly $400k a year. He’s short I’m tall, we’re fun and intelligent, I tend to much better than him, he makes 70% more than me and I do better with women, BUT... we both live on Reddit.