I just spent 3 hours video chatting with this girl that I met a few days ago, and was meeting all her online friends. I had no serious intentions but I did want to take her out drinking , perhaps hang out a few times. I did have a romancing interest, but as a risk-averse person, It wasn't going to be anything remotely pornhub worthy.
I get a phone call from my "ex" 3 hours into the group chat, because we're still close and we talk all the time. The new girl knew this from the start that we have a special bond even though we're not seeing each other anymore (ex lives 3000 miles away).
Out of nowhere she gets upset that I left the group video chat to answer that call, texts me abruptly that "your girlfriend is controlling" and "I don't want get in between you should focus on her", and "I'm not desperate enough to be with someone who has someone else".
She could easily have said "you're too immature for me" or "I'm looking for a serious relationships" or given me any other reason that is coherent, but no , it's "You and your ex seem like you love each other" and boom, she's gone.
Here I thought I was building a wholesome connection, but no, random jealousy bullshit even before anything got started....
Apparently it's not okay for me to have another friend in my life, but it's okay for me to spend 3 hours talking to all her friends.
placer 2y ago
Hold up here. Before fucking the girl, texting is only for logistics. Texting should be basic, minimal, and consist mainly of “when can we meet up and get together”. 3 hour video chats should only be done after you have fucked the girl and have started a LTR with her.
Others here will question the wisdom of doing 3-hour video chats at all, but as a tradcon my endgame goal has always been marriage and family, so I was willing to put up with three hour chats after fucking my future wife to get there.
The thirst is strong. Get less thirsty.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2y ago
Why? There's no better way to announce that you have nothing better to do
Don't video call for three hours, just arrange a time to get drinks. Your desires and behaviors are incompatible with each other
I don't know what you mean by this, but assume you are shying away from sexuality? Why? She'll go for a risk-taking Chad who will give her a pornhub worthy bang
I don't know why you are talking to girls about each other, of course there is going to be drama. They sound way too interconnected with each other and I don't know why you'd allow that to happen.
Also, wholesome connection? You said you only wanted to hang with her a few times, what did you actually want?
Yes, girls are fucking insane, but this isn't all her, you mismanaged multiple elements of this situation from the start.
fantantric 2y ago
I in fact didn't have anything better to do, and wasn't running a game at all. I literally just wanted to hang out, I was bored. I enjoyed the video chatting with her friends and the casual banter.
Was I supposed to run Chad Thundercock game when that wasn't my intention? If we had never gone out IRL that would have been completely fine with me.
I wish she had just said "You're not serious bf material" instead of trying to be my friend, shooting the shit and then just cutting me out all of the sudden on some jealousy excuse.
Anyway good riddance her behavior was leaning hinting on substance abuse and cock carousel burnout
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2y ago
I don't know what to say, on the one hand you're writing this off as if it didn't matter, on the other you felt the need to make a post about it
Do what you want with girls
whytehorse2021 2y ago
Gossiping with girls. If you want a real connection find some guys. These women are looking for a beta bux
mattyanon Admin 2y ago
She kind of has a point..... you ditched chatting with her to talk to your ex. That's pretty rude.
Women fundamentally misattribute everything, emotionally overreact, and when they talk it's nothing to do with the reality of the situation. Just how they are man. If you want a rationally coherent statement of fact: date a man.
And now you are misattributing.
"friends with ex" is one thing..... ditching girl and her friends to talk to your ex is quite another.
Growing 2y ago
Why the fuck do you still talk with your ex?
She's an ex for a reason. You are acting like a cuckold to her.
Special bond? You need to stop pedestalizing her.
O.k.. I'll stop at this point.
Dude, read and internalize the sidebar.
You are acting soy. Get better and shit like this will be a thing of the past.
All the best, bro.