A cautionary tale: A long time ago, I decided to settle down. I got myself a wife with a traditional profession (teacher), and we played house together, had two children, and everything was fine. I nearly forgot about The Red Pill and its teachings.
As the kids took up so much time, we managed to maintain just a basic level of life outside of them. But as the children grew older and easier to handle, my wife decided to lose some weight and reengage in her social life. That's when the sirens started blaring!
Many of you ask, "Do I need to lift?" Yes, you do. I never stopped lifting and never will. As the sirens sang, I doubled down on my routine and began shredding.
Another truth: All women are the same, even my traditionally-minded wife. So, one day, she suggested an open marriage. You can imagine my response: "Hell yeah!" She was taken aback by my enthusiasm — truth be told, being with the same girl for my entire life was a sacrifice I was willing to make, but it was a sacrifice nonetheless. My other rationale was this: she would either sleep with other men behind my back, or we would have a non-exclusive arrangement. If I had chosen the path of beta provider, at least, I wouldn't be sitting at home with my head hanging down.
I suppose the outcome was inevitable: Women will be women, and if I wanted to have children and a legacy, I had to make some trade-offs.
So, I got my plates spinning and began enjoying a richer life for it. I also have more free time now.
As I've written this down, I'm considering sharing this diary entry. It might help someone who is contemplating settling down and starting a family. Here are my takeaways:
- Lift and stay in good shape throughout your life.
- All women are the same. Don't resent them; deal with it.
- Do the chores, or you will live in a pigsty, and your house will fall apart.
- Never marry.
- Having children is not for everyone, but for me, it is most fulfilling. (I have to teach my son Red Pill from an early age)
Problematic_Browser 1 1y ago
The red pill cannot be unswallowed.
Bozza 1y ago
Thanks for the contribution.
I must admit I was expecting this to be another sad tale of a good man slipping back into beta behaviors and getting fucked over. The fact this has been handled as it it has is a breath of fresh air.
I'd be interested to hear how your wife has fared since the open relationship, and seeing your success at getting plates.
Good. I've seen all too many posters recently who think lifting is optional, and a lot of the fitness related posts are pretty dogshit. I've been working on a post series in my free time to bring some quality lifting advice back to TRP.
Unstirred0067 1y ago
Pushed her ego, but she realized that man who are putting up with a thirty years old women with two kids are suckers. Most of them living in a no sex marriage and cheating on their wife's
I am not gonna lie. It is hard and I am not drowning in pussy as the saying goes.
I have 2 plates and my wife. And honestly I enjoy my wife the most. And guess who rediscovered her sex drive... so never drop the plates.
And who do I fuck: a girl who needs some rough sex after her ltr and a "hotwife" (her words) in an one side open relationship.
So I wouldn't say that I didn't fuck up.
Durek_The_Bald 1y ago
Handled it like a champ, it seems to me. And now you've got a pretty decent setup too. You've got the stable two-parent environment for your kids, you've got sexual variation covered through a rotation of three women, and your wife gets a reality check as to who her best hypergamous option is (hence the rediscovering of her sexuality).
So I'd be interested in hearing how you still think you fucked up. Because I don't see how you could've handled it any better given the circumstances (kids/stability to consider).
Unstirred0067 1y ago
As Desaint pointed out below, there were red flags I ignored. Up until now, I thought a teacher would be a good choice. Are kindergarten teachers any better?
I started to get a dad bod. She still thinks I got on board with the diet to support her, when in fact, I had to lose weight too.
Stopped having a social life - in part due to COVID, but no excuses.
If I had never heard of TRP, this would have been a sucker punch. With TRP, I saw it coming at the last moment but still got punched right in the face because I let my guard down.
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Bozza 1y ago
Lmao, the only girl I know who became a teacher was a complete whore. Cheated on her boyfriend all the time and would get railed by anyone (except her boyfriend)
Unstirred0067 1y ago
On point.
Yes.
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Unstirred0067 1y ago
Hindsight 20/20 and she was a plate first so might be a red flag in itself:
Pros:
And don't get me wrong. She is indeed a great women and a great mother. We still have a lot of fun together and there are no hard feelings. It's just AWALT.
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Unstirred0067 1y ago
Bottom line of the story sure is: don't marry your plates
whytehorse2021 1y ago
Weird. Sounds more like a FWB than LTR. She's just not having any luck monkey-branching. Chad just doesn't want to wife up an old married mom or "hotwife" or whatever. If it were me, I'd stop trying to create the illusion of a married couple. You're not married. Your vows are meaningless. You have taken on the role of her father by providing protection, provisioning, and parental investment while she goes out and gets preggo/STDs by other men.
I had a similar situation in my marriage but the roles were reversed. I was the one who was cheating. I was the one who asked to go non-exclusive(after getting caught). Basically I'm the hoe, lol. She told me she's not like that and she doesn't want to be with other men. So we came up with a don't ask/don't tell policy. I then started applying red pill to our marriage and it made her more attracted to me and she started draining my balls to the point I couldn't cheat.
I think the underlying lesson in all this is you can't make a hoe into a housewife. That's sort of like saying AWALT but it has accountability for women and the choices they make and the vows they break.
Unstirred0067 1y ago
Thanks for your reply, I missed that tone from the old TRP here
whytehorse2021 1y ago
You're welcome. I think there's a larger community of married red pill guys over on reddit but I never really jived with them and their "OWN YOUR SHIT" mantra.