Advice on Lasting Longer in Bed | TheRedPill

Introduction So in one of my previous posts I mentioned I found a few tips and tricks for lasting longer in bed. I thought I'd go over some of them. I only recently starting doing these but I've already noticed some great improvement.

Body So a little background about me. N-count is currently 3. Was 2 before two weeks ago. Both of those were in high school. In college now and spent about 2 years not getting laid. Started lifting this semester of college and gained 25 pounds in 3ish months. Still really skinny compared to most guys but I'm lean as fuck.

Find out why you don't last long. Through my research I've found there are many reasons why guys don't last long. The most common reasons include the expectation to last long, porn fucking up your mentality of sex and expectation to cum, or a sensitive dick. If you have any other reasons why you think you might not last long comment them below.

When you are fucking a girl are you thinking "damn I don't wanna cum quick and disappoint her". If this is going through your mind then you fall under the category of expectation. Most of the problems with finishing too quick are all psychological. A good way to fix this is to fix your mental state. When you go to the gym and are really pushing yourself are you thinking "damn I don't know if I can lift this" or "LETS GO I'M A FUCKING BOSS I GOT THIS SHIT AHHHH!!!" So I guess the first tip is to change your mental state. There is a reason every post on here says LIFT! Apply this when in bed. Don't think about cuming just focus on your form. I really focus on how the muscles in my ass and back are moving and the motion of my strokes. Focusing on this instead of "omg i don't wanna cum and have her judge me!" will improve your time immensely. Also doing dirty talk. If you are fucking her and silent then you will be in your head. If you are calling her your little whore or whatever dirty talk you prefer then you aren't in your head. Your thoughts are you best friend or your worst enemy.

Next is the porn mentality. I've found that other guys have this same exact problem and it even has a name. I can't remember the name of it but it's basically that from watching years of porn you have conditioned yourself to not only cum at the best parts that you prefer but also cum incredibly quick. Think about it when you first started masturbating. You didn't want to get caught by your parents so you had to be quick about it and you would go to the part you knew you would get off to. Without knowing it you were training yourself to cum at a specific time and quick. This is one reason why most of the red pill agrees with No Fap. The obvious first step is to stop watching porn. Now the next step can go either way and will have mixed opinions. You can either go immediately to no fap or find what you like in relation to the way your dick feels when masturbating. I used the option of finding out what I liked with how I like my dick to feel. I was a no lotion fapper for years. So I also had a little bit of a sensitivity issue which I will talk about in the next paragraph. But for finding out what my dick liked I did masturbate for a short period of time following my swallowing of the red pill. I used lotion and DID NOT WATCH PORN. I did this after a day of hitting chest and was completely focus on myself and how I felt. To my surprise I lasted about 20 minutes with the lotion compared to about 3 to 5 with no lotion and porn. I found a rhythm I liked and different angle and all. I quit after about 3 times when I realized I could last as long as I wanted if I had the right mind state. (see again its just a psychological issue).

My next problem was a sensitivity issue. Since I had, 1 gone years without sex and 2 never used lotion, I wasn't used to the feeling of a vagina. Just the palm of my hand. Started using lotion (I'm not saying this will simulate a vagina at all but it's better than a dry palm) and at first the sensitivity was still there but it went away within 5 minutes my first time doing it. This may not be so quick for everyone but keep at it. Don't focus on not cuming but focus on how you feel. This is important with anything on TRP. It's all about you so make it about you. Once you can last about 15 or 20 minutes WITH NO PORN I would suggest trying it with porn. MAKE SURE THAT SHIT IS AMATEUR! Porn stars are trained to make the sounds and do the shit that make guys cum quick. This is what gets you addicted to porn and makes you want to come back for more. The reason you want amateur is because this is what real sex will be like. This is where you will test the will of your mental state when your dick is having awesome feelings and there is a female involved. FOCUS ON YOU! I didn't just lay down or sit in a chair and start going at it. I basically fucked my hand (sounds so cringey haha but this shit works). I focused on my strokes, how my muscles felt (not just my dick) and lasted a little longer. After doing this a few times and really focusing on controlling my mental frame I was able to last as long as I wanted (again this may take longer for some guys). Once you can do this stop. It's time for no fap.

