Summary: Since always, comedians (and jesters) used humor to get away with saying what everyone thinks but no one wants to say out loud. In the same manner humor can help you get away with saying what you're really after in a way that is not going to scare her off.

"Why Did You Approach Me?"

During the approach she might ask a few innocent and sometimes even genuine questions about why you're talking to her or even what's going on. If she's never been hit on like that then you have to let her know what you're up to. But of course you can't say "I want to have sex with you."

You can always joke, for example by saying "Don't tell anyone, but I saw a really nice girl and I wanted to chat her up and see if she's cool." You can even be more direct "Of course I want to talk to you, get your number, go on a date, sleep with you, then marry and have kids. But let's not get ahead of ourselves. My name is Tom."

Most girls will accept your answers if they made them laugh or smile. It's still nothing serious, you two just met, she's not going to go as far as to demand an honest answer for her random question. And if she does - that's a turn-off for me as I don't like girls without sense of humor.

"You Probably Approach Girls All The Time..."

"How many girls are you seeing?" and "Why don't you have a girlfriend?" are the most common shit tests that you can disarm by humor. I'm wearing a lot of rings so I usually say that I have one for each wife but I still have many fingers left. The same goes for the second one - "I don't have a girlfriend, I have many girlfriends, one for each day of the week". Usually you can get away with it.

However, later in the relationship and sometimes even as early as on the first date she will want answers. Maybe she's considering you a real option and maybe she's just insecure. But you can feel that avoiding answers using humor won't do. She'll insist.

You can use humor as an excuse to be blatantly honest. "Why did you approach me?" "If I have to be honest it was your legs. Then I saw the rest and thought you might be cool." There, you've introduced some sexual tension, was honest and got away with it.

Very good but ancient canned line "Sorry, I wasn't listening. I was staring at your boobs/legs/ass." works exactly in the same manner. She'll laugh but some part of her will take it seriously - that you treat her like a sexual being. And that's what you want. Seed is planted.

Not For Sad People

There is this notion about "masculine men" being confident, stoic and always serious. I don't know where it comes from as even our beloved (and imaginary) James Bond joked, even if it was mainly for self-amusement. No one is going to think of you as a less of a man if you can make other people laugh. Just avoid self-deprecating humor and being a clown. And that's easy.

Lessons (re)learned:

Humor should be amongst your weaponry.
Do not be a clown! However, there is nothing wrong in making her laugh.
Also you can use jokes to a) pass shit-test b) be absolutely honest leaving her somewhat puzzled.
Also, have some fun with picking up girls!

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DestroyerOfMils 8y ago

Curious; is English your first language?

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LastRevision 8y ago

A good way to use humor while avoiding turning into a clown is to primarily aim to make yourself laugh. In fact, to work on your humor muscle, spend your day silently making yourself laugh in any given situation. If you don't find yourself funny, no one else will anyway.

But if you're primarily using humor to make yourself laugh, you aren't clowning for anyone else.

majorbollocks 8y ago

Humor for humor's sake makes you a clown. I find that humor works best when done in two ways:

1) A covert way of being sexual like the legs example OP used so you're being sexual but she still can say you guys were just joking (plausible deniability ftw)

2) A covert way (see the pattern here?) to show off dark triad traits ie:

You: Hi, what's your name?
Her: name
You: your name shake hands
You: Why were you watching me?
Her: What? I wasn't watching you!
You: ignore It's ok it's hard being this cute
Her: eyeroll
You: Aww, come on, you're kinda cute too.
Her: Thanks!
You: I'm still cuter than you though
Her: You're such an asshole.

This covertly communicates narcissism. Not the best example maybe but you get the idea. You can do other DT traits like psychopathy.

Doing humor without mixing in sexuality or dark triad traits will make you the entertainer in her eyes

Peter_B_Long 8y ago

After a few days of consistent meditation, I find myself smiling and laughing by myself very often. I'll be driving and just think of something funny randomly and laugh. Especially yesterday I received some artwork for a client who wanted to use one of my companies products and personalize the packaging with their design / info. They asked for a sample of our artwork for "position purposes". I sent them a low res .pdf and the next day they sent their artwork. I thought, "wow, they did their artwork so quick!". I opened their artwork and laughed my ass off because they copied the same exact design as ours but just put their logo. I thought it was so hilarious that I made a quick meme about it and wrote

"Hey can I copy your homework?" "yeah, but just change it so it's not obvious" (screenshots of our artwork next to theirs)

and sent it to a few employees who are involved in the project because I wanted to share what I thought was the funniest thing I've seen all week, and they cracked up about it too haha.

Also sometimes at my desk I'll chuckle or laugh at something I'm thinking about and people always wanna know what I'm thinking about and they want me to share my joke.

[deleted] 8y ago

Man, that is good....I've caught myself chuckling about something, noticing attention, and just blurting out what I found so funny/out of place/ironic. Doesn't always work. DGAF.

LastRevision 8y ago

It's not going to always work, but it's far more respectable than looking like you're trying to be a clown.

[deleted] 8y ago

Agreed. After a few months off, I'm back into judo, and I've talked myself into 5X5's. I'm no slacker as it is, although no spring chicken at 45. Still, random observations from a put together, strong and confident guy go over way better. With the lifting I have done, I'm surprised how much more I get away with these days.

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oldslut 8y ago

there's a fine line between humor and clown. be witty. don't be a clown

Not_Close 8y ago

'No one wants to fuck a clown'

Don't be a clown

empatheticapathetic 8y ago

Just wanted to say, "Don't be a clown"

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WISE_TURD 8y ago

Humor = non-neediness. Being serious and staying between the lines indicates that you're investing too much in the interaction, and therefore don't want to "fuck it up".

