2y ago TheRedPill
ive been dating gf for 6 years now. recently found out she started texting random guy she met and she agreed to go out on a date. found out she wants to date other people after a conversation with her. she even asked me about an open relationship. i told her she can do what she wants but to expect me to do what i need to do in order to not get fucked over by her. she now backtracks and tells me she doesn't want to do it because she doesn't want to lose me. i feel this is manipulation in order for me to stay.
she's submissive and i considered her wife material for the most part, but this has changed things. tbh i've been slipping towards betaness slowly after some time. i fucked up and showed jealousy after this incident and i understand the implications. to be fair throughout the relationship ive been distant and maybe applied too much dread but this might be due to us living 2 hours apart at the beginning so the relationship hasnt been good.
now things feel like they are moving towards the better since she lives closer to me and she has told me this but the random dude situation has changed things for me. her side regarding texting the dude has been that she's an insecure girl and never has men showing her interest, this is true, she's got some intense self esteem issues.
let me know what you guys think regarding the situation. i want to give this a real try to make things work but i def have oneitis so im biased. i dont want to waste more years only for her to end up cheating on me. some advice would be appreciated. this is the first time this happens in the 6 years we've been together so she has mostly been loyal.
While six years is a long time to keep a girlfriend, if she was indeed "wife material", you'd have followed-through in making her your wife years ago. I'm going to have to agree with @Zavss on his comment here and echo the suggestion. While six years is a long stint, she blew it with you. If you keep her through this, she will know you're weak and spineless like a jellyfish.
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@Zavss let me rephrase, this is the first time she's shown disloyalty. i guess you're still right. give them an inch, they'll take the whole mile.
2y ago TheRedPill
ive been dating gf for 6 years now. recently found out she started texting random guy she met and she agreed to go out on a date. found out she wants to date other people after a conversation with her. she even asked me about an open relationship. i told her she can do what she wants but to expect me to do what i need to do in order to not get fucked over by her. she now backtracks and tells me she doesn't want to do it because she doesn't want to lose me. i feel this is manipulation in order for me to stay.
she's submissive and i considered her wife material for the most part, but this has changed things. tbh i've been slipping towards betaness slowly after some time. i fucked up and showed jealousy after this incident and i understand the implications. to be fair throughout the relationship ive been distant and maybe applied too much dread but this might be due to us living 2 hours apart at the beginning so the relationship hasnt been good.
now things feel like they are moving towards the better since she lives closer to me and she has told me this but the random dude situation has changed things for me. her side regarding texting the dude has been that she's an insecure girl and never has men showing her interest, this is true, she's got some intense self esteem issues.
let me know what you guys think regarding the situation. i want to give this a real try to make things work but i def have oneitis so im biased. i dont want to waste more years only for her to end up cheating on me. some advice would be appreciated. this is the first time this happens in the 6 years we've been together so she has mostly been loyal.
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