18 days of straight lifting after 2 elbow surgeries. Was 180 pounds at 6 foot 2 and now sitting at 188 morning weight. Muscle memory kicking in and I'm looking a bit bigger. Plan to hit 194 pound morning weight on Dec 10 with a 105 3x8 overhead Press which would get me feeling better about myself as I'm reaching strength levels pre-surgery. Working out is a bit tricky since I have some permanent nerve damage but I do my best to work around it because lifting is so important.

I think my SMV has risen maybe 0.5 just by 18 days of lifting with help of muscle memory. Should be up 1.5 by Dec 10 as I'll fill out more. Socially at work It's hard to notice any difference in how I am treated but that should change as I hit 194 morning weight. Funny to think how my co-workers treated me differently pre-surgery and then when I came back I was treated like shit. Lifting is important.

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Good: Lifting everyday fucked HB7 last weekend, its amazing to see everything ive been reading about play out irl. My frame was unreal with girl almost finished with Rational Male, got my buddy to buy it too

Bad: fapping again bombed two tests in school got sick and look too lean/ losing strength in gym checking exes social media

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I finally got a job that will pay me more than I have ever made (which, frankly, isn't much) and has opportunity for advancement. I have felt for a long time that until I make more money, everything else I'm doing is secondary. When you've been poor for awhile you start to internalize it and I've needed a win, which I finally have. It means I'll be moving and separated from my family for a time, but things aren't progressing for me in my current place.

I lost 15 pounds in the past month but now I am starting to eat junk too much, and since my gym membership has ended I have had a lot of trouble being active and working out. I know I'll enroll in a new cheap gym when I move, and dedicate myself to a scheduled diet when I am fully on my own for a short period of time. The thing about having a family is that they can seriously mess with your gains because you lack time and flexibility. I also feel more confident when I'm not around my family, so hopefully the near future will be rewarding as I can attempt a semi-monk mode.

I am about a week and a half into NoFap. I've tried once or twice before, but always relapsed. This time, however, I've been sticking to it. I started the 5x5 program. I've heard it works, though if there's a better method to gaining muscle, I will gladly do it. On another note, I count my calories using MyFitnessPlanner, and I've lost 17 pounds, but I keep going over my calorie limit. It's stupid how fast all the little things I eat during the day all add up.

3x5 245lbs bench followed 1x5 225lbs. Diet still shit though.

New Experiences of the past week:

• getting confirmation for an English teaching job in China (start in Jan)

• taking a girl to the drive-in movies in the rain and having to switch on the rear wiper to see the film (Thor 3 - can recommend)

• nearly winning a writing award and instead getting the consolation prize of a $20 voucher

• having a tire disintegrate while doing 100km/hr and having to change it by a busy freeway

• bringing a laser tag set to a party which was mostly fun but also resulted in one broken leg (not mine fortunately)

• having a girl lick whipped cream off my dick (her idea)

• driving a brand new French-made car along country roads at 160km/hr

The Good:

• Wrote Blog Post
• Finished e-book
• Read half of 'The Power of Habit'
• Meditate x4 days
• No sugar
• No screen after 12am
• Did some reflective writing

Meh

• Haven't really been focused too much on game, did two approaches this week

Bad

• Watched porn once
• Bailed on a chance to practice public speaking in a professional setting

Killing it:

Fitness, gains lifting cardio

Diet is decent

Suck:

Cleanliness

Still not approaching like a puss even though I'm getting mad iois more frequently.

