I don't have time | TheRedPill

Let's have a look at the high-reward activities from the perspective of time passing by. This assumes you do have some goals in life in regards to weight and fitness, social network and money.

Time for self-improvement

This is pretty obvious. In 2015 both me and my friend started some improvement in our lives. I stuck with the changes. He didn't. After a year I was slim, had defined muscles, and he was a fat, lousy fuck again, the type that has unkempt beard and hair (even if he did take care in the past of it, after getting my advice). I went out of my typical mindset of calling him names and looked at the situation objectively.

The truth was, if he ever wanted to do some self-improvement, he had exactly one year less by that time. This is pretty obvious for you, dear reader, but for me - actually experiencing this, seeing his negative progress over one year of time - this was an interesting experience.

Alcohol

I abused alcohol in the past. It also seems obvious: after the party my body needed time to detoxicate. So, I was sleeping or living in some form of a hangover half-life. Time wasted. Obvious.

What is not obvious: time at the party. This is what most of you will overlook. "But how, ex_addict_bro, alcohol makes me a social beast, a master dancer and a great karaoke singer and I can pull Hb8s like mad". Of course you can. Except that your vision of reality is not sober. You are not able to mindfully analyze all those small social quirks, all those connections, all those subtle accents.

By being drunk at a party you're wasting your time that you could use for actually learning how to be more social, how to socialize better. You are wasting your time to see, feel and analyze how well does TRP works in the social setting.

Food

Can I eat this ice-cream? Of course I can. I don't tolerate sugar too well. It makes me sleepy. After eating big I need to sleep for 2-3 hours. Time wasted, perhaps. Could I get fat? Yes, of course I could. Is that a tragedy? Not exactly, I'm not a model. It would just need some more time to exercise and to burn it.

Suddenly I realize I don't have enough time for that ice-cream.

Or, in other words, I can eat it and have the consequences, but I'd rather spent my time differently, to do something more useful.

Debt and video games and everything else

That's the most obvious, I think. Video games - you click a button, something on screen happens, your brain produces dopamine. Time flow continues as usual.

Debt - you don't have money now, but you assume you will have them in the future. So you borrow from the future. As time is money (for us, working people, literally), this is literally borrowing time from the future. So, in the future you have less time.

No more time for this post

If you get the idea, I'm sure you will bring up more examples in the comments.

Also, I am no way affiliated with the author, but "Death Wish" by Steven Chandler is out (Amazon has the details, I'm pretty sure I'm unable to link there). This is the book I got the idea of "borrowing from the future" from.

It was actually funny for me to walk through the mall today and realize I don't have time to eat that ice cream. Or, that I do have time to do anything I want, would I want to spend my time sleeping after over-indulgence of high glycemic index carbohydrates and getting insulin spike? This is a pretty new thought, a pretty new approach for me. I think the change has finally come. I'm looking forward for more.

Summary

Our actions have consequences. For some of them, the consequence is they leave us with less time on our hands. It seems mindful to remember this before actually taking some of those actions.

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hailhailhailandkill 9y ago

Along with actions and consequences;

TIME: THE ONLY IRREVOCABLE

Money lost? Not impossible to make up. Can be earned back.

Health, not every sickness is crucial. Can be gained back.

 Time, the most valuable currency ever.
 Once gone, it's gone forever.

ex_addict_bro 9y ago

Banks print money, value may be lost, but the universe seems abundant, at least for us - little ants,

health... scientists work on transplantation, or on making pigs produce human organs, the best cure is to avoid in advance, take care of one's health, but, per Taleb, we're anti-fragile up to some point or some age...

time? Can you print time? Can you add time? Can you steal time from someone else?

What is time, really? Time is change. Irrevocable change. Each tick of the "big clock", each single tick of "Planck time" (here's a wikipedia link for you ice-cream autists and other idiots, if you even read this) - this actually marks change, on sub-atomic levels. Tick, tick, tick, atoms re-align. No way to make the change back, on the global scale. No way to "move back in time". Go to orbit, engage light speed, move faster so your changes suddenly occur slower. But they still do. This is the only thing with time you can make. Unattainable for me at this very moment.

That's the "red pill notion of time" for you suckers out there, btw.

Newreddawn 9y ago

Trying to live every second of your life to the tune of maximum efficiency sounds exhausting. Part of the living experience is actually indulging ourselves from time to time. I have busy days, sure. I'm working full time, lifting, and playing a sport. But I also play some video games and get drunk on the weekends. If I didn't, I'd go insane because of the stress of always performing for somebody else. Balance is the key, you and your friend sound like two extremes on the self improvement spectrum.

Dollar_thief 9y ago

What people in the comments section are missing is the experience of applying this mindset. When you abstain from sugar, video games, alcohol and focus on delayed gratification activities like lifting, reading, learning a skill (eg guitar), you rewire your brain to enjoy the delayed activities more. Your brain is no longer over stimulated from the instant rush, and you begin to not even want to consume things that you know are bad for you in the long run.

