I'm clinging to what I think is the Blue Pill lie : I'm looking for a nice, gentle and somewhat attractive woman, devoid of a thousand cock stare who'll be loyal and improve my life instead of making it worse.
I often meet girls who seem to be just that. She'll come from a nice family background, be beautiful but not dressing slutty, be nice, a little bit submissive (just the right dose), nice, cheerful and with an apparently low body count.
Then as I get to know her I'll realize she is just like the other ones, a girl who enjoys riding the cock carousel. This makes me angry, not because the girl isn't a "good" girl, but because I was sold a lie. Society and feminism lied, but this girl lied as well.
My only goal here is to not be hurt like that anymore. How would you deal with that ?
johnnysmallseed 2y ago
If it sounds to good to be true then it is blue pill thought. That simple. Reality hurts and we don't like it but it's the truth. We are animals and how we mate select and how our brains create chemicals to induce love and desire can be manipulated. And by manipulated I mean we can change our mealleable personalities to create a potent image for women to love.
whytehorse2021 2y ago
You're prioritizing women. Read this: The book argues that, contrary to common feminist and women's rights rhetoric, women in industrialized cultures are not oppressed, but rather exploit a well-established system of manipulating men.
Vilar writes, "Men have been trained and conditioned by women, not unlike the way Pavlov conditioned his dogs, into becoming their slaves. As compensation for their labours men are given periodic use of a woman's vagina." The book contends that young boys are encouraged to associate their masculinity with their ability to be sexually intimate with a woman, and that a woman can control a man by socially empowering herself to be the gate-keeper to his sense of masculinity. Vilar states that this has been going on for some time.
The author says that social definitions and norms, such as the idea that women are weak, are constructed by women with their needs in mind. Vilar explains how it works: if women are viewed as weak, less is expected of them; and therefore they are given more leeway in society than men. Vilar states that women are generally "gold diggers" who attempt to extract money and other material resources from men. One means by which women control men to effect this transfer of resources is praise. Women dole out praise to men only when their needs are met in some way.
Another means of manipulation is the calculated use of emotional displays. Vilar claims that women can control their emotional reactions whereas men cannot, and that women create overly-dramatized emotional reactions to get their way: they "blackmail" men emotionally. Women also use sex as a tool of manipulation and control but also traditional concepts of love and romance, which are seen more positively than sex, to control men's sexual lives. Vilar writes that men gain nothing from marriage and that women coerce them into it under the pretense that it fulfills their romantic desires.
The book closes with Vilar stating that it would be difficult to change the situation by appealing to women, as women are unsympathetic to the plight of men, and unwilling to give up their comfortable position in society. It is up to men to see past the deception and emotional blackmail and subject it to open criticism before any meaningful changes can occur.
realfestivalking 2y ago
which book is this? Im pretty sure that its not the rational male
whytehorse2021 2y ago
It's The Manipulated Man. Pretty sure it's in the side bar.
Musicgoon425 2y ago
You have two options. The first is to sit around and complain. You won't get anywhere and you'll be upset for the rest of your life.
The second is to make goals, have a mission and improve your life. You'll have fun, get stronger, have healthy relationships and boundaries and get experience with women.
So it's up to you to decide which wat to go.
MigosXdd 2y ago
This guy fucks. Consider what he wrote, OP.
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unplugged69 2y ago
We say AWALT for a reason and we call those girls unicorns because unicorns don't exist.
However having said that, it's not impossible to find a 7/10, young, slim, submissive and fun girl. However hypergamy applies to ALL women and you need strong frame and good SMV and a strong application of dread to keep her chasing and interested.
However this only works if you're experienced and you are prepared to walk away at any time. Don't move in with her, don't make promises about the future, do NOT get married. Any of these will almost instantly kill attraction and you'll notice her getting bitchy and sex becoming less frequent and worse quality.
Ultimately women are water and men are the container that holds them. Her shape and behaviour will change depending on who she is dating so make sure you work on yourself to become the right kind of man, read the sidebar if you don't know how.
At the moment it sounds like your looking for LTR material, don't do that. Men shouldn't seek LTRs, you can only be open to one with the right person. Until then spin plates, work on your frame by practising stoicism and internalize abundance and IDFAF mentality. Be sure to read Humansockpuppet's bitch management guide for an example on how to get started. Once it becomes second nature you can adapt it to your own needs.
blarfnarg 2y ago
Just don't set expectations and assume they are all like that. Even if they dress moderately and are nice etc etc just assume she got railed by 6 dudes at once before you talk to her. Then, in the event that she actually maybe isn't like that, you'll be pleasantly surprised, instead of hoping every time and then being let down.
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blarfnarg 2y ago
Yes exactly I know what you mean. In a way, I think the same way alot of girls act less slutty than they really are for their benefit, the inverse of this would be guys acting more chad than they actually are for their benefit
Redasshole 2y ago
I just want you to know I've found your comment so relevant that I printed it, put it in my journal and that it'll stay with me for the rest of my life. It'll surely helps me prevent future one itis!!
blarfnarg 2y ago
Lol glad it helped bro. Just remember still don't get too attached even if she is "special"