Okay, as I touched upon in a previous thread, I'm storming throgh a lot of the literature here. Involved in a toxic relationship that I'm likely going to end shortly, but wanted to do self improvement first. So, I read the rational male, and really liked it, although there was one thing missing that I assumed would be in the book: why don't we talk about the male evo psych? For example, I remember learning in evo psych that men essentially care only about fidelity and fertility (e.g attractiveness) when considering a long term mate, and only fertility for short term. This suggests, as we observe, that men will fuck any high calibre woman, or anyone that meets his standard, when the opportunity arises. If we take evo psych theory to the same level that Rollo Tomassi did, that suggests that men are at their biology's mercy when it comes to sex, and they WILL fuck what's available to them. Yet despite this, I know many men that are high SMV that have never cheated on their partner.

This leads to two questions. First, isn't it reasonable that if we break down woman's psyche to the same level of a man's, and deduce the most practical conclusion? Second, if many males are able to withstand this biological drive, shouldn't woman be able to as well? Therefore, I agree with the drive that woman have to mate with an alpha, but it's no different than a male's drive to fuck any good looking woman.

When it comes to statistics on fidelity, it seems that we get a FUCKLOAD of variability. I've seen some reports as low as like 10-15% (maybe the researcher asked them when they were in the room with their partner? But that is WAY too low). And I've seen another study, an evo psych study, that said 30-50% of marriages have had infidelity. So that's the highest range I've ever discovered, but it still suggests that a large number of marriages don't have any infidelity. Now more recent studies show that women generally cheat more than men in any one relationship, however, males tend to cheat more. This completely verifies RP and evo psych theory, which suggests it's a small number of alpha serial cheaters, and a larger number of women who fuck the alpha once or twice.

It seems that the main conclusion on TRP is to avoid LTR at all costs, as you will be cheated on, yet the statistics don't support this. Also, if we are going to completely avoid LTR with women for this reason, wouldn't it be reasonable for women to make the exact same argument towards men?

I am asking this in a serious way, and I want good answers. I'm not trolling, and I'm not trying to pick a fight, I'm legitimately curious to know what you guys think.

The thing is that I have a strong background in evo psych; I believed the essence of the RP in the past, yet it was overruled with years of feminism conditioning. I just wanted to share that A: we seem to only be getting half of evo psych here (the female side, not the male) and B: are all relationships really doomed?

Another consideration I had was that it seems that the men that are in LTR on this sub tend to cheat on their partners anyway. We know that when someone is unfaithful, they tend to be suspcious of their partner as well; do you think this might be playing a role? Also, I remember learning how narcissism is strongly associated with jealously, and since this is an 'alpha' sub, which is associated with narcissism, do you think that could explain a lot of the opinions? Keep in mind, I unfortunately am fairly narcissistic myself, so I'm not trying to start shit, I'm genuinely curious.