I met this plat about 2 weeks back, 1st date - she could not take her eyes off me. but we did not kiss or fuck 2nd date - Everything good, we kissed, and played around a lil but no fuck. This date was last saturday I have been texting less, and taking long time to respond to her. Monday I ask if she wants to go to movie on tuesday evening, she. says she has plans. and suggests next sat. I do not respond for 2 days and Wed night, I say ok, lets do sat, if you confirm i can start looking for tickets. She did not respond yet. She already told me that its her Bday this coming sunday! Anyways, Im thinking nexting this one. Not sure what to do if she texts back, I feel like the right thing to do would be to completely ignore and Hard Next. What do you guys suggest?
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whytehorse2021 2y ago
I'm gonna agree with Danlong. With all the FDS twats running around I wouldn't be surprised if they have some strategy of trying to turn the tables on guys who play this game. Soft next. Her loss. Plenty of other women and bros out there that won't waste your time.
NeoSpartan 2y ago
What is FDS? Googled it but got some random company.
hannulv 2y ago
Female Dating Strategy. It is sort of like anti-pickup for post-wall girls.... A reddit group where they explicit set themselves up for lives of misery with their trained blue-pill plowhorses.
It's basically a strategy for maximizing betabux, with all the quiet parts said out loud. This is for post-wall girls who have given up on alphas and are looking to maximize their own security and comfort. They want to be fat and lazy and have a beta male completely under their thumb working exclusively for them.
They like to say stuff like "It's not deceptive to be enthusiastic when sleeping with someone you're unattracted to, because pair-bonding with a short term goal in sight is a perfectly valid reason for females to mate."
NeoSpartan 2y ago
Damn that's crazy, another good reason to avoid girls over 30 I guess huh?
NeoSpartan 2y ago
No, she was probably just busy. It was a tuesday dude. If you are gonna next her just over this tho you probably aren't really very into her. I'd next just based off that. Find a girl you like.
Danlong 2y ago
Not replying for two days in the age of IM apps is dumb. She knows what you're doing and is responding in kind.
johnnysmallseed 2y ago
Wrong. Scarcity works. How you feel about it is irrelevant. If you've ever been genuinely busy you'd know not to instantly reply to all messages because It's an invitation to hang out with that person. And when you are swamped with work and life then it's a natural response to prioritize. Her knowing you have priorities above her is attractive. You being instantly available is unattractive.
realfestivalking 2y ago
i was not sure if this is TRP for a min when these simps advising me to reply immediately and be available all the time.
Danlong 2y ago
You're thinking binary. There is a lot of space between replying immediately and replying after two days.
NeoSpartan 2y ago
Reply when you feel like replying, what's the point of playing games and purposefully waiting? Sounds like you are trying too hard to me.
Danlong 2y ago
THANK YOU! Someone talking like they live in the real world
NeoSpartan 2y ago
I always just assume that 90% of what is said on the internet is just lies lmao. That supposition has yet to lead me astray haha
johnnysmallseed 2y ago
Neo you give the worst advice on this forum. Why are you giving blue pill advice. This is what's wrong with this forum. A bunch of people who have a topical understanding of RP from either watching clips online or hearing the magic words from some guy on the internet.
NeoSpartan 2y ago
I found this forum through the tinder guide mallardcove wrote(don't use tinder much but it applies to other apps as well). Some good stuff in there, it helped my profile out. I'm not really knowledgeable about rp stuff, true. You don't think a fresh perspective might be useful? Ever hear the term "Echo Chamber?". Some people on here are looking for LTRs too, I've seen it.
My methods work too. I had second date sex with an 8.5 last fri night. She is even leaving in a month so I have a "plate" I guess without really looking for one. She also told me straight up she's fine with me dating other girls when I told her I'm really looking for an LTR but I don't mind us having some fun while she is in town. I also have a date with a 9 next friday, but I'll see the plate one next weekend too, or maybe this wed, depending. It's fine because if I like the 9 I'm gonna take things a bit slower with her, and if not of if she doesn't like me I'll just send out some likes and set up another date the weekend after.
If my advice is so bad, why am I so successful eh? I think you are inflexible bro. I'm even a manlet at 5'6 and I have no issues getting dates and sex with hot girls. What does this "blue pill" thing even mean? I don't get how my advice was bad, you still didn't explain it.
Just making claims is not an argument. What specifically about what I sad is wrong and explain why it's wrong. If you have a valid argument I'd love to hear it, but all I'm getting from you is buzzwords and spurious claims.
johnnysmallseed 2y ago
You give blue pill advice homie. Why are you questioning him and castigating him over creating scarcity? You should be supportive. I agree that it should be a natural state created by his actual business but that doesn't mean it doesn't work if he's doing it artificially.