Good:

• Nofap - 4 days which is higher than my average
• Social - Met colleagues at bars multiple nights which is not my norm. I am normally either 1) not invited or 2) busy
• Mission - After not accomplishing many of my New years resolutions, I'm rethinking my shot gun approach to life and what I really want to accomplish. I cant have 10 hobbies and want a great career and run a business and be a tinder pro etc. This is in good time for being prepped for a solid 2018
• Continue to hit PRs at the gym and a coworker said she was "impressed"
• Bought myself 3 pairs of shoes to help improve how I dress/wardrobe

Bad:

• Skipping conditioning workouts in the morning because beer the night before etc. --> Mentally weak
• Didnt finish Rational male as I said I would --> Mentally weak
• Ate out / beer a lot means weight loss stalled/reversed

Discussion: This past week I was happy to be quite social. Literally had something every week night. This was a confidence booster because I had been feeling like I had no friends and like a bit of a loser. With this reinforcement I hope to recognize that people do like me and be free to continue my betterment without the angst of loneliness. One thing I really need to work on is follow through. I say I want to do a lot. I promise my self. And then I do not follow through. Be it NoFap, dieting or going to the gym more. This needs to stop, mostly it only hurts me and others will neither speak up to encourage me, nor give 2 fucks if I do not achieve my goals. They will simply move on to those who do succeed and forget my existence. This week I need to focus on the things that train my Discipline and Will Power (both).

Goals:

• 3 times conditioning gym
• 5 days Nofap
• Nightly Reading, finish off the two books i'm 95% of the way through
• Daily meditation
• Signup and Book DXA scan for keeping track/accountable

The Good:

1 week has passed since I took everyone’s advice and left a FTE and hit the contractor side of IT. Making more money and living the Bay Area now. Have been working out a lot since I don’t have a social network. Eating very clean and keeping consistent.

The Bad:

I spent a ton of money on moving to the Bay. I did not anticipate so much costs in moving and ran up my CC high.

Fapped, lost all my hometown plates, and going out solo fucking sucks.

Haven’t hit the night life because I’m not used to hitting it up alone. Any advice on this would be GREATLY appreciated.

Improvements.

Started going to bed super early. Waking up and resisting the temptation to start the day with a wank.

Started doing 20 pushups in the morning at the beginning of the week and I've worked my way up to 25. Ten years ago I could crank out 50 in less than a minute. My goal is to get there again.

Took steps to start budgeting and prepping meals in the morning since I have that extra time. this way I have more control over what I eat and I'm not eating fast food. Saving money.

Stopped wasting money on the tollway just to save 5 minutes in the morning. Saving money.

Stopped drinking soft drinks. Had one today. Gotta do better next week. Only drinking water and milk now. Water is free. Saving more money.

Resumed searching for better jobs. Mine isn't terrible but I don't want to miss a potential opportunity. Tonight instead of going to the bar I'll be working on my resume.

Goals for next week and this weekend.

Zero soda. Clean out garage. Finish that coffee table I started building two months ago. Get to 35 push ups at a time. Plan meals according to the macros I need to drop these few lbs of body fat. Apply for at least three jobs that are a significant improvement over the one I have now.

Goods:

• reflected on past relationships, made a lists of stuff I want to improve on
• started talking to more people
• made it to Regionals for music
• been lifting/swimming everyday for a week
• noticed random glances from girls
• read side bar a second time to get a good grasp of the fundamentals
• tested my learnings on a girl, got her interested within a week

Bad:

• haven’t approached anyone -easily distracted, need to improve on focus
• need improvement on approaches and overall confidence

P.S. New to TRP + Still a high school student, so there’s only so much I can do (working my way up there tho)

Being a writer doesn't help cause your constantly feeling those old emotions.though i try to get past my past it still seems to linger back to me when I'm sitting for too long.

Good

Started Nofap, Began meditating, Reading No More Mr. Nice Guy, Talked to more people- getting over talking anxiety

Bad

Irregular workout schedule, Procrastinating school work, Need to drink more water

Been on no fap for 1.5 weeks and definitely felt my confidence come back. And with the confidence I’ve made it a point to strike up a conversation with atleast one random girl everyday and have been following it. Surprisingly conversations have flowed smoothly, and it seems like they want to talk to me.