The reason you should no fap is because if you can make yourself cum why would you need someone else to do it? You want to do it more for the validation then the act of having sex and making a girl have the best sex of her life. After a week of quitting you will notice how badly you want to bust a nut. Your drive to approach girls will tenfold.

Now lets say you are like me and you do all of this and you get with a girl for the first time in 2 or 3 or however many years its been for you. That pressure will probably come back and you will probably come quick. Thats fine! Don't apologize to her and say, "sorry its been a long time" or any bullshit like that. Dive face first into her pussy and finger blast the fuck out of her until you are ready again. Don't just sit there and wait for your "recoup time". All you are doing then is just psyching yourself out more. Or just tell her to suck your dick. Stay in frame and keep the "I'M A FUCKING BOSS I GOT THIS SHIT!!!" mindset you have when working out.

Conclusion Most of the problems guys have with finishing too early are psychological. Figure out what yours is and tackle that shit. Just like with any other problem in life if you say its holding you back and don't do anything about it then it won't get better. YOU ARE A FUCKING BOSS SO GRAB THE WORLD BY THE HIPS AND FUCK IT IN THE ASS!!!

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RedVladimir 9y ago

One good trick, particularly useful when you're getting head, is to press down on your perineum. It is the muscle tissue just under your balls. Pressing against this spot will stop blood from going to the penis, which destimulates it and thus prolongs ejaculation.

I tend to cum relatively quick, but I am able to stay rock hard for the second round. If you're able to keep going, who cares. Tell her she so sexy that's why you came so soon. As long as you get her off you'll be fine.

favours_of_the_moon 9y ago

Nourish kidney and liver jing essence.

Get Healing with Whole Foods, the guy is too down on meat, but it's a good overview. There's herbs and exercises too.

ransay3277 9y ago

When you think your getting ready to cum, think of Hillary Clinton. But not for too long. You get the idea.

33papers 9y ago

Hello guys. I cured myself of life long severe premature ejaculation, I'm talking lasting a few seconds. I can now fuck as long as I like and cum when I want. I'm 33 years old, so I've wasted many years of sexual activity due to this problem. I think in 9/10 cases it is caused by an imbalance of pelvic floor muscles, essentially a tense pelvic floor which creates a feedback loop of mental tension/ anxiety and further pelvic floor tensing.

If you are suffering then the place to start is with 'reverse kegels' and pelvic floor relaxation exercises. You really don't want to rely in drugs, drink, going round 2(most men with pre e loose erection very quickly after cumming and can't easily get it back) or other pills.

It's been a very long road and I've tried a lot if things but the vital cure is REVERSE kegels and having control over your pelvic floor.

sickofallofyou 9y ago

Use those cheap lifestyles condoms they give out for free. You'll never bust.

cosine88 9y ago

If you finish quickly, why not just give her round 2?

As long as you IDGAF about finishing quickly for round 1, she'll probably be down. If she does make a comment, just tell her "well I hope you're warmed up."

Hell, beat her to the comment.

Exactly_what_I_think 9y ago

IME, Everything that keeps my dick up longer also reduce my refractory period.

thisornothing 9y ago

Baseball. Think about baseball.

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if you don't have regular sex, masturbate more until you find it hard to cum when masturbating. I never watch porn, what gets me going is nice sexting. usually in less than 3 to 4 days you can't cum anymore
if you feel like you're gonna cum early, you'll probably do. If sex happens at night and there's a high chance you pass out after sex, you suck. Prevent this with caffeine, so that you'll be well awake and have a round two. She'll want it. Then a round three. Until she taps out (keep going). Girl won't even remember round one lasted 4 minutes if you keep going.
cialis is some next level stuff and it's pretty cheap thanks to some reddit subs.

BobbyPeru 9y ago

As you get older it's preferable to cum faster. Then, you can go for 2nds and 3rds

ex_addict_bro 9y ago

Make word great again. Cool post, bro.

