Hey there, upon recognizing I've slowly been developing a sort of minor oneitis with one girl I've known for the past 2 years, I've decided now's the time to either cut it off completely or do something radical in the hopes of salvaging something as a hail mary (what that would be, I do not yet know).
When we first met she was the one that looked me up on social media after a photoshoot we had together. (We are both models). All good and dandy, dynamic was okay. Then we started hanging out every now and then, but she found out I'm 2 years younger than her, which might've fucked the vibe. Since then, we've gone on trips with other chicks from my friend group, we've slept in the same bed multiple times, cuddled and what not. Not a single smooch though. She has always been extremely neutral about everything regarding me in any sort of light other than friends. We have a great time when we hang out, and I am confident she enjoys my company a lot.
Now that you have the backstory, here's my question: she's always down to meet, always down to have a drink with me, to spend the night over at some cottage on a trip, to sleep literally on me in a tent, yet whenever I make a move towards anything, absolutely zero reaction. I put my arm around her: no reaction. I lay my hand on her thigh while I'm driving; the same story. We sit on a bench, or lay in bed: always juuuust out of range, for me to have to stretch out to get to her. Why does that happen and is there anything I can do about it?
I just cant wrap my head around how this works. I've been with maybe 10 chicks till now. Im 19, she's 21 and in college, and I've never encountered this before;
Me making this post is obvious signs of oneitis, I get that, and thus I'm most likely going to just stop the contact because there's no use in keeping it since our relationship has been quite stagnant for quite some time now. This post is an attempt at analyzing a past dinamic of mine to avoid and recognize any mistakes I've made to better prepare myself for future encounters. Any thoughts, tips or recommendations?
Sorry for grammatical errors.
whytehorse2021 2y ago
I think you're supposed to put your dick in her. You don't escalate, that's your problem.
coolsocks00 1 2y ago
I cant wrap my head around how you can do all this and not escalate further. Like not even once.
Key words: polarize and escalate.
When you're alone, sit down right next to her. Make some fun banter. Put your hand on her thigh but dont linger. Make her laugh. Confident smile and eye contact, no wavering. Triangular gaze on her eyes and mouth. Brush some hair off her face. Grab her neck slowly and pull her in for a kiss.
If she doesnt resist you keep going. Kiss her but be the one to pull back first. Grab her waist and pull her onto you. Gradually get more intimate with kino, and carry her to bed or whatever.
If shes hesitant and wont kiss you back in the first place just keep your knowing smile and tell her it's time you leave. Then you fuck off and never speak to her again unless she offers up her ass on a plate so to speak.
TheRealGeb 2y ago
To be honest, despite the fact that she is attractive, she's one of the few girls I did not feel a strong desire for at the start. She's lovely and all, but I wasnt really bothered at the time. Only recently did I start to think about her in a different light and thought it might be worth a try (worst case she runs off, but I dont really care that much about it).
Those were some great point to refresh my memory, thank you for the advice!