2y ago TheRedPill
@NewCambrianEra those are very creative ideas that still keep me in my frame-- I'll take that.
2y ago TheRedPill
@NewCambrianEra those are very creative ideas that still keep me in my frame-- I'll take that.
2y ago TheRedPill
@carnold03 thanks, I will look into the book you suggested. I have studied Corey Wayne and I know Doc Love was someone he bases his dating advice from. I'm not sure if his advice is the one that i want to build my foundation of dating practice off of though.
2y ago TheRedPill
Hello,
I’m reaching out with a bit of an issue I’m currently dealing with, with my GF of 2 months now. I’ve only been turned on to the red pill for almost a year now, and with a lot going on in my life I haven’t had all the time I would like to read the sidebar books in order to get my PHD on the red pill. I’m mainly reaching out to those who are In a LTR or married for advise on this, however I’m all ears to anyone who has some constructive criticism that they can offer.
After upgrading this plate I broke frame twice with her regarding wanting access to her phone If I gave her access to mine, (serious mate guarding I know). Ever since I’ve been working on an abundance mindset and luckily she’s agreed to stay in the relationship regardless of my inadequacies. Fast forward to today, I got a new job in sales, have been making good money, and she works down the street from my house (about 15 minutes), and lives 30 minutes away. Up until last week I was texting her every day every few hours or so, and sometimes even more frequently than that.
She has been coming over on the weekends and sleeping over, I should include here that while we are together the sex is fantastic and we bang about 3-5 times sometimes staying up late until 12am-1am when we have to work the next day. Now she’s 29, and I’m 25 if that makes a difference in your opinion (yes I know she’s hitting the wall soon), however the reason for this intro is because lately I’ve noticed last two weeks I offered her to come over on a week day, and then on Friday to sleep over and she has reneged both times saying she’s tired and if it’s okay to come on Saturday instead.
I do have to take some responsibility and say that the reason I think her attractions dropped is because I haven’t been taking her out on dates due to starting this new job, and because I’ve been texting her too much during the week. (I’m of the belief that texting should be for logistic only and I screwed that up). SInce noticing this I’ve backed off from texting and she’s tried to argue with me about this last week, and last night. Saying things like she wants a boyfriend who’s going to give her attention and talk to her more often, the first time I told her I wasn’t going to argue with her and left it at that. Last night when she messaged me again regarding this she had cancelled our plans for going out on a date on Saturday, saying she might break up with me because of this which I still haven’t replied to.
I want to apply a soft next to this situation however I’m not sure If that’s the correct approach as this might be a comfort test. I do want to keep her around, however I don’t want to lose frame and lose her attraction towards me as I actually WANT more sex than what we’re having now, which is only one day a week. I think I should also include that she states that I’m always too busy for her by going to the gym all the time, working, or posting on social media and not checking in on her.
I also don’t want to directly ask her for more sex as I think that would be unattractive as hell.
Consider investing in a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, also known as the late Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's mirrored on several sites and a podcast. While his media is a bit pricey, it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from, but I would also suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. If you've already found you'd like to read his book, save yourself a search and give this scribed link a gander.
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@NewCambrianEra thanks man, I'm honestly trying to have that conversation with her however what would you do about her trying to text you all the god damn time? I've already told her I'm not doing that.
I don't hate women either, i'm only in here to learn how to deal with relationships better, she's honestly someone i'm learning with through trial and error along with the other women i've dated this year since being turned on to TRP. I've always wanted to be a high value man, looking good and earning 6 figures. However i never knew those guys could still be compete push overs when it comes to women
2y ago TheRedPill
Hello,
I’m reaching out with a bit of an issue I’m currently dealing with, with my GF of 2 months now. I’ve only been turned on to the red pill for almost a year now, and with a lot going on in my life I haven’t had all the time I would like to read the sidebar books in order to get my PHD on the red pill. I’m mainly reaching out to those who are In a LTR or married for advise on this, however I’m all ears to anyone who has some constructive criticism that they can offer.
After upgrading this plate I broke frame twice with her regarding wanting access to her phone If I gave her access to mine, (serious mate guarding I know). Ever since I’ve been working on an abundance mindset and luckily she’s agreed to stay in the relationship regardless of my inadequacies. Fast forward to today, I got a new job in sales, have been making good money, and she works down the street from my house (about 15 minutes), and lives 30 minutes away. Up until last week I was texting her every day every few hours or so, and sometimes even more frequently than that.
She has been coming over on the weekends and sleeping over, I should include here that while we are together the sex is fantastic and we bang about 3-5 times sometimes staying up late until 12am-1am when we have to work the next day. Now she’s 29, and I’m 25 if that makes a difference in your opinion (yes I know she’s hitting the wall soon), however the reason for this intro is because lately I’ve noticed last two weeks I offered her to come over on a week day, and then on Friday to sleep over and she has reneged both times saying she’s tired and if it’s okay to come on Saturday instead.
I do have to take some responsibility and say that the reason I think her attractions dropped is because I haven’t been taking her out on dates due to starting this new job, and because I’ve been texting her too much during the week. (I’m of the belief that texting should be for logistic only and I screwed that up). SInce noticing this I’ve backed off from texting and she’s tried to argue with me about this last week, and last night. Saying things like she wants a boyfriend who’s going to give her attention and talk to her more often, the first time I told her I wasn’t going to argue with her and left it at that. Last night when she messaged me again regarding this she had cancelled our plans for going out on a date on Saturday, saying she might break up with me because of this which I still haven’t replied to.
I want to apply a soft next to this situation however I’m not sure If that’s the correct approach as this might be a comfort test. I do want to keep her around, however I don’t want to lose frame and lose her attraction towards me as I actually WANT more sex than what we’re having now, which is only one day a week. I think I should also include that she states that I’m always too busy for her by going to the gym all the time, working, or posting on social media and not checking in on her.
I also don’t want to directly ask her for more sex as I think that would be unattractive as hell.
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