Well, I dunno. He broke up with her, against all of our advice. (just joking). He broke up with her real soon, instead of knocking his head around, sulking, etc...I think he's headed for good things.
Further, I suspect that he and she may have gone head to head on the matter. If so, he'll remember the shit that she pulled, once he gets semi bored with her, and that will fuel his resolve.
I dont understand why this advice is pandered around here so much. Its shit advice.
If you have to tell her not to do something lile that, you already lost. She knows its wrong. She knows its disrespectful. She just wants to see if she can get away with it. If she respected you, she never wouldve even thought about it, let alone tell you about it.
If truly no girlfriend of yours would do something like that,
then break up with her. No need to tell her "my girlfriend would never blah blah blah". If you have a line set in your mind, let her be herself! Let her show you who she really is and what she thinks of you. Because when you tell her not to do something, you're not changing her nature. You're only making her put on a mask to cover who she really is and what she can really do. Making it easier for her to play you.
I agree, her even asking is a huge red flag. But every woman will throw some type of shit test at some time, which this is. That response will let you course correct her and judge if it’s a red flag or a black flag and then you can decide from there your tolerance to red flags.
Well the weird thing is she doesn’t have a problem with me doing it.
Why would you want to sleep at his house? /s
Anyway, she only SAYS that now to get what she wants...if you were actually GOING to sleep over at some hot chicks house, and she was insecure about it, shit would change mighty fast.
You sleep at a female best friend's place? In that case you really dont have a say in whether or not she sleeps at her his place.
If you dont like something done to you, don't do it to other people. Now you have zero moral high ground to stand on because you are culpable of the very crime you're accusing trying to condemn her for. Cant have your cake and eat it too.
Get out of your feelings, chump. TRP isnt carte blanche to do whatever the fuck you wanna do because "Im a man YEAHHH". You lead by example. You cant be doing the exact same shit youre tryig to condemn your girl for. Its like all the clowns here that want their plates to be exclusive to them, while they themselves ate fucking 2-3 different girls. Then they get all up in their feelings when they find out that one of their "plates" is fucking someone else.
Cant have your cake and eat it too. You want to do so some fuckshut that you really shouldnt be doing in a relationship? Fine. Just dont complain when your girl does the exact same shit to you. Because when they ask u what happened, you will have no excuse.
Keep this simple. You are not comfortable with your girlfriend sleeping over at another guys house. You do not intend to stop her from doing this but since she thinks even considering this is OK, this relationship isn’t going to work for you and end it. Regardless if she spends the night or not, she crossed the line by even wanting to do this.
You should break up with her right now for even suggesting such a stupid thing to be honest.
I would break up with her right now, or I would go spend the night at one of my female friends/exs house and make sure she knows about it, if i wanted to start some drama.
You did well, and spectacularly well, for having been with her for so short a time.
She is a whore. If you noticed, somebody here already pointed out that 'she shouldn't even fucking be asking you that question." That's right. Women do not sleep at a dude's house unless they are in a super tragedy like lose all of their money 200 miles from home with no phone, no car, no ID, and no shoes, while pregnant with pneumonia, etc...either that, or they are planning to fuck him.
So you're saying she just wants to sleep there... for "no reason"?
Silently demote her to plate and fuck other women. That's a line that an LTR can't cross. Even her suggesting that idea speaks volumes on what's going on.
When you break up with her she will ask if it's about her sleeping over with this guy. Even if you don't say it is, she will try to argue you into accepting her having the sleepover. If that doesn't work, she will try to bargain with you. If that doesn't work her last ditch effort will be accepting not sleeping over with this guy. Be ready for that shit with something like "No, this is over. Thanks for the good times, but adios."
I just told her we shouldn’t meet anymore. Blocked her ass on whatsapp. Then she messaged me on instagram wtf I’m doing and that it’s childish breaking up because of something so small and i told her i don’t really want to discuss. Later i posted a story with a girl on my lap. That’s it
A girl wanting to sleep over any guy’s house is a dealbreaker. Come on. I know plenty of 20-something girls who use the euphemism of “friend” and “best friend” meaning FWB.
Deal with it however you want, but, realize that fucking will occur.
How will you deal with THAT? If you are for open relationships, no prob. I'm against them, so I'd just demote her to permanent plate, or ghost her, depending on how I felt.
