I went on facebook dating and matched with a girl.
I asked what her interests were and she said 'Yes, you ;P' It was a 'Fuck yeah' from her side.
She asked me to add her on snap and then removed her facebook dating profile, shes 19 and i am 21.
The problem is I dont use snapchat. So she would send snaps to me and I would took a w hile to respond. And when I would ask followup questions she would just read them and not answer them. Again i am not familiar with how you should use snapchat.
So one day I sent her a snap and she did not read it for very long (like two days) so I click her profile and the 'Snap' button is gone, the location map is gone, everything, I assume that means she removed me.
Was I too boring? Idk what to do on snap, I think the app is retarded and I am very busy with sleeping much, getting up at 6 AM to do crossfit and then go to work. I have an moderate face, not ugly but not hot, but she fell immediately in a Fuck Yeah kind of way.
Would the lack of sending snaps back caused her to unfriend/block me?
RedPill115 2y ago
This is the best and easiest it will ever get with girls.
What she desperately wants is to get out from her parents house, using the age-old method of sleeping with and dating a guy, and moving into his place.
It's really simple.
If she's a real person then, yes, you were to boring.
Not because you are a wizard at snapchat - snapchat is boring - but because girls who are interested in your are always waiting for you to find a reason to get together in person. They're never going to do it first. You are always expected to do it first.
The problem is less that you were boring on snapchat and more than you weren't getting together in person. Do you have your own place? If you do, and you're not inviting her over to do something, you're failing.
The other possibility is that her account is actually a bot, and the bot accounts are getting deleted. There's a funny meme about "potato" where people will ask the other person "If you're a real person write back 'potato' and they other account won't do it - because it's a bot that just autoposts the same script over and over.
The girls who are worth interacting with also think it's retarded. Like, they think it will be fun, then it's not and they act real weird not intentionally but because they find it boring compared to in-person stuff and they're bad at it and it's to uninteresting to try to get good at.
You are going 100% the wrong way, girls aren't going to chase you down just because you're "hot" - you're not a girl, it doesn't work that way for guys.
If she was a real person (you never know until you see them in person) - like all women - she just expects you to make "getting together in person" to happen.
TestMan 2y ago
I checked and she is a real person, so the mistake was me not 'pushing' for getting together in person, ill try that next time.
Toxicking101 2y ago
The bigger more pressing question is: why do you give a fuck?
TestMan 2y ago
Good question, I just wanted to know what I could do better for next time, I dont care about this girl in particular, and this is the first time I throw myself on the dating scene, I just want to learn from it so it does not happen again.
Toxicking101 2y ago
My only advice would be don’t associate with women who use childish apps like Snapchat, I mean she’ll be snapping 40 plus guys all giving her a stream of validation, there’s really no point trying.
TestMan 2y ago
True, i dont even know the customs of the app, should you react on every snap sent to you? When I would do that, like ask a question, she would just open it. Again I dont care about this particular girl, I just wanted to check if I did something wrong so I can avoid that, but I realise more and more she's just not my type qua behaviour. Snapchat is for retards
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2y ago
A lot of "girls" run scams doing that. They add you, get you to move over to snap for either illegal services or blackmail and that's their schtick.
They often block you or unmatch you on the original place you matched after getting you over to snap so you can't report them on the original place you met.
The second my matches say "SnapChat" I immediately unmatch them. Or if they have snap in their bio that's an instant left-swipe from me
TestMan 2y ago
I vetted her account and found out her real facebook, she has a gay best friend who goes shopping with her :| (So i wouldnt keep contact with her already) Only snaps she sent me were of shows she was watching or her own face, I thought about any scams etc, maybe getting money out of me, but she would not, she still lives with her rich parents, so in that way she is legit
Still a good tip though to unmatch/leftswipe girls with snap, ill follow that
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2y ago
There's a possibility she was legit but every tinder girl I have ever gotten snap from was a scammer or illegal sex worker.
Maybe Facebook snap girls are different but just giving a fair warning of what's out there from what I've seen.
A girl who is interested will have no reason to hop off the dating app you met on before meeting you. A number might get exchanged but they won't try to change platforms
NeoSpartan 2y ago
Yeah I know what you are talking about, but those are immediately obvious. I think it's more of a sexting thing or something that some younger girls are into. No idea how to escalate though. I think I was doing well for a bit. She sent me one of her in a bra, but then I talked too much. Lost the mysterious thing. Anyway I've had a girl ask me to prove I wasn't a catfish on snap before so it also works as a vetting thing. And actually, the girl who sent me the bra pic only did so after I sent her one of those red snaps that mean you took it right then from your phone. Blue snaps are just photos from your gallery.
TestMan 2y ago
This one was very legit, I could see her real FB profile etc, I think she just got bored or found someone else, not much fault from my side, other than game and keeping convo alive
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2y ago
I have no doubt that there are real girls who genuinely just want to sext. My philosophy on the matter is better safe than sorry when it comes to sexting as the person will either fuck in person or won't.
Becomes very dicey with online strangers who ask for Snapchat
NeoSpartan 2y ago
Yeah I have no idea, she texted me like 10 sentences total, so probly not. She was real though, she sent the red snaps at me, one snap was her being angry at something I said to her but it was also the spiciest so go figure and she also saved an ab pic I sent. Anyway if I were to send anything too compromising I'd obviously keep my face out of frame. And I agree with your point, it is stupid, but she also lives sort of nearby so... low time investment, possible reward. Either way, pretty sure that road is closed. She stopped sending me stuff like 2 weeks ago.
