So this week is my 25th anniversary. We homeshool our 6 six kids. I've got a good job, a gorgeous wife that fucks me like a pornstar everyday, sometimes thrice... but she has demoted herself to FWB.
Enter mid-40s midlife crisis... never got to have "fun" in her youth and do things on her own. Hates her own children, but doesn't want to abandon them. Wants to live in a shitty apartment with roommates or a trailer on her own.
Enter bumble. 100+ matches a day with hot guys that want to fuck her. She's going on 5+ dates a day. She's collecting orbiters. Nothing better than guys who are obsessed with her, and have no life outside paying attention to her. Got a bartending job at the scariest dive honky-tonk in the state. Dresses like a stripper. Loves hearing all the old guys beg her to show her tits and threaten to bend her over the bar. Psychos follow her to her car after shift.
Only fucks the guys she can "see a life" with... but she is a sucker for manipulative narcissists. So guys that pretend to be super into her and deceive her into thinking they're standup, rich, and together get lucky. Comes home crying when she realizes her new "exclusive" boyfriend (that she wasn't being exclusive with) was also trying to fuck her fat disgusting friend.
BTW... I am beyond financially fucked. I guess I'm just laughing at this until I decide to eat a bullet.
dongking 1y ago
She has been demoted to FWB? Sounds more like you have been demoted to a cuckold.
Kick that slut out.
hannulv 1y ago
That ship has sailed, brother. I'm peter peter fucking pumpkin-eater.
You must not know the law, because I couldn't legally kick her out if she had a mile long line of guys outside the bedroom door waiting to make deposits. And if I could get her to leave, she'd get some 70% of my income with alimony and child support, and I'd end up not even being able to care for them. If it goes to war, I'm just going to opt out.
If I'm dead or a homeless drug addict, then the gravy train will end, and she will end up having to marry one of the rich, fat, bald simps that's obsessed with her... and then she will feel unfulfilled again.
wswZtyqNGQ 1y ago
It's amazing what white trash will do with unlimited money and no accountability.
Pfizer 1y ago
WTF I read here.
It have to feel like watching yourself in Interstellar.
I hope you lost some money in casino seeing this approaching.
whytehorse2021 1y ago
Sounds like my mom. Kick her to the curb. Get a hot young Asian wife.
hannulv 1y ago
I'm done with investing in women.
whytehorse2021 1y ago
You don't invest in them. You go to their country and have a low cost of living and put your dick in them. Get your kids into internet academy and take them along. That may not be practical with your job but you can bring them to you.
MrSupreme 1y ago
You don't have to be all defeated about it, change that attitude and then begin investing in your own well being,as little as it may be it beats drowning in self pity
Durek_The_Bald 1y ago
Shit situation.
If you haven't already, you should consult a lawyer on how to best prepare to avoid alimony, avoid losing your pension, and maximizing custody. I'm thinking stuff like cutting down on your own (registered) income for X amount of time, getting her to increase hers, spending more time with the kids etc.
If she wants to work more, pounce on that, make it work to your advantage. If she wants to "live in a shitty apartment with roommates or a trailer on her own", then great; that's her moving out of the matrimonial home. Encourage her to do that, frame it as "let's try that for a while " or something.
Like i said, consult a lawyer on all angles, if you haven't already. There's the law, and then there are ways around the law, proper stealthy preparation. You can always bounce back from merely dividing assets, even if she ends up taking most of it. But what you probably want to avoid is the breadwinner/housewife dynamic for as long as you have to until pulling the plug.
coolsocks00 1 1y ago
Yeah this... and start secretly logging everything that counts towards neglect of the kids. Take pictures and document everything that puts her in a bad light. Pray she fucks up badly one day and you already have a long record of the shit she is doing to the family.
hannulv 1y ago
Sorry guys, I'm not a war-time consigliere. I'm not gonna do a war. I'd rather see her get her shit together and get on her feet. While I'm hurt, this is not just some dumb bitch to me. This is my best friend for my whole adult life. We've been through a lot of shit and she's taken a lot of bullets for me. I could fuck her over a hundred ways to Sunday, but I'm not gonna.
coolsocks00 1 1y ago
Huh.. well my main point is it's better to have the option to, if the need arises and she goes even more batshit, than to not have enough ammo to do anything at that point
Durek_The_Bald 1y ago
I'm not saying you should go to war. I'm saying you should prepare, so as to increase the odds of a fair outcome for all parties, including the six kids. The more you, as a man, are in control of proceedings, the more likely it is that everyone benefits. If you think you eating a bullet is the best outcome for your wife and your kids, then you're not thinking clearly.
fuegobuttstuff 1y ago
You seem like Ben Aflec in Deep Water
Y bro
Pfizer 1y ago
Both coolsocks and Durek input is so true. You all are in great position today (except obvious) cause you took them here. Take the power in your hands if.you dont want them to.end up in.shit.
One of my familly members has his crackhead son sleepin on bench and all other kids turned against by mother.
You know what comes from woman being captain, even if she seems capable today.
coolsocks00 1 1y ago
Dont get married boys.
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hannulv 1y ago
There were plenty of flags along the way... over 25 years with a considerable number of ups and downs. The biggest red flag was that I ultimately trusted another person with my future and happiness, which was retarded. I wish Rev AJ Tucker at the Vegas Chapel of Love had just shot me in the head during my vows. (It's a tale told by idiot, full of sound and fury, signifying nothing.)
More recently (prob a year) the red flags have been pretty visible. Fell in with 'wild friends'... drugs... constant complaining about wishing she never had kids (after desperately desperately wanting more kids.)
She's always had issues keeping girlfriends, and has always been a doormat with them. Suddenly, she gave up on relationships with most girls and insisted she could be friends with guys. She started collecting orbiters, and no longer cared that all the people she talked to wanted to fuck her. She's not into girls, but she kept lesbian orbiters in addition to guy orbiters as long as they paid enough attention to her. She would flirt with her orbiters just enough to keep them on the hook, but never put out, and managed to keep several for months before they moved on.
In the beginning I attempted boundaries around this, but the boundaries were ignored, first with lies, and then with "its no big deal." So I just readied myself for the end at that point.
According to her... everything in her life was unfulfilling and miserable...
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