A recent post that I made on shit tests in the main sub sparked a conversation about girls who just don't know when to stop. One guy shared a story of just getting up and leaving when a chick started to get autistic. IMO there is too much focus on getting the Vag into bed at all costs. Abundance means you don't have to entertain some dumb broad who never learned how to act like a lady. In retrospect, there are times when I wish I had just bounced when a girl's shit testing became downright rude. Plenty of other girls out there who perceive me as enough of a catch to be more careful and subtle with their shit tests.
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Anyone care to share any stories about girls who crossed the line for you?
C-ingRed 5y ago
I did it once when my date got way too drunk. It was disgusting behavior on it's own, but I also had no interest in bedding a drunk girl.
I just got up and told her I wasn't interested in extending our date, nice to meet you, bye.
She was so confused and thought we were having a great time. I ignored her for a week straight before the "what did I do wrong" "why did you leave" texts turned into "I don't think there is going to be anything between us".
The nerve of this woman- I literally got up and left her mid date and told her I wasn't interested and she hamstered it into her rejecting me.
The__Tren__Train 5y ago
I REJECT YOU FOR REJECTING ME!
must protect the ego at all costs!!!
dr_warlock 5y ago
She didn't hamster it, she placed a bet. It was bait to get you to reply and be needy then she can be the 'dumper' and reframe the whole situation to save her ego.
BusterVadge 5y ago
I've done it more than once. I'll finish my drink quickly and tell her this:
"I don't want to waste anymore of our time here. I'm just not feeling a connection at all. I'm going to take off but it's been great meeting you."
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Hasn't failed me yet. No hard feelings, and 2 out of the 3 times I used it the girl I was dating said she felt the same way and appreciated me being honest.
Rosace_89 5y ago
"I'm sorry, i don't think this will work out between us, let's keep it there"
you say this anytime, get up and leave while she's just all =O
nofilmynofucky 5y ago
I've done it a couple times when they turned out to be significantly fatter than their profile pics. I have zero tolerance for people who waste my time but it's probably fair to note that I'm a bit of an asshole
Peter_B_Long 5y ago
My first Tinder date ever.
I matched with this chick and got her number. We talked on the phone twice to set up a meet and we flirted a little.
I'd invited her over for Mario Kart to which she was down with, but an hour or 2 before our meet up, she asked if we could eat somewhere and that she hadn't ate all day (it was like 3 or 4pm)
She was vegan so I asked if Chipotle was cool and she said yeah.
We met up and I noticed that she was of course not as attractive as her photos. She had big tits but she had a belly that she was covering pretty well. She did have this eye liner w/ black framed glasses thing going which I am into. I was on a dry spell for a few months and I'd just moved to a new state where I had zero prospects so in my head I decided that I'd still try to smash.
We got food but I wasn't really hungry so I just ordered a beer. We both got cups of water. We sat down and she started eating while I sipped on my beer.
She drank all her water and asked if she could have mine. I passed it to her.
A few minutes later I grabbed the cup I'd just given her and took a sip.
She gave me a very serious look, slammed the cup on the table and demanded that I go get her water.
I gave her a puzzled look and said that she could get her own water.
She slammed the cup again and demanded again to get her water.
I told her no and that she was going to have to get up and get her own water.
She angrily gets up, gets water, comes back, and moves her food tray across from me (we were sitting side by side) and begins giving me the silent treatment. Not even looking in my direction.
I laugh it off but begin to question if I want to spend any more time with this girl as I was suspecting she was probably not mentally all there.
I decide to focus on amused mastery and outcome independence.
I try to shift the frame and make it seem like we're over the whole silent treatment stint but she doesn't budge.
I try to make her laugh and she smiles a bit but still giving me the cold shoulder.
I go for trying to play rock paper scissors with her and she flips me off.
At this point I'm no longer having a good time and have lost any interest with pursuing anything sexual with this chick.
As I'm debating if I should debate the date or not, she begins balling up napkins and throwing them at my face.
I calmly grab my stuff, get up, and tell her, "I'm out".
