Sounds like you are suffering the effects of the 'consumer' mindset. We live in an age where there is basically no ideology. Nobody seems to believe in the big ideas any more, like religion or socialism or anything that is bigger than themselves. The way we got here was by immersing ourselves in the cult of the individual (focus on self) and consumerism, which is the belief system of late stage capitalism. Right now, consumerism is really the only accepted secular belief system. Our entire society and political systems are all orientated towards the maximisation of consumption, regardless of consequence.

A side effect of this that people can end up treating 'dating' the exact same way as they treat the consumption of other luxury goods. The one thing that consumers all have in common is that they are never happy, as soon as they get what they wanted, they want the next thing. This is how women end up with shoe collections and 35 handbags, and how men end up dreaming of an underground parking system because there is no more space for their car collection. Acquisition is the only thrill. Once you have the handbag / rare 911, the thrill is gone.

Does this sound familiar? Once you get the girl, you loose interest. Maybe the solution is to try and find purpose. Could it be that you have turned 'game' into a quest, that it has taken the place that hunting took in cave man times? this would explain things. Maybe you need to find a higher purpose or calling, other than conquering women. I fell into this trap myself as a young man, and the more 'conquests' I notched up, the more cynical I became. I started to view women as a commodity.

You say you can't imagine spinning plates for another 10 years - I can see what you mean. It seems empty and unfulfilling. Theres' nothing wrong with wanting a proper relationship. We've all met guys that stayed in the single game too long. they end up jaded and lonely. Sure, they can stay in the singles game longer than women, because there is no 'wall' for men, but I'm not sure that it brings any joy in the end.

Men bond after mating. Thanks to birth control, that isn't happening for you. After about 6mos your body is saying the woman is infertile.

(most girls I meet have dozens of red flags or not my type)

Sounds like you are correctly (not) getting entangled with these women. good.

what does (not my type) mean?

Most women, are not worthy of commitment. The Higher value you are, it gets worse. They have to add "value" to your life.

How can a girl add value to you? What does she need to bring to the table?

I’ve only found myself colder and less able to bond as the years and body count rack up. After you’ve cut off some genuinely good women because they want marriage, you get a heart of stone.

I'm reaching my goals, and beautiful women come in and go out of my life

This is b/c you are suffering from "long-BP mindset syndrome", to paraphrase the current thing. What I mean is, you're entire life, from the youngest years, you saw men pairing with women. In real life, in movies, in stories on media. You were told "love" is the driving imperative in m-f relations. You were told to find it by finding the one and "bond with her".

But then you found TRP and saw that "the one" is a myth and "the bond" is actually building trust through habituation. You habituate trust to her, by her not breaking it. That's it. Anything else, like similar goals or interests is added bonus, not a requirement, not the core ingredient for "bond", instead it's the pepsi to the burger and fries. You can have pepsi, but water or nothing will be fine too, as long as you trust the core of burger and fries is there.

That habituation is possible b/c she stays with you. She stays with you b/c she's attracted and you are attracted to her. That's it, there's no magical ingredient besides that. IOW by understanding the m-f dynamics you took away the myth of "mysterious bond" connecting you both.

You can prove this by just acting beta/BP with a girl that "loves you", the girl you build the bond with. She will simply turn the lightswitch on you, hence the name of the effect. The bond/love is gone literally in one second, b/c you failed one too many shit tests or showed one too many weaknesses. That's all it takes - and no amount of "bond" can fix that.

You want a bond, but the bond is precluded on her attraction to you. IOW the bond exists ONLY in your head, as an idea of "something more" than just pure attraction.

All the things she admires and likes about you won't fix the fact that she's not attracted. All the things you like and admire about her won't fix the fact that she got fat and you aren't attracted to her anymore.

Long story short, you were indoctrinated by entire civilisation into thinking the BP understanding of the m-f relationships is the real one. You were told to bond, but the bond isn't there when you first date, it's only appears after longer time and it's ONLY in your head. She doesn't think about this, nor does she look for this. Only you do.

Love is conditional. Doesn't mean you can't have a great relationship you seek to have, it only means there are conditional requirements you were not told about.

I know the redpill is all about spinning plates, and focusing on your goals. That's what I'm doing. But I'd lie if I didn't crave for a relationship deep inside.

It's normal - even for red pill men - to want a woman in your life who doesn't give you a reason to ditch her. If it wasn't, we wouldn't have all this talk of vetting strategies and red flag awareness. There would be less of a point to that if the end game was simply to spin plates until retirement. Even spinning plates usually has the expressed purpose of building abundance, and having options, so that you can upgrade your best option to a higher status at some point - rather than choosing from a place of scarcity.

Now, there are guys out there who've made a conscious decision never to cohabitate, marry or to have kids. That is what MGTOW is (ideally). And that's fine, but most red pill men (at least in this space) don't consider themselves MGTOW - which means most red pill men use the toolbox of TRP to eventually have something "more meaningful" or whatever.

There's nothing blue pill about wanting that per se. But that depends on how you frame it, and what your expectations are. If it's "red pill toolbox to reach blue pill goals", then it's blue pill. So when you use words like "bond", or "my type", my suspicion is you still have blue pill expectations of women, and the kind of value they can bring to your life or not.

I've written at least one post before on "wanting a dude with a vagina". I'll try to find it, and link it here. Here: https://www.forums.red/p/theredpill/319083/hidden_gem_post_that_sums_up_many_men_s_rp_journeys/7795872/

(check out the other answers too)

Basically, you probably have some adjustment to do as for what you can expect of women, so that you can learn to appreciate what they realistically can bring to the table (being good chameleons), and ditch expectations of whatever they can't be (dudes with vaginas).

You're 25, so you're in no rush to figure this out. But it might be good for you to give actual LTRs a go. It's not like it's so hard to get out of a non-cohabiting LTR anyways. That too is just for practice, figuring out some other nuances of the game, learning how to lead and to shape an arrangement to be more to your liking. Women are generally fairly shapeable from a guy they're into.

So if they're good prospects, there are a lot of things about them you don't have to put too much stock in from the getgo. Like their "opinions" or "interests" etc. I mean, these things matter, but probably not as much as you think long term. Even the most hardened feminist would turn from the dark side if she had a shot at having a strong man in her life (not that you should make it that hard for yourself though).

Women are essentially chameleons. By and large, they shape-shift to fit the guy they're into. And that's something to really internalise, so that you can interpret that behaviour correctly, and captain them into becoming good 1st officers for you. But for that to happen, you're probably going to have to give some of them a bit more of a chance than you're doing currently. To internalise that dynamic is what is most likely to build relationships that are the most enjoyable to both him and her. She's the chameleon, he's the leader, she projects herself onto him. That is the most congruent dynamic with what we are; leaders (men) and chameleons (women).

As for your blue pill friends, I wouldn't put too much stock in how they describe their relationships. Most likely, if they really are blue pill, they're the ones playing out the role of chameleon in their relationships. The "bond" that they express is merely them projecting onto their girlfriends. And they're emotionally married to the idea of that working out, and them not being sexually frustrated. It doesn't work long term, unless your only measure of relationship success is staying together. Obviously, there's no limit to how much you can cuck yourself just to stay together, but I wouldn't call that "success" or "working out".

Sounds like you hope women will somehow magically turn out differently to how they actually are.

Well hold tight, you're in luck...... in a few years you'll be dating 30 year olds, and they will PRETEND to be everything you think you want from them.