1y ago TheRedPill
Girl bailed on plans twice after two dates, offered the next day to hang out the first time, didn’t on the second. So I ignored and unfollowed for two days. She started hearting my stories of me at the gym and my selfies afterward in a higher consistency.
I asked her after those two days if she wanted to hang out. She asked what are we doing etc & that her friend hit her up and asked if she could come.
At the time, I was fixated on connection shit because I got bored of pussy without attachment & wanted a different kind of feeling.
Well after that movie date she started going a bit longer between messages. Disappeared for a day and hit me up saying hey. A few more messages ensued and she was basically gone for two days until I messaged her & then I ignored her message for two days, invited out, said she’s down but busy during the day and then said dinner with the family at night and needs a reschedule without offering a time etc. Afterwards I offered tomorrow or just hang out later tonight, after two/three hours of no response just lost frame and talked about feelings.
Later after a full blown oxytocin fueled beta gut spilling for a month due to my desperation over an actual connection with someone I had chemistry with-
(I was connection starved my entire life. No bonds in my upbringing & the oxytocin messed me the fuck up)
-which I no longer care about, she said the downfall started when I unfollowed her because it seemed like I was upset she couldn’t hang out.
But that’s not congruent with the raised liking of my stories after my temporary ghost and unfollow. She also immediately responded when I asked to hang out.
So was it the unfollow or by not shutting it down when she said what are we doing & can her friend come. Did it switch out when I let that friend thing slide cuz idgaf and it just made it look like i didn’t care to enforce the sex by saying no before more investment on my end or was it the reactionary unfollow and ghost?
At the beginning the took mere minutes between responses even at work, talked through the whole day until after the movie date.
Obviously she prioritized someone else, but I just want to know if the second bail was a shit test and if I failed by the unfollow itself.
I no longer give a shit about the whole connection thing because she’s just another whore and I’m back on my sex focused RP approach especially because the neuroticism I experienced is not worth any of that shit.
But I am a bit upset now about not just getting the sex & want to see where I went wrong. I didn’t care about it in the moment though. Plus the only thing that significantly heightened her attractiveness in my mind was the mutual feeling mirroring & contrived chemistry at the beginning.
Oxytocin is garbage. Avoid any form of cuddling at all costs.
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1y ago TheRedPill
Girl bailed on plans twice after two dates, offered the next day to hang out the first time, didn’t on the second. So I ignored and unfollowed for two days. She started hearting my stories of me at the gym and my selfies afterward in a higher consistency.
I asked her after those two days if she wanted to hang out. She asked what are we doing etc & that her friend hit her up and asked if she could come.
At the time, I was fixated on connection shit because I got bored of pussy without attachment & wanted a different kind of feeling.
Well after that movie date she started going a bit longer between messages. Disappeared for a day and hit me up saying hey. A few more messages ensued and she was basically gone for two days until I messaged her & then I ignored her message for two days, invited out, said she’s down but busy during the day and then said dinner with the family at night and needs a reschedule without offering a time etc. Afterwards I offered tomorrow or just hang out later tonight, after two/three hours of no response just lost frame and talked about feelings.
Later after a full blown oxytocin fueled beta gut spilling for a month due to my desperation over an actual connection with someone I had chemistry with-
(I was connection starved my entire life. No bonds in my upbringing & the oxytocin messed me the fuck up)
-which I no longer care about, she said the downfall started when I unfollowed her because it seemed like I was upset she couldn’t hang out.
But that’s not congruent with the raised liking of my stories after my temporary ghost and unfollow. She also immediately responded when I asked to hang out.
So was it the unfollow or by not shutting it down when she said what are we doing & can her friend come. Did it switch out when I let that friend thing slide cuz idgaf and it just made it look like i didn’t care to enforce the sex by saying no before more investment on my end or was it the reactionary unfollow and ghost?
At the beginning the took mere minutes between responses even at work, talked through the whole day until after the movie date.
Obviously she prioritized someone else, but I just want to know if the second bail was a shit test and if I failed by the unfollow itself.
I no longer give a shit about the whole connection thing because she’s just another whore and I’m back on my sex focused RP approach especially because the neuroticism I experienced is not worth any of that shit.
But I am a bit upset now about not just getting the sex & want to see where I went wrong. I didn’t care about it in the moment though. Plus the only thing that significantly heightened her attractiveness in my mind was the mutual feeling mirroring & contrived chemistry at the beginning.
Oxytocin is garbage. Avoid any form of cuddling at all costs.
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2y ago TheRedPill
@MikeLitoris She's fucking someone new. It's time to move on. The second a girl breaks the usual pattern of seeing you all the time whenever she can, a new guy entered the picture.
You're too dependent on her for sex too. You don't need her sex, stop acting like it. Go find someone else.
2y ago TheRedPill
@tierra what more information do you need...? you need to meditate on where that thought to try and still make it work came from even after she tried to go on a date with a new guy. Wtf?
Have some self respect and plate her while you mess with other women. Or just get rid of her entirely. The relationship ended after she showed that she values new dick over being your loyal partner.