Summary: Sexual market value (SMV) and sexual marketplace are topics that have already been touched upon countless times. Still, recent discussions with few of my Polish readers suggested that there is a need to state my opinion on those aspects of pickup and I wrote a piece on that. Then I cut out half of the things that you already know to post yet another view on SMV vs. the game.

 

Sexual marketplace is a market like any other. The goods (sex, relationships) are traded between people having different sexual market values (SMVs). On average they tend to associate with partners having comparable SMV. Of course everyone wants to be with someone better than they are but it cannot possibly happen for more than half of individuals. There will always be some aberrations too but as usual we're interested in general rules. The marketplace is just a mental exercise. Are we good? Good.

 

There are countless approaches to men's SMV and various aspects are grouped together or considered separately. There isn't a one common standard. I always looked at male SMV in terms of status (money, power, fame, etc.), looks (body, face, grooming, style) and persona (charisma, social skills, charm, humor, masculinity). When you define them like that you can see that you can improve in each and every area but also you can focus on the one that gives you the best edge.

If you want to focus on one category to get you laid - beware. You have to be on the absolute (or at least - regional) top. That means a rockstar, heir to a fortune, a male model, a competitive bodybuilder, a professional seducer... If you're not the crème de la crème of your particular niche then you need to build your SMV using all the categories. The positive message is that you don't have to top any single attribute. Being okay looking, properly dressed, not being jobless and having some knowledge of game and social interactions put you high enough to attract quality girls.

By working on all areas of your SMV you'll not only be more successful with the types of girls you're already getting. You will also cast a wider net. Especially if you focus on what's commonly considered attractive. If you're approaching girls regularly then individuals doesn't matter. What matters is what's attractive in general for the women you're usually after. So even if you've once met a girl that said she didn't like jacked dudes then it means nothing if she was just one out of hundreds. Plus - she was lying.

 

Now the SMV is a hell of a topic but it boils down to three very important points. First: you can work on most aspects of your SMV and neglecting to do so is moronic. Second: as Blackdragon kindly put it "your SMV is determined by the opposite sex, not your sex". The average SMV of the girls you're getting is an accurate indicator of your own SMV. People rarely associate with someone below their own SMV. Third: you can hide or display your SMV thus decreasing or increasing how people rate you. It's called the game. But it does not change how good you really are. Sooner or later she'll find out.

 

Let’s stop at that last point. It means that if by all measures you're a seven but you buy a custom suit, rent a luxury car, get a complete makeover and for one evening behave like the next incarnation of James Bond - women will think that you're a nine. Or a ten. And that can get you laid. But it won't necessarily make the girl stay in your life.

If you're trying to get as many one night stands as possible (and I'm not judging anyone) then either the money/fame or the game are the answers. One gets you all wrong sorts of girls and golddiggers the other teaches you how to temporarily inflate your SMV. If you want girls to hang around - maximizing your SMV is indispensable.

 

Lessons learned:

  • Self-development, sorting your life out and fixing your looks provides a base level for your SMV.
  • You can inflate (or deflate) your SMV with your good (or bad) game.
  • Great game can get you a girl "out of your league" but it's the high SMV that will keep her around. For a while, that is.
  • The broader your SMV is (not just higher) the easier it is to attract wide variety of girls.
  • Being even a local rock start is experiencing a (local) boost of a single SMV trait. You aren't one? Get to work!

 

This is more of a theoretical post. If you liked it check out my daygame blog where I also publish a lot of actionable advice.