I’ve gone on a few dates with a girl that’s very interested in me and on Saturday I ask if she’s up for dinner that night. She first says she’d love to but she’ll let me know later. Then she says she’s up for it and we agree on 7pm. Then shortly afterwards she txts me saying she doesn’t feel too good and what’s to stay home. She said she feels tired and has a bit of a headache. I’ve been tired of these sort of flake situations so to address it I sent her a txt saying she should go through with plans she agrees to and I said she’s a fucking flake. She responds saying we should go for dinner after all. When I see her the first thing she does is say I was being mean and I should apologize or she’s leaving. At that point I apologized for calling her a flake and she seemed resentful that I was mean to her and only took slight responsibility for being flaky. We ended up having a decent night anyways.
I’m not sure if I handled that correctly. What do you do when a girl flakes last minute like that? Does it make sense to be mean to an extent to prevent them from being flaky? She have not apologized or should I apologize more?
Thanks in advance for any tips and insights. Cheers!
BusterVadge 2y ago
Oof. Guess what? She was trying to steal the frame, and was successful. If you decide to go further with this woman, she might have your balls in her purse.
I have a rule in regards to women. They are either a hell yes or I'm not interested. I'd have just responded with a "no worries, feel better", then found something else to do.
Scriabinlover 2y ago
Mmm yea, I guess I should’ve shrugged it off. This might fuck with her respect for me! Hopefully I learned my lesson on this one. Thanks
Doubleaxe90 2y ago
"I’ve been tired of these sort of flake situations so to address it I sent her a txt saying she should go through with plans she agrees to and I said she’s a fucking flake."
Weak frame, she will flake on you in the future just to fuck with your head, that's what happens when you show weakness.
" She responds saying we should go for dinner after all."
When she says she doesn't feel good you could say " ok " or a variation of that and when/if she backpedals with "dinner after all" you are busy.
"What do you do when a girl flakes last minute like that?"
IDGAF, call other plate, radio silence.
"Does it make sense to be mean to an extent to prevent them from being flaky?"
Never, punish with action not with words.
"At that point I apologized for calling her a flake and she seemed resentful that I was mean to her and only took slight responsibility for being flaky."
"She have not apologized or should I apologize more?"
Never apologize.
Scriabinlover 2y ago
Mmm punishing with actions is much stronger than words. This might mess up her view of me but hopefully I’ve learned a lesson from this. Cheers!