I’ve always been suspicious of women who make a living through their physical beauty. I see a few problems with modeling as a career. First, you don’t have to produce anything useful that requires understanding the real world, like a programmer or a nurse. Second, you focus a lot on your appearance, and that’s not healthy, since it all fades out by age 35 anyway. Women who get a lot of attention for free typically don’t know how to treat men, either. They don’t learn because they don’t have to learn.
With that in mind, here’s an article by an aging 38-year-old model that illustrates the problem: (H/T Better Bachelor)
Earlier this month I opened the door to a bouquet of flowers.
They were from yet another man who wants to date me. He’s 35, tall, dark and handsome.
[…]And this week, as the gifts roll in from admirers for Valentine’s Day — I have already received two…
[…]I am 38 and have been single for four years.
So, the first thing to point out about this is that it confirms what I was saying about pretty women. Look at the way she talks about how all these men are paying attention to her. Like it or not, her worldview is going to be conditioned by this attention she’s getting from men. She isn’t having to write code to get attention. Or set a fracture. Or do anything. She just gets it because she was born with good looks. And she doesn’t see that it is her job to 1) prepare her character for attracting a man who wants to commit, or 2) choose men who are interested in commitment. Her job is just to be pretty, and then tell everyone how much attention she’s getting from men. Men who will not commit to her. She is mistaking the attention for intent to marry. But men who pay attention to dumb, pretty women don’t intend to marry them. They just want to pump and dump them.
But she doesn’t see her failure to prepare herself for commitment and to prefer commitment-minded men as her problem. On the contrary – her singleness at 38 is the fault of men being worthless:
And I hate to break it to any other single women in their late thirties, but all the decent men in our age bracket have been taken.
[…]While I work out every day, these men look a decade older.
Beer bellies, bad manners, little respect for single women and minimal hygiene — I’ve seen it all on the apps.
Over the past four years I’ve been on almost 500 dates trying to find Mr Right.
And while I have become something of an expert on dating apps — last year I got a congratulations from Tinder for getting 25,000 likes for my profile — unfortunately, I am still looking for The One.
My theory is all the good men were snapped up when they were young. All that’s left is the dregs.
Now, she doesn’t think that she is the dregs for being 38 and being completely unsuited to marriage. She thinks that men are the dregs – because they don’t have an attractive height and appearance. That’s what she’s looking for – and that’s the only thing she’s looking for. She’s had relationships with men, but they just LIVED WITH HER. They never committed, because she wasn’t looking for a man who would commit, she was looking for a man with appearance, height, fitness and hygiene. Someone who looked as good as her. That commitment thing? That’s easy. Nothing to be concerned about. No need to assess religion and morality in a man, which is the ground of commitment, when you get so much attention by looking hawt.
Doubt me? Read her own words – this is what she values in a man:
During my 500 dates, the only guy I have seriously dated was my age and had the best hair and teeth in the world.
He even had a “proper” job and took me out for fancy dinners. Alas, he wasn’t ready to settle down — or something like that.
Apart from that, there was the guy who looked like Superman on his dating profile but turned up with a long white Santa beard. His body had gone to pot and he was wearing unwashed clothes.
Then there was the wealthy consultant who took me to his club where cocktails were thirty quid a pop. He was generous but knew the value of nothing. Plus, he continually scoffed salt and vinegar nuts on our date — the odour was revolting.
[…]Then there are the beer bellies. If a man has one, I know we’ll have nothing in common as I’m active…
And so on. Everything is about appearance. She’s looking for exactly what she is: a pretty face. And she has no idea that the willingness to commit is not related to external appearances. The important thing for her is the man’s appearance. And that’s why she has 5 billion dates and no commitment. Only a certain kind of man commits. It’s going to be related to his personal character – religion, morality, etc. – more than it’s related to what she can see with her eyes.
Luscious-Grass 4y ago
If you want to be happy for the rest of your life, never make a pretty woman your wife...
[deleted] 4y ago
My only gripe with your post (the rest is accurate) is that a man doesn't need religion.
He does need a moral framework, but religion isn't necessary for that.
No-Comfortable914 4y ago
I live in Japan, and honestly, she has a pretty boring face. that plus her skanky attire tells me I wouldn't touch that whore with your dick!