I go to my car and immediately block her number.
To this day I still don't know wtf was wrong with her, and everybody that I tell this story to also has no idea why she acted the way she did, but to be honest, I'm really glad that I met up with her in a public place and didn't bring her over to my place as I'm assuming shit could've gone much worse.
I even gave up on Tinder because of this date but another girl I'd matched with wanted to meet up and I ended up having my first fuck on a first date and that girl became a pretty good plate so I guess that made up for it.
Keep in mind that I'd been dry for like 3 months and had no other prospects so as desperate as one would be in my situation, I still said "fuck this" and walked out.
KarmicPrism 5y ago
What a fucking trip. I woulda been out of there as soon as she started with the silent treatment shit.
Peter_B_Long 5y ago
Maybe, but at the same time I saw it as an opportunity to practice holding frame, outcome independence, amused mastery, etc.
I didn't want to just quit and then tell myself that I just couldn't handle it.
KarmicPrism 5y ago
You're right, I would have just been like, abort mission. Beautiful handling of that issue nonetheless ????
dutch602 5y ago
It depends. If they're not an asshole yet we just don't vibe, then I finish my drink sooner rather than later, get up and let them know that that I need to end the date early and that it was cool meeting them. If they inquire why, then I simply say that I wasn't feeling it. That's it, nothing else, walk away.
However, if they're being outright unpleasant—especially during the first meet—then I get up and walk away with no explanation. And if they text, then I don't respond. I next them all the way. Nothing is more demeaning and has the potential to have someone reevaluate their behavior than ghosting them.
And here's where a very important aspect of all this comes to mind—avoid, if at all possible, to offer getting the first round, if you're meeting at a bar. Refine some strategy to facilitate this into your first meet until you get a chance to know them. Maybe show up sooner than stated and already have your drink in hand when you meet. If they seem cool, then offer to get the second round to keep things going and show your appreciation for both of your time. If they're not, then you just saved face, money and SMV that would have all gone to waste, once they dismissed you as a thirsty, needy orbiter.
Something happened to me once before I had been introduced to trp literature & philosophy. I met up with this person who at no point offered to cover for her tab (or part of it) during our date—she just let me pay for it all. We went back to my place to listen to records (shared interest) and have a night cap, and she stated how she liked taking things slow, so I didn't hump her leg trying to convince her otherwise. Plus, I was spinning other prospects at the time, so abundance mentality made my lack of neediness easy to imply.
I noticed that a couple of times during the date she would exhibit this abrasive sense of humor towards me, where in retrospect could have been interpreted as shit tests. I went along with it at first by not calling her out; but then she continued pulling the same thing via text a few days later, where I finally cut things off abruptly, but not before I let her know how I felt about her behavior in a direct, callous way. I apparently caught her off-guard, because she proceeded backpedaling about the things she had said—and I didn't respond again. The last text I received by her was, "that hurt". I ran into her several months later at a show the both of us were at with separate dates, and the look on her face was said it all—crushed and defeated.
ValorElite 5y ago
Can you provide more color on this? I think it's a fine line between her being just a bitch with a bad attitude and just slightly teasing/ giving you shit.
Do you remember any things she said and how she said them?
319Skew 5y ago
I was seeing this plate and things were progressing to a more FWB ordeal. She enjoyed the sex and was decent in person outside the bedroom. She wanted me to move in with her (No) and was OK with me being a single dad. She would make a fuss complaining that I don't spend enough time with her.
I told her ONCE that if she's ever going to put herself between me and my child, I'd be over. Well one day, I went over to her place to fuck. We fucked and were hungry so we went out for a bite to eat. She was telling me about how happy she was and how I'm amazing blah blah blah.
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Well, on the ride home she tells me that I should spend the night. Nope. I'm going to be with my son and I'm not going to leave from her place to get my son. My routine was to go home, shower, light work out and then go pick up my son. Not going to change that. She made some off handed comment about how I should make more time for her (inferring that I should make less time for my son) because she can find some other guy and how she's doing me a favor since she wouldn't normally go for single dads.
