I’ve known this girl for a few years due to social circle overlap. Throughout that time, she had a couple of boyfriends who were BP beta bitches. I cringe to think about how much they would romance her and kiss her feet. Total whiteknights. During that time, I had many plates which she knew about and this worked wonders for me in terms of preselection.

So a few months ago, I turn her into an FWB. This lasted for about 4 months which was fine. Good sex, treated me like a king. Then, one month ago, I upgraded her to LTR status. This is my first LTR in several years as I have mainly been focusing on spinning plates (in terms of sexual partners). Suddenly, something changed. She is now getting upset with me for not showing my emotions. For example, on Valentine’s day she wanted a soppy, heartfelt message which I failed to produce. Or in general, she wants me to be cheesy and declare my emotions, make her feel like a special princess etc. No doubt her exes were very good at this. She is getting visibly upset/pissy with me for not entertaining her fairytale fantasy. We have consistently seen each other only up to once a week since it all began 4-5 months ago and sometimes only every two weeks. However, we speak a lot on the phone which I know is ill-advised and the increased familiarity may be breeding contempt. Even so, she wishes I would message more throughout the day.

This doesn’t sound like a lot to ask for from her perspective when you consider mainstream social conventions, but obviously there is a big clash here with RP ideology. I’m very wary about entering her frame as well. Do I go radio silent and risk pushing her away completely, or succumb to her frame and message her more/show some emotion? Because I know a LTR requires a balance of RP and BP behaviours and this is something I struggle with.

Side note: I lift hard (best body she has had sex with), have a solid career and exciting hobbies. No immediate changes to be made there.

Advice?