I’m in a long term LTR for a few years now, with a good woman that knows how important it is to keep me sexually satisfied.

During the course of the relationship, I’m become convinced of the effectiveness of the dynamic that, whenever there’s something that is annoying me, I take my very real anger out when we have sex.

Right now, there’s something very small that’s annoying me. I bought her a sexy outfit that she needed to try on. She forgot about it and now I can't return it if it doesn't fit.

The cost of the item is low, but she’s broke, so I tend to buy her a lot of items like this.

Back in my BP days, I was totally indoctrinated in the feminist imperative doctrine of “talking about your feelings” and would have already verbally expressed my annoyance to her about it. Now I know what a pussy, frame-yielding dynamic that yields.

So what I’ll do, and I’ve done something similar numerous times in the past, is tie her up/spank her and “discipline” her for her forgetfulness.

Although she may think of it as “discipline”, it is, in a very real way for me, discipline without the quotes. When she’s restrained, I’ll get in her face and say with real anger, “you need to always remember you’re my whore and satisfying my sexual needs is your number one priority, whore, and you need to never forget it”. This type of behavior is very unlike me in “real” life. I'm pretty laid back, though I try to be cocky/funny with her in our interactions.

Needless to say, it’s pretty hot sexually. Obviously, women’s appeal to be sexually dominated is well documented on this sub.

But, bigger picture, I think it’s a helpful dynamic to avoid verbally expressing how you might be annoyed with, or angered by, a woman’s behavior, no matter what the nature of the relationship. Better to let it appear on the outside that it doesn’t bother you and much better still to make it appear like you’ve forgotten it.

But if you’re a brooder like me, I tend to hang onto things and a great way to communicate it is in a sexual context, where it’s much hotter to express sexual possession of a woman. In the “real” world, these expressions of possession and minor/petty annoyances are invariably going to be perceived as needy, weak behaviors.