The deal is, coming too fast is being passive-aggressive towards a woman. That's pretty twisted and complicated stuff, but the more you think about it, the more sense it makes.

It's "using" a woman, but not in a proper way. It is using her as a drug, as a way to numb yourself.

How you should use a woman? Like a fucking plough. Plow that bitch. Give her what she wants. She will respect you more. This is also a way to show the woman some respect.

Trying to "make her happy"... no, you don't want to go there.

DadOnDabs 9y ago

You can use the trying to make her happy mindset if you go the right way about it. If you use the pleasure she is receiving as a way to get your own enjoyment and use her in that sense I find I'm a lot more in the moment and take longer to cum. Idk still doesn't sound right the way it's worded but I basically won't allow myself to cum unless I feel she has received enough.

EssencialToLife 9y ago

There is only one good system to last longer. Do it more often.

If you havent fucked for a week and your partner is very sexy superfast is normal. But the second time will be longer, and the 5th time you will have problems to climax at all.

Dont do it only once. Do it until you cant any more.

SilentAlpha 9y ago

This right here. I say this all the time but it gets ignored. And it's proof that this training idea is for guys who get little to no sex. Even then the no fap will cause you to bust in a minute.

mdcrubengonza 9y ago

This. I can cum once every 30 minutes. By the 3rd or 4th round I'm going 15 mins plus. Fuck all this training bullshit. I don't fap and I cum in 3 thrusts on my first go.

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theONE843663 9y ago

In my experience, kegels and meditative sex have helped immensely. When you can orgasm at will, you're sex god. It's really all about the rhythm, and your ability to stay hard and not get bored. I have a specific rhythm I use when I'm ready to cum. It works every time. You can condition yourself to do this. While fucking, I don't really think about anything in particular I just... Fuck!

DreadLift19 9y ago

You can get mild numbing agents and creams that help too, but is Sorta a hit or miss so maybe practice a but and test it out. I've used before just on the tip so dull the senses a bit. Worked like a charm.

End of it, she came 4 times. I eventually did, she thought she wasn't good enough, told her she wasn't bad and gave her a "high five bro" at the end. Best way to act cool and aloof after acting like a savage with her

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darknes66 9y ago

When I'm more into a chick I last longer because I want to enjoy the experience longer. When I've been with less attractive women I tend to cum faster because I focus on finishing. On the occasion that I'm with someone who I'm really feeling it with and I start to lose it prematurely, I take deep yoga breaths (ujjayi) and focus on the rhythm of my breath. That usually gets my mind off of the tip of my dick and helps me focus.

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This is the best advice. If it's been a couple of days I'll start out slow and count to 7 while breathing in and then 7 while breathing out.

Slow starts also allows her to adjust her fit which makes it a little more snug and generally allows for more self lubrication.

ManowarVin 9y ago

I've had success with thinking of my grandma to fend off ejaculation. Not kidding.

getbackdownhere 9y ago

keep that up and thanksgiving is going to get awkward next year

strikethrough123 9y ago

It's all fun and games until you cum thinking about your grandma.

Clockwrrk22 9y ago

That method does the opposite for me.

GroundhogLiberator 9y ago

That's a little extreme. I just picture what the girl will look like in five years.

iamneptuno 9y ago

Maybe that was exactly what he was talking about, you ageist.

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Bit of Viagra and a couple whiskeys.

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DadOnDabs 9y ago

I prefer abs and ass to focus on but I'm pretty much flexing my whole body

BluepillProfessor 9y ago

Very thorough review but you left out baseball cards.

Also, a BJ followed by 1-3 minutes of rest before a good humping can delay orgasm. Not sure why but Sex God Method claims it and I have found it to be true.

NotYourTypicalNurse 9y ago

Good read. Approximately how much time elapsed between going NoPorn and NoFap?

Also have you ever tried kegels?

DadOnDabs 9y ago

Idk the whole process was maybe a month

Blaat1985 9y ago

Kegels, reverse kegels, start stop method, relaxing your pelvic floor during intercourse, deep breathings, delay sprays/creams and if that all fails medication are all possible fixes too.