Is he an attractive guy that girls consider fuckable? Or is he one of those twigs that girls carry around like a teacup Chihuahua when they go out that they protect from all the guys that they would fuck?
You are leaving out tons of context....it could really be either way. IF this is a hot dude\fuckable dude that she has been "friends" with secretly hoping that one day he will fuck her brains out but he has chosen to not make a move then you know the course but if it one of the twigs that braids her hair and carries her purse around on shopping trips....then don't sweat the matter.
Ehh he is okay i think some years older and they know each other for some long time. He probably wants to fuck but i don’t know. She has a body count of 3 (with me) and says she didn’t have any one night stands or something.
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lugrulo 6y ago
Honestly the respectable thing to do is break up. That type of behavior shouldn’t be tolerated.
stephcurryftw 6y ago
Seriously, any man who tolerates this kind of behavior is simply a cuck.
Daniel3gs 6y ago
True, but should i talk to her that i don’t want it or just break up?
friendandadvisor 6y ago
Dont' tell her that you 'don't want it'. Just let her know that an exclusive relationship with you doesn't allow this kind of behavior.
As somebody wrote downthread, "My gf doesn't do that."
4thAndLong 6y ago
You shouldn't have to talk to her about things like this. She should respect you enough to not even think about it.
Daniel3gs 6y ago
True i just broke up ????♂️
friendandadvisor 6y ago
I'm proud of you!
Now, stick with it, or her respect for you will plummet immeasurably. Fuck her, if you are weak, but, just realize that she is not LTR material, EVER!
HurricaneHugues 6y ago
Delete number and text thread, delete her and ALL her CLOSE friends off your social media as well. No contact for life.
Morphs_ 6y ago
Male best friend is a huge red flag, good job on saving yourself from drama.
ahackercalled4chan 6y ago
good.
don't get talked into taking her back.
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friendandadvisor 6y ago
Well, I dunno. He broke up with her, against all of our advice. (just joking). He broke up with her real soon, instead of knocking his head around, sulking, etc...I think he's headed for good things.
Further, I suspect that he and she may have gone head to head on the matter. If so, he'll remember the shit that she pulled, once he gets semi bored with her, and that will fuel his resolve.
I think.
Lyxeka 6y ago
shut the fuck up
[deleted] 6y ago
Did she just accept the break up?
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Daniel3gs 6y ago
Wrote it in another comment
lionmenden 6y ago
“My girlfriend doesn’t sleep at another guy’s house.” And then see what she does.
OMGtothemoon 6y ago
Or "I don't date girls that sleep at other guys' houses"
lionmenden 6y ago
This doesn’t engage her hamster as much. The first one she thinks “yeah I do, wait, does that mean I won’t be his girlfriend anymore?”
latinasonly 6y ago
agreed, the wording in “My girlfriend doesn’t sleep at another guy’s house.” was better
OMGtothemoon 6y ago
Agreed now that I think about it. I've had to use it when she wanted to fly across the country to visit friends in LA.
Edit - It works.
HurricaneHugues 6y ago
I dont understand why this advice is pandered around here so much. Its shit advice.
If you have to tell her not to do something lile that, you already lost. She knows its wrong. She knows its disrespectful. She just wants to see if she can get away with it. If she respected you, she never wouldve even thought about it, let alone tell you about it.
If truly no girlfriend of yours would do something like that, then break up with her. No need to tell her "my girlfriend would never blah blah blah". If you have a line set in your mind, let her be herself! Let her show you who she really is and what she thinks of you. Because when you tell her not to do something, you're not changing her nature. You're only making her put on a mask to cover who she really is and what she can really do. Making it easier for her to play you.
nexther 6y ago
This is top advice
lionmenden 6y ago
I agree, her even asking is a huge red flag. But every woman will throw some type of shit test at some time, which this is. That response will let you course correct her and judge if it’s a red flag or a black flag and then you can decide from there your tolerance to red flags.
Daniel3gs 6y ago
Well the weird thing is she doesn’t have a problem with me doing it.
friendandadvisor 6y ago
Do you have that option, or, is she just saying that so she can fuck whoever she wants, and knows that you won't be able to do a thing about it?
VasiliyZaitzev 6y ago
Why would you want to sleep at his house? /s
Anyway, she only SAYS that now to get what she wants...if you were actually GOING to sleep over at some hot chicks house, and she was insecure about it, shit would change mighty fast.
friendandadvisor 6y ago
I wish I'd said this!