Week 0 of monk mode Total Rating 5/10 Good Boxing 2 days Lifted 3 Days Hit 1p8 Bench Put in Application for the Army, got another meeting in the next month Got IOIs from 2 girls in my gym class Bad Relapsed on nofap last night Was mildly autistic in class this week Eating too many snacks Procrastinated on homework Lacked Discipline

Steps to improve Nofap Wake up early (6am) and meditate Eat only prepared meals Do 20min of homework every night Be Quieter Hit the Gym or Box everyday.

Good Tough Mudder race went well last week. I beat my last time by almost 45 minutes. Placed 111 out of 197, and 1/6 in my age group (50-54).

Improving My cardio is still not where I want it; this was the only thing that held me back in the race. I'm going to start using the civic pool I've lived near for 30 years but never visited.

Got back on track with my self-improvement routine 3 days ago.

Started Phraks GSLP and was surprised how strong I was on the Squat. My lats are growing now. Took progress pics yesterday. Keep a workout log so I can monitor my progress in 3 months. (strength and visual).

Made some new habit cards. Going to start Meditating for 45 minutes a day now (up from 30 minutes a day). Reading Books for 1hr. Finished The Book of Pook (was amazing, had lots of amazing quotes).

Studying 5hr30m daily. This is my target everyday which I try to hit everyday. Exams in one month.

Talk to 1 stranger daily.

Haven't approached girls right now. Will start in January once exams are finished. Trying to enter a relationship right now with a really hot girl who seems really into me.

Began Writing now. Aim to write 500 words. Exploring different hobbies and interests right now so I can develop different skills and hopefully earn money from.

Still doing 30 days of discipline right now. Strugglign with managing 100 pushups/squats daily. But hope with time I can get into a better routine.

Improvement:

• Began listening to No More Mr. Nice Guy and taking notes. Only in chapter 2 so far. Very eye-opening.
• Relationship with my father went from little contact to bonding multiple days a week. I've felt more firm in myself since doing so.
• Haven't masturbated in 3 days. Controlled my urges.
• Went on a date Monday. Initiated kino but no response. I think I talked too much.
• Played baseball twice with a few friends. Now I am looking for a local batting cage.

Stagnation:

• No cold approaches. Mainly due to long work schedule, but also performance anxiety.
• Haven't finished developing my workout routine. I used this as an excuse to not workout several times.
• Had fast food 3 out of 5 weekday mornings.
• Been going to sleep way too late attempting to listen to No More Mr. Nice Guy.
• Spent too much time fucking around on r all

NoFap November off to a shakey start but I'm feeling better, more driven, and God if I don't feel sexually charged.
Working out more. Going out tonight. I have some extreme approach anxiety but we'll see how it goes.

New to TRP; however, I didn't share my experience last Friday night.

So I was planning to see a few guys friends and girl friends I haven't seen in a while at a local football game. I start talking to a few kids that I never met, and they introduce me to more people, so on and so forth. This girl that I've never heard of nor seen comes up to me and asks if I work at a camp. I say yes, and continue on the conversation.

I go off by myself to talk to a friend on my phone, and she comes up and flirts with me. Touches me, then asks her for my Snapchat. I gave it to her, she snapped me a picture, and I snapped her back, but she never respond. However, I was strong enough to not message her and leave her alone, something I have had trouble in the past with.

Good:

• Working on developing my Python skills and enhancing my Java skills

• Investments did well

• NoFap for 189 days

• Started waking up extra early to run 1/2 a mile around my neighborhood every day.

• Fitness Progress going as usual

• Started reading No More Mr. Nice Guy

• Ate healthier this past week than usual

Bad:

• Have been procrastinating school work a lot

• No approach (I go to a very small school, and I know people too well. also fear of embarrassment)

• Need to find more goals to set/things to learn

• Just took a hot shower, now I feel horrible

• I've been kind of a total douche this past week

Pros Getting enough sleep Hit PRs while on a cut Just started nofap

Cons Approach anxiety Need to improve frame control

The Good:

• Started TRT therapy 3 weeks ago. Finally starting to feel the benefits. Was slightly below average levels.

