Ltr is because of certain circumstances ldr right now, been that way for 2 months but we're supposed to reunite and continue normally in 1 month.
It's been functioning normal until about 2 weeks or so when she started taking about an entire day to respond. Now currently she truly is going through a very busy period, she warned me about it, okay. But she has slowly progressed it into 2 day text delays as of now.
I thought this was loss of interest and decided to next, but she interpreted that situation, because of the context of messages at that time, as me ignoring her because of something else and she started panicking, writing long paragraphs explaining herself, so I was like why would she do that if she went cold? So I continued talking.
And I know the usual advice is to go explore other options but I'd appreciate any advice applicable while staying loyal (or overtly demoting, whatever). I can and do focus on my thing, I don't have oneitis, but this just seems like disrespect to me?
I genuinely have no idea what exactly to do here. If I soft next after her next message I feel like I'm somehow entering her frame, even that it's a bit too obvious. If I don't react at all, I'm showing its totally okay for her to ignore me. If I talk to her about it, I'm showing neediness.
SeasonedRP 2 15h ago
Don't text so much. Respond when you hear from her and act normal, but don't reach out all the time. When she gets back, you'll be able to tell if things are ok or not.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 13h ago
I'm not sure that there is enough context here to really advise you one way or another. There is little to no information about any other health of your relationship
The general rule of thumb is that women just about always have their phone on them. If they wanted to respond they would
I will say I have had some long distance situations, and it definitely hurts to be distant. Usually they start responding less. If you're not fucking them they start to feel like they're not with you and invest less.
That being said when I was long distance a couple times the more I texted the slower they responded. So don't send long or hard to respond to messages. If she's not even responding to short ones I'd say there is probably an issue going on
IntelligentUser 12h ago
If this continues or gets worse would you say a soft next is valid? Or just hard
Vermillion-Rx Admin 12h ago
There is one month left?
I would not soft next no.
I hesitate to give more advice because there is barely any other context for how your relationship is. And I don't want to give bad advice if it's not fitting
I have no idea if you over text or not. I've been guilty of it. If that's the case the solution is to lower them.
If you're seriously not doing that could possibly be off putting them we need to figure out what else possibly is contributing.
How did she even explain herself? You haven't said any of that yet
IntelligentUser 12h ago
Well it's an otherwise ordinary relationship, I dont have any complaints.
She was explaining herself about a totally random thing I wasn't even nexting about, she seemingly didnt realize its because of the text delays.
But yeah, I have been the one texting more since the moment we met. It hadn't caused issues until now I think, but definitely will be cutting down on that
Vermillion-Rx Admin 11h ago
That seems like an evasive answer from her. That would be a red flag to me
I wouldn't recommend long distance to anyone. It worked for my parents. It seems like a nightmare for the modern generation
See how she acts and especially a week or so before she comes back and after.
I would start seeing what's available to you, just don't act on anything or do anything that can be repeated by anyone
Again you're the not giving much detail but the irrelevant explanation seems forced from her
Again you're not giving much for us to work with so I'm advising off my experience and not necessarily yours