Of course, I will...
Daniel3gs 6y ago
No i actually did it and she didn’t say anything
arrau98 6y ago
If there's no imminent danger of you doing it, of course she would say that
Words mean nothing when there's no actual consequence
Daniel3gs 6y ago
I already did it and she didn’t say anything
HurricaneHugues 6y ago
You sleep at a female best friend's place? In that case you really dont have a say in whether or not she sleeps at her his place.
If you dont like something done to you, don't do it to other people. Now you have zero moral high ground to stand on because you are culpable of the very crime you're accusing trying to condemn her for. Cant have your cake and eat it too.
friendandadvisor 6y ago
You are wrong. Males and Females can do things differently, because they are different machines, with different programming and different parts.
Further, you need to knock this shit off. TRP is amoral.
HurricaneHugues 6y ago
Get out of your feelings, chump. TRP isnt carte blanche to do whatever the fuck you wanna do because "Im a man YEAHHH". You lead by example. You cant be doing the exact same shit youre tryig to condemn your girl for. Its like all the clowns here that want their plates to be exclusive to them, while they themselves ate fucking 2-3 different girls. Then they get all up in their feelings when they find out that one of their "plates" is fucking someone else.
Cant have your cake and eat it too. You want to do so some fuckshut that you really shouldnt be doing in a relationship? Fine. Just dont complain when your girl does the exact same shit to you. Because when they ask u what happened, you will have no excuse.
juliusstreicher 6y ago
Whoa! You're a sensitive cunt, aren't you?
I'm curious if you have an understanding of TRP, or, if you have read any of it's teachings.
upononerp 6y ago
Keep this simple. You are not comfortable with your girlfriend sleeping over at another guys house. You do not intend to stop her from doing this but since she thinks even considering this is OK, this relationship isn’t going to work for you and end it. Regardless if she spends the night or not, she crossed the line by even wanting to do this.
GAndGMethod 6y ago
You should break up with her right now for even suggesting such a stupid thing to be honest.
I would break up with her right now, or I would go spend the night at one of my female friends/exs house and make sure she knows about it, if i wanted to start some drama.
[deleted] 6y ago
I read the title and was just waiting for this line. Hahaha. You're cucked dude.
bluefingerblue 6y ago
He’s her best friend? Is he gay?
dr_warlock 6y ago
Still doesnt matter. A non-relative male is not acceptable.
bluefingerblue 6y ago
I mean both are unacceptable but it makes a difference.
IcreateMoney 6y ago
No it doesn't...
friendandadvisor 6y ago
Yes it does. If he's het, she'll fuck him. If he's a homo, she'll try to convert him by fucking him.
effyouasshole 6y ago
Assuming there isn't some kind of good reason for her to do that, silently demote her to plate status, and game other women.
Daniel3gs 6y ago
He was gone for some longer time holidays or something
friendandadvisor 6y ago
Oh...well, she's missing his dick.
You did well, and spectacularly well, for having been with her for so short a time.
She is a whore. If you noticed, somebody here already pointed out that 'she shouldn't even fucking be asking you that question." That's right. Women do not sleep at a dude's house unless they are in a super tragedy like lose all of their money 200 miles from home with no phone, no car, no ID, and no shoes, while pregnant with pneumonia, etc...either that, or they are planning to fuck him.
effyouasshole 6y ago
Uhh... ok... so she wants to sleep at his house with him (supposedly) not there... for what reason, exactly?
Daniel3gs 6y ago
No he is there but they haven’t seen each other for longer so yeah
effyouasshole 6y ago
So you're saying she just wants to sleep there... for "no reason"?
Silently demote her to plate and fuck other women. That's a line that an LTR can't cross. Even her suggesting that idea speaks volumes on what's going on.
Daniel3gs 6y ago
She also does it with other friends also women.
jay_jay_man 6y ago
For the future, keep in mind that if your LTR sleeps with other women it's still cheating.
friendandadvisor 6y ago
If she does it with other friends that are not women, then she is fucking them. Or, planning to.
effyouasshole 6y ago
Doesn't matter.
