I initially posted the beginning of this here. This is the Update on how things have gone.

BACKGROUND - (for new readers) Decided to hit things with a colleague. Before I approached her properly, she had already shown what I interpreted as signs of interest. She would sometimes initiate conversations with me, ask random questions that didn't seem necessary, act somewhat shy or nervous around me, and one of our colleagues later told me she had asked about me before. She once asked me directly if I was a particular Ambrose she had been hearing about.

One day, I saw her in the staff room preparing her lesson notes. After she greeted me, I asked what week she was on. She said Week 2. The school was already in Week 4, so I jokingly called her "Lazy Teacher." She laughed and seemed amused by it.

Later that day after school, while she was heading home, I stopped her and told her I wanted us to talk. I asked for her number. She asked if I was the Ambrose she had heard about and asked what name she should save me as. I told her she would find out when I texted her. She gave me her number.

Later at night, I teased her with "Lazy Teacher" on Whatsapp as opening msg.

The next morning around 9 AM, she replied:

Her: "Hiiii"

We chatted a bit (few teases from me) and At some point, I asked about her schedule after school the following Monday.

After that, she disappeared for several days. During that period I assumed she might not be interested anymore.

A few days later she replied and apologized for the delay. She explained that she had low blood pressure and had not been feeling well.

I told her: "Sorry about that, don't get lazy with your medications "

She laughed and said:

"No medications for low bp"

Me: ohh...

Her: "Ehh, but I'll be fine"

I reacted with a heart reaction.

A few days later I messaged:

"So u survived ????"

She replied:

"Hii"

"Yes ????"

"Sorry I didn't stay long enough to say hi when I came to school"

I replied:

"It's fine"

Then I asked:

"Are u free Saturday or Sunday evening?"

She replied:

"To come to school"

I replied:

"Noo :) Let's go somewhere Saturday or Sunday evening. Which one works for u"

She replied:

"Somewhere in town?"

I replied:

"Yh"

She then said:

"Where's that then?"

"I don't really go out here."

"Mostly go out alone."

I replied:

"Then, I'll hv to shw u arnd. Is swimming fine with u? Hope u aren't scared of water"

She replied:

"I don't swim."

"I love water but I don't swim"

We continued joking. I suggested we could simply get something to eat and take a walk instead.

She said:

"That doesn't sound bad."

Then she asked:

"Are you coming to the town (The area we were to meet - it's far from school) for something else too?"

I replied:

"No."

After that the conversation paused.

Two days later I messaged:

"Hey, so which day works for you"

She didn't reply immediately.

Later she replied:

"Have you guys arrived at the camp? I'll talk to you there" (We had a camping function that day) .

We met physically at camp and spoke in person. During that conversation, she herself brought up the topic of us going out. I suggested Saturday around 5 PM. Initially she seemed reluctant and mentioned work obligations, but after discussing it, we tentatively agreed on Saturday.

The next morning she sent me this message:

"There's something else I wanted to say, I don't know why you'd want us to hang out tho but I'm in a relationship and I'm conflicted about you taking me out and spending your money"

I replied:

"I understand okay. No pressure. Since u aren't comfortable wit de idea for obvious reasons, we can call it Off. No problem at all"

She replied:

"Thank you for understanding"

I reacted with a thumbs-up reaction and that is where things currently stand.

My questions are:

Were her earlier behaviors genuine signs of attraction or just friendliness?

Why do you think she agreed to the outing discussions if she already had a boyfriend?

Does her "I'm conflicted" message suggest attraction plus guilt, or was she simply trying to let me down gently?

What would you do going forward, considering we still see each other at work/school?

@Mrsupreme @Typo-MAGAshiv @GeorgeIII @Vermillion-Rx

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