We do bdsm regularly. I used to tie her up and spank her with a paddle and she loved it.

We went long distance for about a month, i came back and she didnt want me to spank her with a paddle again. But we still did the whole bdsm thing: dominant sex, handcuffs, tied her up, leash, etc.

Lets me choke her, pull her hair, spank her ass (with my hand), but i thought it was a bit weird.

I hate to jump to conclusions here, but is this usually a sign that im no longer the alpha in her life anymore..? Like i have been slotted to BP Boyfriend, and she maybe found a Chad that she lets spank her.

Because i know she loves it, just find it so odd and its something that lingered in my mind afterwards.