I'm going to try to keep this short and not drawn out. You have to be ruthless. No other way to put this. Although I would say people don't give a fuck about you, but this post isn't about just people as a whole, but women.
When I was 16 years old I found my father dead on the couch. He was battling cancer for 3 years and dies a day after Christmas. I didn't cry, because I knew it was coming but instead I got a bit angry. "Where the fuck is his wife?"
My former stepmother was a typical modern day woman. 4 kids, different men, post wall. Her and my dad dated for awhile and then he married her, while battling cancer out of pity or stupidity. I don't really know. Before my father passed, he had a good amount of money he was leaving me. One day after his chemotherapy treatment, my ex stepmother and her lawyer tried to get my out of it father to sign all the money over to her. He signed it, and she took off. Luckily my grandmother caught wind of it and had everything fixed. This crushed my father and made me hate her.
She was ruthless, uncaring and looking out for her. Most women are this way in some various ways. I also neglected to mention that my father's previous wife cheated on him and had him believing that my "brother" was his. He found out one night when they were arguing and she slipped up.
Imagine hearing that at age 8. Imagine hearing that the guy who you thought was your brother, isn't. The girl who I dated around the time of my father's death, toyed with me, manipulated me, and destroyed me(during the time.) The girl who forced me to swallow the pill, was a sneaky and manipulative being as well.
I decided enough was enough. Started seriously lifting seriously, started boxing and naturally developed an IDGAF attitude. I truly became ruthless. Pussy came easier, sleep at night became restful, and tears were no more.
The point I'm making is this: Use that anger you feel as fuel man. Use it. Get angry. But channel it. You look out for you and stop getting emotionally invested in something that bleeds once a month and doesn't die. I'm happier and I honestly feel great because I know that I have no choice but to be ruthless.
Be a bitch or a man. You choose
njohnson_nj2 8y ago
Sometimes you need to look yourself in the eye and stop being a bitch
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PranksterLad 8y ago
I don't trust anything that bleeds for five days and doesn't die.
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ex_addict_bro 8y ago
You destroyed yourself emotionally.
vapingohioan 8y ago
"This is a ruthless world and one must be ruthless to cope with it."
19RomeoQuebec 8y ago
Good post, I agree, sometimes you need to watch things die, before you become a man. Glad you were able to see through all the bullshit and instill a positive change in yourself.
Also reminds me of a guy, said this after both his parents died "I'm a man now".
turok281 8y ago
A virtual fist bump to you OP. Managing to channel anger and rage is like the phoenix rising from its ashes. So many men fail to do so. Hardship either makes or breaks the man. I am glad you are in a better place right now.
mmachine1 8y ago
im in a similar situation with you. My step mother is a complete bitch and even has my dad sleep in a seperate bed then her in the same damn room. She was single at age 41 which is an immediate warning sign. My dad and I recently lost our mom so that is what made him so vulnerable in the first place so she took his weakness to her advantage.
Stay strong man. Show her what is up and be so successful that it pains her to see you.
WeightsNCheatDates 8y ago
Be a bitch or a man. You choose
Harry_Fraud 8y ago
It's not enough just for you to win. Someone else has to lose
WeightsNCheatDates 8y ago
So crush all competition. Always.
vengefully_yours 8y ago
That would be their problem. I have my own shit to do, nobody is going to step back and let me win, they never have. I've always had to prove they are not as good as I am.
imploredpill 8y ago
You need to be ruthless. Months ago I showed up to my girl's house an hour late without warning. She understandably had an attitude about it, but I told her that if shes going to be like this then I'm going. I leave and minutes later she's blowing up my phone. When I return we she's all happy and we fuck like animals.
You shouldn't be an hour late to your plans, but if you are don't put up with her bullshit. You need to be ruthless in order to get the best out of your women.
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I used to concede that I was at fault. Now I see that I failed shit tests.
Marcus1138 8y ago
It's both. You were at fault - you were supposed to be there earlier, and you failed in your responsibility. And for that you do owe an explanation and apology.