• Had to start over weights on my lifts dude to starting to heavy and now reached my previous weights feeling better & stronger

• Promotion could be on the books at work if I apply myself. Feeling more optimistic about the future of my career. Taking care of my debts thanks to some good investing and saving my money.

• Time spent on video games are a minimum, reading more at home and keeping busy with self improvement podcasts and material. looking to perhaps start another hobby for my evenings (thinking kick boxing or boxing)

• Haven't thought about suicide for weeks and also having less anxiety in general. Getting better sleep thanks to doctors recommendations

The Bad:

• My ex contacted me again i broke an replied (she might want to see me again....) Having trouble trying to ghost her lingering onetis.

• I'm broke (asides from my savings) because of overspending on luxuries and unhealthy drinking habits, also TRT isn't covered by my insurance so that's more money spent. But worth it.

• Going monk mode last 2 weeks since i felt approaching and worrying about woman is detrimental to working on myself, i think ill try and do approaches in between my daily activities instead of chasing pussy like I use to. Besides if i get my life sorted and health sorted they will come...

• Jerking of and porn on a long time high, could be the extra testosterone I have now.

im 17 5"7 on a good day 72.4kg b.w thismorning Monday I squat 90kg 5x5 Thursday I deadlift 90kg for 5x5 bench didn't go so well I managed a set of 5 on 72.5 but had to go drop the weight

Good:

Made tons more money from business

Socialized more outside of house

Did work early

Bad:

Didn't work out

Procrastinated on seeing doctors and later prescription

Bad sleep 3 nights

Fapped

I was smashing it at the start of this year after leaving a 2 year relationship last year that I had finally confirmed was with a cheat and lair.

I'd become fit, supremely confident, had 6 great plates chasing me rather than me having to chase them, with enough one night stands, people commenting how great I was looking and feeling. TRP principles confirmed so much it was stunning.

I've let it slip badly over the last 4 months though. Health is down, confidence followed downwards, weight is up and I'm here to make myself more accountable turning it around. I still have 4 plates (poor me) but I want to feel great again.

Goals:

1. Exercise every day
2. Lose 2kg per week to reach 76kg (currently 86kg)

I am not doing my best. I want to see what happens when I do my best. My motivation is bad, that is why I am here.

Good

.I have worked hard on my assessments for university

.I sorted out university funding after getting back into university on appeal

.I haven't had a drink or took drugs (weed, Mdma, Lsd) in 5 months

.I have restricted and streamlined my social life so it isn't controlling me (demoted many female friends)

.I deleted all my social media

Bad

.Still haven't tried cold approach

.have been watching too much TV (trying to get to less than 2 hours a day)

.Have had a 8 month hiatus from the gym

Overall week 9/10

Fitness 9/10

• Chill week, feel alright. No major injuries but still feel slight right lower back pain, despite deload.
• Been focusing more on building muscle. not just strength. Specifically working on my arms and shoulders. I believe everything else is already very good. arms and shoulders are by far the most important for aesthetics in my opinion.
• Weight situation is pretty much ideal. could MAYBE eat a little bit more (bulking) but I don't feel i need to rush anything.

Social 9/10

• Still pretty talkative but need to work on more engaging, authoritative voice.
• Also be a bit less needy when hanging out with the boys.
• Been realizing more and more how in a lot of social setting: so many girls are interested in me. like going to the gym and thinking something like 3 out of the 8 girls here have shown major IOIs. I have to improve closing though. And when I do close the number of IOIs will probably increase due to more social proof.

School 10/10

• Pretty chill week, not a lot of work to be done.
• Do think I nailed a test though.
• Also have been practicing for next weeks presentation.

