She (HB 5) was the first girl I fingered. It didn't feel like a relationship and she wasn't pushing for one, so I thought I could get FWB outta this. But these text messages tell a different story. https://imgur.com/a/wsdxRJt
Waited to see if she'd talk to me in Bio class today, and we didn't talk (just a mutual "hey" at the end of class when I had to walk back down the hallway to get something I forgot). Very shy, yeah but now she's just straight up ignoring my texts. I honestly thought we were building a good friendship. We had good times together hanging out (at least that's what she said). Now I'm not simping, it's just all that effort building this friendship down the drain now. It contributes to my loneliness just a little, I need to focus on myself more anyways. This reminds me of Rollo's "past provisioning doesn't guarantee future commitment."
I guess I shouldn't be surprised this happened, just a little saddened. I've been working hard and consistent to make friends, and this is just one less person now. As far as gaming goes, I've already spoken with the HV men from the gym and they said to stop talking to 5s. Some of them can be broken and aren't worth my time gaming. I feel a little relieved now, no more 5s. Only 6s and up baby.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
She says she can do Sunday and you responded with "maybe we can do Sunday"
You never once confirm that that day works at all and then shoot her a "how was your morning" text (don't send those kind of texts.)
You also then respond to her text on Sunday well into the evening essentially further blowing her off from the original Sunday text you never committed to by further saying you need to rest (don't send girls smileys unless you're responding to a smiley)
Why did you never commit to Sunday, she basically was telling you that worked for her. You literally left the door open without going through it
Was your goal to look busy/unavailable? I don't understand how you didn't say "yes Sunday works (insert time here)"
imtranscending 1y ago
I was out of reception Saturday, and sunday just wasn't a good day. I wasn't trying to look busy, I was genuinely tired. Do you not see how she's ignoring me now? This is the second time this has happened and I'm done with it man.
And the message I sent on Sunday started in the morning. I also second a second text in the evening. She literally takes 5-10 hours to respond to my messages, she's not interested.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
I'm literally telling you why she's probably ignoring you man. You essentially turned her down
That had nothing to do with you shooting yourself in the dick by answering her plans with "maybe" instead of a solid "yes" and s time. What was "maybe" supposed to accomplish?
At least tell her you lost service instead of "how's your morning". You shouldn't even send a how's your morning text to a woman. It's needless comfort and attention.
If a customer wants to buy your product so you tell them "maybe" or do you sell it to them? I don't know what you were trying to accomplish there.
That's not how your text looked. Almost looked like you had this kickass weekend where you blew her off of plans she was trying the make with you and needed to rest instead of hanging out with her.
Interested enough to make plans you wouldn't make in return.
I'm not gonna lie, there's a number of shooting yourself in the dick in the whole plan making process.
If she lost interest cut your loss but you definitely fucked up a bit on texting
kv2_0833 1y ago
Bruh ngl your texting game ass I'm not surprised she's mad at you, you ignored her first about Sunday lol. Why did you text her on Sunday if you were not going to meet with her??? Before she says do you want to try for Sunday, you give a weak response: "Maybe". You hit her up Sunday, she responds later, just to try to force a flex on how you're busy? She's probably wondering why tf you hit her up then.
Other than that, your Tuesday text is also too close-ended. If you want a response, you need to ask a direct question. Just tell her, I'm going X, wanna come?
imtranscending 1y ago
She's only ignoring me cause she's mad, you sure it's not cause she just isn't into me? Despite being bad a texting, if she's in my frame she'd be like "I can't do this time" or "yeah that works" or "oo that sounds nice, :)".
Yup. I said maybe because I was just coming back from a camping trip, so I wasn't sure. I don't have to give her all the details to my life, not even tryna flex. I've been gradually losing losing patience with her.
kv2_0833 1y ago
Way too early to tell if she's not into you. Sometimes I've had them go cold for a week or two just to come back more interested. I'm leaning towards mad because you did kind've blow her off in a way.
Well here's the issue, yes she doesn't need to know the details in your life, but then you're sharing irrelevant unimportant details i.e: "Been going hard the last week :)". Also you make a point about frame but this isn't a process that happens immediately, there's usually some feeling each other out before she gets completely in your frame. I know you said maybe because of camping but that's the issue, you should've just said no, I'm busy, I'll let you know when I'm free etc. Saying maybe we can do Sunday and then hitting her up Sunday without making plans, just idle talk, confuses her or makes her feel like you don't give a shit at all. I know that she needs to know she isn't a priority but that's the wrong way to go about it.
Anyways, I'd stop thinking about it, I personally think she will come around, if she does, just act nonchalantly like nothing ever happened. If she doesn't and even if she does, go talk to more women
whytehorse2021 1y ago
I'd totally ghost a guy if he didn't fuck me right away. Hate those time wasters.
imtranscending 1y ago
You’re joking right?
whytehorse2021 1y ago
Think of it from a woman's perspective.
imtranscending 1y ago
I am, and that’s the joke right? They wanna withhold sex for as long as possible
whytehorse2021 1y ago
If you're not hawt then yes.