These stupid asian americans can't compete with real asian women. Too skanky, too boring, and too common.
[deleted] 4y ago
American women can't compete period.
I have a thing for Hispanic women and American Hispanics are trash compared to actual Mexican women or South American women.
I like black women. Black american women are trash compared to African women.
Edit: and when a black man like myself says "I don't date black women", we really mean "I don't date black american women". We don't hate black women, we just don't like the problems that come with the American variety. But American women are so myopic that they cannot fathom that there are women in other parts of the world.
What's the difference? Aside from the fact that American women are usually fat, it's that the western world gives them fucked up values and over-inflated egos.
[deleted] 4y ago
Almost like culture is more a distinguishing factor than race?
Chuck_Raycer 4y ago
Rich fit men in their late thirties early forties are not fucking 38 year old women. They are still chasing gold diggers in their early twenties. Also, 500 dates and she hasn't found a single guy worth dating? How many people have been on 500 dates and managed to find someone? Literally everone?
[deleted] 4y ago
Woah, slow down. I'm not "rich" - I'm upper 10% income for my area - but I'm a fit fucking 39 year old military body man.
We're still fucking them. We can *always** use extra money, pussy, and cigars.
Are we committing to them? Lol fuck no. And that's where all this "there are no good men left" shit comes from. See, there are millions of good men out there - but she can't see them because they don't pass her inane filters. Any one of them would commit to her, but she only wants that upper 10% of men, not realizing that if these men even wanted commitment it wouldn't be with an aged-out useless (from a spouse perspective) woman.
No, she wants commitment from men who purposely choose not to commit, which makes her want their commitment even more.
Her hardware is aging out and her software is fucked up.
KangarooCrapper 4y ago
but their firmware stays the same...
I-am-the-lul 4y ago
How many guys can claim to have been on 500 dates? The type of man attractive enough to potentially date 500 times is not the type of guy who will waste his time dating, he is more likely "smashin'".
MrNeurotypical 4y ago
I did a thought experiment when I was young: I imagined what it would be like to be a model. I realized how vain it would make me. This woman is vain. Now that she's ageing out of the sex market, she has to resort to attention seeking articles. A 38yr old hot guy is not going to marry her. He's going to fuck her and add a notch to his bedpost. She made her bed, now she can lie in it. Of course all the good men are taken. Of course all her relationships failed. Of course she won't reproduce. Natural selection will extinct these modern women. Until then, we get to hear their nagging.
winteryknight Endorsed 4y ago
What I found weird is that she thinks that the problem is with men. No man would MARRY a woman with that kind of attitude about herself. Men should only commit to women who think that men who commit are superior to men who don't commit.
[deleted] 4y ago
Accountability isn't something they experience until their looks are all gone.
Their whole lives, their looks have shielded them from accountability for their decisions.
"Oops I forgot to put gas in my car!" A man will come save you.
"Oops I'm short on rent!" A man will pay it.
Every problem caused by their choices is remedied by an army of men willing to do it for a chance to fuck. That ends when she's no longer fuckable. Right now, she's at the age where commitment is out the window, but she's still fuckable so she will continue to live a life without consequences.
MrNeurotypical 4y ago
Yeah you wouldn't believe how far they'll take it. I tried talking to women in their 50s and it's the same old BS.
MastermindX 4y ago
It's not the man's job to look beautiful.
Also she wants to marry a 40 years old guy who is fit and good looking. Okay, that's possible. But what will happen when he's 60 or 70 and his looks deteriorate? Or what if he gets sick and can't exercise anymore? Beauty is fading, if your relationship is based on just his looks, it cannot endure.
winteryknight Endorsed 4y ago
To me it seems like they see men as another accessory, like a handbag. They aren't looking at a man and thinking, "I really like the way he makes plans and makes good decisions and achieves results" or "I want to be part of his life and support him in what he's trying to do". Those concepts were natural to women 100 years ago. Now they are nowhere.
[deleted] 4y ago
Well 100 years ago, men were directly necessary for a woman's survival. They had to figure it out if they wanted a husband. Now, thanks to the government, men support them regardless of if they're married or not.