Always have a backup plan when you date. | TheRedPill

My 3 Plates being silent or flaking, and the new girl I had rendez-vous tonight just cancelled. Hard to keep the cool in this fashion... BUT... lesson earned and here is now my first Golden Rule of dating:

"Always prepare a Plan B when you have any appointement made with any women."

It could be a girlfriend, a plate, a new girl, whatever... they're just immature little girls inside their brains, not deserving any serious involvement or planning.

Now my rule will be that Plan B will always be going out and meeting new people.

There's no better moment to exercise being stronger than events, while trying to improve or renew our Plate's stock, than when one is being disrepectful.

A one week Silent Radio is planned for this new one, as it already is in work for 2 of my Plates too since a few days. The good ones will stick, the useless will fall, nevermind, I deserve respectful girls, I know some exists even they're quite rare.

Rant over.

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DotishGuy 9y ago

Or you can just use the free time to improve your life.

Do you have any projects?

HedoNNN 9y ago

I plan dates after work, hence my irritation, being ego-depleted after a full day of workin

Your_Coke_Dealer 9y ago

Plan two dates the same night, maybe more if you expect two might flake on you. The scenario in which they don't flake is a problem you'd be happy to have. Either you're banging more than one girl in a night, or you postpone one date (showing you're the one who can be choosy)

Especially do this for Tinder dates

man0man 9y ago

I love the part where you plan passive-aggressive punishments for girls who clearly DGAF.

toneroma 9y ago

I was trying to be civil about OP, but this comment was too much!

OP just sounds really immature and butt-hurt :/

[deleted] 9y ago

I have a roommate who I'm pretty sure reads trp. But he just takes it in way too much and talks about "dominating" women and punishing them with simple things like this when he doesn't get his way. His ego is clearly fragile and he needs to not only feel superior but let others know he feels that way to boost his ego.

Fucking annoying.

MrTrueKillah 9y ago

Can you see if he does read TRP?

HedoNNN 9y ago

Fair enough.

I see those kind of situations as:

Do nothing and they may fall, no problem
Try something and they may suck my dick (or not, no problem too).

So why not try something in any case?

What optimale sexual strategy (banging more) would you recommend me?

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*optimale

I think that was a typo but I like it and will start referring to myself as optimale.

NightwingTRP 9y ago

Ignore the passive aggressive way in which he tries to shame you for daring to have a male emotion. (I know, it's outrageous to actually feel annoyed as a man, right? Remember, on TRP we allow healthy expression of emotion and then offer advice.) The correct response on his part would have been to simply point out the passive aggressive nature of it and move on.

Anyways, I specifically wanted to add here that a radio silence for a whole week is excessive. A weekend would work and if they haven't contacted you during that time then you'll probably want to look at a soft next. Also remember to never let them see your irritation, but do mock them about their poor timekeeping - something like "never gonna invite you to X (that they'd really like to see) since you can't seem to organise yourself" add a massive grin. I've just thrown that together now so there are probably some better ways of saying it, but the essence of the message needs to be that she's stupid for being disorganised and you'd consider dropping her when it came to anything nice because of her poor behaviour. Never state it directly though, it has to be implied - for example you're just making a sarcastic joke, but you could be serious etc. It's a useful all-purpose-womanese skill to have for tweaking things as part of your plate management.

HedoNNN 9y ago

Thank you very much for your supporting and detailled reply, I do take note, it reminds me of Amused Mastery, I like it.

Benny757 9y ago

Getting "flaked" on leaves you with two options on how you will or will not react. Will you allow it to "act upon" you and make you desperate, needy and unsure of yourself? Or will you internalize your "Red Pill" habits and will you use your inner "game" or philosophy to "act on" your situation? You don't necessarily need "Plan B." You use your self-confidence, and your skills to make the situation your own reality at the moment and go with the flow - You get to choose and create.

You do not need flaky. You do not need those girls. You choose. You go in your direction. Right? We all know here that desperate and needy does not work.

Your "Plan B" is that you don't give a fuck if "Plan A" happens or doesn't. Be formless. Rule 48 (I think) Be like water - hold frame, exercise game, and flow formlessly, immune to women and others.

thisisathrowaway2703 9y ago

Go to the gym instead or go make some money. Jack off if you must.

HedoNNN 9y ago

Beautiful in theory yet I can't see clearly how to apply your advice in a pragmatical way.

Benny757 9y ago

It takes constant practice until you force it into habit. Through hardship via dogged determination. Do this for me. Google Jocko Podcast. Jocko is a retired Navy seal. His Podcast is about leadership and strength and how to develop it. Start with episode 1. How to apply my advice? Just like he and other Seals did. Constant preparation and training. This guy will inspire you my friend. Good luck and bbe well.

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flat6turbo 9y ago

if you get flaked by a bitch, don't text or call until she does. delete her number and move on.

fuck's sake people this isn't rocket science.

RPSnuggles 9y ago

What do you do with the time you planned?

That was also his point. Hence, backup plan. Are you too daft to understand?

Simple answer: Replace it with looking for more bitches, call a different plate or go self-improve.

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RXRob 9y ago

On fairness to you, three plates and a new date easily covers plan B. Women are just flaky as fuck though.

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HedoNNN 9y ago

Well I come from (at least) sex with 2 plates a week to nothing for 2 weeks because they all busy/flaky/cancelled/reported.

At last I have one who never disrespected me (yet) and will see again in two days.

RedBigMan 9y ago

It happens everywhere you have boom and bust periods. Women tend to flake on an infrequent basis at the very least because sometimes they just get their period and don't want to go do anything for a day or two.

It's only when it becomes a recognizable pattern with relative frequency (IE. a weekly thing) that you should really bother with a punishment like radio silence for a while.