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I stop the car and tell her to get out. It's a nice night and she can walk home. It wasn't that far and her neighborhood isn't bad.
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She thought I was joking. I looked her in the eye and said "Now." When she got off I drove off. Within a few minutes I got a string of angry texts. The next morning. I got a string of threats. By the afternoon, it was a few teary messages and apologies about how she was just missing me blah blah blah.
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I deleted all traces of her from my life. Except the nudes. Those I have on a flash drive somewhere. But yea...if any woman throws herself between me and my son there's only one outcome.
Nov51605 5y ago
this !
UncleChido 5y ago
I like that. It shows you’ve got character.
However, next time, ensure you drop her home not on the curb. Crazy angry bitches can lay unfounded allegations on you.
DownyGall 5y ago
One time I Irish-exited from a party because I was really into Mad Men and wanted to pull a Don Draper and just bounce randomly.
Edit: It was like one of those underground college music shows and I went with the broad. She went to the bathroom and I just left lol.
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I haven't but i should have, the mentality of any hole is a goal has set me back for way too long
omega_dawg93 5y ago
met a girl at TGIF yrs ago... she was holding a bible when she exited her car. for the next 30 min, everything she said was in-relation to the bible; every question i asked, she flipped to a page in the bible to help answer it.
the waitress noticed what was going on and just shook her head in disbelief; i just laughed. soon after, i got up to use the men's room, and i just walked CLEAN out and never looked back.
fuck that.
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EntropyForeverx 5y ago
Indeed the best thing to do. Just walk out and block her. Let her pay the bill preferably.
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EntropyForeverx 5y ago
No doubt haha.
Opioidus 5y ago
Did it once she was eyeballing this tall, bald guy and I just got up and left.
Two_kids_in_a_coat 5y ago
She was fat. Like hugely fat. None of her pictures were in the last 5 years. Then she had an attitude when I called her out.
UnluckyPenguin 5y ago
I screened them first in a social setting by way of mutual friends. But I would imagine leaving in the middle of the date is the same as leaving in the middle of a relationship, to which I would promptly decide that this isn't the direction I want be going in, and let them off easy with: "I think of you more like a sister or a friend" (and I never saw or talked to them again).
Poor girls were bold with their "You can't leave me". As it turns out, when you're a great catch, girls will do anything to keep you.
Society tends to ignore the fact that it's even possible for a women to not be a good catch. Every anniversary celebration is packed full of "he's lucky to have you!", and all I think about is how the girl only has a short time left before she hits the wall.
I've also noticed at anniversary mentions that literally the only person saying "the girl is lucky to have the guy" is the actual girl herself, because she's the only who isn't blinded by societies view of her own heterosexual relationship. It's interesting to think about.
Rollo_Mayhem3 5y ago
Yep, she started acting emo..waiter came w the appetizer, i said take it back and give me the check. I paid and walked out. 1 minutr later she came running after and jumped in the cab i just hailed. Went back to her and fucked her..never spoke to her again. TRP in action way before i knew about it.
redvelvet_oreo 5y ago
some bitches are disgutingly oblvious and annoying. One girl I took out before I even knew shit about TRP just decided to whip out and her phone and text the whole time. Probably like 3 minutes into sitting down and getting water at the table. About 10 minutes in ( I had already ordered food) I excused myself to the bathroom and basically walked towards the bathroom and did a uturn so she couldn't see me and bounced. Fuck that shit. Its one thing to have a bad date and its another for someone to be entirely disrespectful. If she thought she was getting a free meal she had another thing coming.
What I see commonly now is women being outright disrespectful and in many way just not human. Its a disgusting site really. Women are so high up on the pedestal they can get away with anything short of murder.
DaBaulz 5y ago
Absolutely. If you haven't done this then you don't have abundance.
It doesn't have to be harsh. Your chattinf. Your visiby bored of her bs. You politely anyway this was fun but I have to get going, hit the gym early tomorrow.
End of story. You should do this to girls your interested in sometimes too.