been really struggling and truthfully don't know why. i'm 6'4", jacked, asian male with a great job/salary. i'm pretty extroverted and get along well with people. for some reason lately, i've been getting ghosted or unable to close. i feel like dates go well and i'm told constantly that i'm attractive, but can't break this 4 month dry spell. i have no clear answers to why i'm getting ghosted or unable to close, given on paper, i'm what most women want and i get a good amount of attention irl.
can someone point me to resources on closing, gaming women etc? i feel like i need to re-educate myself.
No-Stress-Cat 2 1mo ago
That's your problem: Your purpose is trying to build a harem.
Musicgoon78 3 1mo ago
Two words - outcome dependency. You're not going to find a magic answer written somewhere. Dating and seduction are successful when you love the game and love having fun.
You're too serious and that's why your most likely not seeing results.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1mo ago
4 months is nothing dude
It's obvious to me that your inner game and mental point of origin are off
Start socializing with a lot of people and get your mind back in state
xanderesp201 1mo ago
i'm received well socially - that's the disconnect. I'm trying to see if there are any trp resources you would recommend i read?
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1mo ago
You're not in state my dude. If you were you'd be vibing with women
I don't have specific resources, your inner game is off and you're not in mental alignment with talking to women
Get out of your head
qzone 1mo ago
vermillion is right. your inner game is off so you're coming off as incongruent or outcome dependent. you need to do some inner work. I would recommend putting down all of the red pill literature, look into cognitive behavioral therapy tools you can use on yourself, fix your automatic thoughts and doubt labels, adjust your goals of interactions. More time in social interactions of all types will also help with social calibration/congruence. You need to separate your emotional state from your dating success if it is tied to it. The MAIN principle you need to internalize is that the reward is the effort, not the outcome. After very interaction focus on what you learned and what went well, not what you accomplished, building your confidence from evidence not validation tokens. Ideally you should be at a place where you would be happy if you never touched a pussy in your life ever again (obviously you will be with many more women in your life) and you game because you want to. Game is a long uphill battle and you can't have certain expectations from it. Good luck brother