Really it's good to emphasize the fact that even without women you can go out and have fun. Who needs sex all the fucking time. Pick up some hobbies that don't include fucking your plates twice a week or whatever.

truthyego 9y ago

If 3 plates dropped at the same time, u need to look in the mirror and see what you can find. There's the slight chance it's coincide, but I'd bet dollars to pesos something changed with you.

How do I know? Similar experience.

Physio_Tool 9y ago

Youre projecting your experience onto op. Thst is not TRP. This kind of shit happens all the time. And this is just the law of averages, you have no control over that

HedoNNN 9y ago

I want to believe that, because it would give me full responsability for this situation, which would make me able to change it.

What did I do differently? Being honest about what I want, always have been respectful yet not clingy, only sending text to meet them, I don't see what I've done differently, if any I focussed on my own growth more than ever prior and during those two weeks... but this is what I do every day anyway.

askmrcia 9y ago

I been in this situation many times. And its not just you. Women flake all the time. Most likely she got bored and met up with some guy on Tinder or she started talking to their ex.

And I had one weekend up when I got flaked on by five different women. FIVE different women.

That's why its important to always have as many options as possible.

This past weekend I got flaked on by three women. One girl who I was talking too for a month told me she was dating other guys and its getting more serious with another guy.

Another girl said she was going down to DC to watch the cherry blossoms (I know, I know). And another girl completely ignored my phone call and text message. That happened literally this past weekend.

HedoNNN 9y ago

Five different women! Ouch man...

So how do you deal with it?

Do you too implement a rule of having a backup plan or something?

askmrcia 9y ago

I deal with it by always having a last ditch effort plan. I'm good friends with too lesbians. And on most weekends they always have something going on at their house. Like board games, drinking or something. So usually I go over there to hang with them. And they have other people over there (sometimes ofther women).

So basically I just hang with friends if I'm left to dry like that.

And I always find things to do. I just got blown off by one tinder girl tonight. No sweat. I went to the gym and now I'm chillin at my house not worrying to spend money on drinks.

But my point is, I always have something to do and I usually plan multiple three dates around the same time because women flake very often where I'm from

truthyego 9y ago

I don't know man, I couldn't say, cause I don't know you. All I know is that it's quite a coincidence. And since we know that AWALT, it's not a stretch to wonder if you're the common factor. Not at all being accusatory towards you, just advocating for some self reflection in this situation.

[deleted] 9y ago

You just have to provide value to girls and see which ones reciprocate it. The only Plan B is if you are dealing with bad apples and need to replace them.

[deleted] 9y ago

Is this just a US phenomenon? I've had possibly hundreds of dates and only stood up once because the girl smoked too much weed before meeting me

thisisathrowaway2703 9y ago

I'm from NZ and never been flaked on. If a girl is not gonna show up they always at least text me with a bullshit excuse before hand.

-1

Jigsus 9y ago

That's flaking.

Simply not showin up is being stood up

tehwankingwalruses 9y ago

Yea US women are notorious for this behavior.

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ioncehadsexinapool 9y ago

They'll agree to a date just for the validation and then flake because ew you're gross

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RPSnuggles 9y ago

Or things come up. Take your self-righteousness that way. points at your shitter

Nothing is black or white in this world.

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RPSnuggles 9y ago

Makes sense that way. I define it differently.

Bielzabutt 9y ago

So true, I usually book two dates about an hour apart from each other so that I have options.

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[deleted] 9y ago

Well, after months of rush I just had 2 weeks straight of drought. My 3 Plates being silent or flaking, and the new girl I had rendez-vous tonight just cancelled. Hard to keep the cool in this fashion

I made a post a long while ago when I was a few months into TRP about the exact same thing. All of my plates flaked within a short period of time and I had a 'drought' like you did. Totally sucked. One guy bought up if it was a cascade event where one found out about others then they all contacted each other and fell like dominos, and honestly while there is a very slim chance that happened....what did happen sure did look like exactly like that. Only one of those four or five women got back with me after she bent over backwards to re-schedule. Best thing to do is forget them, disrespectful women like that are dime a dozen. It could just be their shittiness happened to line up in a short period and you ended up with a dry spell.

Hell, just other day one I met would just up and go radio silence for no reason (doesn't bug me really) and shows several signs that she's trying to 'game' me in a ham-handed manner. In general she's acting childish and I'm putting in zero effort because she didn't earn any effort from me at all, a few days of her going radio silence drives her nuts then she tries texting again then goes radio silence on a cliffhanger again. Again. Remember the definition of insanity? Doing the same thing over and over expecting different results? I don't do radio silence as a 'punishment' per se for women, it's merely me not bothering to message a bitch who is being disrespectful towards me.

Physio_Tool 9y ago

Those kind of girls end up making themselves depress because they end up driving away their prospects with their shitty texting habits. In general these kind of girls are just lazy getting back to people and selfish because they are unable to see how their inaction directly reflects their results. Their Girlfriends will tell them exactly why they are fucking up with guys amd then nothing changes

[deleted] 9y ago

Funny in a way, right? By being shitty she is merely denying herself a guy that is shit you not at least a point above her if not 2. They simply do it to themselves. Ones that don't act shitty I show them a good time see how it goes, but damn almost all women end up acting shitty within a few weeks, some even right off the bat like this one. The irony of how them trying to 'game' just hurts them can invoke schadenfreude.

MattyAnon Admin 9y ago

Solid plan.

Having a plan B makes you less needy and more happy with life's ups and downs.

Women are gonna flake, it's what they do. But when they do it too much or with disrespect it's time to start withdrawing their access to your life.

[deleted] 9y ago

this is plan E.

In the secret box, behind the painting, in the room behind the false wall of the bookshelf that slides open when you pull down on the lamp on the wall.

Sadly, necessary.