This girl is basically everything I want, but I feel like it's too much and I'm thinking of breaking things off completely.
She cooks for me randomly, buys me gifts constantly, gives BJ's on command, fucks as many times a day as I can handle, initiates sex almost every time, pays on dates, is very good looking (solid 8), nice body, big tits, nice ass, and she never causes any drama. The one major problem is that she has a kid. I know. This is a big issue for me and it's probably why I'm not taking things seriously.
She literally begs to give me BJ's to the point where I have to turn her down, and she always wants to please me in whatever way possible. Yet I find myself getting annoyed by her pleasing behavior. She's beta as fuck, basically.
It's been 2 months and she is hinting that she wants to be official, but I have another girl who's more attractive and treats me just as good waiting to meet with me. I don't want to fuck around on the girl I'm seeing though because it just doesn't feel right.
Should I just break it off with her? I feel like she loves me and I don't want to break her heart because she's an amazing person, and a part of me is telling me not to throw away a good thing. But she's acting so needy that I'm starting to lose attraction for her and maybe I should just cut it off now before she gets even more invested...
What should I do?
Lyxeka 6y ago
this girl is working hard to lock you down. the momemt she succeeds, i can almost guarantee most of the things she does will disappear.
CutLiver 6y ago
Yeah that's usually how it goes. Today she made a comment about her being my friend, or "whatever" I think she is. She definitely wants commitment.
[deleted] 6y ago
Single mom on her very very best behaviour.
Why would that be?
Wonder why the babydaddy didn't hang around if she really is such an attentive, submissive, dramafree amazing unicorn?
Pull your head out buddy, she's working you.
She doesn't love you.
This is exactly why we say not to plate single moms unless you have a rock solid frame.
By what you've written above, you don't. GTFO.
And to further bake your noodle later on..
Why does she see you as her betabux solution?
catapotium-rubrum 6y ago
Phase one, love bombing into commitment.
Phase two, withdrawal, leaving wondering what you have to do to get back to phase one. You can't get back to phase one you're now a betabux.
Solution; don't commit, have as much fun as you can while it lasts, she might give up pleasing if you're not committing, to go and find her BB prince.
[edit: comma added for clarity]
ReddJive 6y ago
this is real. don't over look this.
Docbear64 6y ago
Holy shit you just explained a mentality to one of my previous broken plates. I didn't see it at the time and she was too clingy for me ot ever commit to but this explains what she was planning to do perfectly.
catapotium-rubrum 6y ago
They don't even plan it, it's their nature.
When you really want something, don't you do everything you have to to get it? Save, sell shit, scrape every cent together. After you have the thing for a while, it's like you always had it and it loses it's shine and you don't care for it so much.
That's a woman who is about to hit the wall hard and has found her last opportunity for "true love". She'll show him how wonderful she can be, until he commits, then she gets tired and asks herself why she's the one "doing all the work" in the relationship and her man is left wondering why things changed.
When she withdraws her attention, he tries to do anything he can to please her, there is no point. She behaved that way because he wasn't locked down, the only way to get her old behaviour back is to go back to how the relationship was, if it's not too late.
That's why r/mrp exists.
Docbear64 6y ago
Wow well said , I'm not married so I don't head to MRP much but that is a great synopsis of it's purpose.
dll142 6y ago
Why do you feel so much pressure? Think about that..
CutLiver 6y ago
Well, I just got out of a relationship a few months ago, and I really want to hook up with this other girl who's hitting me up. She already told me she's DTF.
dll142 6y ago
So, then do it but don't overtly tell the first girl. They will both sense that (women have way to be intuitive about that stuff) and it will make the sex with each one hotter. Then decide which you like better or move to the next one.
KnowEvil 6y ago
Threesome?
[deleted] 6y ago
She's trying to lock down her BB - her SMV is plummeting as she approaches the wall, especially with a kid. Enjoy it while it lasts.
RandyBumgardner85 6y ago
Keep banging her. Bang other chicks. If she pushes for commitment just tell her it's not what you want at this time. Never dump your load in her babymaker. Don't get attached to the kid.
bittr_n_swt 6y ago
Reading what you said about her, I was very impressed and didn’t know what was the problem until you said she has a kid. That completely makes everything else unimportant.
Just spin her till she breaks/drops off. Do not LTR her, all this good shit will stop gradually. She knows what a man wants and you’re falling for it. Your instincts are right but don’t end it straight away. Enjoy it till it lasts.
ArticulateSavage 6y ago
Why you never date a single mom.
hawkeaglejesus 6y ago
Great, break it off with girl 1 then. What's the problem?
Retstortion 6y ago
Don’t dump her Let her leave on her own until you decide to LTR or next
CutLiver 6y ago
Dude she's not going to leave. She started a fucking blog and wrote a post about me and it was all about love and how I'm unlike any guy she's ever met before. She even used a picture she took of me where I had my shirt off and I was playing guitar (she used a filter so you can barely tell it's me, but still...) Then she told me about a trip she wants to take to Peru in 2 years and said I should start saving up lol. She's 28 by the way. I would expect this kinda thing from a 20 year old.
Docbear64 6y ago
Don't listen to him for a man who doesn't get a womans attention you being scared off by this is insane. The thing is you have options and see through the bullshit she wants to lock you down . Probably best to leave before she gets any more attached and she feels the need to get some kind of insane revenge shit out of her system ..
Retstortion 6y ago
Enjoy it Relax
[deleted] 6y ago
Nice humblebrag
PhaedrusHunt 6y ago
Of you want to leave her and you don't you're ignoring your instincts.
Listen to your instincts.
er99099 6y ago
“bait and switch”
mrHappyPotatoe 6y ago
Nope.
We want sluts but what we need are nice girls with good hearts.
Thats why girls want chads but need providers.
But shes probably luring you.
RedSkeller 6y ago
This is known as 'single mom game', it's like girl game on steroids. She's going to blow on command, fuck you like an animal and try to keep you around any way possible because deep down she knows she's trying to sell you an inferior product. She knows that her kid is baggage, you are (sounding from having a side piece) attractive and all the negative connotations associated with being a single mother (impulsiveness, varying damage to her physique, and less spontaneous/independent from her mini human std). What do you do? Enjoy it and stay single, paying special attention to birth control around mommy