Made a comment on a recent post but I’d like to put it here because it’s really pissing me off.
One thing about this forum that irks me is the random guys downvoting posts from downtrodden people - as if they don’t already feel bad enough, they’re practically disregarding and outcasting the already disenfranchised.
I think you really should think before downvoting someone. Being rejected by EVERYBODY in every facet of life is not nice, in fact it’s fucking horrible. If you don’t like what he’s saying or posting leave it to the mods to tell him off. Don’t make him feel worse than he already does.
Perhaps some of you have no empathy. Or perhaps some of you have never been made to feel like an outcast. It’s horrible. For some guys this is the only refuge they have for people who might relate to them and their struggles. Don’t make them feel like outcasts.
Have some empathy for others struggles.
If you were so perfect, you wouldn’t be on here. Everyone starts from somewhere. Some people need more help than others. Allow them to get said help without making them feel stupid.
And yes, posting something about your struggles for it to be heavily downvoted without even comments can make you feel stupid or pathetic or unwanted etc. It might sound gay but Jesus Christ society fucks men enough why can’t we help each other do better? Why make some members feel like outcasts?
Durek_The_Bald 2 months ago
Posts I downvote:
Entitled posts that betray not having done a minimum of reading
Concern trolling
Entitled victim pukes
Tone policing
Spam
Posts I don't downvote:
Noob posts that ask genuine TRP related questions
Humble victim pukes
Humble posts that betray not having done a minimum of reading.
Basically, if you come in here with an entitled attitude, not having read or understood anything, demanding to have everything handed to you, demanding that I write in a certain tone, that I respond to certain posts, blame everything and everyone around you for your own problems, then I'm going to downvote you.
Why? Because if you're simultaneously ignorant and arrogant, then you're a waste of everyone's time.
But if you're ignorant, but simultaneously humble enough to understand you're coming in here hat in hand, asking people for their time and effort, then no question is dumb enough to deserve a downvote.
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Vermillion-Rx Admin 2 months ago
Yeah basically
No-Stress-Cat 2 months ago
You also forget feminazis troll this forum. They won't hesitate to downvote the shit out of a guy for showing weakness. Sometimes they just downvote you because you're a guy.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2 months ago
I'm not the downvoter but what you have to remember is that there are people making downtrodden posts and comments and wracking up big time upvotes and then others getting nuked
The mentality of downvoting the downtrodden really comes down to the humility of the OP. Most downvotes are aimed at angry and otherwise fixated OPs that are all over the place. The downtrodden that get upvotes are usually expressing a lot of humility and introspection despite being the ones who need help the most
It's not a blanket phenomenon to downvote OPs in bad places
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ObliviousDuck 2 months ago
Some people have been told, for many months before you were here, to fix some very basic shit and they reply by telling us we don't know shit about them, or that they are unfixable, or insist the root of their problem is they don't fuck enough women.
Just like you've been told to stop your oneitis bullshit a billion times, but you at least have been showing definite progress for the last weeks.
Now, I don't downvote unless people are combative, but I can understand those who lose patience with the same repetitive emotions puke posts month after month.
At some point, downvotes become a signal to tell others: Don't waste your time with this guy, he doesn't want your help and will ignore you, or even attack you for helping him.
User4566 2 months ago
I’ve been downvoted before. It just means that others don’t agree with my point of view on some things, it’s not a personal rejection of who I am. I hate to say this but you need some thicker skin.
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User4566 2 months ago
I get it, but most people find it easier to downvote rather than argue or explain why you’re wrong.
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User4566 2 months ago
I accept you. You’re welcome to post whenever you want bud.
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Lone_Ranger 2 months ago
Maybe people down vote because you have a long history of deranged and stupid posts, that include admitting to criminal offences, encouraging others to do so, threatening others with violence and just generally being a retarded douchebag.
The very fact that you expect people NOT to down vote you is proof of your entitlement complex. You fail to see that it's not YOU they are downvoting, its what you write that is getting downvoted. Anybody that posted what you post would get down voted.
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Lone_Ranger 2 months ago
carry on dude, everyone is laughing at you. I'm not going to tell you why
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MentORPHEUS Endorsed Contributor 2 months ago
Personally attacking someone in your own tone policing thread. Now that's rich.
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