But you don't grovel or make a big deal about it, you move on. If you've already explained why you were late and apologized, and you're still being heckled about it, that's the shit test. More of a negotiation, really - trying to use your failure as leverage to get more out of you.
theONE843663 8y ago
A man is never at fault because a man has his own mission/ agenda. A woman's job is to respect your agenda/ mission. If she gives out a shit test, she's failed your shit test.
Effectively, they're using pressure flip unconsciously.
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theONE843663 8y ago
It meant in the context of incessant bitch issues not an absolute statement Bruh.
Mckallidon 8y ago
That's not any woman's job. Maybe your wife's but good luck.
theONE843663 8y ago
A woman's job is to be a woman. A man's job is to make a woman his bitch! A Woman's job is to be a bitch for her man. That's it.
Marcus1138 8y ago
A women's job is not to respect your agenda, that's bullshit. What if her mission is better than yours? Sure, there are lots of girls out there who just watch Netflix all day, but the same goes for guys. And there are women who are actually accomplishing things - they don't owe you shit.
It's not their job to respect your agenda, it's your job to have a mission that's so undeniably worthwhile that people can't help but respect it. If you're an hour late for something, you automatically lose respect. Whether you're a man or a woman, or meeting a man or a woman, you have a responsibility to your commitments, and if you fail to uphold your responsibilities you'd better have a damn good mission that you were working on in order to be totally in the clear.
OneRedYear 8y ago
How can her mission be better than mine? It's not mine so its inherently not better. :)
theONE843663 8y ago
I'm sorry but I don't go for chicks more accomplished than I am.
A woman's job is to be a man's subservient plaything. And toys shouldn't be making a big deal if their masters are 1 hour late for the play session because he was too busy playing with other toys.
Marcus1138 8y ago
I think you might want to take a step back and read through the sidebar. This isn't the incels subreddit, the core of TRP is realizing that women are humans too.
For most, this means stop pedestalizing them. Blue Pill guys think that women are special or better than men, and we show them that this isn't the case.
But likewise, women aren't toys for men. (Sure, having sex is fun, but just like men women do things other than sex too.) You don't own women - part of TRP is understanding that you and her are only hooking up because you're both attracted to each other - you're her ride of the day on the cock carousel, and she's your plate of the week. When someone better comes along, that relationship will end.
theONE843663 8y ago
You can internalize what you mentioned (sidebar material)... yet still operate from the frame that you own her. Mb you should try it man! It definitely works very well with low self-esteem women. Almost too well. You can train her to be a perfect little bitch!
Perhaps you should have a shot at Dom/sub type relationships... but it requires a certain mindset so mb it's not your cup of tea good sir! For me, putting a rag on her face and blessing her with my piss turns me the fuck on!
Men and women are both humans.. just that our kind is inherently superior both physically and mentally. Children are still humans yet last I checked, parents pretty much own them till they're 18.
lala_xyyz 8y ago
Why not? That's all that they really want anyway. To be owned and fucked by a powerful alpha. Their instincts for "independence" are just a variation of that desire.
Marcus1138 8y ago
Women want to be led, not owned. They want to have a man who can give them direction and keep them safe, but they don't want to be treated like complete dirt.
Now, this doesn't mean that asshole game doesn't work. It does - treating women like shit can be great game (depending on circumstances). But try being an asshole 24/7. Show up an hour late to everything. Tell her to do everything for you. Don't let her talk or do anything other than fuck and cook. I can guarantee you that 99.9% of women will leave within a month you if you do this.
Of course, you shouldn't fawn over a woman all the time. But you need balance in a relationship, otherwise it will fail. Being a benevolent leader rather than a sadistic dictator is the best sexual strategy, which is why TRP focuses on it.
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One of the amazing things about this sub is I come across this idea a lot. I bought the idea that the Red Pill was filled with woman haters, until I started reading The Red Pill.
Marcus1138 8y ago
Totally. Unfortunately, you will still find woman haters (either men in the anger phase after a bad relationship or realizing that society lied to them, or insecure/incel types who like the idea of talking about sex but don't actually care about learning the foundations of TRP).