Everytime you have that ice cream, you make yourself more likely to have another one in the future.

Moderation is the key, but only allow yourself to indulge after a period of hard work. Reward yourself for hard work, begin to associate hard work with a treat, just like Pavlov's dog.

[deleted] 9y ago

I wonder how many guys here really have autism.

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ex_addict_bro 9y ago

I wonder how many should have mutism.

1v1crown 9y ago

dayyyyyym that autistic comeback 8/88

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BloodRedAlert 9y ago

So is it still to to eat ice cream sometimes?

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recon_johnny 9y ago

It's a series of choices. At a macro level and micro level. Really, it just boils down to that.

Some bullshit I heard somewhere:

"You have two lives, and the second begins when you realize you only have one". You do you, son.

AFthrowaway 9y ago

Summary:

Read the sidebar. Stop eating and drinking shit, lift, go get rejected more.

Fatboy214 9y ago

After quitting drinking i was honestly astounded at how much my things improved. Using Alcohol to get over social anxiety is weak.

[deleted] 9y ago

i've found that as I get in better shape and pound more iron, my social anxiety has largely gone away. I used to need alcohol for good social interaction, and now it's just easier. If only I could get more than 6 hours of sleep a night, I think i'd be golden on all fronts

Fatboy214 9y ago

Pounding iron is my new addiction. Plus when you look good and feel good its awesome man. I lost 50 pounds in the last 2 years and gained a good bit of muscle and what a difference. I'm 36 years old and I got 23 year olds checking me out. I'm not saying this in some arrogant way but that shit feels good.

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gster50 9y ago

Bruh, even Obama's got time for ice cream

https://americatimes.files.wordpress.com/2012/02/obama-eaticecream-maine2010.jpg

NeoreactionSafe 9y ago

This post is an example of what could be a good idea (to shift out of the subjective "immediate" frame and into a stoic one) but the delivery seems off.

When you read it you end up with the idea you are so rushed as to need to skip the immediate gratication in favor of.... well... it's the other option that wasn't made clear enough.

Other than the physical things like working out regularly what new perception does this stoic reality bring you?

It's not a rushed new perception... but the post makes it "seem" like there is something even more desireable to chase.

ex_addict_bro 9y ago

Hi NRS EC, thanks for your comment.

I have no business in advertising that "other option". I shared a thought, an approach, a tool - to cross to the "other side", as you noticed. I have no business in pulling people to that other side. It's not my business. I'm there and I'm okay.

As for "rushed post", well, it's not exactly rushed. English is not my native language, so I'd rather write something short than sparse, for the sake of the readers. Unless you have anything else in your mind.

How would you extend this topic if you were in my shoes?

NeoreactionSafe 9y ago

It's easier to kill a wrong than create a right (truth).

So if you had simply focused on "Kill the Beta" on those time wasting activities then the emotional framework will leave people with a view of destroying rather than chasing something else.

By making it a "comparative choice" between one set of activities (Blue Pill) and some other set which is not defined it leaves the reader wondering:

"He says there are better things to do than play video games... but I don't know what they are."

If you are "selling" any idea you must destroy opposition first. Then you must make the alterative idea attractive afterwards.

When we "Kill the Beta" we destroy the Blue Pill myths.

We expose AWALT behavior where women behave badly and violate the myth of the princess and unicorn.

The Red Pill is never sold as a "better high".

We come, we destroy, then others decide where they go afterwards.

Leave the reader in a state where he must decide his own path.

sergeantbbbbs 9y ago

What's autism got to do with it?

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[deleted] 9y ago

Suddenly I realize I don't have enough time for that ice-cream. It was actually funny for me to walk through the mall today and realize I don't have time to eat that ice cream.

To be fair not everything in his post is autistic.

ex_addict_bro 9y ago

"Come back after you've actually tried something and experienced real life."

Are you having a hard time, dude? What's your problem?

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[deleted] 9y ago

Suddenly I realized I got no time for ice cream, sorry buddy.

ex_addict_bro 9y ago

I'm not sure you understood what I meant by that.

Project_Thor 9y ago

that you got no time for ice cream.

[deleted] 9y ago

Yes I have. By enduring self-control and disregarding immediate gratification behavior you can achieve higher reward earlier. hence living a more fulfilling life. Otherwise you make a deal. You trade time for immediate gratification. Assuming you will ever achieve what you wanted in the first place. And that's where the problem is: You will never achieve the same thing later. It's gone. It's a completely different situation.

[deleted] 9y ago

Essentially it's the same point you've been trying to make. So I actually like your point although it sounded somewhat autistic. Sorry about that. Still wondering how many guys have autism around here, but that's off topic.

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