Twenty year-old college student checking in. A few days ago, I actually tried to approach some chicks. Of course, I stayed within my league and didn't try to approach that bimbo with fake boobs. Of course, I got rejected because I didn't know what the Hell I was doing and was so nervous that it was like I was on the edge of a skyscraper. And, of course, I felt like complete shit for a day. To be honest, it felt like the world was coming to an end and that I have no choice but to settle for some 200-lb single mother with three children, all with different fathers, when I'm in my early 30s. On top of that, I slept like shit.
But today, it was different. From a logical perspective, it would make sense that I would continue to feel depressed and like a bitch. But instead, I feel more...confident and motivated? Looking back, I realize that I do have potential because I dated two "hot" chicks in high school(Beta Bux is basically non-existent in this environment) mainly because of and have experience with some chicks. That day, I tried something new and stepped out of my comfort zone so of course it felt like a gun was to my head. Back in high school, I would have never even considered some shit like this because I waited for them to come to me. But now I realize that rejection isn't that bad. Why should it be? I'm a man, we've built civilizations and landed on a goddamn comet, why should I care what some random little girl thinks?
Like Terry Crews once said, "You will get hurt, but amazingly once you heal, you're someplace you've never been before." Now, back to my combinatorics and differential equations homework then off to the gym. It's squat day!

mykonos_rm 11y ago
You will get shut down all the time, that won't change, but what WILL change is your response and attitude to rejection.
In a few years you'll literally laugh it off, not just because you know you got a plate or two as a guarantee backup - but because the experience itself conditions your confidence into kevlar.
Limekill 11y ago
+1 dude.
Keep fighting the good fight! You will slay it soon ;)
SpartanLegend 11y ago
I always say that if your chances of getting laid from approaching are 1 in ten thousand, then you have to approach 9999 girls before you get laid. It's all part of the process of becoming more confident, more of an alpha.
_random_user_1 11y ago
keep going buddy and soon you will see the nervousness vanish and just remember this mantra with rejections "it doesnt even matter" so stop taking them seriously there are like a millions of girls around so yeah keep improving,cheers.
NickCiufi 11y ago
"Sucking at something is the first step towards being sorta good at something." - Jake the Dog
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A man who tries and fails can work his way down to his number. Maybe he was rejected by 10s, 9s and 8s, but he finally realised he was able to score 7s. The same man who was afraid to take those risks and took the sure bets spent his life with 4s and 5s.
It's like low balling your own salary, then getting underpaid your whole life. Yes, it is harder work and you will get rejected, but the struggle will pay off.
ChadThundercockII 11y ago
Same thing happened to me last week. You know what I did to relieve my self of the frustration ? A LONG run at 7pm. I slept like a baby.
Upan 11y ago
Keep failing. If you don't, you will NEVER gain the insight and foresight it takes to run a successful existence. If striking out with women is a sticking point, internalize that you're no less than she is. She takes massive dumps, she picks her fucking nose in her car when no one looks. Realizing that shit numbed that bitch response that ANY woman is elevated above me. They are the same as you and I. They are born, they eat, sleep, pay taxes, get diarrhea, and fucking die. Do not EVER forget it.
[deleted] 11y ago
I developed a habit of saying "AWALT" in my mind the split second I see a really attractive woman and my brain starts building a shrine to her. Shuts it right down and I feel no differently about her than any other girl.
The IOI's I've gotten lately are through the roof compared to the many years I spent as a beta. Just today a woman I've known for a while started touching me, staying around me, and making up nicknames for me because I just started teasing the fuck out of her (she started it and I RAN with that shit).
Upan 11y ago
It's all because you're seeing yourself as a person of value. No pussy on a pedestal. So now, the women around you are responding to that raw testosterone off you. Like I've said, what helps is to remember no matter how attractive someone is, they are flawed too. They pick their noses, they burp, they take greasy shits. They get lazy, angry etc. They are not infinite beings capable of superhuman feats like we keep seeing in commercials now..or like the transgender man/woman who breastfed. Society seriously acted like it was some marvel comics shit. "He" was born a woman, they still had those glands to biologically produce milk..hurdurrr. But do anything other than clap along like you saw someone lift a semi and they want to silence you and insult you for stating the fact.