Fortunately, TRP is not run by those types, and most of us here recognize TRP as a lens from which we can view unfiltered reality, rather than trying to put shades of propaganda and self-deception over it.
And even better? TRP's a buffet. Even if it turned into a sub where 99% of posters were just bitching about why women suck and jacking off at the idea of men being objectively better, you just ignore that shit and learn from the good posts.
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The incel/MGTOW types have always confused me, here. I mean.....it's like the ultimate pedastalizing.
NeoreactionSafe 8y ago
A woman's power to hurt you and your inability to see her hidden motives are one and the same thing.
Game means you see her hidden motives and manipulate them so they aren't able to hurt you.
Anger is what you do during the time you haven't figured all this out.
ex_addict_bro 8y ago
+1
This moment for me came when I moved out of a flat we shared with ex wife and kids.
Pretty big alimony and 9 yrs of time and money invested, left behind.
I become ruthless, mainly towards myself. Training, selling abundant shit, cutting out unneeded expenses. That's better for me.
Then, I became a bit more ruthless towards my kids. Better for them.
Then, tough love towards ex wife. And anybody who ever tries to fuck me. Better for them, better for the world.
The only bad thing about being ruthless is when you get angry towards people who did nothing to you. When you displace the blame from yourself. When you use other people to express the feelings you have towards other people. If a bitch did me nothing and her only fault in the situation is that she is a bitch, she did me nothing and I should not be angry towards her.
Solid post.
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Solid comment. One of the realities of life is that we take shit out on people that don't deserve it. If Red Pill is about understanding the world as it is, then we should be cognizant of this.
melxer 8y ago
I can feel your anger. It gives you focus, makes you stronger.
CloudBeing 8y ago
I'm really interested in getting into boxing. The gym I go to doesn't have heavy bags though and I'm not sure where to start. Tips?
TryDoingSomethingNew 8y ago
What the guy below said, and also I always ask about sparring.
No sparring = it's not a legit gym. Sparring is hard and really great training.
TimmyTurnersNuts 8y ago
You need to go to a legit boxing gym that's recognized and registered with a legit boxing association.
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In other words, the opposite of a McDojo. One reason I'm such a judo booster is that there is a legit (if hated) authority. To be promoted to shodan (first degree black belt) one needs to go before the state commission, not one's own sensei.
ex_addict_bro 8y ago
Like the one led by Tyler Durden.
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[deleted] 8y ago
Word, brother. Nothing else to say.
Fall7Stand8 8y ago
Well said. Your post reminded me of this.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WLzJAebfEIg
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I don't neccesarily agree with this but what I can say is you can't predict which way people will go when the ship goes down. So you have to back yourself up and leave nothing to chance. Never be vulnerable.
TimmyTurnersNuts 8y ago
I said In some ways for a reason. It doesn't necessarily have to be like my situation, but you better believe most women are ruthless and uncaring when it comes to something they deem important.
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Well we can agree on one thing - you do not want to take the chance that they are not ruthless and uncaring.
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From everything I've seen in my life, men usually have a sense of honor or brotherhood which prevents them from steamrolling one another for their own benefit. I've seen many more instances of women being ruthless to both men and other women to get what they want. Event when what they wanted wasn't necessarily that valuable.
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Absolutely. I think it was the Bucs who blitzed a victory formation in anger. It was truly shitty. Guys could have gotten hurt.
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TimmyTurnersNuts 8y ago
You're just consuming great(in some respects) knowledge. Your reality is being revealed to be false.
purplecabbage 8y ago
I believe lifting or running is a great way to channel anger if you're not good at it or new to it. Hell, I still do it this way. Sometimes I don't have a lifting 'plan' I just bang out weights for the catharsis.
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Man, that's a fine way of going forward.. Plans are good, but just fucking lifting is great. Martial arts are also really good for catharsis. It's a "safe space" for beating the shit out of one another (I crack myself up)
CoupDeGrace22 8y ago
Nothing more cathartic then the sound a bar makes when it hits the floor while you're deadlifting it.
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TryDoingSomethingNew 8y ago
I have no idea what your point was. Why did you even type that?
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