Summary: One of the first things guys unlearn while doing daygame is asking too many questions. But how do you DHV or change the topic if you're not to ask any questions? "That one simple trick..."

 

Why Not Just Ask Her?

 

When you ask a question, especially to a stranger, you demand an answer. It is seen as taking value from someone. And if you've just met you don't want to take, you want to give to be seen as a cool guy that she feels great with. Not someone who is interviewing her.

In the same manner, you don't want to brag or tell her cool things about yourself unasked. She doesn't want to be around a showoff, she wants to discover you by herself.

 

Make Her Ask

 

Make her ask. Make her curious enough to pursue that particular topic. Give her half of an answer or introduce the subject in a vague manner so she'll question you (and then of course you'll get back to her). While it might sound confusing, it's very simple.

The most straightforward example of that is when you're in a different country and you want to humblebrag about where you're from (or that you're an expat which is thousand times more attractive than a sex tourist). You need a context first. You can make an assumption about her origin and she won't be able to help herself but to ask you the same thing. And if not - that's a really bad set.

It doesn't always have to be an assumption. If you try to do avoid asking any questions at all, it will get weird. Use rich detailed question instead. Compare "Where are you from?" and "I've heard that no one in Warsaw is from Warsaw. Apparently everyone moved here from some other place. Were you born here?"

You can notice that she's training (easy if she has a gym bag) and after a short chat about her yoga classes she will ask what do you train. Especially if you're big or jacked. Even if something is not obvious and you're just wondering if she's into extreme sports it will work if you're really passionate about that topic. She'll notice that it's important and ask "how about you?" or something similar.

 

Don't Be A Perfect Stranger

 

Giving her half of the information is another form of making her ask. Continuing the example you can say "Back where I'm from it's always x, y and z". Either she will ask about the things mentioned or, more likely, she'll want to find out where the hell are you from.

It's especially useful if you have a lot of fun conversations without any rapport whatsoever and the girls are left with great impressions of a guy they know nothing about. You introduce a couple of serious topics in an indirect but flirty way. It's still fun but you're not longer a total stranger.

You use the same strategy to change the topic and to humblebrag. Say to her that she'd look cool with a guitar and you wouldn't be surprised if she's in a band. Whatever she says you can follow up with "I think everyone should play at least one instrument." What do you think she'll say next?

 

Make Her Interested

 

This simple strategy allows the girl to become curious. If she can't help but to ask then she will rationalize this as being interested in you. And that's a good start. If you add to that initial impression charm, good looks, flirting or hint of a great lifestyle then you have very high chance of attracting her. At least for now.

The first step is to make her attracted. The rest is just logistic.

 

Lessons (re)learned:

  • Don't ask too many questions, use statements (guesses, assumptions) instead.
  • Don't brag too much. Especially if she doesn't care yet.
  • When you want her to ask you about something - introduce that topic passionately or pretend that you want to know that thing about her. She will ask you back.
  • If you want to show off then change the topic first so it seems natural. Better yet - make her ask about that.