Daniel3gs 6y ago
True I’m just going to break up.
mejuwi1 6y ago
I dont know the context but you could just plate her rather than breaking up. This way you retain abundance while finding a more classy woman for LTR
KingSlapFight 6y ago
FTFY
Red_Ninja7 6y ago
When you break up with her she will ask if it's about her sleeping over with this guy. Even if you don't say it is, she will try to argue you into accepting her having the sleepover. If that doesn't work, she will try to bargain with you. If that doesn't work her last ditch effort will be accepting not sleeping over with this guy. Be ready for that shit with something like "No, this is over. Thanks for the good times, but adios."
Let us know how it goes.
Daniel3gs 6y ago
I just told her we shouldn’t meet anymore. Blocked her ass on whatsapp. Then she messaged me on instagram wtf I’m doing and that it’s childish breaking up because of something so small and i told her i don’t really want to discuss. Later i posted a story with a girl on my lap. That’s it
-sho-ryu-ken- 6y ago
A girl wanting to sleep over any guy’s house is a dealbreaker. Come on. I know plenty of 20-something girls who use the euphemism of “friend” and “best friend” meaning FWB.
Daniel3gs 6y ago
Well she is 18 but yes.
-sho-ryu-ken- 6y ago
My point is, young girls have gotten better with their euphemisms.
CharlesChadworth 6y ago
Break up 100%..... If she is doing this now while you guys are still fresh, what's going to happen within a few years?
friendandadvisor 6y ago
Deal with it however you want, but, realize that fucking will occur.
How will you deal with THAT? If you are for open relationships, no prob. I'm against them, so I'd just demote her to permanent plate, or ghost her, depending on how I felt.
BuckNekkid18 6y ago
Break up with her.
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tradprim 6y ago
Next.
lugrulo 6y ago
“But I wouldn’t care if you spent - “
“NEXT”
rinse repeat
stylesm11 6y ago
Just go cold, you're just her favorite plate
VasiliyZaitzev 6y ago
You spelled "ex-GF" wrong.
NeedingAdvice86 6y ago
What is this dude like?
Is he an attractive guy that girls consider fuckable? Or is he one of those twigs that girls carry around like a teacup Chihuahua when they go out that they protect from all the guys that they would fuck?
You are leaving out tons of context....it could really be either way. IF this is a hot dude\fuckable dude that she has been "friends" with secretly hoping that one day he will fuck her brains out but he has chosen to not make a move then you know the course but if it one of the twigs that braids her hair and carries her purse around on shopping trips....then don't sweat the matter.
CharlesChadworth 6y ago
Doesnt matter... If it has a penis assume the worst....
Red_Ninja7 6y ago
I disagree. Either way she's a feminist who thinks she can do anything she wants. Next her ass.
alittletoosmooth 6y ago
She can do whatever she wants. And he should want to next her because of this action.
Daniel3gs 6y ago
Ehh he is okay i think some years older and they know each other for some long time. He probably wants to fuck but i don’t know. She has a body count of 3 (with me) and says she didn’t have any one night stands or something.
KingSlapFight 6y ago
Nice story. Never believe these claims. They simply aren't true. Get past caring.
friendandadvisor 6y ago
I do.
HurricaneHugues 6y ago
She definitely doesn't have a bounty count of just 3, and she definitely did have one night stands. Stop being naive.
The meme is funny, but it has truth to it. If she breathes, she's a thot.
Always assume the very worst of them all, and then let them prove you wrong
Daniel3gs 6y ago
I mean she doesn’t drink or go clubbing. But yeah i still don’t believe it but that goes for every girl.
dr_warlock 6y ago
CaveJane: Is okay if I sleep in Chad Rocks teepee tonight?
chazthundergut 6y ago
Invite your friend over for a sleepover too. I love having female friends over for sleepovers!
Also don't be a cockfaggot and talk about it or threaten her with it like some kind of game. Fucking do it.
And don't forget that her pussy doesn't belong to you dude.
The__Tren__Train 6y ago
id be fine with it, but silently demote her to a plate and start pursuing other women tbh
Daniel3gs 6y ago
Yeah i kinda don’t like the plate shit. I’m just going to break up.
The__Tren__Train 6y ago
you must do what you feel is best.
GL bro, just be very casual and nonchalant about it IMO
Fauxregaurd 6y ago
“She says it’s okay if i do “ = beta. Go ahead, “let” her spend the night with him.
FlyingSexistPig 6y ago
"You want to go spend that night at another guy's house? I'll pack your stuff, because we're done."
This isn't something to negotiate or something to be angry about. The relationship is over. Simply protect yourself.
doogleonion 6y ago
Is he gay?