Greetings,

Allow me to share with you my insights, experiences and polished knowledge on my view towards being red pilled. I am a male in my early 20s and I’ve stumbled upon a couple of books that opened my worldview on the inter-gender dynamics.

As introverts (an INFP to be particular), we know in the depths of our hearts that we are the true idealists, the romantics, the dreamers of our society. We are usually the individualists who don’t conform to the norm. We are what we wonder of the world through a dreamer's spectacles. Having said that, we tend to be the ones who believe in modern romanticism. I have been like this all my life. What matters more so is that we are genuine to ourselves when it comes to showing our affection to women.

Anyhow, the knowledge I acquired was caused by my falling in and out of love with a woman. The feeling of falling out is not an alien feeling to me, as I’ve already experienced a couple of fallouts in the past. Rejection is better than regret. What I found quite peculiar is my regulated patterns of coping with it. I always ended up feeling sad about the rejections that I receive, to a point that I lose my center. One of the worst feelings is having to lose your own self to unproductive emotional turbulence, mostly sadness and despair. I began to change my patterned thoughts and decided to improve on myself and my way of thinking. I decided to alter it with what the world expects of me, as a man.

I began reading a lot of self-help books, from time management to leadership to business articles and eventually to positive masculinity. I learned a lot, truly. I wasn’t the sappy person I was a couple of memories ago. Here’s the catch, though. As an INFP, I am a true-born idealist. Despite my newfound knowledge of the world and its realist ideals, I am still inclined to believe my own morals. Even if we are attuned to our own idealism, it is very important to take into consideration the adaptation we need to do in order to gauge ourselves with the world out there. This is not blindly following the rules, as it is more of our ability for social finesse. Learning about realism is great for INFPs as it gives us a better understanding of what realism lies outside our realm of deep thinking. We are able to adjust ourselves, aided by our FiNe, when we are faced with adversity.

I guess as an INFP, there must be a balance in between realism and idealism, otherwise if we are too ideal it would be difficult for us to accept the reality of the world. Most likely, if we remain idealists our whole life, we will never reach our maximum potential. It's very important to learn of the world out there and what it means to adapt to it. Of course, that is not to disregard action, as it is an important element to materialize our idealistic attempts to create value and give meaning in our lives. Where there's action, there is practicality. Where there's practicality, there exists the realistic approach. Hence, for INFPs, it is very important to subject ourselves to the realism that we dread too much because we get stuck in our own rich world. That's not to say that our rich world is useless. Everything within our rich world is what gives us a competitive edge (in matters of consequences.) It takes a little bit of worldly awareness to accept this fact. Perhaps nurturing realism is an INFPs way of being a member of this realistic world.

Feel free to share your insights, but please do note that what I have shared should be taken with a grain of salt! I hope I shared something valuable to those who are in the same perspective. I only wish to share my knowledge to fellow INFPs who are in the pursuit of their best selves.

Cheers!