Dude, you're barking up the wrong tree. Look to guys for masculine stuff and girls for feminine stuff. You will never be able to have the sort of deep friendship you could have with a guy with a chica. If that's what you need to be fulfilled then you need to start dating guys.

I think men and women are great compliments to one another and better together than they are apart, but I will likely never have an amazing technical conversation with a woman. It's not that women aren't passionate and full of life, its that they couldn't give a shit. Girls are excited about people and relationships and human interactions. Guys are excited about other shit. If you want to see her eyes light up, bring out the feminine in her. Take her people watching. Go to a bar and make up backstories for the people at the other tables. What excites your woman is watching fuckboy Island and guessing whether DeShawn or Darius is the fuckboy.

What do girls do when they're together? They gossip. They share juicy tidbits of information about people and relationships designed to titillate each other. Men share juicy bits of info about stuff. Just realize that she is a girl and that its a good thing. After that, read TWOTSM. Your masculine, applied correctly, brings out her feminine. That is when the two of you shine together. Stop wanting her to be your bro.

Women - pretty much all women - have little interest in deeply specializing in anything like men do.
Politics and society spend time gaslighting you into thinking that men and women are similar by taking the 0.1% of women with high levels of testosterone and manliness and trying to pretend they're typical.

Try going to a quantum physicist and start talking about some quantum shit. You'll witness a 30 min monologue.

90% of the time by a man.

To be fair, I know a lot of men who love to "geek out" on stuff but then it comes time to actually use it in the real world and don't want to do it. They're comfortable talking about it, not facing a reality of whether it's actually important or useful for anything. That's more the typical male boringness.

This has been asked by men for millennia. At first, we thought they were just to busy taking care of the house so we made a bunch of machines to free up their time. Instead of reading the news and talking to us about deep topics, they would paint their nails and do their hair. Then we let them go to college and choose their careers. Instead of becoming interesting, educated people, they post pictures of their buttholes on onlyfans.

You see, once a woman reaches age 12 or so she decides that a man is going to take care of her for the rest of her life. This is where her mental maturity growth stops. This is one of those things where the exception proves the rule. If men stopped taking care of women, and we're slowly doing just that, they'd be forced to grow up and be respectable people to get what they want. We used to have a thing called finishing schools where women would go learn how to be adults in an adult relationship and develop their interests. They all disappeared in the 1960s and have been replaced by beauty pageants. It's kind of fun to watch old movies and see how wonderful the women were.

They get tingles from emotional stimulation not intellectual stimulation

Imagine it from their perspective, you've lived a good (or not so good) 10-12 years of your life and then bam, you start growing tits and and in a few years time your looks/pussy/sexual availability is all you have to have to get access to some chads, even if only a 5-minute pump and dump of alpha.

You're also told by media from your Disney days in daipers how men are supposed to do everything for you etc. Why would most people in that situation bother to develop a substantial repertoire of skills and knowledge if they don't have to?

And sadly, most women won't develop any sense of depth, partly because they don't have to