Goals 8/10

• Didn't have much time to work on some projects because I spent time with family.
• Finished setting up my goals/to do board. that has been helping tremendously.

hit my calorie goals all week. Achieved workout goals Started talking to random people more, especially in elevators. Killed it at work this week

Identified how weak my game is. Was under the illusion, or delusion, that i had strong game cuz I used to pound a lotta pussy. Times have changed. Good part of this is now I know and I’ll figure out how to get better.

I’ve read the sidebar for all of October , November is my first month of action really.

Good:

-Not in denial about my health issues, saw a doctor and we are doing all the tests.

-Realizing issues with my mom& dad (NMMNG)

-Really being industrious , no more laziness.

-Lots of creative work starting to happen.

-Felt good about my midterms.

-positive self talk is actually starting to come.

-General Optimism is refreshing.

Bad:

Look like a slob, hairs a mess and clothes suck.

No girl developments but who cares really , I come first.

Missed 3 days of the gym.

Actually having health issues.

-no source of income.

All the bad , I am addressing but any tips are welcome to speed up the process.

Good

• been getting better at my new job (construction but I'm a college kid that just got out the military and I'm having fun with it).
• strengthened a friendship
• getting better grades
• called a suicide hotline. This can be seen negative but honestly I realize how useful they really are.
• stumbled upon a weekly thread (this one)!

Bad

• picked up on my alcoholism
• starting to feel like Im not attractive. This isn't usual since I do get female attention (slept with 10+ past year alone) but lately it's declined.
• gambling increased
• feel like I'm losing the ability to maintain mental health

I'm hitting a low. But shit I'm glad I ran into this post. It's really beneficial

Have had a very difficult time the last three years, bad relationships, drug abuse, a lot of risky behavior both in my career and personal life. Still working hard, but today I️ can say with certainty, I️ am the best version of myself I️ have ever been. Thanks to everyone on here, pulling myself out of being lost and depressed 3 years ago, couldn’t have happened with our some hard truths and a community of people suggesting healthy life choices.

Pros Nofap for almost 2 weeks Optimizing skincare routine Elevating my already great wardrobe Creating art for clients Fixed headphones I desperately needed Met a girl from online and cold approached

Cons Missed hours of training

After being in depression for a year, earlier this week I said enough is enough. Then I discovered TRP. Im getting back into some hobbies I neglected and Im finally going to start getting into some interests that have always been interested in pursuing. I started lifting again after a 2 year hiatus and Im beginning nofap. Its been a good week but I have a log way to go.

Good

• Gym routine more and more steady.
• Reading classics.
• Good grades (esp. for med school).
• Working on capoeira.
• Working on Japanese and improving my English.
• Finished reading sidebar.
• Cold showers

Bad

• No approach.
• Still playing CS.

Exercise wise doing fine, ran 2 miles with my dog (had to run a bit and turn back with the older / out of shape dog) that Saturday before weather took a turn for the worse, hopefully will run if weather breaks above 45 degrees this weekend, goal is to run / jog more of it, was 3/5ths the distance last time before I walked. Also doing 2 sets of 25 push ups every night, having a family competition over thanksgiving is having me focus on single sets atm. Goal for next week is to raise that to a few sets of 30.

Nutrition wise, been snacking too much on Halloween candy with about 3-4 snack size snickers or Reeses PB cups daily. Fried eggs are doing fine and salsa went well with it, also sticking it in a toasted bagel. Also went to a cooking class that covered the basics of knife techniques, mainly with vegetables and potatoes, so itching to try those out with a few dishes, wanna see if I can make home made french fries and try my stir fry cooking with thin slices of carrots and lettuce added with properly cut peppers and onions. Hovering at 226-8 now, so gotta limit or kick my sweet tooth for the processed sugar, hopefully it's muscle mass instead of fat. and will try quiches or omelettes this weekend, eggs were fine with quick prep time so that will help.

