Pretty much a girl I've already fucked a few times, enjoy my time with, and considering for an LTR has been giving me shit for looking at other girls when we are going out. I agreed and amplified the first time and said something like "yeah, didn't you think x girl over there had a pretty nice ass?"
Now she sends me this.
"Haha no issues at all, we are not dating. Just letting you know it kind of ruins a future for me. Idc about talking to other people only, I also care about respect, and I don't wanna be with someone who looks elsewhere, also sucks because I know I'm not the whole package if you're looking at other girls. Hurts my feelings."
How should I reply?
RedSkeller 7y ago
I'll translate: "you hurt me, commit or I'll keep guilting you"
Response: "Come over and get that daddy dick"
[deleted] 7y ago
Plates try for commitment.
This was her try.
Hold fast, don't let her dictate your sex life.
She'll stay and keep fucking you, or the plate will fall and break.
Never apologize for looking at other women. We're men, we're hardwired to check out females. Don't be an absolute douche about it though. When you're with a girl, be WITH that girl. She should suspect you're a player, not get her nose rubbed in it.
This is close to shaming. Don't stand for it.
dr_warlock 7y ago
Don't be so overt about the 'dread'. It's try hard. Good for when you're just recovering from your bluepill ways, but not the best response. Could have just ignored it and put your arm around her. Comfort through action not your words.
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Don't be so obvious about checking out other women. If you want a relationship to last, you have to at least entertain someone else's frame, i.e. not being obvious about checking other girl's out. Despite the wannabe chads here, you have to give a little, not just take 100% DGAF, or else they'll run away.
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Just text: "oh, okay".
WhiteBeamz 7y ago
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dr_warlock 7y ago
She never asked anything, just implied fault.
"Oh okay" == "I acknowledge that you feel this way"
Kinda like "I believe that you believe that".
TrenGod37 7y ago
this is the right answer
[deleted] 7y ago
If you cave emotionally you fail the test. She wants to see if you bitch out and say "oh no baby! you're the only one <3." Continue but be even more subtle. Plausible deniability is your friend.
suxxos 7y ago
Just leave her alone, she is clearly looking for a relationship. If you are not ready to commit, you'll indeed hurt her a lot. Not cool.
Anyway, all this
Some people just shouldn't try trp techniques, because they don't get how to do it effectively.
DadOnDabs 7y ago
"I like to look at pretty things."
RatMan29 7y ago
"It's just like the job market, sweetheart. I can't keep you from looking, but neither can you. If you think you can do better, you'll bail. If you're worried, do something to become more competitive. You should be happy that I'm thinking the same way. It's not personal unless you insist on making it that way."
[deleted] 7y ago
WTF are you doing you dumbass. First off, don't look at other girls when she is paying attention, you already have her, there is not need to show off like you are a player around her. Do this whenever she isn't paying attention. Secondly, there is no need to commit to anything with this girl, she literally told you that you aren't dating and she doesn't care if you are seeing other people, so she isnt making you commit to anything . She clearly has insecurities and you are exposing them by looking at other women and she takes this as a sign of disrespect. You must make her feel comfortable around you and give her validation. Even if youre intentions are to never go into a LTR with this girl, you must show her respect and treat her well when you are with her. If you do these to things, she will give you the freedom that you want and she will keep giving you pussy. I would respond with an apology, "sorry I hurt your feelings, didn't know that acting that way bothered you. I tend to be attracted to good looking women including yourself, so I can't help my eyes sometimes but I will try to stop that if it makes you uncomfortable." I would respond something like this. Hope this helps!!
QuasarAfterLife 7y ago
Never ever apology to a woman
StbRPG 7y ago
Even if you are are fault? Seems tragic.
lightsalreadydead 7y ago
Never apologize in the case of a shit test. It's a shit test precisely because you don't deserve it and it's a form of manipulation.
Different from saying sorry when you yourself do something genuinely wrong.
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StbRPG 7y ago
You got some good points but it doesn't sound you are too successful with women being that inflexible. A solid RPiller knows when to use BP attributes when needed. Being alpha all the time can make you look, or be perceived, as a threat thus make them flake.
[deleted] 7y ago
I disagree with you. If he has been RP this girl this whole time, then he is already seen as an alpha by the female. Once she knows that you are alpha showing the girl some beta qualities will lead her to be more attracted to you. You can't be alpha all the time or you will chase her away, which he is about to do if he doesn't apologize the beta way. Once she accepts the apology you can go back to being alpha and doing what the fuck you wanna do.
StbRPG 7y ago
Agree.
VasiliyZaitzev 7y ago
Well, I guess we know that /u/SpanishHeat's chick reads askTRP....
SpanishHeat 7y ago
Not gonna lie, thought the same thing for a second. As an endorsed contributor what kind of advice can you give?
VasiliyZaitzev 7y ago
Bail. Read on.
So she's insecure. You're not even dating and she's laying down "dealbreaker" type rules. Pursuing a relationship with her will be a mistake.
Translation: "I am shaming you for natural male behavior."
Well, she just downgraded herself to really insecure - "I'm not the whole package". WTF does that even mean? I like steak. But that doesn't mean I'm going to eat steak every day. I might look at some chicken on the menu, but then go back to steak. She doesn't understand how men think and that "All men look."
Translation: "I am going to continuously shame you for normal male behavior."
"Hey sorry it didn't work out. For your future benefit, you do need to understand that 'all men look.' It's what we do. Best of luck in your future affairs and we will keep your resume on file."
TonsilPoker 7y ago
Just curious: what's the idea of that last sentence, "keep your resume on file"? Is that just some sarcasm because it's a standard application rejection or meant to leave just a small opening/keep things light?
VasiliyZaitzev 7y ago
The was just a throwaway line. I was going to end with "Best of luck", but just added it on a whim, so I guess that means "keep things light"
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lightsalreadydead 7y ago
If they were committed it'd be different, and even then it's natural to find people attractive. And you better believe in this case women are doing the same thing.
omega_dawg93 7y ago
this is the best approach. a simple, "i find it interesting that you've not seen another attractive man since meeting me."
*looks dead in her eyes.
*applies the smirk smile.
*gives the "don't fucking play this shit with me stare."
*gets VERY quiet for the next 30 min or so.