TL;DR- A quick note on why improving oneself as a way of reconnecting with old exes is a really bad idea.

"Don't Rekindle Old Flames"

Over-investment into the downfall of exes and using newfound RP enlightenment of women's true nature as some sort of "weapon" to be wielded against the feminine populace are two of the biggest frame-destructive reoccurances I've seen on TRP thus far.

Newly Enlightened Alphas usually do so well up until the point where they begin to see genuine, positive results i.e. when they begin receiving multiple IOIs from a variety of women.

And once they've reached this point, they'll typically scoop up all the IOIs they've garnered, put them in a little bucket, skip down to Lil' Sally's place -i.e. that mean ol' girl who inadvertently led them down the path of RP enlightenment-, then proceed to dump the contents at her feet and proudly proclaim, "Look how Alpha I am!"

Unfortunately for them, perception is collectively garnered and not circumstantially so.

Lil' Sally may notice the great strides of improvement this shiny new Enlightened Alpha has made. She might even be impressed by them.

And yet, the Enlightened Alpha's Beta past is not lost on her.

Women judge SMV based upon the good traits AND the bad traits they've perceived within him. She'll recall every beta trait this Enlightened Alpha has ever portrayed and will constantly hold them against him, no matter the improvements he currently displays.

Past posts have mentioned that even if a fat woman loses all of the extra weight (in turn becoming attractive), her self control still comes into question.

And Why? Because we've perceived her "fat-state" as her normative state; she's been fat longer than she's been attractive, so reversion back to her normative state is highly likely.

In most cases, people will "relapse" and resort back to what they're accustomed to or how they normally were due to the inherent longing for the familiarity and complacency their normative state brought them.

It's through these same lenses that she'll base her perceptions of the Newly Enlightened Alpha's shiny new coat of paint: as both temporal and thin.

To her, whether his "Alpha-state" is true or not is irrelevant; she's constantly remnant on the rusty-scarred coat of paint beneath that bright red exterior.

What's more, not only is trying to demonstrate "how Alpha you've become" or attempting to invoke some sense of lust into women who've previously seen you unfavorably not worth your time, it's futile to it's very core.

The very attempt of rekindling old flames is a counter-balance against the basis of being an Alpha. You're not pursuing them because they're attractive, you're pursuing them to make a point.

A real Alpha wouldn't concern himself with her or their past experiences together, so any outright attempt at "rekindling" or readdressing said past would be perceived by her as a non-Alpha characteristic.

Not only that, some women will never see you as the Alpha you've become. My roommate from college is a professional lawyer, and yet I'll always see him as the stoner who slept through half his classes.

Lesson Learned- Perception trumps all when it comes to the bases/influences towards individualistic opinion.