Hold your frame my friend and keep up the great work.
xwm 11y ago
I point this out every now and again on asktrp, but cut this shit out. She isn't out of your league because your looks don't fucking matter beyond making sure you aren't disgusting looking.
Soriq 11y ago
https://youtu.be/QPcVFZmg7uI?t=13m28s
Anytime you think a girl is out of your league, remember this rant
sympathetic_receptor 11y ago
Getting rejected is a success. Especially at your stage. If you can manage to get rejected 50 times within a month or two, I can GUARANTEE you: 1) you accomplished multitudes more than someone who did not try at all and got rejected none 2) Getting rejected will no longer phase you 3) You will not be settling for anything less than what you want by the time you are 30
I hope you are lifting till failure at the gym...until your muscles reject the weight you are telling them to put up. Keep getting rejected. It's good for you.
tech-ninja 11y ago
Hey everything you said is good except the gym thing. Lift big weights 3x6 or 5x5 but as much weigh as you can. At the end of your sessions you won't feel as fatigued as until failure sessions but your muscles will grow more. That and have a high protein diet.
LostMyOriginal 11y ago
I lift to fight, because that's how I train. Lifting is all about what you want. :D just saying.
ChadThundercockII 11y ago
Yep. Not everyone is lifting for gainz.
rpthrowaway4 11y ago
That's fair, as long as you know it is sub-optimal for gainz
[deleted] 11y ago
And after fifty rejections, you'll still have millions of hot girls left to bang, only now, you're mentally tougher and have much more experience. There's absolutely no excuse to lay around and do nothing (except monk mode, but that's after).
peekymite 11y ago
Well after 50 uv probably internalized that your shit and your self esteem will invariably take a dive, even if you think you can mind muscle out of it. You have to make sure to look after yourself.
[deleted] 11y ago
You were shit to begin with. At least after 50 rejections you won't care that you're shit.
If rejections from .00001% of girls damages your self esteem, you haven't internalized the red pill.
peekymite 11y ago
Nah son, its inevitable. Most people can't stay healthy after so muh rejection. Success breeds success. The reverse is true as well.
rpthrowaway4 11y ago
I find logging your approaches helps combat this. When starting out write down one thing that went well and one thing you would change from EVERY approach and then move the fuck on. If you you think about failures too much you attach to them and then they can pull you down.
NoMoBluepill 11y ago
If you keep considering hot girls to be "out of your league" then you will never get past your current beta lifestyle.
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redpillbanana 11y ago
Fail fast, fail cheap, fail often.
[deleted] 11y ago
That line deserves its own soundtrack http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4NjssV8UuVA
topredhat 11y ago
Remember its not personal, its just your emotions telling you that it is.
Corndog_Enthusiast 11y ago
Just going off on a small tangent here, but BB is very real in high school. Have you ever seen girl classmates carrying 100 balloons and a massive teddy bear to class on Valentine's Day? Those boyfriends are BB's, along with the dudes who completely pay for prom and homecoming, etc.
americanenglishh 11y ago
How do you know? Maybe that guy who bought the massive teddy bear drills her ass like a jack-rabbit every night, now who's the beta? Maybe he bought it to make up for his alphaness? To even out the scale.
Limekill 11y ago
Not really... please see GLOs posts on gift giving.
Keep it cheap, keep it mean. Buy them panties and g-strings.
Rhunta 11y ago
Is it not strange that you brain is telling you all those negative things, that you will not make it. But when you really look back you see that you have much success! I wish you luck on your journey. Get out of your comfort zone, not only with chicks, but also with your education and fitness.
Skank_of_America 11y ago
Yeah, the thing that's important to realize is that you're going to NEED to forgo multiple dream chicks and get one-itis multiple times to finally get enough experience to get the right one when you're ACTUALLY ready.
Everyone on the up-and-up probably should just be looked at as a giant blob, like a bunch of fluffy, blank-eyed, stuffed animals in a claw machine. Your willpower to practice is represented in blood, sweat and tears, (quarters), which costs you. Since it hurts to give of yourself like that, play like you mean it and concentrate on success.