I think that one of the intriguing things I've learned is that people ascribe meanings not to things, but the relationships between them. AKA, as you think, so shall you become broadly, as you vocabulary, so you are specifically.

Here is an example: I have a childhood friend (friend 2) who is very Christian, and struggles with women. He also has self esteem issues (no surprise there he wouldn't be Christian otherwise). BP as can be. We don't see eye to eye on just about anything, but we both take turns learning something from each other at times, so the relationship works. Anyway, in a conversation with a friend 3, I noticed a trend with friend 2, and I started jogging down the important big emotional words he was using in his short discourse. In one single unbroken discourse, he used the words:

""""Duty responsibility right wrong masculinity should must moral "other people" the other, serving others, service, sacrifice, the good, goodness, morality, "what Jesus did" few people, deeply, discussion, meaningful, understanding, more, conviction, share, impact, called, dignity, everyone, fellowship, "what really matters", faithful, "spread the gospel" treat, respect, primary calling, "I think" everyone, change, relationship, socialization, greater, "I don't know" "let's talk" responsive, important, care.""""'

This conversation was in regards to masculinity, but it branched off into a discussion of meaning. As you can notice, there is a ton of emotionally charged and highly colorful words. That is the subconscious discourse that is going through his head; whether he realizes it or not, those words are the mental map he uses to navigate life, and to structure it. The meaning he finds is not in religion itself, but the emotional relationships that exist between these mental models. In friend 2 case, he has a ton of layers to dissect, but we can see he REALLY focuses on "the other" as his mental point of origin, "symbolism" and meaning in life (Since he is not very happy he wants to understand why), Christianity (filling the meaningful void), Masculinity (insecure about it in himself, though he doesn't say it out loud, the other words give me a clue.) etc

I turned to friend 3 and recorded his "big words" in his response:

""""Think stats combat peers honesty truth narrative convicted combat "prideless" intelligent brave "being right""""

Much shorter, the words he used had a different reference point. This tells me something. He is more traditionally masculine, excluding pride-less. His focus is on truth, honesty, reality, thinking, and statistics. He is deficient in being too prideful (He is ashamed in his porn problem), he is not brave etc.

What we can learn from this:

1. From a personal perspective, changing your mental discourse changes you, or is you. A journal can help you find the big words. Take a week off all internet, television, books, all external stimuli. Every morning during the experiment, write down three pages of free-flow (Whatever comes to your head) into a word document on anything you want. After the week is done, go through your ramblings and pick out the re-occurring words and themes. At that point, you will have a much better idea as to your subconscious mental layout, and will know what hiccups you have.

2. The words you consume matter. For friend 2, he is using an exceptionally blue pill discourse. If he were to, say, read Homer, Plutarch, Evola, Nietzsche, and Shakespeare (You could also throw in Rollo, Heartiste, etc but I don't like to encourage too much RP reading, it can get you into a stagnation cycle where all you do is read and not act.) for 3 months or so, he would dramatically change his personality into a more rounded, traditionally masculine mindset. He would have a new set of words, a new discourse with which to navigate reality. It is an important thing to read great books and literature for this reason, modern books are plagued with a moral underlying framework that is blue pilled and self-sabotaging to that mental discourse.

3. In discussions with other men, learn to pick up on the big words they use whenever they are speaking on a hot topic, a personal story, a personal opinion etc. The big words used say more than the entire opinion, as you get an insight into their mental discourse. It can be used to understand them better than they understand themselves. Find a mentor and pick out the words they use, and reverse engineer their minds.

4. Women generally lack this discourse, OR to be more accurate, they take the discourse of the man they instinctively are attracted to. It is why they can completely change their personality after dating you. It is why they can change their morals easily. Their solipsism functions as the mechanism to this fluidity. Women are closer to NPCs than we give them credit. A way to use this in your discourse with women: Get attractive, choose the values you want her to emulate, profit. (As an aside, this is the whole problem older women have with older men dating younger women. Their firmware is still malleable, and can be "groomed" for the purpose of the happiness of the man. Older women want to "groom" younger women too, just with their feminism bug.)

Read it at TRP: https://www.trp.red/p/death/1255