What are the risks though? I figure as long as you keep your face out of frame you'd be good.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2y ago
My comment was more so if you are including identifiable features such as your face. Not much they can do with neck and below unless you have some ultra identifiable tattoo or something.
There's an entire Reddit sub devoted to victims of this and I blocked a person once for very heavily insisting I send something with face. Not worth. They were asking me a bunch of weird questions about job, money etc.
That's why I warn people about it
NeoSpartan 2y ago
Oh shit. Yeah loads of red flags. I've not experienced that yet. Did accidentally add a couple hookers though. And a camwhore. Oddly, the camwhore only had a 600 snapscore, which I thought was very odd. Must've been a noob. She did claim to be 19.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2y ago
Yeah, I started doing some internet research on these snapchat scams and found a lot of unpleasant info. The camwhore thing is also a scam. I entertained talking to one for a bit for shits and giggles and they led me to an obscure site where I had to enter my credit card to join their free stream guestlist. I said nope and blocked.
I deleted my snap after looking into a number of illegal tactics used by snapchat users. I am convinced that they are all scams. I don't trust a single dating app profile that hands out a snap
NeoSpartan 2y ago
Oh, well I just don't even get the point of that in the first place. The internet has like shitloads of free porn anyway, why pay money for porn? It's always perplexed me how so many of them are able to turn a profit.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2y ago
I know right? Why do so many simps PAY for onlyfans etc. Makes no sense apart from them being able to message the chick
NeoSpartan 2y ago
I think if I was in that situation I'd just buy a VR thing and one of those jerk off machines, be cheaper. Makes no sense.
Messaging chicks sucks, it's like a big part of my day now and half the time it leads nowhere. Just find a fat girl or something if you wanna talk to a female so bad. The hottest ones are almost always the worst at talking anyway. In any case, it's a horrible industry and I'd like to see it to die.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2y ago
Exactly. I have hopes the industry will die as well but I see no end in sight of pure and utter simpery. As long as simps be simping this will go on
TestMan 2y ago
Good point, i'll keep that in mind
Kinda depressing to see that the only who would 'Fuck Yeah' me could actually be a scammer and if she is legit, unfriend me like this because I dont give enough attention. Would I be too ugly? I check almost all the boxes, height, jawline. But I also check some BB boxes, being a programmer, ADHD making me less dominant/more empathic.
Thanks for the tips though, ill keep them in mind.
i deleted my facebook dating, and I will lift/train more for myself, and I hope I will ever experience raw attraction.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2y ago
It's sad but those people are out there.
I would agree with your assessment that your face is moderate but that it's not a limiting factor. Here's why:
You could go for a shorter, more masculine hair style (not that yours is feminine, but you could maximize a masculine look. Yes, I also agree good jawline. Maximize the masculine look, that is my take, but I'm just one opinion.
Definitely lift more, you could definitely bulk up more to increase your SMV.
Smile more, I don't know what your normal resting face/expression is, but I think more facial energy would bump up your SMV. I can see it in your face that it would be a good look
Keep trying man, modern day dating is a shit-fest. The higher you up your value and focus on you the better time you'll have and more success you'll incur
TestMan 2y ago
Thanks man, this is me when smiling
I will make an appointment with the barber, I am better off going to a male barber aren't I? The one I go to, only girls work there (but its close to my work)
Regarding lifting and bulking, im gonna work on that
I really notice i am not worth more than some shit because I am young too and it really gonna take some work to up myself
thanks for all the tips man
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2y ago
No problem man.
As I thought, a smile was a cost-free addition to your appearance. Let it come in naturally and you should be set in that area.
I don't know that it necessarily matters the sex of the barber. I have personally never had a male cut my hair. Two girls at the local hairdresser give me a really good faded crew cut (faded on the sides). The rest aren't good at it, so your mileage my vary. Maybe males are better for all I know
I wouldn't have that negative outlook. Age is a factor but it's a factor that works in your favor in this case. You are young, so girls your age will not be expecting a highly established man. Work hard so that when you are 5 years older you'll be set when it matters more to that age group
TestMan 2y ago
I will,
glad I found the red pill and have (older/more experienced) men actually want to help me with solid, proven advice
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TestMan 2y ago
I can still see her snapscore, but I dont see the camera button, that means I cannot sent her personally a snap.
I dont see the map anymore, I tried removing her and adding her back again, but even though I could find her profile, when I clicked 'add' It would say User not found.
Good news tho, I didnt want her to see I tried to add her again, I'll just continue.
The part about sending shit to 100 guys at once is kinda depressing, I hate the app
NeoSpartan 2y ago
Well, you can always do the same.
mattyanon Admin 2y ago
Yeah, fuck knows. I think it deletes messages, so if you don't reply straight away you just forget about them. Seems retarded. Probably has a bf.
You should have moved her to something you are more familiar with.
Basically you'll never know.
Maybe she found someone else, maybe you ignoring her made her get bored.
TestMan 2y ago
This makes me feel like a clown in an army of 100s clowns and I got thrown off stage because i didn't dance hard enough
NeoSpartan 2y ago
Probably. I had this same thing happen to me. Kept sending me snaps of her clevage every day, she had impressive tits, after a few days she sent me one of her in a bra. I think I ruined it by being weird though lol. She hasn't unadded me though. I sent a gym pic the other day, maybe that'll catch her interest again, idk. Apparently talking is rare on snapchat. She sent me about 2 sentences over the course of a week. The majority was boob shots. No idea wtf she is/was thinking.