Appearance wise, tried photofeeler and first comment I got was change your hairstyle. Was thinking of going from medium -> long hair I have now that looks too close to bowl haircut (broke college student budget for 4 month visits) to a crew or ivy league cut. Tried to visit a small time barber place that had good reviews, but walked out after seeing the previous clients military haircuts with their limited cut styles. Goal for this week is to visit a more saloon place and buy a few more outfits, good news about loosing weight is that my pants fit me again but my shirts are all too loose atm and belt is not long enough anymore.

Socially, Last week's party was a blast and got to meet and chill with most people of the 20 people party. Got over social anxiety aspects and noticed IOIs from one of the few singles, would have rated her looks a 6 but was nice to chat with her and see what to expect in those interactions. Started to chat with a 8 who later called herself 'asexual', so no clue how to approach that one. Got both their numbers, so that's good and may ask the 6 to ice cream or a local bar.

Bad news is that my close friends all got wasted at the party, friend hosting it was puking in shower and fell onto his GF spraining her ankle, other friend showed off some pretty needy behavior early in party, came across as creepy to 3/4 girls he approached. Got me to switch to drinking several water bottles the rest of the night, seriously considered staying off alcohol after that encounter seeing what it made my friends into instead of the fun I had that night.

TL;DR Met my goals for social interaction, exercise, need to lay off Halloween Candy, cook some french fries, practice knife work, visit a hair saloon, and get some new non-business shirts that fit.

Forget what I said last week about a shorter post.

Kept up on working out, kept up on work, wrote a well received headline post.

Yeah, I know online dating sucks, but I've been at it for 2 weeks and seem close to getting somewhere. I halved my age on Facebook and hid it with Tinder Plus, with honest and up to date pics. I've had 20+ matches (outside of catfishing) and say 5 or 6 dialogues...still working on the first date.

It's hard to communicate no, I'm not cheating on anyone; no, I'm not looking for a ONS (more a Blackdragon FB/MLTR); and no, I won't get all stalkery/oneitis (my last LTR was spectacular, and I now have a very unfair frame of reference, to my benefit).

Good

• Gym M/W/F making progress with my 5x5 lifts.
• Dieting getting very disciplined at it.
• Finishing up Models by Mark Manson
• Continue to drop weight.
• Doing well in my courses.
• Applying for graduation for the Spring.
• Getting better sleep.

Bad

• Keep breaking NoFap.
• I really need to work on my posture.
• Need to work on approach anxiety.

I updated my POF and OKC profiles. I put up new full body photos which show that I've lost enough weight to be considered average -- or at least what passes for average these days as I still need to loose 40 or 50 pounds to reach my 12% body fat goal. I've gotten more unsolicited responses this week than I've had since I created the profiles last year.

Got a bit going on atm:

I had some comments about losing weight to quickly so now have some quantifiable measures as to not lose my muscle mass whilst losing weight Current: 16.7% bf FFM 84kg

Things I have improved on recently

Rp at work which looks likely lead to promotion

Have a few plates spinning (from tinder)

Approached police woman after receiving fine

Things that need work

Still got approach angst

Need to get plates from real life and not tinder

Obviously fitness (aiming for 11% bf)

Milkman.

Good

• Finished reading 48LP. Now I'm reading Think & Grow Rich

• Have been meditating everyday since last week (started on monday)

• Started supplementing

• 41 days in nofap and 47 days sober

• Started writing screenplays. Doing it 0.5 - 1 hour a day

• Got inspired to revisit the sidebar after reading a post and comments on the BP subreddit about trying to ban TRP

Bad

• Didn't approach anyone this week (except on monday)

• Had to send a video preview (talking about who i am, experiences, abilities, etc.) to this company but i missed the deadline and lost an internship opportunity

• Didn't plan the last three days properly and had procrastinated university stuff and personal projects

Finally starting to swallow TRP and working my way through the sidebar. Havent really done anything noteable yet, but have been trying to honestly examine myself and my goals. I couldnt figure out why Ive been a fucking beta orbiter my whole life, but now Im begining to understand.