Paradoxically, staying between the lines IS fucking up. That's why RP preaches not giving a fuck. It's the foundation for pretty much all attractive behavior.

[deleted] 8y ago

It's all about being quick on your feet. You're never going remember a witty response faster than you can make one up on the spot.

Practice reading through these questions & come up with your own responses.

[deleted] 8y ago

OP, always liked your work.

Last time I was on OK Cupid, I could message younger women. Can't even see them now. Online dating is dead for me.

I actually saved your comedy post. I'm starting open mic Sat. night, as long as the dude running it keeps it together. Awesome stuff, great for leaning into shit tests.

Thanks for your contributions.

amekooky 8y ago

I stole this phrase from another poster on this subreddit, but effectively used it at a fellowship/bible study co-ed group I'm in. Cute foreign girl tells me she speaks italian and english. I reply "i'm fluent in english, spanish and body language" get alot of giggles and light punches to the arm. Sometimes its those douchey things that I have to say in my mind are actually not that bad to blurt out if they help you out a bit.

[deleted] 8y ago

Just avoid self-deprecating humor and being a clown. And that's easy.

Gonna disagree with you on this point. Self-depricating humor can be used effectively if done correctly.

I’ll tell girls my dick is 2 inches long and I'll keep making dick jokes until we actually fuck, and I'll continue even aftwerwards. Why does it work? Why do girls keep talking to me after I tell them I have a 2 inch dick? Because it's all about their perception of you. If I already established the fact that I'm funny/joke around a lot, I can tell a girl I've never met through text that I'm packing heat like a 3-year old because they'll just think "Oh, he's kidding". Even if it does plant a seed of doubt as to how big my dick may or may not be, at least she has my dick on her mind and she might be tempted to find out how big it is later.

I'm 21 and have somewhat patchy facial hair. I don't remember the context of how facial hair became a topic, but I just made jokes about it in a confident manner (i.e a self-depricating joke not told in a I-suck-self-depricating manner) to these 2 girl who kept insisting my facial hair was fine, and it totally worked [by getting them to laugh and establishing that I'm self-assured and self-aware].

How does self-deprecating humor work? It has to be apparent that it's not how you really feel. I know my facial hair is patchy, but it doesn't bother me, which is why, knowing full well I have patchy facial hair and hadn't shaved in a while, I was able to pull off that joke that went along the lines of 'my patchy facial hair is ruining my life'.

My game is being the type of guy that makes her laugh and think. I like making people laugh, sure. But I'm mostly in it for myself (like OP said). I make jokes that make people uncomfortable on purpose because I get off on that. I also get serious when I feel like it's necessary and I ask 'insightful' questions to show I'm interested in the other person and I'm paying attention. Other than that, knowing how to read body language, knowing how to escalate Kino, be a good kisser, and an intimate knowledge of female erogenous zones and I've essentially summarized my entire game.

If you want to see some examples of self-depricating humor in action, check out some old SimplePickup videos. They tend to use a healthy amount of self-depricating humor because they find it funny as well.

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tddaygame 8y ago

Self-deprecating humor makes her think deep inside "maybe it's true what he is saying" or "maybe he's insecure and is covering that with jokes".

Not always, not for everyone, not all the time. I've approached thousands of women and I can joke that "I'm really shy around women". She laughs because she knows it's not true - she's seen me acting boldly and confidently prior to that joke.

It is very hard to pull off, most guys can't do it and when giving general advice I avoid recommending things that can work only under certain circumstances.

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I can respect that. Still a great post, OP.

HS-Thompson 8y ago

This is a bad strategy overall. As you're pointing out, it can work. It's better than being overly sensitive or lost in your own head or otherwise awkward, so maybe it was a step in the right direction for you.

But in general it's way better to just be simple, direct, and not really give a fuck about anything all that much.

[deleted] 8y ago

We're taught that a legitament means of passing shit tests is agree and escalate. If she gives you shit for a physical characteristic of yours, wouldn't self-depricating humor delivered in a confident manner be considered passing the test?

Edit: Grammar

empatheticapathetic 8y ago

This is a long hamster on why you think it's good.

It's not good game bro. I used to own this shit but since TRP i realised it just doesn't do me any favours. Show that you can joke about yourself but don't actively perform self depreciating game.

Women want confidence. And the reward to effort ratio of self depreciating humour is not worth it.

[deleted] 8y ago

What, in your experience, has the best effort to reward effort in the world of dating in your experience?

Basically, I'm asking you what's the best piece of advice you can give.

empatheticapathetic 8y ago

Confidence is all a woman cares about. Bring her into your subjective reality where you are 'the shit'. That's it. I have fucked up too many prospects by trying to show how witty/funny I am and how I can own my shortcomings through self depreciation. But it's all a turn off. They'll rather hang out with someone who thinks they're a boss despite all evidence indicating the opposite.

Show you can take a joke and a jab, that you have a strong frame. That's great. Like your small dick thing. But don't instigate it yourself. Own it when she tries it on you, but don't indulge a frame where you look bad (whether it's true or blatantly false).

[deleted] 8y ago

Isnt amused mastery sort of like self deprecating humour?

Zormut 8y ago

There is a good point that if you want to make a good joke you need to make 9 bad ones. And joking that much makes you a clown. So it seems hard to me.

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tomjazzy 8y ago

Heck James Bond even used self deprecating humor

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YUUUGEBONER 8y ago

I'm almost impressed with how fucked that sentence is.

tomjazzy 8y ago

yeah was having a bad day, not my most elquint cristism

empatheticapathetic 8y ago

Thank you for your in depth review of TheRedPill.

[deleted] 8y ago

lmao your a bluepill if you think you can humor a women into fucking. its all about looks bro. you already lost if your conjuring up "game" to try to WOO her lol.