NeoSpartan 2y ago
lol "homie". No wonder you don't know shit, and can't defend your positions. You sound like a 13 year old wigger kid who listens to rap all day. I was being supportive, and I was offering advice, not just condemnation. Constructive criticism is not the same thing as castigation.
johnnysmallseed 2y ago
Why so mad Neo? You need to get some pussy HOMIE.
NeoSpartan 2y ago
I just got some rofl. Read above. And I got it by not using retarded rapper vernacular or acting like a child. No wonder I'm slaying so hard if guys like you are indicative of my competition XD Thank you for your service kid. Keep that bar low. It's nice to not have to try very hard when I hop it ;D
johnnysmallseed 2y ago
Definitely not throwing a tantrum right now. If I was your dad I would put you in time out. You are acting up, HOMIE. Why can't we be friends. We are both men. why are you so mad NEO. I'm just being honest with you. You are giving Blue pill advice. I'm a brother. Stop looking at me as competition.
NeoSpartan 2y ago
XD my comment must be at least 10 characters.
RPEsq 2y ago
She gave you a date and you waited two days to confirm it lol.
Girl gives you a date to take her out. You agree, set the date, and then stop texting her. Strike while the iron is hot.
You blatantly ignored her text and her interest cooled.
Vadim971 2y ago
Completely agree
johnnysmallseed 2y ago
Don't ask permission to take her out. And movie dates are for 13 year Olds. Don't do it.
NeoSpartan 2y ago
I just did a movie date with lots of cuddling and a bit of kissing during the film and it led to sex back at my place after. You don't know what you are talking about. For a first date though, food and drinks followed by an activity with a lot of potential for physical touch and lighter fun is probably more ideal. For my current STR girl, first date, I took her to dinner and we had drinks and played pool after. It was good because there was a lot of potential for talk and touch and building physical chemistry and comfortability. Drove her home after and made out at the end. The classics are the classics for a reason. And I'm 28 dude, not 13. Movie dates are chill. Do them.
johnnysmallseed 2y ago
Exceptions to rules doesn't negate them. I am speaking on what works and doesnt work for most men. Generally speaking, movie dates are a bad idea when there are alternatives with a higher success rate for intimacy. Unless it's at your house movie dates generally do not work for most men.
NeoSpartan 2y ago
What ru talking about. Plenty of opportunities for physical intimacy at the movies. It's dark, relatively private, and everyone knows making out and some light petting is something that's expected on a date there. You have to get them comfortable with you touching them before you invite them to your house bro. The movies is a great way to do that.
johnnysmallseed 2y ago
I'll say it again, but slower. If it works for you great, but most men don't have that success rate on movie dates, especially if it's a first date. If you know her and have been intimate before then it's not a bad spot to go to but why there and not your house if you are already at that stage of intimacy. So again, salute to you if it works, but it doesn't for most men, so I wholly advise men against it.
NeoSpartan 2y ago
I've done second dates there multiple times, it's low pressure and chill. And I never said they were a good first date. But you are just making claims without any supporting evidence. Why are they so bad? What is your reasoning? I listed several reasons why they are good.
"why there and not your house if you are at that stage of intimacy?" Because I wasn't at that stage of intimacy yet, they were second dates. Their entire purpose was to build more intimacy, and they work well for that purpose for the reasons I listed above.
johnnysmallseed 2y ago
There's no reason for intimacy to occur from separate seats while the focus of the date is on a screen in front of you. And I am stating what most men will say. Not sure why you're picking this hill to die on when it's a well known observation in RP that movie dates are bad.
NeoSpartan 2y ago
The theatre I go to has moveable dividers :D Just pick a time when it gets dark during the movie and there is a bit of a lull in the story and go for it. You are too inflexible dude. How much success have you had using whatever your preferred methods are? I'm curious.
johnnysmallseed 2y ago
This is a place for RP discussion. Be honest or you will mislead men. As you are, you are being dishonest about movie dates success rate. But I will move forward and past that since you asked a good question. So if movie dates aren't it then what is?
I have a different background than suburban dating. I have a good success rate with meeting women at bars. The intent for sexual intimacy is set. We are both there to meet and there is no reason to prevent intimacy. Game is key here. 1 out of 10 nights I can get laid from a bar. I'm a 5 or 6 out of 10 in looks and I have been with 8s and a few 9s.
NeoSpartan 2y ago
Oh, I don't like bars. I've just been doing dating apps lately. Bars are indeed good for hookups, I agree, very easy really since the girls are drunk. But I'm not going for those at this point in my life. I do live in the suburbs yes, but near the city so dated some city girls, but I've not liked any of them so I switched to local now.
Movie dates seem good to me though. I've done quite a few. Good second date imo. Dunno what my looks rating is, probably fairly high, I have a six pack and a good face, but I'm also very short. I date 8s and 9s. Never studied game, but I think I have a good natural aptitude for it.
And thanks for actually giving some info this time lol. Maybe your movie date strat is off though, I genuinely disagree based on my own experience with them.