Becoming a father is without a doubt the most difficult thing I've ever done in my life. But it's also true that in the long run it's the most rewarding. It's a good writeup though. Overall as men, don't ever hold back in showing love to your children. Doesn't matter if you're married to their mom, living together, or don't speak with her, you need to be the stable foundation for your child throughout their life. They will make mistakes, you need to be able to do the hard stuff to correct them but as always make sure they know it comes from a place of love for them. If you have difficulty showing emotion in the form of love around other people, don't let this be the case with your own children.
Would you mind elaborating more on your marriage/divorce? What led to the divorce? Was the marriage "worth it" in your opinion? How did it affect your kids? Etc.
I know the general rule of thumb on TRP is to nor get married. But I lurk on the MarriedRP sub and am starting to think that it's much more nuanced. So I just want to get your perspective.
Would you mind elaborating more on your marriage/divorce?
I have written extensively on this on reddit back in the day. They leveraged all of our content to build a platform and then fucked us over. So I will not say much more than i have said.
I trust @redpillschool, but I am older and focused on real life these days. There are plenty of accounts out there that cover the same sort of stuff. Plus youtubers like Terrence Popp have a lot to say.
What led to the divorce?
repeated unwarranted disrespect. her female friends got it into her head that they can push their men around. They are right - their hustbands CAN be pushed around.
I cannot.
Was the marriage "worth it" in your opinion?
Yes. it was. the divorce and the pain and difficulty toward the end made me question that, but I prefer to focus on the positives now. it feels better that way.
How did it affect your kids? Etc.
Fortunately, my children did well. And as I have said, i think her death was a HUGEA gift to me and the kids. I guess the same holds true for some men who wind up with the kids when a woman completely bails and never comes back. You get to work and make things happen - unencumbered by foolishness.
I know how this sounds, but someone has to tell the truth for once! Here are a few thoughts:
Their mom has passed away. She is not around any more to make mistakes, be an idiot, date the wrong men, develop bad habits, etc. She will permanently be an angel, and that is as it should be.
No coparenting BS, no arguing over schedules, no money/child support rubbish, no poverty, no government/police oversight. Just freedom.
Total responsibility and control. If something goes wrong it is all on me. That is a burden in some ways, but it is also an opportunity to get things right without bein undermined by a wife.
I can curate their social lives. Who gets access to my childre has been 100% in my control. Even my own mother and sisters were kept away. they would say things like "Your Dad is great, but he is soo annoying sometimes. Am I right? Teee hee. " This sort of subtle subversion happened all the time. That all ended and we are very healthy and wholesome. Now that they are older they can visit whomever they wish. but now they know what to look out for, and they can SEE it.
All i have to say is, BIG KUDOS to you on having that point of view about the whole situation. So glad to hear the kids have had a nice environment to grow up in, the number of kids actually getting thst (both parents or not) seems to be diminishing.Good stuff
preach 1w ago
Becoming a father is without a doubt the most difficult thing I've ever done in my life. But it's also true that in the long run it's the most rewarding. It's a good writeup though. Overall as men, don't ever hold back in showing love to your children. Doesn't matter if you're married to their mom, living together, or don't speak with her, you need to be the stable foundation for your child throughout their life. They will make mistakes, you need to be able to do the hard stuff to correct them but as always make sure they know it comes from a place of love for them. If you have difficulty showing emotion in the form of love around other people, don't let this be the case with your own children.
mattyanon Admin 1w ago
Great post. The things you got right are so good.
Don't feel too bad about divorcing their mother ...... that disrespect you were experiencing would only get worse.
pofkaf 1 2w ago
Would you mind elaborating more on your marriage/divorce? What led to the divorce? Was the marriage "worth it" in your opinion? How did it affect your kids? Etc.
I know the general rule of thumb on TRP is to nor get married. But I lurk on the MarriedRP sub and am starting to think that it's much more nuanced. So I just want to get your perspective.
deeplydisturbed 1 2w ago
I have written extensively on this on reddit back in the day. They leveraged all of our content to build a platform and then fucked us over. So I will not say much more than i have said. I trust @redpillschool, but I am older and focused on real life these days. There are plenty of accounts out there that cover the same sort of stuff. Plus youtubers like Terrence Popp have a lot to say.
I cannot.
Yes. it was. the divorce and the pain and difficulty toward the end made me question that, but I prefer to focus on the positives now. it feels better that way.
Fortunately, my children did well. And as I have said, i think her death was a HUGEA gift to me and the kids. I guess the same holds true for some men who wind up with the kids when a woman completely bails and never comes back. You get to work and make things happen - unencumbered by foolishness.
I know how this sounds, but someone has to tell the truth for once! Here are a few thoughts:
That's all for now Good luck.
MrSupreme 1w ago
All i have to say is, BIG KUDOS to you on having that point of view about the whole situation. So glad to hear the kids have had a nice environment to grow up in, the number of kids actually getting thst (both parents or not) seems to be diminishing.Good stuff